Toronto SB

[palmsugar-x-deactivated20171031]

How To Dress For Sugar Success

• Learn how to balance textures in your outfits. Here’s a cheat-sheet: if you’re wearing a silk blouse, wear a heavier fabric like wool, leather or crepe on the bottom. Likewise, if you’re wearing a thicker fabric on top like wool, wear a thinner fabric, like jersey or silk, on the bottom. • Pay attention to the little things. I like to make sure that the leather of my shoes, bag and belt are all the same shade (e.g. tan or black) and that the metals of my jewellery, the hardware on my bag and belt and the buttons on my jacket are all the same tone (e.g. all rose gold or all silver). He might not notice explicitly but he’ll subconsciously reflect on how put-together you are.  • Buy in neutral colours. White, black, grey, beige, navy, Carolina blue – the simpler your colour palette, the easier and quicker it is to put together items that coordinate well with each other. • Build a capsule wardrobe. Save up and select a few key pieces that you can mix and match. It’s better to have a smaller wardrobe with quality items than a vast wardrobe that falls apart after a few washes. • Look on Ebay. Don’t be afraid to buy secondhand designer clothes but avoid trendy ‘It’ items from previous that will make you look dated. • Buy classic pieces and timeless silhouettes: pencils skirts, turtlenecks, etc. A classic cut in a solid shade will bring attention to the craftsmanship of the garment. • Get it in black. Especially when you’re buying from ‘affordable’ stores; it’s harder to see detail on black clothing which will help hide poor craftsmanship. 

• Emphasise one attribute at a time, except on special occasions. For example, if you’re planning on showing off your cleavage, consider looking for a knee-length dress that shows off your bust. • Experiment with cuts until you find what is most flattering for you. Do you look best in tapered pants or straight leg? Pencil skirts or A-line? Know the difference between these cuts. • If your dress is knee-length, heels are no longer optional.  • Consider investing in a garment steamer. Particularly if you can’t afford to have items dry cleaned regularly or you’re too lazy to drop things off at the drycleaner and pick them up.  • When you can afford it, have your clothing tailored to you. I guarantee that nothing will make you look as expensive as a wardrobe of carefully tailored jeans, blouses, skirts and dresses. I would tailor my underwear if I could. • Become a tactile shopper. Feel things, touch, assess the breathability of the fabric. Look at the material listed on the garment you’re buying and try to buy natural fabrics more often than not – merino wool, cashmere, silk, 100% cotton jeans and Ts. This will make a world of difference.  • For special occasions, wear red. The colour red has been scientifically proven to increase the appetite and make the heart beat faster. You will stand out. • Be properly fitted for your bras and underwear. • Invest in your underwear. Think La Perla, not Victoria’s Secret. You should have: a number of sets of lingerie (complete with suspenders, tights, corsets, etc.); a few negligees for the bedroom; a silk robe; a few teddies; a few sets of good quality T-shirt bras (one for each day of the week, at least) with matching underwear; and a few pairs of good quality seamless panties. You might also want to consider nipple covers (for strapless dresses) and the like. Your SD might not mind purchasing any of this for you – after all, you could be modeling it all for him later. • Accessories are key. Spend money on your bags and handbags; keep them maintained, cleaned and polished. If your jewellery needs re-plating, have it re-plated and make sure it is polished and shiny. Don’t wear branded jewellery but pick items that demonstrate exceptional craftsmanship and are clearly expensive. And let me say this – if your SD ever takes you to a horse racing event: ✓ to a fascinator with a veil, ✗ to wearing stilettos on the grass. • Get a lint roller. Use it. You might also want to purchase waterproofing spray and Static Guard. • Understand which colours suit gold jewellery and which suit silver. Warm colours, like red and burgundy, suit gold best. Likewise, cool colours like blue and grey, suit silver best. • You’re in charge – don’t be afraid to dress like the boss. Men are visual creatures so feel free to let your attire drive home the impression that a) you are a hustler, first and foremost and b) you don’t need him. I work in a corporate environment so for coffee/lunch dates I’ll meet a POT or SD wearing a dressier version of my usual work attire – figure-hugging knee-length dress or skirt suit with take-no-shit pumps and a structured designer handbag. BONUS: This will make negotiating your allowance easier because you have an equal platform to work from - it’s not a one-sided negotiation where you’re wearing a mini skirt and he’s wearing a three-piece suit. • Research the location thoroughly beforehand. Dress for the venue, environment and atmosphere. ✩✩✩+ restaurants usually have a dress code, which you should look into beforehand. Likewise, you shouldn’t show up to a ✩✩ restaurant wearing a Tom Ford dress and Louboutins. Are you going to a fine dining restaurant? A trendy new restaurant? These are all factors that will affect your attire. You want your SD to know that you are a companion suitable to any and all environments; he should always feel like he is dining with the most beautiful, elegant woman in the room. • Buy a good wool coat. I live in a cold climate so I spend a good portion of my day in a coat; a good wool coat is warm but stylish. Try a cocoon or kimono cut from brands like Scanlan Theodore or Lover – you’ll look modern and stylish while remaining deliciously warm.

• Don’t be afraid to break the rules.

[germansugarbaby]

Ho-Tactics #2 Sexual Discipline

Before you can apply any Ho Tactic, you must strengthen your sexual discipline. Not in the repressive way you’ve been doing with willpower alone, but in a way that you fully understand why you want that man, and why you shouldn’t give in until you get what you want first.

Most men win girls over with basic behavior and minimal courting because the sexual attraction is so strong that it makes them perceive that he’s doing amazing things. In reality, her defenses are weak because she’s rarely been tested by stallions, treated by ballers, or charmed by geniuses.

That tingling feeling isn’t proof that he’s special; it’s proof that you’re not gay.

Understanding your sex drive keeps you from losing yourself in the moment, it keeps you from going YOLO and it shows the man that is trying to pass your guard that you aren’t like the average woman. 

Once a man sees that you have discipline and that you don’t fall for the typical tricks or lies, then you earn his respect. Any woman can use sex to get what she wants, but my job is to teach you how to use respect to get what you need.

Are you a woman that can say, “No, not tonight?” Can you stop yourself in the middle of kissing? Can you stand your ground when a man is begging to take you back to his place?

Basic Bitches are afraid to turn a man down because they don’t want to be seen as mean or uninterested. 

A Ho doesn’t give a fuck about the way she is perceived, because she knows he wants her pussy, she’s virtually put in in his face, and even if a man is annoyed with dating,

he will continue to entertain the things she wants to do because she’s not going to bend and fall for Come Over & Chill. 

If he tries to touch you, let him grab a little, and then smack his hands off. Now you may think, “He’ll get turned off, and I won’t even have a chance to get his pockets, because he won’t think I like him.” Wrong! 

It’s in how you deny a man, not the actual denial. The goal is to show him that you like him, but you have standards. You can hug, but you’re not kissing. He can rub your ass, but you’re not sitting on his lap. He can talk dirty, but you won’t fire back anything more than a curious smile.

Get like these Hos and be comfortable with the words, “not tonight.” You are not going to lose his interest because he still wants to fuck you and just as importantly, he enjoys hanging out with you.

If you were to have sex with a guy and then spend Monday-Friday, saying you don’t want to come over and watch Ride Along, he’s going to call the next girl and put her over you on the pecking order because you’re old news.

If he hasn’t had sex, he may call the next girl, but you will remain at the top of the pecking order because you’re a code he can’t crack and that drives him crazy. 

It’s not about how you make excuses, don’t get caught up in having good reasons, fuck the reasons, be able to get the point across that you do things on your time. 

Men hate when they can’t have their way, but hate is only frustration mixed with passion. This will easily turn into desire if you aren’t afraid to seduce him by making him chase after you.

sponsors aren’t racing after pussy; they’re looking for a sign that you’re different, that you’re quality, and not someone that the world has sampled

[asiansiren]

Understanding Freestyling

It’s obvious that the bowl is somewhat over-saturated, particularly on sugaring sites, with salts and salt babies - and thus, the proposed solution to finding generous men and procuring effective arrangements is freestyling and meeting these men in person, rather than online. Despite freestyling being praised as the new way of sugaring, there seems to be confusion on what exactly it is and what exactly to do when you’re at high-class establishments.

The most common definition appears to be going to high-class restaurants, clubs, and places where “rich people frequent”, looking as though you belong there, and then having a rich man approach you or vice- versa, but it seems as though this method is becoming outdated. As the sugar bowl has become more popularized as journalists and college students try to capitalize on this sensation, the richest men and ideal targets are skeptical. If you’re on one of the many establishments of Wall Street, Capitol Hill, or downtown LA, you’ll hear hedge fund managers, bankers, and trust fund babies talk about avoiding gold diggers when picking up women - and they’ve learned to tell the signs: expensive, attractive, well-dressed women sitting alone, waiting to be approached by men. Moreover, the wealthiest men generally will not approach women if they are strangers they don’t know. Such developments call for a new approach in freestyling, which is not to say the old one should be completely abandoned, but rather that it no longer produces the level of success that it used to.

If you’re looking for genuinely rich men (especially not just new money, or those who think that because they have a $100K salary, they’re rich), then the way of entering arrangements is through networking - which is not just meeting these men at wealthy establishments, but entering and mingling with their social circles. If you’re serious about this life and are looking to enter the upper class, become a socialite, or become a trophy wife, then nailing this skill is very important. The best arrangements, the most generous men, and the most valuable services I’ve acquired have always been through men that I was introduced to through social circles or a friend. Example: I have a male acquaintance that I was introduced to by a mutual friend, and when it was obvious there was chemistry, he introduced me to his other friend, a trust fund baby, and together with two other girls we went on a weekend trip to the trust fund baby’s lakeside house, complete with a jacuzzi, jet skis, and tubing. His net worth/income is impressive for his age (one year older than me), but isn’t enough for me to pursue a physical arrangement with him. However, he works in finance and has a knack for investment, and we’ve entered an agreement where he invests my money and keeps 20% of the investment, but over a year he’s nearly doubled the thousands of dollars I originally gave him to investment. You’ll see this through practice as well: how did Prince Harry and Prince William meet their current wives? Through their social circles and current friends. You’ll understand why rich men tend to date rich women, isn’t necessarily because they have a preference for rich women or that rich women are more attractive (though there may be correlation) but rather because in their social circles that is the kind of woman they’re often introduced to. When you’re wealthy and powerful, it’s not in your interest to talk to most people - because naturally, people will be coming to you. In this way, social circles act as a means of both protecting their wealth and status and separating the cream of the crop to include those that are attractive, have social approval, and have a lifestyle fit with these men for ideal romantic partners.

So how do you ‘break’ into such circles? How do you make the results of freestyling become a reality?

•First, if you’re just starting out or are looking for an allowance, it will be relatively difficult to find the *exact* results that you want. You can see from billionaires or men renown from their wealth, they take care of women who aren’t necessarily at their financial level, but have stability and some income of their own. This makes them more attractive because for super wealthy men, they are used to groupies/women throwing themselves at them, so when they encounter someone who is attractive, interested in them, yet has a level of financial independence, this poses a challenge and makes them more likely to invest in you for sponsorship, SGF, or trophy wife, whichever you wish.

