When I first started doing yoga, I didnât pay much attention at the impact it had in my life off the mat. I would notice, my progress doing asanas, becoming more flexible, stronger and balanced, breathing and being more aware of my thoughts during the practice; but I couldnât connect how that translated into ârealâ life. One day I was talking with a friend (who happens to be a yoga instructor) and told her how much yoga Iâd been doing and how much I loved it and then she said to me â Â âremember to also practice flexibility when you are off the matâ.Â
Since then, a lot of growth has happened and I have started paying more attention to what yoga teaches me in the mat and applying it in everyday life. Here are 4 lessons that yoga keeps teaching me about life:
1) Flexibility is the ability to change
Increasing flexibility might be one of the main goals we have when we show up in our yoga mats. It has been amazing for me to notice how my body has changed through the years and how practice let me reach places I couldnât before. After my friendâs comment, I started understanding that just as my body was opening space to be more flexible, the same thing could happen in my mind. Being more flexible is as much about the mind as it is about the muscles.
Improving our flexibility might actually be tougher when we are off the mat. We are often stuck in expectations, beliefs, behaviors, likes, dislikes, stories and customs that we forget to flow in the present and surrender to life. Many years ago I came to the conclusion that the easiest way to be happy is through acceptance. We are flexible by willing to change what we want and think by accepting what comes to us. Itâs more important to cultivate flexibility in our minds than in our bodies. A flexible mind allow us to be present and enjoy life more.
Reminder: âIf you are feeling stiff, remember that an open mind can do anythingâ
When my yoga practice started, all I wanted to do was to get better. Try something more advanced, move to the next level, be more flexible, stronger, improve my alignment, like trying to get somewhere (still not sure where). Why do we continually rush ahead of ourselves, going, going, going like we are on the marathon of life? There is no an end line in neither yoga or life, so why do we keep acting like the Hare trying to win the race quickly?
Reflecting on it now, it seems like I was trying to prove something to myself. When the only thing we can see is the end line, we lose sight of the present moment. We can become more successful by being like the Tortoise and moving slowly but steadily. In both life and yoga we can only be mindful by taking it one pose and day at the time, giving our best and respecting where we are at that day. As a result we also learn to be more compassionate towards ourselves (and others), build patience and contentment.
Yoga and life are about the journey. Every journey is unique and personal. Knowing this, we can remember that there is no need to compare ourselves to others since each practice/life is different, and in reality there is no race to win.
Itâs easy to fall in the trap of comparing ourselves to others, or wanting to get/be somewhere now. Yoga ca remind us that instead of rushing into results, we can accept that we are a work in progress and commit to persevere on trying our best just for today, everyday.
Reminder: âLive with ease, and donât give up. Try your best one day at the timeâ.
When we practice asanas (poses), we focus the eyes on a certain unmoving point (drishti) to concentrate while holding a pose. Â According to Yoga Basics âThe ancient yogis discovered that where our gaze is directed our attention naturally follows, and that the quality of our gazing is directly reflected in the quality of our mental thoughts.â
In my own experience, focus in especially important while holding balancing poses, if  my attention is on another person, a moving object, or I suddenly start having a monkey mind, Iâm more likely to fall out of the pose or become unstable and wobbly. This is a lesson that is extremely important in the world we live nowadays. Itâs common to see people bragging about how wonderful they are at multitasking and it somehow became a needed skill to âsucceedâ in life. However, multiple studies show that the brain can only consciously focus on one thing at the time. Multitasking is like a ninja course for your brain, switching from one thing to another really tires it out, and as a result it gets fatigued and starts to make silly mistakes.
When we learn to focus on one thing at the time, we bring more balance to our lives. Choosing to concentrate on one thing for a certain period, allows us to be more conscious, less reactive, do things with higher quality (since there are less distractions and mistakes) and itâs less stressful for our minds. This way we can also be happier.
Reminder: âBe mindful of where your attention goes. When you lose your focus, you might lose your balance.â
As we progress in our yoga practice, we have more chances of falling by trying more challenging poses (usually arm balances and inversions). One of the benefits of practicing inversions is cultivating humility. Â Learning to fall and fail on and off the mat is an important part of life. Failure helps us to work in overcoming our ego.
Usually we fear failure, because it feels like something will be taken from us if we fail. When in fact, failure is a great teaching tool. When we fail we learn, grow and mature as human beings. We gain new perspectives on the world around us and deeper understandings about our lives and who we are. Failure is vital. It cultivates strength, resilience, creativity and detachment.
There is nothing to prove, nothing to lose, nothing to keep, nothing to hide.
Reminder: âLearn to fall, reflect on your lesson, get back up and keep going â
There are many reasons why people start a yoga practice, but at the end we are all trying to find ways of living life in the best way we can. Asanas prepare our body and mind for meditation, and if we pay attention our practice can also help us to connect and experience in our body and minds, lessons that can help us to live our lives in a simpler and happier manner.
How are you taking yoga âOff the Matâ?Â