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The wonderful cogitations of Shaz. Physically Alive Emotionally Dead.. My blog about uni, everyday questions & random thoughts! Sending you all lots of love ♥ xx phone/text a friend xx listen to music xx watch a film xx dance xx hug a bear xx ask for my number xx *currently a work in progress*

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[nana-bean]

Pressure Society? No makeup = no self care?

Events have arisen for me to need to right about the use of makeup. Despite it being more of a issue during secondary school years, with girls trying to slap on copious amounts and foundation, and mascara without being discovered by teachers. 

*These are very generalised, and i very much based on my own opinions and experience, so sorry if this has frustrated or angered you. By no means i’m against makeup as i do own quite a few products myself, however it is about the urges or feelings of MUST WEAR IT, as if not ones unpresentable that this post is targeting* 

I would of thought that issues surrounding makeup use would be confined within teenage girls. Either attempting to be like a ‘adult’ or a more saddening case of low self esteem or belief that ones not presentable without it. (I know i am seriously generalising, however i feel these two reasons were the most prominent when i was a teen). But this is also present within adulthood.

Personally i never wore makeup, (and still don’t) as i was too lazy to go through the process of applying foundation, concealer, poke myself with mascara and give myself a bruised eye-look with eye shadow. I know i’m hideous enough to warrant some degree of coverage for all my sins, but why don’t i?

It’s strange to consider that people often feel ‘naked’ without some degree of coverage. Or that other simply would not leave the house without perfecting the cat eyed look, or some other stunning eye-look. But i do understand, a feeling of being uncomfortable with ones appearance. So i can see why this may be such a pressing matter for many teens, and even adults.

At university, the contrast of those with makeup and those without is stark. Some of myself are like myself, who at most would blush on some powder to cover some of the sins, whereas others have painfully taken hours to perfect their attire. By no means i’m staying what they are doing is bad or, what i’m doing is right. However it does bring me to question who is this for? 

Are we applying all this for ourselves? if so then i have no qualms about it as i’m all for the make you feel good stance. 

Or are we doing it for someone else? friends? strangers? loved ones? Yes? if so this is were i have issues. Why should we feel a need to do something in order to please others? (i’ve done this on days where i believed that i was so unpresentable to leave the house should i not apply some makeup). Surely, no matter what we look like, our friends would be our friends despite appearance (and this is applicable for also loved ones)... and i know i’ve been called some highly abusive names whilst walking in the streets, so would makeup make it all better? (i know that this may not the reason for verbal abuse but could makeup made me feel better? or prevented it?)... I think i’ve learnt to try to ignore all this from strangers, why should i waste my energy worrying about people who are essentially bullies. Essentially, us girls (and guys) need to learn to feel comfortable within our own skin, as after all we are stuck with it for all of our lives. Its painful to think that appearance alone can trigger individuals to depression (i was one, as i felt so uncomfortable in my own skin that all i can think about was to a) destroy it, or b) hide it). 

1) We can help each other, by noticing when we are making these judgements on peoples appearance, or noticing when others are doing this, and politely make them aware that, it may make someone uncomfortable, 

2) Be yourself (easier said then done) but by staying true to yourself (with or without makeup), gradually you would begin to know who your friends are, and hopefully feel more confident in your own skin. As we should never be pressured to do what we do not want to do.

3) ‘Natural’ is OK, many societies do not even wear make up. In fact they may frown upon it. So this is just a gentle reminder again, that it is up to YOU with what you wear on your face. Even if your friends wear makeup it is ok for you not to.

4) The use of it may be beneficial in boosting self-confidence, and also giving yourself a radiant glow... so go for it!! (but just don't feel pressured to do anything) --> i’m all for looking your best (especially when you know mugshots of your face will be posted all over social media).

So, to conclude, the use of makeup as a mask for confidence may not be necessary. As you are beautiful no matter what size, look, or ethnicity. Its more about embracing the natural beauty and accentuating any areas that you like. After all we cannot change how we are made, so we might as well embrace all the spots and red patches. 

Shana :D

[nana-bean]

Universities for you??

