Feminism & Activism

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[morganitism]

BMI is so fucking horrifically evil I cant stand it. You can't get healthcare because of an arbitary number defined by fuck all. I hate it

[forthegothicheroine]

The thing about anti-libby posts, because ebooks have to be paid for yearly while physical books only have to be paid for once, is that yes, physical books are cheaper for the library to acquire- but the library has a budget they chose to allocate, whether it's on software, subscriptions to digital encyclopedias, or ebook rentals. If they chose to rent ebooks, it was because they want you to read them, and using any of their services looks good for them. Check out physical books by all means, but don't feel guilty about checking out ebooks.

[wearelibrarian]

@queerliblib

[queerliblib]

there are lots of different types of licenses for ebooks & audiobooks too! amid all of the re-purchasing, which you can’t entirely get away from, you can sometimes get licenses where you get one copy, but you get to keep it forever.

when possible, those are the kinds of licenses we like to purchase, because it supports the long-term sustainability of QLL

[pingouin-terry]

the best of british politics rn...

all of these are good even without context but for the non brits half of these are directly taking the mick out of recent events its SO GOOD

[forestgreenandgray]

Hey do you know what rumination is?

Rumination is probably the most common type of OCD compulsion, but I rarely see anyone talking about it. I've talked to multiple people diagnosed with OCD who didn't even recognize it as a compulsion.

Basically, if you have OCD you have terrible intrusive thoughts. They can be about anything, but common themes are fear of being a bad person, fear of hurting someone, fear of contamination. etc.

Rumination is when you get stuck in a spiral. Rumination is when you spend hours catastrophizing, overthinking, analyzing, telling yourself it's going to be okay.

I'll say it again:

Rumination is a compulsion.

Rumination is a compulsion, and that means you have to stop doing it.

I did ERP (exposure response prevention) for my OCD with a therapist! For 9 months! And it did help, but the idea didn't really click until I found this website a couple years later.

And Oh My God. It made things make so much more sense, and I was able to pull myself out of an episode even though I wasn't in therapy or on meds at the time.

Genuinely if you have OCD, or even if you suspect you have OCD, I'm begging you to read some of these articles.

Like this was genuinely life changing for me.

Here are some of the ones that were most helpful to me:

Defining Rumination

How to Stop Ruminating

ERP Exercises for Compulsive Rumination

What to Do When You're Triggered

[tikkunolamorgtfo]

Just want to add that if you're on the spectrum, you may also experience Autistic Rumination, which is distinct from the obsessive variety, despite the two having some overlapping characteristics!

[coleslaw-frosting]

I love Binface so much.

[queerautism]

Oh cool so the CDC is just doing a media blitz to lie the groundwork for weed becoming illegal again in many places huh okay

Treating 2026 CDC reports as anything but heavily political and incredibly biased is genuinely ridiculous. Why would you just believe them? Are you not paying attention?

[pom-seedss]

I had to go to the hospital because I ingested a fuck ton of mould spores from some bread I didn't realize went off and then couldn't eat anything for a week. Like I was taking tiny sips of clear water and my body would instantly or within 5 minutes reject it.

I have never had these problems, as a chronic cannabis user, I literally ingested mould that was growing in my guts…..

But the doctors ALL blamed it on my cannabis use.

I got pamphlets and guides on how to curb my 'addiction', and they stressed real hard it doesn't matter if I used it for medical reasons, if I wanted it at all when I wasn't on it, it must mean I am addicted and need to stop.

I am 100% certain that my INGESTING MOULD issue was written down as "Cannabis Emesis Syndrome" and would get wrapped up in the data to suggest that emergency room visits among cannabis users for cannabis use is becoming higher.

Like... it's fucking biased reporting that is going to fuck a lot of us over.

Despite having an active infection, not having even used cannabis in a month or two because I was actively recovering from a surgery, I was told that it was likely CES (even though all the pamphlets they gave me said CES would ease if you didn't use again "for a few days to a week"). And my only advice when I was discharged (after staying the night, being flooded with antibiotics and hydrated via salin drip), was to cut out the cannabis. I ingested a fuck ton of mould spores that made me sick, but because I also am a chronic cannabis user because of my debilitating nerve pain and PTSD, it will have been listed in the records as CES because that is what the doctors decided to focus on. Because it's the big new scary thing.

Fuck, the surgery I was talking about before that I was recovering from was gallbladder removal - and before that my own doctor tried to blame CES for what was in fact a very inflamed gallbladder. Once I got over the rough recovery from that, the symptoms my doctor wanted to associate with CES *went away* because it wasn't CES it was an actively inflamed gallbladder that was causing the problems.

