Nerd Questier @nerdyquestier - Tumblr Blog

This is a very multifaceted blog, for the main reason of: I can’t be bothered to actually make different ones for each fandom.

Facts about me:

~18

Autistic

Aromantic Asexual

Agender (they/them pronouns, please and thank you)

Introvert… usually

tiepiee

Silly little comic I made 😼

bloodstainedgauntlet

my knight you have to live you have to get up you have to put your hand over your wound and hold it there. you have to keep walking and walking and walking because you cannot lay down yet, it’s not time. wipe the blood off your breastplate and look up into the sun. lean on your sword if you need to. lift one foot after another. get up. get up. this would be a pitiful grave.

reoricecake

Tim being comfortable coming out because he thought Dick had ages ago.

Tim: *observing Dick being a little too close to Wally for a platonic friendship, and Bruce being very indifferent about this*

Tim: (in his mind) Oh yeah he’s definitely gay. At least bisexual. Guess Bruce doesnt care.

—

(A couple years into the future, the whole batfam in one of their many living rooms)

Tim: Hey, Bruce?

Bruce: What’s up, chum?

Tim: I just wanted to tell you that I will not go to patrol this saturday.

Jason: *putting his book down*

Dick: *leaning forward and focusing in on the conversation*

Damian: *Pausing his hand that was petting Ace*

Steph: *stops her scrolling and stares*

Cass: *already knows*

Bruce: *lowkey sweating*

Bruce: Why?

Tim: *not even looking up from his laptop*

Tim: Hmm? Oh, I’m going out with my boyfriend.

Jason: Hold up. Boyfriend?

Tim: *raising an eyebrow*

Tim: Yes?

Dick: Wait wait wait. You didn’t even— you never told us!

Tim: That I was bisexual?

Steph: Tim, I think we would all remember you coming out.

Damian: I do not recall you having told us such significant news.

Tim: I mean, I guess I never really.

Bruce: *clasping his hands together*

Bruce: Did you.. think we wouldn’t accept you? Why tell us now?

Tim: Wait, what? I knew you guys wouldn’t care.

Dick: Wha— what do you mean?

Tim: I mean, Dick’s out. No?

Everyone:

Jason: ..Dick, do you have something to tell us?

Dick: I— what?

The whole family goes into chaos as Dick tries to explain that all his male friendships are very platonic and Tim misunderstood, and Tim walks out, still texting his boyfriend. Not giving a damn about the situation he created.

alpaca-clouds

Okay, let's talk about kids and needles.

Because under the post about giving minors the right to medically consent, people are spreading a ton of misinformation on this - largely because they just do not question the stuff they just assume are "normal". Which here is: "kids are all afraid of needles and therefore if we let them consent or not to medical proceedures, they would just not consent and not get vaccinations, because needles hurt".

And, look. Here is the thing: no, needles do not actually hurt a whole lot. And while, yes, certain procedures that involve being stabbed by a needle hurt more if you are younger for a bunch of reasons... that is actually not the main reason children fear needles. Because, again: the pain is not that bad. And most kids, especially young kids, whose motor skills are still developing, usually will have a bunch more hurting scratches, bruises and the like at any given moment than there will be pain from the needle.

No, from what research can tell, the main reason kids are afraid of needles, is more that for many of them needle procedures are very traumatizing. And that is largely because of the consent issue.

Imagine you are a person who is still pretty darn new to that whole human thing. So for one, yes, your brain is actually not that great in understanding what pain is dangerous and what pain is a safe limit of pain. So yes, someone intentionally hurting you (like with a needle) is really kinda scary. But then there is also the thing where this person hurting you is not telling you why they are doing. The people who you normally trust with keeping you safe (your family) is betraying you, by just holding you down and scolding you for crying over it. Or maybe it is not your family, but some strange nurse who is holding you. And while you are scared, because someone is intentionally hurting you, while someone else is restricting you, the adults around you are telling you, that your emotional reaction to this is actually bad and you are wrong for reacting that way. They might in fact lie to you and tell you that something that is insanely scary to you is "not that bad", instead of just understanding that it is super scary to you. And that is then what you start to expect whenever you see a doctor prepare a needle: people holding you down, hurting you without reason, and telling you that you are wrong for being upset, actively gaslighting you.