•That being stated, I encourage freestyling from the very beginning, since even on standard dating platforms there’s an inundation of time-wasters and irrelevant folks who try to capitalize on the beauty of a young, attractive woman. So to get started, first, you have to network. Assuming you already know how to take care of yourself and to network, the next step is finding out where the rich and successful people in your area hang out. Humans are naturally social, and so when a girl claims she cannot find worthwhile men, it must be that she’s investing time or social energy into the wrong kinds of men. Envision the kind of life or standards that you’re looking for, and delete any man who doesn’t meet these standards or contributes no use to you. This will free up space and social networking so you can pursue relationships with men who CAN invest in you. If you’re looking for men who can do more than buy you fast food and share Netflix subscriptions, delete those that do.

•Next, do some research about which social circles to join. It’s good to decide what kind of interests you have - are they political? Financial? Perhaps you’re interested in philanthropy. If you’re not sure, that’s fine and join as many as possible, and make sure they have a certain level of status or are inviting the right people, or else they will just be another waste of your time. Go to the introductory meetings and dress to impress, and make a great first impression. Introduce yourself, have a story about yourself, and make small talk, and if you’re attractive and reasonably socially-skilled, you’ll find that people are drawn to you. Once one person is interested, the rest will follow. Some women are too transparent by only mingling with the men - take great care to establish good relations with the women there, because they can put in a good and very influential word for you.

•Go to these events, meet new people, and continue going to them. Men will want to contact you and will ask for your number - you should give it, but don’t get overexcited or too eager. You have to refine through these men and ensure that they’re ones that you’d like to date or to pursue arrangements with. So contact them, be approachable, but also ensure that you present yourself as having other things going for you. You don’t have to necessarily be working but having your own savings, own assets, whether those are from yourself, your family, or another man, are important. Always, always, always have the man approach you first. If he doesn’t seem interested, never seem discouraged and just move on to the next one. Have a mentality of abundance. Next step is testing him and doing your research.

•Before doing anything, you should be able to answer the following questions (outlined in books like Ho Tactics):

-Where does he work and live?

-Is he wealthy, and if so, where does his wealth come from? (Trust fund baby, old money, self-made) What profession is he in? Does he look wealthy or is he actually wealthy?

-And most importantly, is he generous? (How much money does he drop on his hobbies, is he cheap/frugal, does he like spending money on women)

Most women get caught up in the generosity, because sadly, wealth is not equivalent to generosity. Test him by going out on a date and seeing what he proposes. Generous men tend to be quite obvious, in my opinion, and won’t show any hesitation in paying for services, calling you Ubers, or taking you on spontaneous trips and otherwise showing off their wealth. If he doesn’t seem generous, drop him immediately. If he makes any excuse that seems disingenuous, drop him immediately. If he tries to force any physical contact, drop him immediately. If he makes any complaint on spending, drop him immediately. Trust your intuition. Filter through the trash. A superior man will take his place.

•By the second date, you should already have established that you’re high-value. Be nice and pleasant, but don’t be so easily impressed. This is where he should be spending more, and you should establish the dynamics of the relationship. Hold off on physical contact until you’ve filtered through his intentions and gotten what you wanted. Some girls are confused as to whether or not they should be upfront or not, whether to ask for allowance straight up or not. It’s difficult to say, because this varies from person to person - and I would say go with what your intuition tells you and do what’s most comfortable in the persona you adopt. Maybe making up a sob story or emotional manipulation is what you’re best at. Maybe it just suits you better to be blunt. Maybe batting your eyelashes and asking to go shopping is your forte. Whatever works for you. Just make sure you establish the grounds of the relationship and get what you want before anything physical happens. Have foresight on what you want and get the money/gifts FIRST.

•Next is… upgrade. Play the dynamics of an arrangement/relationship and see what his relationship needs are. Fulfill them. But always play the game, and never get too attached. Women may get insecure in relationships - “What if he finds someone hotter than me, younger than me, with a better body than me?” Don’t get insecure and don’t rely on male validation. Have confidence in yourself. He is with you for a reason. You can also do the exact same - there will be better men in the midst, and continuing to be desirable to check his ego is important. But in the meantime, maintaining your looks, beauty, and hobbies is important if you are dedicated to this lifestyle. If you want to date vanilla, fine, go ahead, but if you’re looking to escort/sugar/sell pussy.. whatever you want to call it… you need to consistently upgrade using the resources you’re given. Take great care to not get emotionally attached if you’re not satisfied with the lifestyle you have right now - which requires emotional discipline. Remember that there will always be richer men, hotter men, more successful men, or men who have more of all three qualities.

[ultrasugarlifestyle]

SUGAR BABY, SPOILED GIRLFRIEND, TROPHY WIFE YOUTUBE CHANNELS TO FOLLOW 💰

💖 Cyndi Sofia  💖

:: VIDEOS I RECOMMEND ::

→ What About You Is Intriguing? Describe Your “Brand”

→ How to Become a Rich Man’s Muse Replay

→ Are You a High Value Woman? 

💖 Michaela Pink  💖

:: VIDEOS I RECOMMEND ::

→ HOW TO MAKE HIM CROSS THE ROOM FOR YOU | FROM GETTING LOOKS TO BAITING HOOKS

→ IF YOU LIKE HIM, LEAVE HIM ALONE

→ MEN FALL IN LOVE WITH THEIR EYES | WOMEN FALL IN LOVE WITH THEIR EARS

💖Pretty Woman 💖

:: VIDEOS I RECOMMEND ::

→ 10 Sugar Daddy Red Flags!!

