Too much Oscar Wilde - Too many martinis.

This is a small blog run by a woman of impeccable taste and diverse interests. I am liable to post almost anything that catches my fancy, as well as some of my own opinions. This blog was started when I was in college and is 15 years old now; take from that what you will about my age.

[1617]

sometimes home is a person

[pomplerrr]

please don't say that

[soberscientistlife]

Do Not Let HR do this to you. It is not illegal to talk about wages in the work place. I did and got a 12% raise!

[katsdom]

True info. Now let me add something: The power of documentation. (I was a long time steward in a nurses union.)

Remember: The "'E" in email stands for evidence.

That cuts both ways. Be careful what you put into an email. It never really goes away and can be used against you.

But can also be a powerful tool for workplace fairness.

Case 1: Your supervisor asks you to do something you know is either illegal or against company policy. A verbal request. If things go wrong, you can count on them denying that they ever told you to do that. You go back to your desk, or wherever and you send them an email: "I just want to make sure that I understood correctly that you want me to do xxxxx" Quite often, once they see it in writing, they will change their mind about having you do it. If not, you have documentation.

Case 2: You have a schedule you like, you've had that schedule for a while, it works for you. Your supervisor comes to you and says "We're really short-handed now and I need you to change your schedule just for a month until we can get someone else hired. It's just temporary and you can have your old schedule back after a month." A month goes by and they forget entirely that they made that promise to you. So, once again, when they make the initial request, you send them an email "I'm happy to help out temporarily, but just want to make sure I understand correctly that I will get my old schedule back after a month as you promised." Documentation.

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[Image ID: Text reading: In the middle of a busy clinic at our practice, I got pulled in by my manager to speak to HR, who must have made a special trip because she lives several states away, and told I was being 'investigated' for discussing wages with my other employees. She told me it was against company policy to discuss wages.

Me; That's illegal.

Them: (start italics) three slow, long seconds of staring at me blankly (end italics) Uh...

Me: That's an illegal policy to have. The right to discuss wages is a right protected by the National Labor Relations board. I used to be in a union. I know this.

HR: Oh, this is news to me! I have been working HR for 18 years and I never knew that. Haha. Well try not do do it anyway, it makes people upset, haha.

Me: people are entitled to their opinions about what their work is worth. Bye.

I then left, and sent her several texts and emails saying I would like a copy of their company policy to see where this wage discussion policy was kept. She quickly called me back in to her office.

HR: You know what, there is no policy like that in the handbook! I double check. Sorry about the confusion, my apologies.

Me: You still haven't given me the paper saying that we had this discussion. I am going to need some protection against retaliation.

HR: Oh haha yes here you go.

I just received a paper with legal letterhead and an apology saying there was no verbal warning or write up. Don't even take their shit you guys. Keep talking about wages. Know your worth. /End ID]

[noping-out-deactivated20241117]

At one of my old (shit) jobs my boss would continually come have these verbal discussions with me and would never put anything in writing I took to summarizing every discussion we had in email. Like “just to confirm that you asked me to do X by Y date and you understand that means I won’t be able to complete the previous task you gave me until Z date - 2 weeks later than originally scheduled - because you want me to prioritize this new project.

The woman would then storm back into my office screaming at me for putting the discussion in writing and arguing about pushing back the other project or whatever. At which point I would summarize that conversation in email as well. Which would bring her storming back in, rinse and repeat ad nauseum.

Anyway I cannot imagine how badly that job would have gone if I hadn’t put all her wildly unreasonable demands in writing. Bitch still hated me but she could never hang me for “missing deadlines” because I always had in writing that she’d pushed the project back because she wanted something else done first.

Paper your asses babes. Do not let them get away with shit. If they won’t put what they’re asking you to do in writing then write it up yourself and email it to them.

[cockbiteindustries]

Does anyone have that one story of the lady who worked at a bank or something and management tried to can her, but she had evidence or something that ended up having her win a lawsuit? If I recall that story had both evidence, and the importance of employee communication as a co-worker tipped her off so she made sure she had an evidence papertrail

[fidgetyhands]

An interesting thing about putting things in writing is that it's valuable even in the best of workplaces. Obviously it's useful if you're dealing with a problematic boss or other coworker (as listed above), but even in the best team where everyone is kind and cooperative and communicative, writing stuff down is useful.

Maybe you send an email saying "so we agreed we'd do A and B and C by the end of September" and Sam emails back "oh no, I thought we were just talking about A and B. If C is included it's going to push the schedule back". Now you get to have that important conversation early when you have more options.

