mademoiselle miscellany

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[jojolazar]

https://deathandthepoetess.bandcamp.com/album/lucid-lockpicking

We’re only two months into 2025, yet it can sometimes feel like we’ve already been insomniac-style awake, sleep-deprived in a much longer, dark, dystopian, anxious fever dream. If you’ve been feeling soul-wearily agitated, or doom-scrolling the news between jagged sleep bursts at night ~ this record is our ‘dirge wave,’ weirdeval musical offering for you. We wish to assist in profound rest, sacred release, and for you to feel safe and bolstered on The Journey.

I had surreal childhood experiences of night time and consciousness; lucid dreaming, hypnagogic light fractal visuals, and sleepwalking. With this EP I hope to share rituals, soothing/trippy tunes, and lightly intended sleep hypnosis induction/guided talk-downs –for grappling with the vulnerability of falling asleep.

There are some ‘Easter eggs’ from the songs my mother sang to me (check the track notes for “Dancing Shoes” and “Wolfy’s Song.”) We were influenced by The Brothers Grimm fairy tales, Ukulele Ike, Johnny Cash, Faun Fables, and the Victorian absurdist artist Edward Lear, whose poem “The Duck And The Kangaroo” we set to music.

On our prior five RPM challenge albums we’ve oscillated between acoustic, folk instrument compositions as well as making extensive use of synth-orchestra embellishments, and psychedelic, digital pedal libraries. With *Lucid Lockpicking* we have aimed for a natural, ‘in house,’ solely acoustic instruments' sound. We hope you enjoy the album, may you sleep deeply whenever you do, and may you wake rested for your adventures, the continued unfolding of The Great Mystery.

-jojo (March 1, 2025)

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GENRES: Dirge Wave, Weirdeval, Neofolk, Grimoire for Lucid Dreaming, Mind Palace Hacking, Twee Dark Ages, Ethereal Acoustic, Sleepy Vaudeville 

[july-mulder]

Sense and Sensibility (1995)

[mothgirlwings]

Illustrator Nell Brinkley and a little friend - 1908

In 1907, at the tender age of twenty-two, Nell Brinkley came to New York to draw for the Hearst syndicate. Within a year, she had become a household name. Flo Ziegfeld dressed his dancers as “Brinkley Girls,” in the Ziegfeld Follies. Three popular songs were written about her. Women, aspiring to the masses of curly hair with which Nell adorned her creations, could buy Nell Brinkley Hair Curlers for ten cents a card. Young girls cut out and saved her drawings, copied them, colored them, and pasted them in scrapbooks. The Brinkley Girls took over from the Gibson Girls.

[sictransitgloriamvndi]

The Silent Voice (1898) - Gerald Moira

[pacinos]

Michelle Pfeiffer as Ellen Olenska in The Age of Innocence (1993)

Newland. You couldn’t be happy if it meant being cruel. If we act any other way I’ll be making you act against what I love in you most. And I can’t go back to that way of thinking. Don’t you see? I can’t love you unless I give you up.

[mlle]

Point of fashion (vie): Countess Olenska Things

[bowiehunts]

Underneath the cut are ONE HUNDRED AND EIGHTY FOUR small/medium gifs of our favourite vampire SPIKE from BUFFY THE VAMPIRE SLAYER, brought to life through James Marsters. There might also be a couple of John Hart. None of these were made by me and full credit goes to the wonderful makers. I would super appreciate a LIKE or REBLOG if using though because it took me hours to finish this hunt.

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[mlle]

Oh my hearts, stars, garters...

[jojolazar]

Death and The Poetess chez Art Nest, being our ghoulish selves preparing many new treats! Warming up for RPM Challenge (writing our annual Feb record) and learning oodles of covers to play your outdoor/safe sprummer weddings/soirees, Pantheon willing! (–As our wedding band, Love Letters Tendered.)

facebook.com/deathpoetess deathandthepoetess.bandcamp.com

[mlle]

Middlemarch, chapter XX

"Not that this inward amazement of Dorothea’s was anything very exceptional: many souls in their young nudity are tumbled out among incongruities and left to “find their feet” among them, while their elders go about their business. Nor can I suppose that when Mrs. Casaubon is discovered in a fit of weeping six weeks after her wedding, the situation will be regarded as tragic. Some discouragement, some faintness of heart at the new real future which replaces the imaginary, is not unusual, and we do not expect people to be deeply moved by what is not unusual. That element of tragedy which lies in the very fact of frequency, has not yet wrought itself into the coarse emotion of mankind; and perhaps our frames could hardly bear much of it. If we had a keen vision and feeling of all ordinary human life, it would be like hearing the grass grow and the squirrel’s heart beat, and we should die of that roar which lies on the other side of silence. As it is, the quickest of us walk about well wadded with stupidity.

However, Dorothea was crying, and if she had been required to state the cause, she could only have done so in some such general words as I have already used: to have been driven to be more particular would have been like trying to give a history of the lights and shadows, for that new real future which was replacing the imaginary drew its material from the endless minutiae by which her view of Mr. Casaubon..."

[Middlemarch, George Eliot / My bold/emphasis] I love these descriptions of the death of illusory stories/internal expectation narratives. It's very Buddhist and Didion to me, ornate zen.

[ghostselope]

(Jane Eyre Energy)

[mlle]

I made a small 'Enghostment' blog/album. Surprise! xo, your newly Mlle turned Mme Ghost and Bones

GhostsElope.tumblr.com

[mlle]

Inspired by Leza! Movies I've been apt to endlessly rewatch or hyperfocus upon at various parts of my life. (Listed chronological to my interest in them...)