→ TOP 5 places to meet a Sugar Daddy

→ Sugar Daddy: Sugarbaby Safety Guide

💖School Of Affluence 💖

:: VIDEOS I RECOMMEND ::

→ 10 Ways To Look Expensive On A Budget - School of Affluence

→ How Law Of Attraction Changed My Life - School Of Affluence

→ What nationalities are the most generous, all my previous jobs & the key to a happy relationship!

💖SheRaSeven1 💖

:: VIDEOS I RECOMMEND ::

→ How to Get Money From a Sugar Daddy

→ Act Like the Prize and Weed Out Dusty Men

→ Things to Never Talk About On Dates

💖ZIVA 💖

:: VIDEOS I RECOMMEND ::

→ HOW TO GET MONEY FROM A SUGAR DADDY 💸 Turn A Guy You Meet into Your SD

→ Do you HAVE to sleep with your sugar daddy?

→ How To Get A Sugar Daddy 💰(part 1)

[sugarcoatedstripper-blog]

All of these blogs glamorize the sugar baby lifestyle. And it is glamorous. But I’m going to make a list of all the bad things so that hopefully the weaker girls save themselves some time:

-You are going to waste TONS of time. You are going to have to sort through hundreds of messages, check out hundreds of guys profiles, and google image search tons of guys pictures. You are going to have to take time to think of witty messages to send back and forth to these guys only to find out they think allowances are insulting and they’re not an ATM… blah blah blah.

-You are going to have failures. It sucks, like REALLY SUCKS, to spend 3 hours getting ready for a date with a pot, drive an hour to get there and have him be nothing he said in his profile. This happened to me, he had a broken iPhone, drove a rusty truck, and when I asked him if he could help a bit with gas money (which he previously agreed to) he said, “Oh sorry I only have $8 on me.” And hand you a crumpled up pile of ones. You will feel defeated.

-You will (most likely) have to have sex with guys that are as old, or older than your parents. This sounds easy enough, right? Until you’re in the hotel room sitting next to a guy thinking about someone else, he tried to kiss you and sloppily uses tongue. No. You will be so turned off. Having sex with someone you are not attracted to at all is so much easier said than done. 

-You will become attached to guys. And it sucks.

-You will meet some great vanilla guys and have to have this inner battle of wanting to date him so bad but you have to give up so much. You’ll have to lie to family, friends, and guys you’re interested in. Lots of lying. Not fun.

-You will have to have a completely different persona, name, everything. It sounds fun but it gets so exhausting. There are times he will say some ignorant thing you completely disagree with and you will have to bite your tongue. You will have to practice saying your fake name so that it sounds natural. You will have to be on your best behavior. You will have to study all these tedious things… how to use chopsticks, which fork is for the salad, seriously. So. Much. Little. Things. He will notice your dirty nails and he will be able to feel if your lips are chapped. You need to be seriously on point. No room for failures.

I’m just so so so tired of all these girls reading the sugar baby tag and thinking that all this is all just dressing up pretty and stupid guys fawning at you so they just give you stacks of cash. It doesn’t work like that honey! It’s building trust in these guys and acting like you aren’t completely repulsed by their touch or their kiss. Acting like everything they say is interesting. Listening to the same story over and over. 

[sugarbabyreese]

A must read. ♡

[strippr]

User who asked to be anonymous: 

I’ve been considering the risk of STD’s with extras during lap dances. I know the risk is low, but it still freaks me out - and I am not an extras sort of customer. Do you have more control over protection with FSSW or not? How do you assure that a client is clean? Are clubs safe or do they have occasion STD epidemics go through parts the roster?

The risk is negligible in clubs. Don’t put your mouth or penis on other mouths or genitals, or anywhere other mouths or genitals may have been, and you’re fine. That’s the only way STIs are transmitted. The advice not only goes for being in the club, but also being in the rest of the world. 

I think people who work in the sex industry are more careful and educated about disease transmission than those outside of it. You have no idea how many full grown men I educate every weekend on why I won’t do whatever act they’re asking in the VIP room of a strip club. 

I assume any FSSW clients might not be free of STIs - a large majority of the population carries HPV, even asymptomatically, and if you’ve ever had a cold sore you have HSV - and I assess my risk accordingly. Their previous sexual history is none of my business, and mine is none of theirs. Barrier methods aren’t 100% effective under usual use circumstances, but they’re pretty fucking good. I won’t engage in sexual contact with someone who has signs of a clear outbreak or infection (pus, sores, cold sores, etc), but it has yet to be an issue.

I get tested every 6 months, and I have for years. My local county office does it for $5 for all residents without billing insurance – I don’t know why anyone would skip out on a pretty easy 30 minute appointment that costs basically nothing. Many sex workers I know get tested regularly, and most people I know outside of the industry have either never been tested or get tested so rarely that it’s ridiculous. Even if you think you’re in a perfectly monogamous relationship…well…it’s literally my side hustle to maybe fuck your husband, so…maybe get tested every time you have a yearly pap, ladies. 

Another thing, though: we have to stop referring to people as “clean” who don’t have STIs. It implies that people who do are “dirty” or “unclean,” and that’s pretty false. Your dad probably has herpes and your doctor probably has HPV and your pastor probably had chlamydia awhile back. I mean, statistically, a huge majority of everyone you know has or has had an STI. It’s just not as simple as lumping everyone into a pot of poor choices or good choices, “clean” or not. Remember that STIs also happen because of infidelity, child sexual abuse, sexual assault and rape, your partner’s previous relationships, etc. Even if you and your partner were both tested before you had any contact that might lead to transmission, some infections do not show up on tests for weeks or months! Remember: your partner’s promises that they don’t have an STI are laughably not STI prevention. 