Maybe you send an email saying "I'm working on D and will work on A next. E is higher priority than A, but it's blocked on the XYZ team finishing stage 2 of the W project" and then two weeks later you get appendicitis and need to be hospitalized. Now your team has information they can search for about how to take over your work. They don't have to wrack their brains for information from weeks ago or try to get information out of you in the hospital.

In a problematic work situation, you may not care about this kind of being-good-for-the-business for its own sake, but it does provide useful cover for your doing this for your own protection.

[succumbing-song]

[apolladay]

[solarpunk-nightbird]

Do the kids these days know that the traditional payment for "having your friends help you move" is "order everyone pizza after"?

Feed your friends. Feed your loved ones. Feed the people who help you. Feed your neighbors. Feed your community.

Seriously though, with a lot of people, especially friends, you can shamelessly and blatantly trade pizza / food for help and labor <3

[furryprovocateur]

squidward really was such a dramatic faggot we don't talk about it enough. he bought a cemetery plot with a tombstone that said "here lies squidward's hopes and dreams". and he quietly yet tearfully laid flowers at it. and like he was doing that for no known audience. he didn't know mr. krabs was watching. faggot hijinks that make rupaul look masc.

[ceaselessbasher]

I got fucked over while talking to Evrart Claire (and yes, I sat on the goddamn chair) and decided to start a new game.

The fucking chair is eternal, even if you can't see it.......

(I was able to grab the pants because they were within my magic chair circle. But that's about all I can do).

[fagalnewbie]

[supermanstoddlerleash]

every time someone calls a cis man an egg because he decides to deviate even slightly from traditional masculine gender norms, an angel loses its wings

[supermanstoddlerleash]

you do realize that cishet men deciding to goof around with things that are traditionally feminine doesn't automatically mean that they're queer, right? you understand that?

the same bitches who see a man trying on candy scented perfume rather than axe body spray and go "omg you go girl!!" "see you during your transition sweetie! 😘" "which could mean nothing!" are the same bitches who decry the gender binary and say shit like "makeup has no gender!" "clothes have no gender!" "your self expression doesn't equal your gender!" it's almost like y'all see queerness as inherently feminine. hmm.

maybe this is a hot take, but goofing around with gender expression isn't restricted to queer people, nor should it be. cishet men can wear skirts and eyeliner. cishet girls can bind and cut their hair short. cishet people can get funky with presentation and still be happy as their agab. stop reinforcing gender binaries by calling every seemingly cishet person who decides to deviate from gender norms an egg

also while i'm at it and not at the tags yet, if you use this post to bash trans people in any way, i'm throwing tomatoes at you.

[mazarinedrake]

Let's make it even simpler. Calling someone who self-identifies as a man a woman is misgendering them. It doesn't matter how many trans women you know, it doesn't matter if you're a trans woman yourself, in the moment you are misgendering someone, and that's cruel. Full stop. Respect people's self-identification.

[minkhollow42]

Gender-associated set dressing (makeup, clothes, floral/MAN scents, any of it) should be available for everyone who wants to play with them, but not required of any one subset of humanity.

[the-falling-eagle]

I am in a near-constant state of begging men to get more feminine and y'all are blowing it for me. You're blowing it for all of us.

[jawsthatbiteandclawsthatcatch]

casey thank you for this tag also

[didyoutrycalling]

[191195-deactivated20240210]

i am crying i can't breathd

[silverjirachi]

i know i already reblogged this today but this video has more emotion in it than my university-level acting classes

[fatal-but-not-serious]

Someone give these two their Oscars.

[phantomrose96]

You know I gotta learn shitpost brevity. Most of my successful posts are like 3 paragraph essays, minimum. Fucking dissertations. Terrible note-to-word ratio. Inefficient. In this economy? In this economy? Unsustainable. Everyone else posting "blowing my balls up at the bomb factory" and getting 50,000 notes. Amazing ROI. They're the future and I'm on dial-up. The market's gonna out-compete me.

[lemonlegs4]

[illustratus]

The Alchymist, in Search of the Philosopher's Stone, Discovers Phosphorus, and prays for the successful Conclusion of his operation, as was the custom of the Ancient Chymical Astrologers

― by Joseph Wright of Derby

[throatoftheworld]

Sanctuary by Richard Cartwright

[ruinedchildhood]

[blignick]

[shisasan]

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