We have research on this. And this research is pretty clear: most kids are actually somewhat okay with needles, if you inform them why you are doing it, allow for them to have their emotions, talk to them about their emotions, and allow for them to set at least some conditions.

And frankly, I hate how many people just accept the framing of "kids are naturally afraid of this because it hurts". Like, folks, I know y'all are fucking Americans and that in your culture it is kinda normalized to like put kids into like some sort of fortified hamsterball to stop them from like doing typical kids stuff. But... let me tell you: if you do not do that, kids will actually very regularly engage in dangerous play that they know will often end up in injuries that are going to hurt. And, no, they are not to dumb to understand that. The kids know that this is what might happen because of their play. They actually just take the risk. Yes, they will cry if they get hurt, because - again - their nervous system is still calibrating how it relates to pain. But they will likely do that thing again and again. I can tell you: I fell down a tree so often during my childhood, and I still climbed it. Again and again. So did most kids I knew. Like, fuck, we lived next to a forest. We played "Tarzan", and tried to go along paths without touching the ground. And we fell. A lot. And we still did it.

It is not the fear of pain that makes kids afraid of doctors. It is the fear of the associated force, and gaslighting.

historical-nonfiction

Bugs Bunny accidentally transformed the word nimrod into a synonym for idiot because nobody got a joke where he sarcastically compared Elmer Fudd to the Biblical figure Nimrod, a mighty hunter.

omegajako

Etymology is ridiculous and terrifying sometimes

garbage-empress

Bugs Bunny is more powerful than God

libertarirynn-deactivated202006

He also solidified the idea of rabbits loving carrots when carrots actually carry very little nutritional value for rabbits. The funniest part of that is that the original joke was a reference to a Clark Gable film where Gable munches on a carrot, it was never meant to imply that rabbits love carrots. The Clark Gable reference would’ve been obvious to audiences in the 40s but it has been pretty much lost to time.

celtic-pyro-deactivated20230725

Bugs Bunny has too much power and should be feared.

papayafromtv

Jason lying to Damian for fun in the league because he’s never had a little brother before and he doesn’t know what else to do.

Jason: you know your name wasn’t always Damian.

Damian: ?

Jason: yeah up until you were four you were called Melissa.

Damian: shut up. no i wasn’t.

Jason, deadly serious: no, genuinely. you see, when you were born you looked so much like your mom that you looked like a girl, so we all thought you were female.

Damian, indignant: i don’t look female!

Jason: it’s ok- there’s nothing wrong with it, we loved you regardless.

Damian: i am a BOY.

Jason: yeah, but obviously when you’re a baby everything’s really tiny, so we couldn’t see your dick and we thought you might be a girl. so we named you Melissa. wasn’t until you were four that it grew enough that we noticed the mistake and changed you to Damian.

Damian, distraught: THAT’S NOT TRUE.

Jason: you responded to Melissa until you were four- sometimes i say Melissa out of habit and you don’t even notice.

Damian: what- no you don’t!

Jason, gaslighting: yeah, you just don’t notice. you just hear your name and don’t pay any more attention.

Damian, stomping his foot: YOU’RE LYING.

Jason: go ask your mom if you don’t believe me, i don’t know what to tell you.

*two hours later, Talia comes into Jason’s room with a sobbing Damian on her hip, crying into her shoulder*

Talia, exasperated to hell and back: Jason. you weren’t even here when Damian was an infant.

