PokeyPuppy

Learning as I go (fighting more often than I probably should). white bi cis woman, she/her pronouns, USA resident #pokeypuppy thoughts (tag for personal posts)

[some-fuckin-werewolf]

Debunking the AI food delivery hoax that fooled Reddit

A “whistleblower” tried to corroborate his viral post with AI-generated evidence. This is how I caught him. PLUS: Grok's image-generation cr

so i'm no huge fan of rideshare and delivery apps, but this? this post?

completely fake. the article linked above thoroughly debunks it.

[shadowgremlin]

My wife’s idea of decompressing after the busy holiday was to rearrange every piece of furniture in our home is this an ADHD thing or just a her thing

I’m not complaining the way she’s done it is much better than it was it’s just like how is this your idea of a relaxing weekend

[kaity--did]

Listen I don't get to decide when the drunk elf that is my executive actually does the functioning but when he does we have a SMALL WINDOW OF TIME before he finds the schnapps again and we're done

[honeysbunchesofoats]

[kaity--did]

yes this exactly

[luminouspica]

So to me, there are spoons (general energy cost) and carnival tickets (specific energy cost).

Spoons can be used pretty much anywhere.

Carnival tickets are only good for the carnival, and it’s only in town for a limited amount of time.

So like, if I get “kitchen cleaning” carnival tickets, I can’t use that to clean my bedroom, that’s not where the carnival is.

[pokeypuppyrdr]

My sleep schedule is a train wreck right now. I’ll be out for 20 minutes, up for 9 hours, sleep for 2 hours, up for 5 hours, sleep for another hour, up for 12 hours… it’s pretty random, has been for the last week.

I just conked out and then woke up, thinking “well, I didn’t mean to sleep for 8 hours, but at least I feel rested” and then I looked at the clock and it was 3am. I slept for 2.5 hours.

Grief is frustrating.

[wilwheaton]

“Jared’s eyes became erratic — completely different from the eyes of the man I’d sat down with at the beginning of the night. “If we lived in a different time, we would be hanging white liberal whores in the town square and dragging them through the streets for the lies they spread,” he roared. My immediate reaction was an attempt to de-escalate the situation. “Let’s take a deep breath,” I suggested. I took one, then he took one, and we repeated it. He reset. Later, though, when I had my hand on the table, he grabbed my wrist and started ranting again about how liberal white women create witch hunts. “They say horrible things about me and make everyone hate me and think I’m a bad person,” he said. He was staring at a point in the distance, speaking like he was in some kind of trance. “What did they say about you?” I asked. He snapped out of it. “Oh, not me,” he answered. “I meant Donald Trump.” Over the course of a few dates, he’d make this mistake often, where he’d talk about Trump in the first person. And I came to realise that while I was trying to separate Jared from who he voted for, he may have been personally struggling to do the exact same thing, just in a very different way. It became clear to me that he truly loved Trump not just because he identified with Trump the politician but because he identified with Trump the person being considered ‘bad’ by progressive standards.”

— Inside one American’s year-long attempt to date alt-right men

[scienceraccoon]

“On our last date, we were walking through a park when I told him we couldn’t keep seeing each other, that I disagreed with most of his beliefs and didn’t align with the future he wanted. Confused, he replied that from his point of view, we actually agreed on most things. No, I said, we didn’t, which he would know if he’d asked me any questions about myself. He still leaned in and tried to kiss me. We never saw each other again.”