Death Becomes Her Defending Your Life High Spirits Hook Scrooged Rocky Horror Picture Show X-Men Hedwig and the Angry Inch The Fifth Element Labyrinth Ziggy Stardust and the Spiders from Mars (aka: Bowie '73) Velvet Goldmine Pleasantville Lolita (1962 & 1997) Pirates of the Caribbean Pride & Prejudice 2005 (then I came back around to appreciate '95) Marie Antoinette 2006 Amadeus Jane Eyre 1997 Persuasion 1995 & 2006 Kissing Jessica Stein The Age of Innocence Blade Runner Howard's End Bram Stoker's Dracula, 1992

[nevermore191]

I was writing a script for a modern adaption of R&J and these came up

The Montacrew: A Summary

[sweartrek]

when someone tells me to do my job

[mlle]

(art life)

[emmanuelleriva]

Rebecca (1940) dir. Alfred Hitchcock

[cinemastuff]

Rebecca (1940, dir. Alfred Hitchcok)

[jojolazar]

REVIEW >> IfItsTooLoud.com: Friday Freebie: Death and The Poetess - Smelling Salts. by Ken

Thank you Ken/If It’s Too Loud… as always for your careful reading/listening and writing! It means so much to this Xennial x Elizabethan creeper!

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Prophetic NYE 2020 photo by Edrie Broken Toy.

[mlle]

Live music may have been on hold for the last year, but we're still making music and writing it! Mes amis, may I invite you? We put out our 3rd RPM challenge! I hope you dig it. https://deathandthepoetess.bandcamp.com/album/smelling-salts

[miniwilderness]

[northw0man-deactivated20201019]

Here’s a cool trick to see if a man actually respects you: try disagreeing with him

[the-rain-monster]

A friend of mine did something with online dating where, before meeting a person, she’d say no to something minor without a reason for the no. For example: “No, I don’t want to meet at a coffee shop, how about X?”, or “No, not Wednesday”, or “No, I don’t want to recognize each other by both wearing green shirts”. She said how the potential dates reacted was a huge indicator of whether she actually wanted to meet them, something I readily believe.

I’ve mentioned this to a few people and sometimes I get very annoyed and incredulous responses from guys about how are they supposed to know that it’s a test if the girl is being unreasonable? How are they supposed to know that and let her have her way? I find it difficult to explain that if you find it unreasonable for someone to have a preference of no consequence which they don’t feel the need to explain, then you are the one being unreasonable. You can decide for yourself that it sounds flaky and you don’t want to date her, but you don’t have a right to know and approve all of her reasons for things in order to deign to respect that she said no about it. Especially in the case of someone you haven’t even fucking met yet.

[the-real-seebs]

The point isn’t to know it’s a test, the point is that if you would only say “yes” if you knew it was a test, then what if it’s not a test, but because she hates coffee shops, or because she’s attending a funeral Wednesday and doesn’t know you well enough to want to share that, or whatever else? Because if you’re making rules for when other people can have preferences and not explain why… yeah, that is a thing they can reasonably want to avoid.

[teratomarty]

@ all the angry dudes in the replies: the point is not to trick or manipulate men. The point is to see how a potential romantic partner reacts to a minor inconvenience.  If they say, “oh, ok, would seven work instead?” or “well there’s this Armenian tea house I’ve been meaning to try out, want to go there?” then that’s a good sign that they’re safe to date.  If they throw a fit and/or demand to know every little detail about your rationale over something as simple as rescheduling dinner plans, that’s a bad sign. A really bad sign.

It’s like this, dudes. Women in Western society are socialised to cooperate and compromise. Some men are socialised to get all their own way, all the time.  These dudes are incredibly dangerous to women their partners,* and the only way to tell them apart from the OK guys is to pay close attention to how they react.  If you’re one of the OK ones, this isn’t about you. Learn to take “no” for an answer, and you’ll be fine.

*Updated to reflect the fact that abusive men can target any gender, and the fact that I used this screening tactic to good effect during my Big Gay Slut phase.

[lierdumoa]

The thing a lot of the men reblogging don’t get – they think this post is telling women to lie. They think this post is telling women to start a fake argument and to be manipulative.

Actually, this post is doing the opposite. This post is telling women to be straightforward, and forthright, and upfront about their values and opinions.

This post is telling women, “I know you’ve been socialized and conditioned to nod and smile at everything a man says your whole life, since you were 4 years old and your grandma told you that little girls should be seen and not heard. I know that by now it’s second nature to you, and you probably don’t even realize you’re doing it half the time. You don’t even realize that the laugh that just came out of your mouth is a laugh of appeasement, rather than a laugh of genuine humor. ”

It’s telling women, “Force yourself to resist your conditioning. Consciously make an effort to be open and honest in that initial conversation, when you’re making small talk, about small things. If he says something you don’t quite agree with (and he inevitably will, because nobody agrees on everything), don’t smile and concede the point like you’ve been trained to do. Consciously make a point of vocalizing your real opinion.”

It’s telling women “If a man doesn’t respect your real opinion about a small, insignificant issue when you first meet him, then he’s not going to respect your real boundaries later on when you’re in a serious relationship.”

[3fluffies]

Seriously, ladies, read this to men already in your lives. If they get outraged…maybe reconsider their place in your lives.

[instructor144]

Recommended by a Follower for the “red flags” Anon.

[mlle]

important reblog, boundaries are beautiful.