The only way to ensure you will not get an STI is 100% abstinence from all sexual activities, including kissing, oral sex, penetrative sex, etc. And that fucking sucks so…just live your lives and try to prevent what you can: don’t have sex if you are having an outbreak or symptoms (pus, sores on genitals or mouth, pain while urinating, funky discharge, smelly genitals, etc), speak honestly with your partners about your risk, and use barrier contraception if you’re unsure or unwilling to take a bigger risk leap with your partner. Talk to your doctor or Planned Parenthood about PrEP for HIV prevention if you are concerned about your risk, shoot up, etc. 

I will never know if anyone I work with has an STI. It’s not a thing people talk about at work, just like your coworkers wouldn’t mention it to you. 

[helloitsme310-blog]

Hello, is this mic still on?

Hey guys! I’m totally ok! Life is great. I’m happy. Everything is perfect. I took everything down because very young girls were messaging me for advice. When I started the blog it was meant for mature girls who were already in the bowl. I wasn’t trying to promote this lifestyle. Young girls need to live at home, be a good daughter to their parents, go to school, and be a kid. I date guys my age. Young guys are willing to help you too! And you won’t be embarrassed when you go out with them. It literally breaks my heart when I go out and see some young girl having coffee with some 60+ year old man. I really want to punch the guy in the face. And to think these girls are doing it for few hundred dollars. I can eat $500 worth of food. This is not what I’m promoting. Sorry girls. But that’s the truth. That’s why everyone is staring at you when you go out with old men. If you’re offended this is why I took down the blog. Please stop reading… it gets worse. Another lie I see on Tumblr is that any size is ok. If you want to collect $300 here and there that’s fine. But if you want to make the big money you have to look better then everyone else. We get painful plastic surgery and skip desserts to look the way we do. We all go to gym and lots of hot yoga. But again… I’m not promoting this lifestyle. I’m saying all my gfs that get $100,000 bank transfers from their bfs are beautiful and hot. That’s real. I’ve been out with super hot girls and normal looking girls and we get treated totally different. The kind of men that approach a hot group of girls is on another level. These guys are not “buying you drinks” they’ll blow $10k on bottle service and black car Uber you everywhere. We’ll go out to eat in a group and one guy will pay the $2000 dinner tab. They’re staying in rentals in Bel Air that are $100,000 a month. They’ll buy you $1000 Louboutins on a first date without having to do anything. They’ll just buy it for you because “you looked like you really loved them.” They don’t even expect a kiss. They’re true gentlemen. Girls…. I hate SA. In my short time on it I realized it was for escort rejects. Escorts make $800 an hour. These guys were asking for “play per meet” which is basically an escort for $300 for the whole night. You are getting hustled. If you are down with that lifestyle just escort for $800 an hour. These losers prey on young girls for inexpensive sex. I think Tinder or meeting guys in a normal setting is better. They’re not thinking you’re a sugar baby. They think you’re a normal gf. If they have the means and adore you they will spoil you. You don’t have to hustle anyone. It’s natural for men to want to take care of their woman. A spoiled gf or sugar babies get taken care of by their bfs and daddies. They’ll pay for your health insurance, fix your credit, get you out of debt, help you build a business, buy you a dog, give you advice, hug you and adore you, piggy back you to the hospital if you’re sick and spoon feed you till you are better. Sex part of it but it’s not the main attraction. They obviously take care of your bills and shopping too or else it would be a vanilla relationship. And again… I’m not promoting plastic surgery, starving yourself or anything like that. You are so beautiful. You are made with love by God. You are made perfectly and exactly how he wanted you to be. I’m just telling you how it is in the real world. Being skinny and pretty can be a curse too. You can’t rely on your looks forever. You need to save money and work towards business(es) and careers. Set your life up so you can marry for love (and money). This should be one aspect of your life. You need family and friends too. You need hobbies and interest. Goals and aspirations. You need a life. Money is not everything. It’s a tool… that’s all it is. Use it wisely. Wishing you all the best ❤️ Love, Spoiled girlfriend aka AsianSugababy (My name has a typo. It was suppose to be “Sugar”)

[brownbarbiesugar-deactivated201]

ALWAYS reblog THIS when you see it too

[lilitharcane-blog]

Reblog if you’re a sugar baby who

Doesn’t hate on girls who take extremely low allowances or pay per meets

Doesn’t hate on girls for not being “classy” or who don’t “know their worth” (or use those phrases in general to bring down other babies)

Understands that the experience of a choice sex worker and a survival sex worker are very different.

Understands that especially if you’re a girl who has the choice to leave sex work whenever you want, are only doing this to have a more glamorous life, or for luxury items (yes I’ve seen girls act superior for only doing this for luxury items and snub girls who do it who need the money), you have certain privileges many in the bowl, and in sex work don’t have.

Understands that some girls enter the bowl to pay for diapers, medical bills, or just to feed their families.

Understands that some women don’t have the luxury to wait around for an allowance YOU deem acceptable because of the above reasons. 

Understands that some women have to take allowances lower than what you would ever accept because they aren’t conventionally attractive (and don’t have the money to make themselves more “attractive”), are plus size, are transgender, have lots of tattoos that hurt their money, are visibly disabled, are autistic/have learning disabilities, speech impediments, or are WOC*, including immigrants with thick accents, or are undocumented and therefor can not always be as choosy.

Doesn’t hate on escorts who aren’t high end or mid range. A lot of SB’s I’ve seen don’t understand how the above intersections can make escorting just as difficult, as well as the fact that if you’re hours away from a major city or middle class suberb the rates in general are MUCH lower. It doesn’t matter if a girl charges $200 or less an hour, or does $40 15 min. quickies, you have no right to judge her. If anything low end escorts need more love and support since LE doesn’t target high end as often, they can’t properly screen like mid range, and even other sex workers shit on them, feminists talk over them since they’re considered the “victims”, not even going into society as a whole.