[catsi]

twice now, i have been called by scammers pretending to be bankers telling me i'd been scammed by someone else, and that they, the scammer/banker, would cancel the fraudulent transactions made in my name as soon as i gave them a bit of information to confirm my identity.

the second guy called me from my local bank branch's number and told me "someone in another city is attempting to make purchases with your debit card information" and after i expressed obvious distress he told me "don't worry, this is what i'm here for. we're going to get your cards/accounts cancelled/closed and then we'll all i need you to do is verify the 6-digit code that i've sent to your phone"

that 6-digit code was the code to reset my online banking password 🙃 which i didn't realize at the time. he then got into my online banking account and e-transferred himself $2,800. my bank reclaimed the money but i had to close my bank accounts, then open new bank accounts, cancel my debit and credit cards, get new debit and credit cards, alert two credit unions that i was a victim of fraud, change all my fucking passwords, etc etc

sorry if this shit is obvious to other people but it was not to me so:

if someone calls you, claiming to be from your bank telling you that there are suspicious charges on your account, hang up on them and call the number on the back of your debit card. worst case scenario, you hung up on someone and called a different person back but at least now you know you're talking to someone from the bank. best case scenario, you just hung up on a scammer and are already on the line with someone to report it.

keep your head on a fucking swivel out there

[haveyoutriedrebootingit]

Hi, this is your friendly neighborhood tech support cryptid. On behalf of the customer and account service creatures the world over, let me remind you of a few things.

I can't see your password. The only situation in which I should know your password is I've just changed it. And you should change it immediately, because you don't know me. (If you do know me, I probably don't have to tell you that you should still change your password.)

There are phone passwords, but you set that up over the phone, and it's almost always your mother's maiden name.

I can't see more than 4 digits of your social security number. There is no situation in which I should be asking for the other five to service an existing customer.

I CAN see your account numbers. The only situations in which I need that information are a) if I need to find you in my system, and b) if you have more than one account with my institution. If I'm already talking to you about a problem with your account, then I already know which account I'm dealing with.

I'm probably not going to call you on a new issue. The telephone ceased being the best way to contact a customer when email became normal, and text messaging is actually even better. When in doubt, tell the caller, "hey, listen, I'm uncomfortable with this because of the risk. Let me call your main number; is there a way I can reach you directly, or should I just work with the person who picked up the phone." If I'm calling you, it's almost certainly because I'm following up with you on an issue you have already been discussing with me personally.

If they tell you not to do that, just hang up. Call the main number and let them know what happened.

If they try to give you a direct 10-digit number, say "great", call the main number, and ask if this one of their extensions. If not (it won't be), explain the situation, and ask them to check your account.

[pokeypuppyrdr]

My favorite time with this scam (pretending to be my banker) was keeping the person on the phone with vague noises instead of answers, and they started talking about various scams people would fall victim to, and I said, “How about that new one, where they clone the bank’s number and try to get enough info to access the account?” and they immediately hung up.

[spicycheeser]

Greetings from your friendly neighborhood National Park Service worker.

The government wants you to think a shutdown is no big deal. It's is. They want things to keep running in the meantime. They will- but not safely and not paid. Because not everyone is necessarily aware what a shutdown means for Gov workers, this is how it works...

Employees fall into one of the following three categories:

Excepted: Unpaid, required to work (those needed to protect life and property).

Exempted: Paid, required to work (those funded by non-lapsed sources)

Furloughed: Unpaid, employees that are neither excepted nor exempted. These employees have been ordered to "expeditiously complete orderly shutdown activities" then head home. This may be a few minutes for some employees or a few days depending on their job duties and what it takes to perform an "orderly shutdown" of their activities.

Who is furloughed? Legit everyone but "safety" workers. So fees, maintenance, timekeepers, facilities, everybody. And no, those thousands of people will not be paid for whatever amount of time they aren't working.

Who is Exempted? In my neck of the woods (pun intended) it's law enforcement, fire, ems, search and rescue and dispatchers. Hey that sounds like a lot? Guess what - almost all of the law enforcement in the park are simultaneously EMS, search and rescue and the Fire department. One person, four jobs. That's the way... It always is by the way, which is HIGHLY PROBLEMATIC (but that's a different rant). We will keep doing those four jobs, unpaid and unsupported. When will we get paid for our work?- who knows. You may ask yourself - why do we have to keep working when everything is shutdown? Because they're not closing the national parks. Yeah. So people are going to keep coming, keep using the bathrooms that won't be cleaned, keep using the roads that won't be maintained safely, keep getting hurt and in trouble.

