Quintessential Quandaries

Just random thoughts I have that my friends and family are tired of hearing about

[strawbebbynya]

all yall make jokes about couples and their nonromantic third wheel having fun together, but im the one getting treated to food tonight by the couple im nonromantically third wheeling. you wish you were me

[whitachi]

I'm sorry I read this as "necromantic third wheel" and went on a very rapid powerful imagination adventure. hello lovebirds I'm the skeleton here for breadsticks

[sharpestrose]

[fforsythiaaa]

Once when I was in undergrad, someone described something as “problematic” in class and our professor was like, “That’s cool, but ‘problematic’ doesn’t really mean anything. It means that the thing you’re describing has a problem, and in and of itself that’s not bad. Art, especially, should always have problems, or else it’s not interesting and not art, either. It sounds like you’re trying to say that this is bad, but you don’t want to say ‘bad.’ Is that right?”

So from then on whenever one of us called something problematic, he would make us talk it out until we could name the “bad” thing we were hinting at. In this particular class, 7/10 it was some type of oppression, and the remainder was like, “I’m uncomfortable because this is very new/confusing/pushing boundaries that made me feel safe.”

Once we stopped calling things “problematic” and stopping at that, class got way more interesting and... we all had to say, like, “that’s racist” or “that’s misogynistic” or “ew capitalism gross” out loud, which a lot of us had never done in a classroom before. Or we had to be like, “Uhhh... I’m not sure what’s so bad?” and confront our own beliefs and that was maybe even more useful.

Anyway. Whenever I see the word problematic, I can’t help but think of this professor being like, “Good starting point, now let’s get specific.” I think when we have to commit to saying “that’s ___” it requires a lot more careful thought about the truth and impact and complexities of whatever we’re claiming. Sometimes there really is some bullshit afoot, and also sometimes it’s art, and it should be full of problems, because that’s what art is.

[hamletthedane]

“This looks not like a nuptial” is my favorite line in all of Shakespeare cause like….yeah dude. Your best friend is screaming at his innocent fiancée, accusing her of cheating and demanding that her father disown her and break the engagement. The fiancée is fainting from an apparent heart attack and your girlfriend is sobbing and demanding that you challenge your best friend to a duel. What clued you in that this wedding might not be going well???

[hirsuteandcute]

I'm just going to say it - body hair (and beauty standards in general) is truly one of the final frontiers of women's issues in the West. Too many women just love their gilded cage too much. It shocks me how virulently women will defend it. I barely open my mouth and the "well I like how it feels. it just makes me feel cleaner. sensory issues. I do it for me. feminism is about choosing (to conform)." brigade come rushing in by the dozens.

Well I don't like how it feels. I don't feel cleaner without body hair. I don't prefer not having body hair. But who will advocate for women like me, but me? For women who do like hair removal, they are advocated for every time they step out of the house and see 99% of the female population also conforming to that standard, or when they watch a movie and see all the shaved actresses, or view an advertisment, or open a magazine, or watch a music video, or scroll through social media, or walk down the streets without receiving insults and glares for having a completely normal bodily feature.

You genuinely can't even point out that hairlessness is a man-made standard without women losing their shit and acting like they are totally immune to propaganda they've been exposed to from birth. I'm so tired.

[pettycentral]

[sophsun1]

Happy Pride 🌈 | The Golden Girls (1985-1992)

[im-out-of-it]

love being symptomatic at a doctors appointment or in a hospital because I told you bitches, I told you that my pain is so bad. you can try all you want with “but the test results-” but riddle me fucking this, what are you going to say when im dizzy, and I lose consciousness and pass out right in front of you? what if I vomit blood in front of you? now what are you going to say then? do I need to almost die for you to take me serious? you need to see all of this evidence??? it’s like I fucking told you that im not in a good way. now here is my proof, you’re welcome

[hylianengineer]

There is one very important thing I need people without major dietary restrictions to understand: the distress caused by allergies, celiac disease, and other food restrictions is largely not about the food.

Do I miss some foods I can't eat anymore without getting sick? Sure, but that's not what really bothers me. What bothers me is being excluded from a huge portion of human social life of which food is a crucial component. What bothers me is the stress and social stigma of trying to figure out what I can safely eat. What bothers me is the amount of extra work and cost that is required of me to identify, obtain, and prepare safe foods. What bothers me is people treating my needs like a nuisance, as though I chose to be like this - as though their brief inconvenience to check an ingredients list is unreasonable, when I deal with this every day of my life forever.

I don't miss the food that much. I miss not having to worry about what I eat. I miss freedom. I miss when trying new foods and new restaurants was fun instead of a minefield. I miss not having to plan my entire life around the need for safe foods.

Food is such a basic human need, and a lot of people don't really need to think about it. When your danger foods can be anywhere and everywhere, suddenly your entire life revolves around avoiding them, and it massively sucks. You get used to it and it's not a big deal most of the time, but then you go to a new restaurant, or your office has a potluck, or you've been invited to a party and suddenly it feels just as miserable and exhausting as it ever has.

[drarry]

Imagine being the gays at a pride event in 2004 living their lives when someone grabs the microphone and announces to the room that Ronald Reagan was pronounced dead. Can you even imagine the hype, the celebration, the pure elation

[drarry]

This is the Pride Month that It will happen. I feel it in my gay bones

[broken-horn-of-equius]

[exitwound]

mutuals

[the-valiant-valkyrie]

Which is prev?

Unmarried girl

Apologist

Craftsman who works with a wheel

Archivist

Dying person

Educator

Girl

Jurist

Knife sharpener

Lawyer

Librarian

Remaining time: 3 days 7 hours

[owlsofavalon]

can't believe they had a funeral for obi-wan in clone wars and SATINE WAS THERE and she was SOBBING. do u think obi-wan was peering through a little peephole somewhere and just thought oh and felt it hit him in the chest, because he's never seen this woman cry like this before and it's for him

[citizenscreen]

“Most people our brought up to believe they are as good as the person next to them, I was told I was better.”

- Katharine Hepburn, born on May 12, 1907 #botd

[justlikearat]

Aric is underutilized in dovesso fics. Esp modern versions,,, like hello?? Giving lesso a mean little boy is like,,,, perfect,,,

au where Dovey teaches elementary school and Lesso teaches HS so she ‘abandons’ Aric (picture those kids that cry when their mom drops them off for school) & dovey is his teacher,,, he keeps getting in fights with the other kids so lesso keeps having to come in…

Dovey being the only teacher aric likes,,, “i wish you were my mom instead!!!” (She and leonora are gonna make this happen trust) Offers to drop aric off from school bcs lesso normally has to work late…. Trust,,,,

[stealingpotatoes]

rereading your own fics/wips is a very slippery slope into finding out you actually have to finish your fics if you want them finished

[99tech99]

JEEZ just fucking tag me next time!

😭☠️

[probuccalfat]

people will describe their incredibly nebulous sexuality to you that they’ve never been able to define and the whole time you’re thinking that sounds like bisexuality brother

[agathaspett]

gorgeous girl how i adore you

[hecatesbroom]

Got my hands on a dvd of The Philadelphia Story, which also has Katharine Hepburn’s documentary on it (All About Me) and!!! The home videos!!!! I’ve read her autobiography so I knew all the stories already, but it was so much fun to see the moving images attached to them :’)

[hecatesbroom]

Update: it also has audio commentary by Jeanine Basinger (film historian) for the actual movie and ??!!! perfect excuse to rewatch soon