Understands that your rate/allowance, pay per meet is not your actual “worth” since I continually see “know your worth”. It is simply the amount of money that you are able to make, whether it’s from good genes, skill, or proper marketing.

Isn’t classist in general

 *You can still of course, get high allowances with any of these things (some of the top sb’s I’ve seen are black or plus size), but from what I’ve seen they’re usually drop dead gorgeous and the above things do work against you often times.

I see a lot of babies in the bowl do these things and I have a lot of sugar baby followers it seems more than any other type of sex worker, and I’d love to follow you, but I always end up seeing so much classism and lateral whorephobia I’m afraid to follow most sugar babies now, so I’d like to know which ones are “safe” to follow. (if anyone actually reads or reblogs this, which I doubt a bit)

Also if you’re another type of sex worker feel free to reblog of course. :)

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I love this girl for making this post

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[makeitrainsugar]

I don’t understaaand ya’ll

 There is a very very very easy way to avoid getting scammed by these salty guys.

 Get. The. Fucking. Money. First.

 You want to make sure he’s serious?

 Get the money first.

 You want to be sure you’re time is being spent meaningfully? 

 Get the money first.

 You want to scare off these salts who see ‘girls asking questions’ as a red flag?

 Get the money first.

  The scammers even say it themselves ‘don’t fuck with pros’, ‘don’t fuck with girls who ask for an initial gift, you won’t get anything for free from them’.

 It is KNOWN.

  And then, once you have got this in your head, you can’t just say YO WHERES THE CASH in your first message this isn’t Sims, this is a game of chess- who’s the best bullshitter? It needs to be you.

 You have to FINESSE the money outta them.

 ‘Hey, I want you to know I expect a gift from you on our first date so I know you’re serious’.

 Yeah. You’re not getting nothing with that bee sting of a message, you sound like his wife. ‘I expect’, ‘I want’, ‘serious’. All these words are very scary to these fragile little babies and it’ll scare the digits right out of your hands.

 ‘So baby, guess who’s feeling lucky right about now? What’s on the menu for tonight? I’m feeling steak for some reason. Goodbye diet! Hope I still look sexy for you ;) I’m so ready to be pampered tonight, maybe you could bring a little something for me to make me smile? Just bring what you think I’m worth- but don’t be cheeky! :p Should I send you a picture of the heels I’m wearing? Hope you like xxx’

  Paraphrase it, create your own details, whatever it doesn’t matter, but this is the formula.

 It is dead easy to separate the wheat from the chaff and there will be a lot of fucking chaff.

 Oh by the way, I feel like this is important to mention:

 Get the money first.

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[bisou-bisou-bisou-bisou-deactiv]

It’s going down; I’m yelling Tinder

Now, I’m not going to front like I’ve ever had a “real” sugar daddy, because I haven’t. However, I am extremely smart and have noticed that things for me have changed since I began doing this in December, and I’ve recently caught (and kept) the attention of two whales, I’m going to give advice that has helped me immensely become a more experienced SB. 

All of this is advice anyone can use, honestly. It’s about what comes out of your mouth, and how these men may perceive you in the beginning. Basic communication.

Why I began sugaring? Because I’m tired of being broke. 

In the beginning: I had prepared, but not enough, for what I was indulging in. Seeking Arrangement was not working for me, at all. Craigslist gave me decent men here and there, but most of them were creepy guys or guys that had already responded to my ads a million times. SugarDaddie never really worked, and I’m pretty sure most of the profiles on that site are fake. Freestyling I’ve never even covered, because I have crippling social anxiety. 

Tinder has, and always will be, the best medium I’ve used to sugar. That’s where I’ve met my whales and true potentials. 

As of late: Seeking Arrangement is still garbage, CL is dry, SDaddie I don’t even mess with, and freestyling remains the same. 

Tinder remains the medium in which I get better results. I talk to these men the same way I’d talk with a vanilla.

Back when I began: I’d constantly get asked things like, “what do I get out of things?”. 

No one has even mentioned such to me lately. I’d have a copy paste saying shit like, 

“Hi x! I like x, y, z, and I am seeking a f, g, h. I don’t have a lot of time to date/don’t date guys my age/etc. Let me know if this is something that you are interested in.” 

It wasn’t working for me, and I was receiving results from guys that weren’t material for what I was even looking for. Also, Tinder had already froze two accounts of mine, and I didn’t want there to be a third. 

I was simply spewing what I had to offer, but after a while, after too many CL responses of men giving me the ultimatum of sending my photos or facing a waste of time, I decided that I was the boss. 

These men are here for me, not the other way around. So, I cut my losses, and changed my attitude. 

So, on Tinder, instead of messaging men, I decided to let them come to me. I decided to make it so easy and transparent for them to know what it is that I am seeking. My most recent profile went along the lines of the following:

City I live in. University of X grad, class of Y.

Things you enjoy doing.

Adjective about yourself, adjective about yourself, and adjective about yourself SB. 

If I am swiping in your city, I will be there next/I’m coming for you/insert projected dates of trip.

My entire point was to put SB SOMEWHERE in my profile. Not sugar baby, but SB. So, when a man asks me, “Where you from/what are you looking for/school, etc.,” I can tell if they have even read my profile in the first place, and also saves a lot of small talk, bullshitting, and time. There are some men that say that they aren’t looking for gold diggers/SBSD, and it’s only fair to be upfront if that is your thing. 

Also, when they ask the questions above, you can hit them with the “did you read my profile?” in a playful way, to make them feel stupid. If they ask what a “SB” is, I unmatch. I do not entertain it for another second.