Right now, there is a massive rollover DUI car accident on one side of the park and someone just got gored by an animal on the other side of the park. So all of us (the three people on shift at the moment) will be figuring out which one to heading out to. We have to choose. And it's going to be extremely dangerous when we do get on scene because those "non-essential workers" that were furloughed? -Those are the people we count on daily to go above and beyond their own normal duties and help.

Those are the people who manage traffic around the accident for us so we don't get hit. Those are the people that get extra resources for us (lights for night time, blankets, Gatorade if it's a long extraction on scene). Those are the people that make sure we get paid for being called out in the middle of the night, the people that make sure all the protocols are being followed so everyone is safe, the victim advocates that talk to the families, they are the essential hands needed because- if you haven't all forgotten- they already gutted our limping agency staff by like 30%.

What can you do?

The usual things you see - pester your local and government officials. Pester your money makers though even more - the businesses that give money to your local officials. But more immediately? Please do not come here. Please do not further burden the system. Tell other people not to come. Don't let the government think we can make it work still- we can't. Do not make us have to function as if things were okay, because they are really really not.

[tlirsgender]

One of my controversial takes is that I kind of hate the term "rejection sensitive dysphoria" wrt adhd because it's so clearly the same thing as being anxious and insecure in relationships w trauma based disorders but people talk about it like it's just an intrinsic part of your brain that you're simply Too Sensitive & not, like, a consequence of every neurodivergent person alive being bullied as a child. Like that thing of how there aren't any non-traumatized autistic people to study

[tlirsgender]

Like if you have Struggles Socially Disorder you're going to be disliked by most of your peers growing up & you'll be affected by this. Maybe you'll get nervous about people not liking you. & then people will try and tell you your problem is that you have Sensitive Bitch Disorder because you're paranoid

[pokeypuppyrdr]

For real. I don’t have RSD and I think that’s mostly due to growing up in a family of mostly-undiagnosed ADHDers, where every weird thing we each did was met with a “sure, whatever, makes sense,” plus having a mom who actively and loudly unlearned every bullshit passive-aggressive move my grandmother instilled in her.

[dumbingofage]

i started compiling a list of every strip in DoA (and a few from the walkiverse) where walky exhibits symptoms/behaviors of ADHD. i worked on it for a little over a week and i had added about 240 strips when i lost motivation. currently it's just sitting unfinished but i don't want to just give up on it so all the tabs i was using for research are still open. my computer really wants me to go back on adderall

my wife, who has adhd, says this is the most ADHD post she's ever read

[pokeypuppyrdr]

Mmmm, me and my ongoing spreadsheets of DoA and QC day-by-day breakdown would like a word, but I gotta go refill my prescription

[pokeypuppyrdr]

Me: Is this new bottle by the kitchen sink soap or lotion?

Housemate: It’s lotion. It’s what it says it is on the bottle.

Me: The bottle says “Hydrating Hyaluronic Body Gel Cream,” and none of those words were helping me.

Housemate: …It’s lotion.

[pokeypuppyrdr]

Watching Heartstopper for the bazillionth time, and as always during the Season 2 scene with the hotel room party when Isaac is increasingly uncomfortable while folks are flirting/making out around him, I remember this from my own teen years:

At a sleepover party where every couple had “retired” for the night and was making out/having sex in various corners of the room.

Me: This is uncomfortable.

My first boyfriend: All I can think is, if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em.

Me: Ahahahaha NOPE.

(I’m grey ace and WTF aro, I def have a libido and do experience sexual attraction to the rare person, but oof watching him is so familiar. The slow realization that what I experience isn’t actually the same as what other folks are describing, and not sure why and how I’m different. Took me over 30 years to figure it out.)