Like, people talk about fad health trends in pop culture readily enough but I think we should also turn this focus towards doctors themselves because holy shit this was a fringe theory that everyone latched on to and started reporting cases of - regardless of whether or not they fit the description.

And like, might CES be an actual thing? Sure. But it is as prevalent as everyone is freaking out over? I absolutely fucking doubt it based on my own experiences.

[ayeforscotland]

Sadly Clacton voted Nigel Farage in even though Binface won just shy of 10,000 votes.

But it is funny to see the Parliamentary watchdog immediately relaunch its investigation into him.

[innerchildabortionclinic]

All the examples you gave are of insular networks, not men as a whole. Sure, churches network to cover for predators, but men outside those churches don’t defend them. Men who aren’t cops aren’t thrilled to hear about cops covering for predators, etc. Whereas with women, it doesn’t matter what they supposedly believe, they all defend Lindsay Clancy like you

yes because women frequently deal with medical neglect and are tired of it. psychotic women have been begging to be taken seriously forever. I already explained this situation to you. you are really committed to not reading anything I say clearly.

also, neither men as a whole or women as a whole feel one particular way about anything, as we are all individuals. I simply said men cover for each other on a systemic level frequently. it is a known function of patriarchy. you think women are doing the equivalent as a class because of...discussions on the internet about a crime case? ultimately those have no bearing on anything other than your personal feelings

[lemonmeloncookies]

[ceevee5]

Reform’s Tice says people should stop fighting climate crisis and ‘enjoy’ heat

Deputy leader says it is ‘arrogant’ to try to stop global heating, despite UK being left reeling by summer firewave

(Fairground ride operator) Do you want climate change to go FASTER!!

[gothhabiba]

I love not playing along

[gothhabiba]

"she's gained a lot of weight lately" "oh, good for her"

"on the wrong side of 40" "huh, which side is that?"

❗️I am not playing along with you❗️

[innerchildabortionclinic]

I love when people are like "oh you think you're such a good person huh" when you never said or implied that because it tells you a lot about how they perceive themselves

Conservatives do this a lot

[innerchildabortionclinic]

This is so funny

[wizardarchetypes]

i know it's been said on here and said again but people do so desperately need to genuinely do intentional work to build distress tolerance and start figuring out how to recognize the differences between danger, discomfort, and when a situation that is merely uncomfortable is triggering an emotional flashback in your bodies because it resembles a past situation that actually was dangerous which makes it difficult to realize/believe that this moment is merely uncomfortable.

[wizardarchetypes]

i spoke to an allistic person who said their autistic classmate had a meltdown in class, during which the autistic classmate collapsed to the floor in the middle of the room, screaming and crying. they said it was "terrifying" and they were arguing for the autistic student to be removed permanently from the program.

when i asked whether their autistic classmate's meltdown was dangerous or merely uncomfortable, they said, "i felt like i was in danger!"

i understand that. but that's not what i asked.

[wizardarchetypes]

"i shouldn't have to experience that."

yes you should, actually. that's life. upsetting things happen. no one should have to experience any discomfort. but we do. we get stung by bees and sunburns and headaches. we live in bodies in the world.

autistic people are human beings who have the right to exist in society, including during meltdowns. having one class of your entire semester interrupted by a singular meltdown is not anymore of an infringement upon your entitlement to education than having your class interrupted by a fire alarm or cancelled for a snow storm.

one of my peers once experienced a cardiac event 10 minutes into class. it was terrifying. it was desperately upsetting. i was contacted by the school and offered counseling because i happened to be the one who managed the situation until paramedics arrived. everyone was worried about my classmate first and foremost, and then about me. no one blamed anyone, and certainly when my classmate happily recovered and returned to school, no one thought they should be removed from the program.

the difference being that people believe a disabled personal, especially with cognitive disabilities, in crisis are not experiencing something outside of our control, but instead that we are in fact making a choice to make a scene, out of malice.