Jason, grinning widely: yeah i know.

pastelclownkitty

MY OVARIES!!!!!!

foralteregos

Our*

pastelclownkitty

THEYRE COMMUNIZING MY FUCKING OVARIES!!!!!!!!

foralteregos

Our*

pastelclownkitty

GET YOUR HANDS OFF MY FUCKING OVARIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

foralteregos

Our*

pastelclownkitty

I DO NOT CONSENT TO YOU COMMUNIZING MY FUCKING OVARIES!!!!!!

foralteregos

Our*

pastelclownkitty

yeah no i dont care if i have 121 followers youre not doing that to me

i-give-you-a-fish

You get a Common Clownfish

Amphiprion ocellaris

pastelclownkitty

you know what. i may be getting jumped by tumblrians but at least i have my clownfish. its me and you against the world buddy

levil0vesyou

Our clownfish

pastelclownkitty

I CANT HAVE ANYTHING IN THIS FUCKIBG WORLD

renthony

I NEED people to understand that condoms aren’t free because “MEN like to FUCK lol,” they’re free because thirteen thousand people die from AIDS every year in the US alone.

Stop framing free menstrual products as more essential than free condoms. They should BOTH be free.

renthony

This post is going around again, and I feel the need to finally make an addition that adds some context, because the notes keep picking up comments along the lines of “who cares if it’s just because people want to fuck? Fucking is great! Why are menstrual products even being brought up?”

Yes. Fucking is great. I enjoy it myself on occasion. But condoms are not free just because people enjoy fucking. Condoms used to be much, much, much harder to come by, and they were significantly more expensive. Many humans have always enjoyed fucking, but condoms have not always been available, much less for free.

This post was originally made in September of 2020. It was made after I got into a pitched argument with a straight cisgender woman, who argued that free condoms are actually oppressive in a society where free menstrual products are hard to come by. Her argument was that it is an act of violent misogyny for free condoms to be available anywhere when menstrual products are not, and that the prevalence of free condoms is clearly due to male privilege.

That is not why condoms are free, and if you think free condoms are in any way oppressive, you need to get your head out of your ass. You cannot drag free condoms into the conversation about free menstrual products without acknowledging the massive, grueling efforts of queer activists and allies–including WOMEN–that brought condoms into wider use.

Condoms are often free because AIDS activists put endless amounts of effort into education and distribution of resources for safe sex. Condoms are free because they keep everyone safer, not just the people (NOT JUST MEN!) who use them.

Free condoms are not patriarchal, and they benefit everyone. Please read up on the history of AIDS activists. There’s even a convenient Wikipedia page all about HIV/AIDS activism.

And since I didn’t include a source link in my original post (nor do I remember where I got that number by this point), here is some updated, properly sourced data on global HIV/AIDS infection rates, courtesy of unaids.org:

39.9 million [36.1 million–44.6 million] people globally were living with HIV in 2023.

1.3 million [1 million–1.7 million] people became newly infected with HIV in 2023.

630 000 [500 000–820 000] people died from AIDS-related illnesses in 2023.

30.7 million people [27–31.9 million] were accessing antiretroviral therapy in 2023.

88.4 million [71.3 million–112.8 million] people have become infected with HIV since the start of the epidemic.

42.3 million [35.7 million–51.1 million] people have died from AIDS-related illnesses since the start of the epidemic

elfwreck

Griswold v Connecticut is 60 years old this year. (Please tolerate weird Oyez link; some legal archive sites do not have fancy embed features.)

That’s only 60 years of “condoms are legal FOR MARRIED PEOPLE, WITH ADVICE FROM A DOCTOR.”

…Several people on the current SCOTUS are trying to figure out how to overturn Griswold.

That right got extended to unmarried people in 1972, with Eisenstadt v Baird.

Condoms used to be a felony. And then they were a felony for unmarried people. And even after that, they carried a lot of stigma - why would you need a condom, unless you were being promiscuous?