[pokeypuppyrdr]

TW gore, bodily harm

My youngest brother works in lawn care. He's an adult. On Sunday, his hand ended up in a mower and he destroyed his pointer finger on his non-dominant hand. So now he has nine fingers. He was in shock and on morphine at the ER, and notified me by sending me a picture of his hand before any cleanup was done. No text, just a picture. I'm not okay for so many reasons already. I'm not okay about this. And I'm so tired of being such a mess that I can't take care of any of the people in my support system, and them being such a mess that none of them can support me. I don't know what to do with any of this. It's been years at this point since any of us have been remotely okay. He's my baby brother and he's been through so much in his life already, and I've never been able to protect him from a single thing. I can't afford to go to him and my mom. I can't even save myself right now. I don't know how to function right now.

[jakeyllenhaal]

are jewish people a minority? I mean it's not the 1940's anymore does anybody actually hate jews?

anti-semitism in europe 1, 2, 3

anti-semitism in france; 1, 2, 3, 4, 5

anti-semitism in greece; 1, 2, 3, 4

anti-semitism in the united kingdom; 1, 2, 

anti-semitism in australia

anti-semitism in the united states

just a whole long list of anti-semitism globally

neo nazis

“one fourth of the world harbors anti-semitic sentiment”

the commonly used phrase “you dont look jewish” isnt a compliment

anti-semitic jewish stereotypes 1, 2

this exists

anti-semitism towards american jews because of the israel/gaza conflict(although many jews have nothing to do with it) and some more 

lack of representation of american jews

small list of anti-semitic famous people

offensive “jew” costume worn by a certain celebrity as a “disguise”

mel gibson 

one of the many incidents in europe (france, greece) where jewish cemeteries/memorials where vandalized

along with people of other religions (including islam, sikh, hindu, others.) jewish people dont get privileges that christian people have, meaning we, dont get guaranteed time off work/school for holidays, dont have freedom to worship without fear of judgement, wont have our faith accepted at your workplace/school, cant have a job without it being associated with your faith (“they’re a [lawyer/accountant/banker/jeweler]? well obviously, they’re jewish”), have expectations of what your career should be (“they’re jewish and they’re only working as [minimum wage job]? they should aim higher”), being referred to as “jewish” friend, the list goes on.

some extra facts just to further educate yourself on jewish people/the jewish religion:

besides israel and the united states, no other country has a jewish population more than 1%

the total amount of jewish people in the world is less than .2%

its believed if the holocaust were to never have happened, the total population currently, instead of 13 million, would be more than twice that at 32 million

the difference between zionist and jewish (israel vs jews) 1

dont bring anti-semitism into gaza/israel arguments

basic jewish beliefs

jewish holidays

jesus was jewish!

why jewish people dont believe in jesus

religious discrimination, know your rights

i could go on, but im sure you get it by now. feel free to add to this post.

[atheologist]

But can we also talk about how “being a minority” isn’t defined by how much people hate a specific group? We make up 0.2% of the world’s population and outside of Israel, the United States has the largest number (and percentage) of Jewish people and we’re STILL under 2% of the population. Antisemitism is definitely still a huge problem pretty much worldwide, but even if it wasn’t, Jews are a minority because we’re a minority. Period.

[animatedamerican]

“it’s not the 1940s anymore”

And in the 1940s it wasn’t the 1890s anymore, and in the 1890s it wasn’t the 1810s anymore, and in the 1810s it wasn’t the 1790s anymore, or the 1740s or the 1650s or the 1490s or the 1280s or the 500s or the frakking 3rd century BCE.

Antisemitism did not end with the Nazis, and it sure as hell didn’t begin with them either.

[phoukanamedpookie]

Be sure to read the links about antisemitic stereotypes and antisemitic shit people believe about Jews.

[mossadspydolphin]

Jews as a minority: some interesting statistics:

Justin Bieber has about four times as many Twitter followers as there are Jews in the world.

It’s taken us seventy years to return to our pre-Holocaust numbers.

In the United States we are significantly outnumbered by pet birds.

[bespangeled]

In the 1960′s Legally a woman couldn’t

Open a bank account or get a credit card without signed permission from her father or hr husband.

Serve on a jury - because it might inconvenience the family not to have the woman at home being her husband’s helpmate.

Obtain any form of birth control without her husband’s permission. You had to be married, and your hub and had to agree to postpone having children.

Get an Ivy League education. Ivy League schools were men’s colleges ntil the 70′s and 80′s. When they opened their doors to women it was agree that women went there for their MRS. Degee.

Experience equality in the workplace: Kennedy’s Commission on the Status of Women produced a report in 1963 that revealed, among other things, that women earned 59 cents for every dollar that men earned and were kept out of the more lucrative professional positions.

Keep her job if she was pregnant.Until the Pregnancy Discrimination Act in 1978, women were regularly fired from their workplace for being pregnant.

Refuse to have sex with her husband.The mid 70s saw most states recognize marital rape and in 1993 it became criminalized in all 50 states. Nevertheless, marital rape is still often treated differently to other forms of rape in some states even today.

Get a divorce with some degree of ease.Before the No Fault Divorce law in 1969, spouses had to show the faults of the other party, such as adultery, and could easily be overturned by recrimination.

Have a legal abortion in most states.The Roe v. Wade case in 1973 protected a woman’s right to abortion until viability.

Take legal action against workplace sexual harassment. According to The Week, the first time a court recognized office sexual harassment as grounds for legal action was in 1977.

Play college sports Title IX of the  Education Amendments of protects people from discrimination  based on sex in education programs or activities that receive Federal financial  assistance It was nt until this statute that colleges had teams for women’s sports

Apply for men’s Jobs   The EEOC rules that sex-segregated help wanted ads in newspapers are illegal.  This ruling is upheld in 1973 by the Supreme Court, opening the way for women to apply for higher-paying jobs hitherto open only to men.

This is why we needed feminism - this is why we know that feminism works

[galacticdrift]

I just want to reiterate this stuff, because I legit get the feeling there are a lot of younger women for whom it hasn’t really sunk in what it is today’s GOP is actively trying to return to.

Did you go to a good college? Shame on you, you took a college placement that could have gone to a man who deserves and needs it to support or prepare for his wife & children. But if you really must attend college, well, some men like that, you can still get married if you focus on finding the right man.

Got a job? Why? A man could be doing that job. You should be at home caring for a family. You shouldn’t be taking that job away from a man who needs it (see college, above). You definitely don’t have a career – you’ll be pregnant and raising children soon, so no need to worry about promoting you.

This shit was within living memory.  I’M A MILLENIAL and my mother was in the second class that allowed women at an Ivy League school. Men who are alive today either personally remember shit like this or have parents/family who have raised them into thinking this was the way America functioned back in the blissful Good Old Days. There are literally dudes in the GOP old enough to remember when it was like this and yearn for those days to return.

When people talk about resisting conservativism and the GOP, we’re not just talking about whether the wage gap is a myth or not. We’re talking about whether women even have the fundamental right to exist as individuals, to run their own households and compete for jobs and be considered on an equal footing with men in any arena at all in the first place.

[fuzzycricket]

Respect Her "No"

As a 19 year old girl, I was shy and meek and very bad at standing up for myself. I worked at a Denny’s with a lot of creepy and rude customers, and one day a regular customer came in and he asked to borrow my pen. I was the only hostess on duty at the time, and the host stand only had one pen, which I very much needed almost constantly. We usually had more pens but servers would often lose theirs and come raid the host station for replacements. This particular pen was very excellent and I guarded the thing with my life… you all know the kind of pen I’m talking about, super ergonomic design and never runs out of ink and writes on any surface. This pen wasn’t going anywhere, not if I could help it.

Well anyway I told the customer, “oh I’m sorry, I’ve only got the one pen right now and I need it”. He said “don’t worry I’ll give it back when I’m done” and just took it. Well I sucked at standing up for myself and they drilled all that ‘customer is always right’ nonsense into our brains pretty well so I just resigned myself to having to track down another pen. (Not an easy task in that restaurant, there was some kind of black hole for pens there.)