None of my photos were really risque, except for the first one. It caught the attention of many, many men. The rest were all of me, headshots, because I didn’t have body photos that didn’t cut my head off in the “square” cropping.

NOTE: Men are visual creatures, I get it, and I said fuck that because I’m unconventional, and it worked for me. I’d still suggest putting out photos of your body, if you can. It will save you one of my steps. 

So, now you’ve matched and he begins to speak to you. Now what do you say, what do you do?

I suggest remaining in control of the conversation, at all times. This way he will see you are not acting flakey, and also gives you control over how much you get to learn in the beginning, and about what, who gets to talk more, and very importantly, what their career choice is. It also shows him that you want to know the man, himself, and when money talk comes he cannot say that’s the only things you are interested in.

Did they have a fun day/weekend? If it’s a weekday, I ask if they are being productive, this gives me incentive to ask what they do for a living, without it coming “out of the blue” (a past mistake.). When they answer, I respond with my own job, saving them a line. Depending on their profession, I either continue speaking, or cut it. 

Now, this only applies to people like me who are after men primarily 45+, but somewhere in the mix I always ask the man if they always date a woman 20 something years younger than them. This will say a lot, as a SB, as what he responds with could be a red flag, or signs of experience.

If he says yes, you can ask him how it worked out. 

If he says no, personally, I consider it cut at that point, but don’t always write them off. Most men want a younger woman, but someone in the past had incentive to date this man. Why?

I always mention myself that I prefer older men, don’t have interest in dating men my age, so he can get rid of that deep down feeling that I’m just doing this “for the money.”

If he says shit like, “yes, I once dated a woman around your age, and we had a lot of fun together. We would go out, dance, shoot the shit, and have amazing sex. Unfortunately, we broke up, she moved away/wanted other shit/other bullshit”

I cut it. Nothing in there mentions helping her, or doing anything not vanilla. He’s probably vanilla. 

Now, if they bring up, “what are you looking for?”, what I do is similar to what I read from @sugardaddyjournal​. In this post, he explains an outline of how to tell a man you are looking for a SD. I don’t quote that verbatim. 

In fact, I can’t believe I am saying this, but you should never quote any advice from a Tumblr blog or otherwise, verbatim. A bunch of other girls are already doing it. Don’t copy and paste shit. If you have issues with thinking for yourself, and basic communication, I would highly suggest getting that worked out before pursuing any of this.

I ONLY tell them what I am seeking, when they ask me, or when they are getting closer to asking me on a date. What I say:

To be completely honest, POT, I am looking for an ongoing relationship with a man that can enhance my life, and is happy to do so. If being a SD is not your thing, I understand! But, that is what I am looking for.

STRESS “ONGOING RELATIONSHIP”. Many men use SB as another word for “escort” and may be looking for just that. If you’re not okay with p4p, I suggest stressing “ongoing relationship”.

Now, if he has done it before, this is the part where he brings that up, or he brings up how he does not need to “pay for sex”/”gets pussy all day blah blah blah. If it’s the latter, cut it. 

If it’s the former, I immediately derail from that and go back to him. What does he like to do? Where is he living? Has he ever been to your hometown? Get to know the damn man.

WHAT I DO NOT DO ON TINDER:

I do not bring up allowance. Ever. 

Mainly my paranoia of becoming reported again, but I just don’t do it. I judge by his profession and history of being a SD if he is true potential. It’s still pretty early to ask about that, as I would be upset if he asked about sex and shit that soon as well. Somewhere between meeting and the meet and greet, I suggest having that talk. Just not over Tinder.

Now, another thing that I mention about myself, to be safe.

I tell them my body type. I’m a size 14, Coke bottle/figure 8 shape, with 36E breasts and a round ass. To some many men this shit matters. This is a superficial line of sex work. If a guy only dates women a certain type, cut it. I am highly intelligent, educated, and am loyal to a fault. If a man doesn’t see that because of my size, he isn’t worth my time.

I say, 

Just so we are on the same page, POT, do you have any reservations about voluptuous/bigger/curvy/fat/skinny/colored (yes, this matters to some as well) women?

If he doesn’t care, I’ll feel dumb but relieved. If he isn’t into it, he probably will dry up, or lie about it, to be honest. All the same, cut it.

From there, take note of everything that he says. How does he speak to you? 

This is universal. If a man speaks to me in any of the following ways…

Extremely sexual, asking for tons of photos, nude photos, dirty talk, or general time wasting

Asks “how much are you looking for?” and does not budge

Extremely overbearing in talking to you, but does not talk about helping you, or even showing interest in doing so

I cut it.

One, it’s sexual harassment to ask me sexual shit when I don’t know you from a hole in the wall. If they ask for pictures, I ask for money. Quid pro quo. Fuck their feelings.

Two, if he has been a SD in the past, he should be willing at some point to tell you how he plans to benefit your life, and that is also regarding an allowance. I always tell them that I cannot be trusted to write a number on a blank proverbial check, because I do not know their means. When that doesn’t work, I tell them a number “in the mid-to-upper 4-digit range”, or tell them a specific number I received in the past. If he won’t take it, he can’t afford you.

Three, guys like that are probably more vanilla and lying about wanting to be a SD, or want to “spoil” you with mediocre gifts here and there. 

Voila. This is how I sift through the bullshit. It’s a much clearer way of avoiding the long game, and avoiding being “too quick”. 

The most important part of this entire post

Now, I will reiterate that if you cannot speak for yourself, and cannot communicate adequately, you will waste your time. You should not be asking your peers things like “what do I say when he asks what I’m looking for?” “what should I ask as an allowance?” “if a man is asking for nudes, what do I do?” 