AIDS activists fought hard for access to condoms as a public health issue, not as “a way for sluts to keep being slutty.” Free condoms save lives.

lectern-fullcauldron

Joe Hills stuff that I tend to assume people know (like in the academics overestimate comic):

Joe is one of two people who have been wholly in charge of hermitcraft (Joe's reign as dictator lasted for the duration of time it took to confirm all the decisions for the start of season two, after which he stepped down)

Joe wrote hermitcraft fanfic (as part of a video) long before many hermitcraft fanfic writers got started

Joe led a one man, multiple day protest outside record label Warner Chappell for ruthlessly copyright striking Mumbo and putting his channel in real danger

Joe's channel music is a mix of original songs and parodies created in collaboration with his cool as hell sister Quinn Hills (hi Quinn if you're seeing this). She has a cat called Blair Witch, writes fantastic music, and is a vocally trans artist

Joe has consistently featured guest speakers in his streams or videos over the years, whether that be pathfinder writers, activists, or community members coming in to help offer viewpoints on his builds

Joe has admin permissions on hermitcraft (usually to his own detriment in accidentally clearing his inventory) and is a member of the hermitcraft "secret council" (as Cleo put it), who are the people who regularly turn up to meetings and do some actual admin and decision making

Joe and Cleo first met when they were challenged to fight to death by Vechs. Joe won the fight and then Cleo stabbed him in the back for vengeance. They both made overdramatic videos to prepare for this

Joe thought hermitcraft was a scam when he was invited a few weeks into season one (as a wildcard member)

Joe used to be part of the team who made the webcomic Jaque of All Blades and got his streaming start doing art streams.

Joe is also one of the authors of the Penguins and Pitfalls TTRPG, which he developed as part of Team Snow Day (TSD)

Joe pays all of his staff fairly for their time and classes blazing posts on Tumblr (especially for the mcyt sexyman competition) as marketing so that the IRS can see he's running a real business, not a fraud scheme

Joe's webcam expands on stream in response to tips. It moves from the hot bar into the Jhost (with the mandatory Jacob Marley chains bit) before growing larger and more transparent until he is gone. Once the Jhost is fully expanded, the beetlejhost comes out (with the suit and the webcam expander song). Once we max out beetlejhost, we get Joemez Addams (who wears a different suit)

Joe is one of only two hermits to have played every hermitcraft season (although he missed a lot of season 3 with a newborn baby to look after)

Joe's coup was responsible for getting mumbo added to the server. Shortly after, he suggested in a meeting that no members under the age of 18 should be admitted. Mumbo, 17, kept very quiet

Joe and Cleo did a Minecraft Christmas album years ago. It's bad. I love it

lustcannibalism

not to be vague but.

lustcannibalism

okay sure it’s your post now

asteronomical

rocky: my love. how do you keep attracting so many suitors?

adrian: it's the confidence. just act like you own the place, dear

[later]

grace: ... you're in a ball.

rocky: so rocky no die in grace atmosphere. i come up! :D

timemachineyeah

(Source)

poztatt

DPC and DPL. Dead People’s Clothes and Dead People’s Leather. Their toys, their paintings of half naked, naked, screwing men. The statues. The leather. The sling. The posters. The ... all of it. We’d literally Straighten homes. Depending. Some families knew and were fine. Or more ok. But pictures of other guys on phones was the least of it. I have... leather that’s been passed through three or four men who’ve died before getting to me. They’re the heirlooms now, passed down chosen families. Sometimes there were crews. We’d show up as soon as possible, as a unit. We’d hit the bedrooms first. Clear out closets, under beds, bedsides. We’d donate, throw out, take mementos. Pass on. Secret lives and secret, us only treasures. Then we’d leave. For some family’s you never talked about it. They never knew. It was better all around. I have vests, gloves. A belt. Arm bands. Paintings. T-shirts. Photos, undeveloped film that’d I’m still somewhat terrified to try to get developed (lol). We live on in the living rooms of others.