[purple-hel]

the things you're saying are mostly correct, but are also complicated by society and violence and gender.

women who are victims of violence are often blamed for that violence because it's held that it was their responsibility to recognize that the man was going to direct his violence onto her body. regardless of whether she knew the man or not. shouldn't have gone to that party. shouldn't have walked down that alley. shouldn't have gone running alone at night.

women are expected to manage and mitigate men's emotions, especially when they have an established relationship with that man, personal, academic, professional, whathaveyou. women are expected to manage and mitigate men's anger that's being directed onto the environment around them. (look at the tiktok video trend of men about to punch a wall or something and then the video cuts to his almost always female partner in front of him, catching his fist/stopping his violence/holding his anger&pain.)

if a woman treats a man's violence on the environment as an indication she's unsafe, its typically held as a failing on her part. she's supposed to have "known" he'd never hit *her*. he only hits the wall/himself/the desk. until the day he hits her. and then she's supposed to have always known that him hitting other things was a sign he was going to hit her.

people in general, actually, are taught to downplay situations and manage others, its just more recognizable on the gender divide. if you say 'their behavior was dangerous', then you're going to be pressed to support exactly why you're calling them dangerous, don't you know calling people dangerous hurts them, how could you say such a thing. and even if you CAN articulate 'my pattern matching says that people who display that kind of uncontrolled behavior in public have a higher likelihood of acting in other uncontrolled ways' (which many people can't articulate even when it's the truth, especially in the moment when their body is still preparing them to flee or defend themselves), that's an argument people will likely dismiss.

and specific to the situation you're speaking about, how do you know the person who said they felt in danger is allistic? what if they're ND but not on the spectrum? what if they're on the autism spectrum but not yet diagnosed? what if their autism diagnosis is peer reviewed rather than professional? What if they're professionalry diagnosed as on the spectrum? what do they need to be for you to judge them to have the right to feel unsafe around someone whose behavior isn't currently under control?

People have every right to be in all areas of life regardless of the specifics of their neurochem, but people regardless of the specifics of their neurochem have every right to feel unsafe when around someone whose behavior is currently out of control.

[sturionic]

"Learn the fundamentals first" seems like really sound universal advice, and as a former classical musician, I can vouch for it. You will have a more solid foundation for increasing complexity if you put in the time to study in a structured way. If you don't, you'll have a lot of shit to fix later.

As a former music teacher, I can also say that "learn the fundamentals first" is the death knell for a vast percentage of beginners, especially adult learners.

I've run into this with drawing several times, where some well-meaning artist has lectured me on needing to study anatomy properly or not use shortcuts like CSP brushes. And oh, believe me, I know. I know exactly how to learn an artistic discipline in a structured way. I just...don't want to!

The thing is, I'm not aiming to be a professional artist. I want to draw my gay little anime guys. I would undoubtedly improve at art much faster if I approached every gay little anime guy drawing as a study exercise. But I would also have quit drawing a decade ago if I couldn't just let myself enjoy drawing imperfect fucked-up little guys with whatever shortcuts I needed to body myself across the finish line.

With my adult piano students, my approach was always "What's your goal?" If their goal was to learn exactly one Elton John songbook to play at parties, then...that's what we did. We'd put tape on the keys to label the notes, and just fuckin go for it. Learning exactly one Elton John songbook is a good and noble musical goal, full stop.

Some of my students needed and enjoyed a more structured approach to learning; if they wanted to be able to play classical music, then yes, scales were going to have to enter the equation at some point. And yet others would learn the Elton John songbook, catch their white whale, and realize they wanted to explore more of the ocean. The scales were still there for them to learn!

Often the choice isn't between "learn art well" and "learn art imperfectly" - the choice is between "learn art imperfectly" and "don't do art at all." To which I say, learn imperfectly! Or, what the hell, don't 'learn' art. Just do, and enjoy the doing of it.

You have official permission from your local pretentious classical music snob: fuck the fundamentals. You can always unfuck them later (but only if you want to).

[sturionic]

Oh my. This one seems to be in the process of breaching containment, so I'm going to add my own tags back to the post. For anything involving repetitive motions, book at least a few lessons with a teacher (or ask someone you know with expertise) to show you correct posture!! And continue to check in with someone knowledgeable IRL every few months in case your posture drifts as you are building your own practice habit. Yes, IRL - it's hard for people online to catch nuances in posture that could be harmful to you!

[aromanticduck]

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'the one caveat here would be posture. With musical instruments especially learn good posture right away. that's a safety thing'

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[tomhardysurinal]

[cal3ris]

is this gonna get me fired you think

[briarpatch-kids]

Hey so something I didn't know until I was diagnosed with an energy limiting disease (in my case mitochondrial disease) is that fatigue can HURT. I thought something else was causing the pain for literally like 6 years, but it was fatigue. I never got the "my body feels like its made of lead" feeling, I get pain and I feel more people should know that's a possibility for their own sake, you know? If I didn't know you can be so tired it hurts while literally having an energy limiting disease that will kill me someday, there's probably other people out there like "where is this mysterious full body pain coming from??"