the personal is political

24 years old. dysphoric lesbian. pm me for my clown blog.

[suchisthelifeofasexygirlonline5]

I would kill for someone to bring down Pornhub

[byebyebyebyebyebye1-deactivated]

I’m starting to realize why he is protective of his daughter....

[suchisthelifeofasexygirlonline5]

This wouldn’t have started if he wasn’t so obessessive with her virginity. He’s not protective, he’s abusive.

[unprincemechant]

So him not wanting his daughter to have sex at a young age is the reason why pimps target young girls to prostitute?

He's not abusive. In fact it's a clear example of why Paterfamilias has been so common in history.

[rabbitheads]

We don't need paterfamilias if we punish men properly for their stupidity

[radiflower]

Him subjecting his daughter to regular inspection to see if she’s still a “virgin” IS abusive and it IS the reason why pornhub is doing this. If this girl’s sexual life wasn’t put on the spotlight by her piece of shit father there wouldn’t be any porn sites after her like this.

[bookrebelwordwarrior]

Someone needs to bomb their goddamn headquarters

[cliteralviolence]

Pornhub sucks, TI sucks.

Men just suck and women deserve better.

[liberatingwomenisrad-deactivate]

This is enraging. How can people support a company that sees a young woman being violated and publicly embarrassed by her abusive father and decides to try and take a shot at exploiting her themselves? Fuuuuuck this. I don’t want to see anyone posting shit about pornhub helping to shovel snow or whatever “do-gooder” acts they perform to try and get people to forget how evil and unethical they are.

[appropriately-inappropriate]

The difference between conservative and liberal misogyny.

“My daughter’s my property and so’s her virginity.”

“Your daughter’s our property and so’s her virginity.”

[blackswallowtailbutterfly]

Conservatives call their misogyny “protection” and liberals call their misogyny “liberation”. Neither know what either of those words mean. The people we need liberation from are the same people we need protection from: men, conservative and liberal both.

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

"not wanting his daughter to have sex at a young age" oh but he doesn't give a fuck about his son having sex young. it's literally just misogyny and abuse

[girlsmoonsandstars]

if liberals could stop pretending that both your mom and your dad using the same toilet at home has fuck all to do with public facilities that would be great actually lol

[sp00kyhottie-deactivated2013100]

i really love when a woman makes a post like “men shouldn’t be feminists because they tend to speak over women" and then a man appears to speak over her as if on cue

[looneycapricorn]

Never mind that women shouldn’t speak for men ether or boss men around

[hypnictwitch]

And there it is

[brittle-things-delicately-sewn]

I can’t believe men just decided to make up male gods that create life… just because they wanted to one-up women, who actually do create life and give birth.

[parttimepup]

So cringey tbh

[blessed-artemis]

WOMEN CREATE LIFE

[alwaysabeautifullife]

I think the most DISGUSTING thing about porn culture is how passive people are about young children-namely boys, viewing it accidentally, intentionally, or by force. My step son was literally forced to listen and look at porn by his older cousin. He told me and my husband this as he had a panic attack about how he begged his cousin to stop showing it to him and to turn off the sound when he turned away to not see it. When we explained to his biological mother what was happening she said,“haha well boys will be boys.”

For some reason being subject to porn, or enjoying watching it, is being seen as the new norm, the new “becoming of man”. Not to mention-when I was a kid “viewing porn” was downloading an image of a nude woman on your dial up computer or JC penny mags/swim suit editions, now its rape fetishes???

We just dismiss children, who cannot legally consent to sex, viewing sex, often violent, as “being a boy”. If that isn’t the most disgusting thing you’ve ever heard of, I don’t know what is?

[libfas]

Flashback to when I was 13 and ‘porn’ was pictures of a topless girl sitting at a pool saved on a floppy disk that you could only see when no one else was home because the pc was in the living room.

I wonder if five or ten years down the line we will see the current generation of boys that are now going through puberty having severe sexual/erectile/emotional dysfunctions because the abundance of (extreme) porn is available on their phone, everywhere and all the time.

[antiporn-activist]

Already happening: http://globalnews.ca/news/1232726/porn-causing-erectile-dysfunction-in-young-men/

[blessed-artemis]

Unpopular opinions

“Queer” is a slur.

Trans"women" are men.

There’s no such thing as “brain sex” and “girl dick”.

Trans"men" are women.

Abortion should be a human right.

Porn is rape industry.

Men are inherently bad. And we are allowed to be mad at them, even hate them.

Gender is a construct. Handle it like this. Deconstruct it.

Biological men should be kept away from women safe spaces. At any time.

Patriarchy is a thing. Don’t lie to yourself.

It’s time to fight back, sisters.

[chwhore]

the very idea that an identity will crumble to dust if it is ‘invalidated’ i think reveals the constructed nature of that particular identity. for instance, i don’t need anybody to validate my identity as a gay man because i AM a gay man. by my very nature i’m sexually inclined toward men and if tomorrow i were to forget everything i know i would still be sexually attracted to the male sex and my brain and body would respond in that way. it is the simple, brute reality of my existence and whether or not that is confirmed by those around me does not negate the inescapable reality of it all. i don’t have to worry about my ