Positive Transcending language and self talk
In our lives the changes and experiences vary from day to day and year to year. Entering the world of parenting is never an easy ride. You achieve, learn and experience happiness but at the same time feel the overhaul of the life change that means the time you once had for yourself, reduces to a few hours per day. The works can come down on you, but you still need to get up, change nappies, play, feed, clean and look somewhat presentable during that time. The majority of society expects that roles are fulfilled with the utmost perfection and that our appearance should be up kept otherwise we are 'falling off the rails' and 'no longer taking care of ourselves like we used to'. Societal expectations on all degrees fit roles and people in boxes that hardly apply to half the population. The lifelong experience of negative self talk then continues. The level of trauma experienced in our lives determines the degree of negative language that we inflict on ourselves. This form of self abuse is not monitored and seen as a part of life. It is healthy to acknowledge fault and mistakes in situations so that we continue on this path healthier, but not where we self degrade and daily or weekly experience these reoccurring thoughts of 'just not good enough'. It is simple to provide a solution of love and proclaim that this will heal all wounds, this is too short an answer. It is the exercise, awareness of the self talk in the first place, the acknowledgment that if another was to speak in such a manner it would be unjustifiable and painful. Our internal dialogue contributes to the reality we experience. When we remind ourselves of the inadequacies than we are placing ourselves on a lower vibration. The conversation that continues with a loving presence towards ourselves transforms reality from moment to moment. It is the awareness that we are empowered to direct our thoughts and emotions to a desired direction. A pathway to momentary relief, inner freedom, release of guilt and sadness. Transcending positive language is coupled with meditation or creativity. It assists us in how we speak to our children, partners, friends and family. There is never an easy answer, what remains are the questions that ask, how do we deconstruct the idea of self to address the core issues we are experiencing? This blog shall continue. Peace + Love + Light
