newborn babies have their genitals mutilated so they're Normal and intersex teenagers get hrt forced on them whether we like it or not while trans people have to jump through a billion hoops to even have the thought of getting hrt entertained because they would no longer be properly perisex once they begin physically transitioning. what if i killed everyone.
and on top of all the medical abuse we are completely fucking forgotten by EVERY "leftist" and "lgbt activist". we're afterthoughts at best to allllll of you
they probably cant love me back in a human or even mammalian sense, but my goldfish with their smooth pea-sized brain have learned to trust that i will make them better when they are sick. i feel like crying about this often
Maybe Princess the tarantula never had anything resembling what we as humans know as emotions, but she still came out of her burrow and up to the glass when weâd talk to her and used to stare at the drawing Iâd tape to her terrarium. Maybe she couldnât even comprehend what we were, but she knew we were there to take care of her. And even if she never showed that sort of curiosity or trust weâd still love her.
IF YOU LIVE IN CALIFORNIA OR KNOW PEOPLE THAT DO PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO CONTACT YOUR LEGISLATOR AND MAKE NOISE !
On monday there will be a vote on a dangerous bill called AB3080, which is an age verification bill,and, you guessed it, they see lgbt content as obscene and harmful to minors.
There are also tech companies residing in California,and who knows how they will be impacted.
So please take the time to take actions right here (theres a script you can take info from, its more than a privacy risk since a website makes it forbidden to operate without requesting ID from visitors...
https://www.defendonlineprivacy.com/ca/action.php
You can find your rep right here
https://findyourrep.legislature.ca.gov/
I am URGING you to please spread the word about this,and most important, CALL !
You may use the hashtag #NoOnAB3080 on every socials.
Lmao youâre an adult, you shouldnât be using the word squick. Use trigger. Use your grown up adult words to explain how you feel instead of leaning on a cutesy uwu term that no one outside of tumblr uses. Itâs embarrassing.
#like...why use this baby word when you can just say how you feel about it
Found this in the original post tags and I just... SIGH
Hereâs the thing, anon. Squick isnât just âI donât like thisâ, itâs âI think this is gross and it makes me deeply uncomfortable but I pass no judgement on those who enjoy it, because I acknowledge that everyone is different and those same people may have the same visceral reaction some of the things I enjoyâ and was originally made popular in the kink community.
So yeah, if you want to say that every time you come across a trope or whatever you find icky then go ahead, say that every time.
Also, this term dates back to Usenet in the early nineties, so sure, go off.
This frustrates me so much because squicks and triggers are fundamentally different things and as someone with PTSD, the distinction is super useful!
Squicks are things I find personally gross but may not be gross to someone else. They donât upset me or provoke my PTSD, they simply do not pop my corn. Example: Omegaverse. I donât like it, it makes me uncomfortable and Iâm not going to read it, but if you like it, you do you.
Triggers are things which directly provoke my PTSD. This means that my triggers may seem completely normal and innocuous to someone else, because my triggers are so personal and intrinsically linked to a specific event in my life. My reactions to these triggers can include panic attacks and flashbacks to this traumatic event. Sometimes being triggered can affect me for several hours or even days.
Describing something as either a squick or a trigger allows me easily establish the difference in my potential reaction to something without having to go into painful detail about why bodily fluids might make me back button quickly but poker games might leave me a crying wreck.Â
Making this distinction, and having a specific word for something that is not your slice of pie, but also not an actual psychological trigger, is also REALLY important for making sure that the word âtriggerâ can retain its original, specific, purposeful, and collectively understood clinical meaning (both inside and outside online fannish communities).
If we encourage everyone to lump things that just make them slightly uncomfortable or simply arenât to their taste in under the word âtriggerâ, it actually dilutes the meaning of the word. It makes it harder for us all to, for the most part, collectively agree on and understand what exactly is being described when the word gets used.
And that destruction of shared precise definitions is a problem! It is really useful to have the communal language to be able to clearly and quickly delineate between âthis grosses me out, no thanksâ and âthis is going to set off a trauma episode, rattle my brain, and probably throw off the rest of my day/week as a resultâ while also maintaining your privacy, and to know that you will be understood in what you are saying. Not having it is actually detrimental to the effort of making our communities safe and navigable for people living with trauma. Which is a goal that is much more important to me, personally, than the idea of not being âcutesyâ (a word which in this case which sounds a lot like itâs being used as a euphemism for âcringeâ).