I'm getting so frustrated at the opinion that people should go to uni as it often is relatively easier for those in the UK to do so in comparison to some other countries. I understand how it's very difficult if you can't pay the tuition fees to go to uni, however it's not right to say that us 'Brits' automatically should aim to go, and if we don't society either deems it as deviant or some other insulting thing. Yes we do get student finance which helps to pay for tuition and some living costs, however a) it is not a free hand out! we have to pay this back, b) it's is often not enough to live on unless you have family to fund you or a job, c) there are rules that if you don't complete the year/course you would need to pay it back, d) this fund is being cut drastically so many of the less affluent families may not be able to go, e) UK uni fees are one of the highest in the world, f) those who don't go to uni can still get a amazing job and achieve/process on the career ladder, g) not all 'smart' people should automatically go to uni, they may have other preferences or factors including this decision, h) it's a stressful process!!! I) and like I previously stated its not a handout, since most of the students end up with at least 30K to 40+K in debt even before finding work/ finishing their degree. No one should feel bad or pressured to go, I certainly felt pushed to go. My drives came from all sorts of people surrounding me, including family, teachers, peer pressure and just general media. With retrospect, I wonder if uni was the right choice as its caused so much unnecessary stress. However I personally felt the situation I was in was trapping me within a never ending vortex, and therefore I was unable to progress as a person. The jump from A-Levels to a degree is also different, and also as I moved away the situation was too. It's important to consider if drastic changes are OK for you at that moment in life, since Uni will always wait for you. There's nothing worse then stressing out about the whole process and then hating every minute of it. So basically those who don't attend uni aren't delinquents, many successful people never achieved a degree (just consider many of the entrepreneurial millionaires). It's important to consider what is right for you, by weighing up the pros and cons. Deferring a year or waiting to go later is also fine and people just need to learn to accept that we aren't robots designated to simple follow the norm. It's also ok to try it and should you decide it's not for you to drop out, as like I've previously said, Uni will wait.

Also it doesn't matter what course you choose, if you personally feel that you enjoy it. Some may argue that fine art may be a less academic subject or even acting in comparison to medicine or engineering however they both are degree subjects requiring intensive studying and practice. Both are aimed to refine your own skills so eventually it can be applied to the general working world.

Therefore it is important to not feel pressure or pressure someone to do a ‘academic’ subject as the important thing is, we are learning to better our abilities and enjoy the process too. 

[ilikeherbestofall]

Nice notes are soothing and motivating.

[lestatsipad]

Things I learnt after my first year at University as a psychology major .

1. Know the difference between pseudo psychology and psychology especially if your thinking of enrolling in psychology, or psychology subjects.

2. Yes it involves maths, but it sounds scarier than it is.

3. Do. not . buy. the . text. books. full. price.

4. Different assignments have different weightings, be mindful of where you put your effort.

5. Yes. electives are just as important as the compulsory units, focus on them for your GPA

6. KEEP UP WITH THE LECTURES ESPECIALLY IF THEY ARE 3 HOURS LONG AND THEY PILE UP 

7. Lecturers will not bite! send that email, book the appointment! you will thank yourself later

8. Please seek out the wellbeing people on campus its better to see them early, before you really need them.

9. Do not try to take everything else at once, tread easily and get used to  university before you over plan.

10. A stressed student is not a good student

11. Group assignments will annoy you a lot, it will be okay 

12. Uni campuses are huge and busy,  Find a few spots on campus that make you comfortable, those are your areas to go too especially if you feel overwhelmed.

13. Seek out a good cafe.

14. Pack your own lunch! 

15. Its okay if you don’t make close friends in the first year, as you progress through university you will have lots of chances to make friends.

16.  Experiment with study techniques till you find the one that suits you.

17. First year is the hardest year, be patient it will pass.

18. Do not be afraid of trying new subjects and exploring your options.

19. Look after your health, get enough sleep, drink water and eat healthy.

20. Make sure you give yourself time to do something you enjoy.

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calling all college/uni students!!

hey friends! so as i mentioned before, i don’t really follow that many blogs. out of the ones i do follow, very very few are run by college/uni students. i would love to follow any college/uni studyblrs, particularly psychblrs! so if you’re in college/uni (esp. if you plan to apply to grad school) please REBLOG this post so i can find you!

-sanjana xo

[nana-bean]

Me too!! psych student (rather new to study-bloggersphere.. look for some people to *stalk* follow)

[studiouses]

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[thelibraryofcontext]

Language Learning Book Masterpost

About 120 pdfs of language learning books - let me now if there are any problems :)

Afrikaans

Teach Yourself Afrikaans

Colloquial Afrikaans

Arabic

Arabic - An Essential Grammar

A Reference of Grammar of Modern Standard Arabic

Albanian

Albanian grammar

Colloquial Albanian

Bengali

Teach Yourself Bengali

Bulgarian

A Short Grammar of Bulgarian

Teach Yourself Bulgarian

Catalan

Teach Yourself Catalan

Colloquial Catalan

Cantonese

Routledge Grammars - Basic Cantonese - A Grammar and Workbook

Routledge Grammars - Intermediate Cantonese - A Grammar and Workbook

Colloquial Cantonese

Chinese

Routledge Grammar - Basic Chinese - A Grammar and Workbook (2nd ed)