Well another customer, a woman in her 40’s, saw the whole thing go down. After the guy had seated himself, the woman pulled a pen out of her purse, I thought she was just going to give it to me but she actually walked over to the guy, snagged my pen out of his hand, and smacked her pen down on the table and said very audibly “Respect her no.” And then she brought me my pen back. I was so touched by this simple gesture of coming to my defense that I paid for her lunch myself. The whole thing took less than 3 minutes but it honestly taught me so much, it taught me the importance of standing your ground, defending other women, and not letting men get away with ignoring your No. If a man can’t even respect a no on something as simple as borrowing a pen, how could he be trusted to respect you on even bigger issues? Anyway I just think about that incident a lot, the importance of standing your ground and not letting men feel entitled to take whatever they want. Bless that woman, I hope she is having a really excellent life.

[nottron]

Oh, well when you put it that way, you’re right! It sure is hard to live on half a million a year!

Every apologia for the rich sounds like a call for revolution.

[billiethepoet]

The more I look at this, the more enraged I become. These assholes live SO WELL and still have over $7k left at the end of the year but it’s “feeling average”? Bitch, the average person has never had $7k left over.

[bbcwhereareyou]

$10,000 for “miscellaneous, something always comes up.” 

Look, I have a “something always comes up” cushion now (it’s certainly not that much, but it exists), and am grateful because I didn’t always have that, but “something always comes up” for EVERYONE and that usually means miss work or ride the bus because you can’t afford to get your car fixed or beg and borrow money from family/friends if you’re lucky enough to have that. 

Your slush money budget alone is 20% the national median income, and you still end up with seven grand left over at the end of the year, shut the fuck up. 

[adulthoodisokay]

3 vacations a year, at $6,000 a piece.

[laughterkey]

I love the “no fancy bags, shoes, or threads” while they’re driving a land rover and a bmw & living in a $1.5 million dollar home. 

[twistedingenue]

I’m just….their weekly food budget is $442 a week.

[dare-to-dm]

This budget is also allowing them to sock away mad money for their retirement savings.  Do they even know how fuckin’ luxurious that is?  Like, so many of us know we should be trying to save for the future, but we just can’t manage it while keeping ahead of our bills today.  I’ve had multiple years where I lived entirely on the amount of money they are putting into their 401ks alone.  

Every time I read something like this, I wanna throw a brick through someone’s mansion window.

[zinge]

They can give their kids 3 vacations a year, multiple instrumental lessons, and live in a 1.5 million dollar home and still have money left over to spend on literally whatever they might want.  Christmas gifts or fucking anything else.  A fourth vacation.

So unfortunate.  If only they could afford to eat out instead of at home every week instead of every two weeks!

They spend more going on vacations than I make at my managerial job in an entire year of working 30+ hours a week.

If you live like this and complain I hope you choke!

[afunnyfeminist]

Just to add to the inconsistencies: You’re living in New York City. You don’t need a car, let alone two giant expensive ones. Also, what sports/lessons are your children taking when they’re so young they need over 40 grand in child care???

[kiwianaroha]

If they are that hard up they could cut back on the $18,000 they spend a year on charity. 

Fuck, I live off less than $18,000 and you don’t see me writing whinging articles about how tough life is 

[blytthe]

- That’s exactly what it’s like.

[marvelsmostwanted]

Turns out that healthcare is more expensive than one (1) iPhone

[ramblingandpie]

My recent 4-day hospital stay was $3000 after insurance. That is several iPhones.

When I was in college I had a budgeting strategy where $1 = 1 egg roll. And if something was like $3 I would ask myself if I would prefer to have the thing? Or three egg rolls? And if egg rolls won, then, well, I did not spend the $3.

And believe you me, I would much rather have THREE THOUSAND EGGROLLS but I didn’t really have a choice in that one.