(Also, one has to wonder if people told Shakespeare he was being childish when he made up entirely new words that are still widely used in the English language today...... đ¤)
My understanding is that âsquickâ was also created to avoid using more judgmental terms like âgrossâ or âdisturbingâ--like yeah, I do find X kink gross or disturbing, but thatâs my personal feeling, not an objective fact about the world, and if Iâm explaining to my friend who is super into X that Iâd prefer they leave it out of the story theyâre writing me in the fic exchange, I want to use politer language!
âSquickâ does sound silly, like onomatopoeia, but I think thatâs part of its role--itâs a word that defuses if, again, youâre saying something squicks you in front of an audience that may include its connoisseurs. When I say Iâm squicked, Iâm clearly not getting onto a high horse of dignity and moral righteousness. At the same time Iâm not being so indirect for the sake of politeness--âoh, itâs not my favorite thing, Iâm not sure it works for me, I havenât found a fic about it that clicks for meâ--that someone could misunderstand how much I do not want to see it.
And, to reiterate, it is a grown up word made by grown up nerds in the 90s so if you think it was somehow born on and limited to Tumblr I'm going to need you to actually do some fandom history research before you ever speak authoritatively again about anything fandom-related or adjacent.
I love and deeply miss the term âsquickâ and really want to see it brought back. It allows dislike for its own sake and without judgement. Itâs polite, gentle, and has an air of âyou do you.â A squick is not a trigger. Triggers are related to trauma. Youâre allowed to not like things and not have them related to anything other than just finding them unpleasant. And that aversion can be strong! Thatâs okay! I really donât like watersports. Like, gag-reflex levels of aversion, but itâs not triggering. I just really donât like it.Â
I feel like weâve lost the right/ability to just... quietly not like things and move on with our lives. Not everything is for everyone, and you donât need a reason to not like something. Just politely and quietly excuse yourself. No need to draw attention, and if someone asks you why you just say, âNo, it squicks me out.â No judgement. No narrative necessary.Â
There is a sad trend of trying to make everything you personally dislike morally reprehensible in some way to justify your dislike of it. You're allowed to just not like something for no real reason. You do not have to justify why you dislike something, and the word "squick" is perfect for that. It say "look I really really don't like this thing, but it's ok if you do" and that is useful.
I think the biggest problem is that a lot of these kids are VERY into the whole fandom purity culture thing, so they actually DO want to make it out to be morally reprehensible, and they DON'T think it's ok that other ppl might be into it.
I have friends at Indiana University and they've been saying there are snipers on IU Bloomington campus. And theres a bunch of cops everywhere. This is wild.
Meanwhile, no person ever: âYou should think about giving up your insulin/antiretrovirals/beta blockers/anti-rejection drugs/prosthetic legs/daily multivitamin, because using those your whole life is bad for some reasonâ
People who are fully healthy, fit and neurotypical seem to think they are that way because theyâre doing something right that the rest of us havenât thought of, and not just because they got lucky
Speaking of the luck of the non-disabledâŚI once terrorized a Karen who was using me to teach her entitled kid that disabled people are Other and should not be treated with respect. I told her (truthfully) that until I was twenty-eight, I wasnât visibly disabled. Then a defective chromosome that I hadnât known about kicked in. So my luck ran out. But until then, I had been normalâjustâŚlikeâŚher.Â
The sheer terror on her face as the concept of âYou mean Iâve just been lucky so far?â seeped into her brain was a thing of beauty.
People who are fully healthy, fit and neurotypical seem to think they are that way because theyâre doing something right that the rest of us havenât thought of, and not just because they got lucky
âYou are one stroke of bad luck, common viral illness, or traumatic event away from being just like meâ is honestly the most terrifying thing you can tell an abled person - and you should. I was healthy and fit and doing everything ârightâ too - right up until some inner switch flipped and my body crumbled right out from under me.
One of my friends was healthy, a runner, fit, etc. Then he got H1N1; steroids caused weight gain & the lung damage meant he was on oxygen. He was literally on oxygen (carried spare tanks, etc) for the rest of his life.