You should already know what you are looking for, and not looking to another SB, who is in another place in life, for the answers to what you should have decided in the first place. You should not be looking to strive for things other people have worked for. They look differently, speak differently, walk, talk, have a totally different personality, etc. You can’t be someone that you are not. You have to be confident in who you are because these men can smell the bullshit and weakness.

If you really can’t figure it out, treat the man like you would any cute vanilla boy. It might be easier to charm his pants off this way.

Don’t let the luxe porn and money shots fool you, this shit will not happen overnight, two nights, months or even a year. You have to work for it, and deal with a lot of bullshit. Patience will always help you in the end, because a lot of this is truly luck.

[sugarspicemelanin]

Best post I’ve ever read

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[chocolatesugah]

I told a potential my fee & he laughed !!!!!

LI-TER-FUCKIN-LY ! Y’all this man responded, “Lol”.

Now, this is where a lot of sugar babies make an mistake. They allow this mans mockery of how much it cost to support their needs/wants sting, they allow themselves to become vulnerable to manipulative and cheap men…

I simply explained to him in the most polite and bitchy tone ever (because ladies sometimes sugar may just in look like salt), “The outfits that you so politely complimented and admired, the makeup, the hair, nails, smooth legs, they all cost. So to maintain your desired image and my lifestyle that you wish to be included in (since you messaged me) you have to support me. In exchange for your support, I shower you in attention, affection, make men envious of you, and offer you an introduction to a diverse culture. I thought that was the kind of man you were, and the interest you had in mind. However I apologize that you cant afford me and my lifestyle and I wish you the best of luck!

See what I did there, “your desired image, make men envious of you, thought that was the kind of man you were, you cant afford me”. Subliminally bruising his ego. Sooo just to try and prove how much of a man he is, now he’ll be competitive, hungry to try prove me wrong. Which he was and immediately he began to retract his statement, and accept my offers. :) people just really want what they cant have…well cant afford.

& since he was acting all funny I will neeed my cash in hand before anythannnng.

This, ladies, is why you shouldn’t lowball yourselves

[witchdoctorpoet-deactivated2017]

Thank You. @KuKhanyile 

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For all the sex workers out there feeling nervous about this

[princesssnk-blog]

Show Some Appreciation

You may be a 10 and he’s a 2.  You’re in your prime, as he has aged less than gracefully.  You feel like a Victoria Secret’s Angel & the world is your runway, while he’s embarrassing to be seen in public with.  You think you’re God’s gift to this earth?  

You may feel you’re entitled to his money, gifts, wealth, etc., just don’t let him know it.

Even as your sugar daddy/sponsor/benefactor/client, he’s still human.  As we know, these men don’t want “to feel like an ATM.”  Regardless of how you may feel, try to lose the entitlement.  A man can be 100x more generous when he feels appreciated (Trust Me!).  

Thank him, praise him, show a little gratitude.

Give him a handwritten card.

Leave a ‘thank you’ post-it on the bathroom mirror for him to find in the morning.

Kiss a note card with a note written on it, and place it in his coat pocket or luggage to find (DO NOT do this if he’s married, you don’t want the Mrs. to find it)

Buy him a gift/book/wine/liquor that you think he’d enjoy.

Send him an e-card letting him know you’re thinking of him.

Call the restaurant ahead of time and ask for “Thank You” to be written on his dessert plate - when it comes out, let him know how much you appreciate his generosity and all that he does for you. You’ll get so many brownie points for this one if you do it right ;)

Little things. They don’t have to be extravagant or costly; just let the guy know that he’s appreciated (even if you don’t, at least let him believe that you appreciate his generosity). 

Showing a little appreciation goes a LONGGGGG way. 

[minxundercover]

When he says he doesn’t feel comfortable with allowances...

Here’s something that’s been in my drafts folder for a while. Based on some of the posts I’ve read recently, I think it might come in handy…PLEASE DO NOT COPY AND PASTE. READ CRITICALLY. Take bits and pieces, make it your own, or summarize it in some way as a come back for those messages, texts, or dinner dates.

Him: Hi. Thanks for reaching out to my earlier message. Your pics are beautiful. While I completely understand the importance of chemistry…but should we get to a point where this matters, I’m a little uncomfortable with having our relationship defined by allowances. As I said in my profile, I am quite generous, and understand the importance of ‘spoiling my partner’ but still, the set allowance would probably not work for me. I hope you understand my thoughts….

Me: Thank you for your thoughts. I understand that you are in search of an escape and so am I. My escape would involve a real connection and a refined lifestyle. I am a little uncomfortable with having a relationship that is only defined by sex… especially when the guy is attached and somewhat unavailable. I’m a beautiful young woman with no lack of suitors. I have a busy social life and I’m currently working to build a business/ pursuing my degree. I chose this kind of relationship in part because I have so little time for love. That’s not to say that my (romantic) time is not very valuable to me. It is. What I don’t value are shoes, handbags, and/or expensive dinners. These are things that I can purchase myself. Furthermore, these do nothing for me in the long run as much as say you investing in my company/ education would. I hope you understand that I’d need tangible showings… actions that illustrate I am valued… that my companion wants to put a smile on my face/ make me feel special/wants the best for me. AN ALLOWANCE WOULD DO THAT FOR ME. By the same token, I want my companion to feel comfortable telling me specifically how I could put a smile on his face/make HIM feel special/ valued. In any case, I am a rare catch and therefore am in no rush to find the man who “gets it” and me. Good luck on your search!

Now doesn’t this sound better than saying “Bitch Please! I am hot and young and you want me to spend my time on your old ass while your wife gets the unlimited credit card and I get nada! FUCK YOU!”

[mygingersweets]

I’ve been looking for this post!!

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because we’re all in this together. ♡