Routledge Grammar - Intermediate Chinese - A Grammar and Workbook

Using Chinese Synonyms

Using Chinese - A Guide to Contemporary Usage

Chinese - A Comprehensive Grammar

Modern Mandarin Chinese Grammar - A Practical Guide

Chinese Language(s): A Look Through the Prism of the Great Dictionary of Modern Chinese Dialects

Czech

Czech - An Essential Grammar

Danish

Danish - An Essential Grammar

Danish - An Elementary Grammar and Reader

Teach Yourself Danish

Colloquial Danish

Dutch

Routledge Grammar - Basic Dutch - A Grammar and Workbook

Routledge Grammar - Intermediate Dutch - A Grammar and Workbook

Dutch - An Essential Grammar (second source)

Dutch - A Comprehensive Grammar (second source)

Colloquial Dutch (second source)

Colloquial Dutch 2 (second source)

Hugo in 3 Months Dutch

Hugo Advanced Courses Taking Dutch Further

Teach Yourself Beginner’s Dutch

Teach Yourself Dutch

Teach Yourself Dutch Grammar

English

English - An Essential Grammar

A Student’s Introduction to English Grammar

Colloquial English

Finnish

Finnish - An Essential Grammar

French

Using French Vocabulary

A Student Grammar of French

The Syntax of French

Colloquial French 2

German

Routledge Grammar - Basic German - A Grammar and Workbook

Routledge Grammar - Intermediate German - A Grammar and Workbook

German - An Essential Grammar

Using German Synonyms

The Structure of German

Gujarati

Teach Yourself Gujarati

Colloquial Gujarati

Greek

Greek - An Essential Grammar of the Modern Language

Colloquial Greek

Hungarian

Hungarian - An Essential Grammar

The Syntax of Hungarian

Colloquial Hungarian

Hebrew

Modern Hebrew - An Essential Grammar

Colloquial Hebrew

Icelandic

The Syntax of Icelandic

Colloquial Icelandic

Irish

Routledge Grammar - Basic Irish - A Grammar and Workbook

Routledge Grammar - Intermediate Irish - A Grammar and Workbook  

Colloquial Irish - The Complete Course for Beginners

Irish Grammar - A Basic Handbook

Italian

Routledge Grammar - Basic Italian - A Grammar and Workbook 

Using Italian - A Guide to Contemporary Usage

Using Italian Vocabulary 

Modern Italian Grammar a Practical Guide

Colloquial Italian 

Colloquial Italian 2

Indonesian

Indonesian - A Comprehensive Grammar

Indonesian Reference Grammar

Icelandic

Teach Yourself Icelandic

Korean

Routledge Grammar - Basic Korean - A Grammar and Workbook

Routledge Grammar - Intermediate German - A Grammar and Workbook 

Using Korean - A Guide to Contemporary Usage

Korean Grammar for International Learners

Colloquial Korean - The Complete Course for Beginners

Latvian

A Short Grammar of Latvian

Teach Yourself Latvian

Colloquial Latvian

Lithuanian

A Short Grammar of Lithuanian

Teach Yourself Lithuanian

Colloquial Lithuanian

Norwegian

Norwegian - An Essential Grammar

Colloquial Norwegian

Polish

Routledge Grammar - Intermediate Polish - A Grammar and Workbook

Polish - An Essential Grammar

A Grammar of Contemporary Polish

Colloquial Polish

Portuguese

Portuguese - An Essential Grammar

Using Portuguese - A Guide to Contemporary Usage

Portuguese (Brazilian)

Colloquial Portuguese of Brazil

Colloquial Portuguese of Brazil 2

Russian

Routledge Grammar - Intermediate Russian - A Grammar and Workbook

Using Russian - A Guide to Contemporary Usage

Using Russian Vocabulary

A Comprehensive Russian Grammar

A Reference Grammar of Russian

Colloquial Russian 2

Romanian

Romanian - An Essential Grammar

Colloquial Romanian

Serbian

Serbian - An Essential Grammar

Teach Yourself Serbian

Spanish

Routledge Grammar - Basic Spanish - A Grammar and Workbook

Routledge Grammar - Intermediate Spanish - A Grammar and Workbook

Spanish - An Essential Grammar

Using Spanish Synonyms

Using Spanish Vocabulary

Using Spanish - A Guide to Contemporary Usage

A Student Grammar of Spanish

Modern Spanish Grammar A Practical Guide

The Syntax of Spanish

Swedish

Swedish - An Essential Grammar

Teach Yourself Swedish

Colloquial Swedish

Thai

Thai - An Essential Grammar

Teach Yourself Thai

Colloquial Thai

Turkish

Turkish Grammar

Turkish - A Comprehensive Grammar

Urdu

Urdu - An Essential Grammar

Welsh

Modern Welsh -  A Comprehensive Grammar

The Syntax of Welsh

Colloquial Welsh

[kimching23]

My developmental psychology notes. :)

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Study tips I have learned from first year of university.

