So I’ve hit 12 weeks in my pregnancy.
I’ve officially told my parents, both my brothers and their significant others, my Mimi, my sister-in-law and brother-in-law, and several of our close friends. My husband and I are planning to tell his parents and grandparents on Monday, at a dinner planned for Memorial Day. His sister and her husband are also attending, but they were amongst the first to know anyway.
I know his grandmother is going to be really happy, but I’m a little scared about how his mother is going to react, especially since my SIL, her daughter, is due to be induced on the 31st, which is literally at the end of this week. She already had a decidedly unattractive reaction when we both got married a little less than a year apart. I doubt she will react better to becoming a grandmother twice over in the same year. My husband is not too worried about it, but then again, I am much closer to my mother than he is to his. I’ve tried my best to have a good relationship with my in-laws, but it proves to be difficult when we don’t have very much in common, much less spend much time together. Both my husband and I side definitely like hangin out with my law at much better, but that’s more because we can just be more honest around them. His parents like to be “picture perfect” and think the opinions of others matter too much for us to disclose much of our home lives. We are always civil, and haven’t had any disagreements, but we’re just not close, even though they’re technically our neighbors and my parents live four hours away. It’s an odd situation to be in.
We also recently found out that a couple of our close friends are also due in December, due about three weeks after me. However, they have already announced in our friend group chat, which we have yet to do since we were waiting for the 12-week mark to be out of the danger zone. Thai makes me a little nervous about posting our announcement, especially because announcements do not usually delineate exact dates, but rather just the month. I fear that people will ask very invasive questions I’m not really comfortable answering at the moment due to some personal reasons, but my husband has said that it shouldn’t be such a big deal to post so close together because people “won’t care that much”. I fear he underestimates women and their capacity to over analyze these particular situations. I also feel like I’ve missed my window since they decided to post so early, which I know is stupid, but my overactive hormones are not necessarily the most cognizant of arbitrary timelines.
I would live to hear some feedback form other parents if any of you have any advice on either situation because I’m mentally struggling with how to go about this. Otherwise, disregard my ranting. It literally just helps to write this all down to help me think through it. And if you’ve made this far, I don’t mind answering questions privately, just keep it positive if you can. I will delete any negative asks, because god knows I don’t need that in my life. And bless you for making it this far, I know it’s a bit long-winded and I know not everyone wants to know about my personal issues.
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