And even if you have good luck, donât get some viral illness, or go through a traumatic event, thereâs old age. Not everyone (one of my aunts was a swim & dive instructor & was absurdly physically fit into her 80s), but many suffer from bone loss, muscle weakness, etc and other ailments that leave them less able than they had been.
âThey call it Red Mountain, because itâs a mountain and itâs awfully red with all the scorching hot lava melting the terrain.â
âWhich was more culturally significant: the transformation of the Chimer, or âThe Lusty Argonian Maidâ by Crassius Curio?â
âThe Ashlander tribes called him the Hortator, which sounds awfully impolite, seeing as how Nerevar was neither a wh*re nor a tater, but Iâll leave that for the experts to figure that one out.â
âSo when the Hands of Almalexia came out, I was surprised to see what looked like an entourage of armored folks resembling a dead man, rather than a slew of sentient hands.â
âAs one would suspect from their name, cliffracers make for excellent athletes in the wilds of Vvardenfell, or they would if they didnât prefer to bite everyoneâs heads off.â
âSpeculation holds that a moon rests over Vivec City. Only itâs not the main, big moon, and itâs not the other one either, but a secret third one, and like all fraud moons, it doesnât even contain any cheese.â
âHere in my hands is the only remaining copy of the complete 36 Lessons of Vivec. He mustâve been quite the teacher to have to write so many lessons for the people of Morrowind. Only nobody can figure out what they mean, so itâs more like The 36 Chapters of Absolute Drivel if you ask me.â
HELP THIS TRANS WOMAN TO NOT GET EVICTED PLEASE OK THANKS
Ya girl has been spending the entire last month looking for any kind of work that would hire me before I had to pay my bills and... that didn't happen until now. I have interviews lined up in the coming week, but I need to make sure I can stay housed in the meantime. Please if you have anything to spare, any amount is a huge help while I try and sell things I own to make the rest of it up.
Over 20 anti-LGBTQ+ bills have died in Florida after the legislature adjourned Sine Die on Friday, leaving some wondering if energy is wanin
More from the article:
"At 2:27 p.m. on Friday, March 8, the Florida Legislature adjourned sine die. With this adjournment, 21 of 22 anti-LGBTQ+ bills were effectively killed, leaving an anti-diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) in education bill as the lone piece of legislation to pass this session. This session featured some of the most severe bills ever proposed against transgender individuals, all of these bills are now officially dead. LGBTQ+ activists in the state now have the rest of 2024 to regroup, with hopes that the November general election will yield results against a legislature that has spent two years targeting transgender individuals in every aspect of life.
The bills that have failed include H599, a bill that would have expanded "Don't Say Gay" policies to the workplace. It proposed banning government employees and any business with government contracts from sharing pronouns. Furthermore, it aimed to prohibit all nonprofits in the state from requiring education and training on LGBTQ+ issuesâa significant issue for LGBTQ+ nonprofits, which would have been unable to operate within the state. That bill is now dead.
Another bill that died is H1639, a measure that would have mandated transgender individuals to have driver's license sex markers matching their sex assigned at birth. It also aimed to penalize insurance providers offering gender-affirming care coverage and would have required health insurance plans to cover conversion therapy for transgender individuals. Although this bill did not pass, the Florida Department of Highway Safety and Motor Vehicles has reinterpreted certain provisions that already exist, effectively banning changes to driver's license gender markers in the state and threatening individuals with accurate markers with charges of criminal fraud. However, challenging an administrative action is simpler than challenging a law enacted by the legislature, and such actions can also be reversed by future administrations.
Further bills that made headlines which died include:
A ban on Pride flags in schools and government buildings.
A âbill of rightsâ for student organizations to exclude transgender people.
A bill that would end legal recognition of trans people in the state.
A bill that would exempt rejection of transgender youth from child abuse provisions.
A bill that would make calling someone racist, sexist, homophobic, or transphobic be treated as defamation.
...This is the first time in three years where the bills targeting LGBTQ+ people, and trans people in particular, seem to be losing steam, according to local organizers.
âThe momentum is undeniably shifting against extremism,â Nadine Smith of Equality Florida said in a press release, âExtremist groups are collapsing amidst multiple scandals. Parents are mobilizing on behalf of their kids and to stop the dismantling of public education. We will build on this momentum and redouble our commitment to the fight. Together, we can put power back in the hands of the people.â"
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