First of all, choose to study something that interests you, not something that you think will make mean big bucks in the future… unless you can stand going through three years (more if doing postgrad) of classes that make you want to pull your hair out. I’ve warned ya. Also, if you’re not sure as to what you want to major in, that is totally fine. Your first year gives you the chance to take up different units and figure out what you enjoy. I had no clue either so I decided to do a Creative Writing unit, Psychology, Law and a Marketing unit. I have fallen in love with Psychology and law.

Orientation is so very important, take the time out to go.

One thing I have learned this year is that university gives you much more freedom than high school. There is no one there to tell you to get to class on time and remind you to stay on top of your work. You have to create good habits. Personally it was really easy to not attend lectures and instead watch them at home. Not a good idea.

Keep up with your lectures by going to them in person!! This is especially important for you to be fully engaged in tutorials/labs. You also avoid falling behind on lectures and having to spend extra time which could be better utilized catching up. There is nothing worse than instead of revising for exams, you’re left drowning in unwatched lectures.

Probably one of the most important things you can do, is to take time out to care of you, go for a walk, jog, run. Do some strength training. Eat healthy most of the time. Go out and have a coffee and cake with a friend. Get your mind off studying and relax. DO WHAT MAKES YOUR SOUL HAPPY and do not let studying take over your life.

TAKE FOOD TO UNI!! Honestly my friend and I who basically lived in the library would rarely bring snacks or lunches and we would be in this viscous cycle of wasting money on subpar meals. Coffee is okay though ;-)

The university libraries are your friend. Use them to study.

YouTube CAN be your friend if you use it to watch educational videos rather than music/makeup/cat ones. I highly recommend subscribing to channels that focus on the courses you take. If you don’t understand a concept, there will be videos that will help you. 

We have been told time and time again that adequate sleep is crucial for proper brain functioning. So… if you go to your lectures and start on assignments early, this should not be a problem. 

Study for exams in a mock exam environment.  example–> do not sit on your bed (I know, it’s super duper comfy but there are no beds in exam venues) and have music blasting. Obviously in an exam situation you will be sitting on a chair and have a table in front of you. There will be no music nor any beds insight.

Hooray you have made it through your first year of study! Here’s a few more tips…

Before another semester rolls around, set up some good habits during the break whether it be getting back into your exercise regime, reading, keeping to a bullet journal, etc because we all know that habits take time to ingrain themselves so get ahead before the craziness of school/uni starts again.

Join clubs and societies with super rad and like-minded people. Great way to make friends.

[nana-bean]

Developmental Psychology: just keep focused

[nana-bean]

I've really not been well today.... must of had some sort of allergic reaction as I began to wheeze then rashes started to appear randomly, had a high temperature/ reddened face, headaches and been a shaking mess unable to write without shaking.

[hwangmyeons]

[string-bean-world]

Revising like a Pro ✌🏻️ #mindmapping #psychology #revision #uniproblems

[nana-bean]

Last years revision :D

[aja-r-2]

Are You Dissociating?

“Dissociating is one of the most common responses to abuse and trauma. It involves feeling numb, detached or unreal and (while it happens to everyone once in a while) is experienced more frequently and severely in survivors. Dissociating people vary widely in symptoms and may experience any or all of the things from the following list.

You may be dissociating if you:

• find yourself staring at one spot, not thinking anything • feel completely numb • feel like you’re not really in your body, like you’re watching yourself in a movie. • feel suddenly lightheaded or dizzy • lose the plot of the show or conversation you were focused on • feel as if you’re not quite real, like you’re in a dream • feel like you’re floating • suddenly feel like you’re not a part of the world around you • feel detached and far away from other people, who may seem mechanical or unreal to you • are very startled when someone/something gets your attention completely forget what you were thinking just a moment ago • suddenly cover your face or react as if you’re about to be hurt for no reason • can’t remember important information about yourself, like your age or where you live • find yourself rocking back and forth • become very focused on a small or trivial object or event • find that voices, sounds or writing seem far away and you sometimes have trouble understanding them. • feel as if you’ve just experienced a flashback (perhaps rapidly) but you can’t remember anything about it. • perceive your body as foreign or not belonging to you”

[studytilldie]

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Hi! I’ new there so I need some studyblr blogs to follow 🌸 REBLOG it if u r one of them I will follow u! please follow me too 😁

[nana-bean]

I'm new too :)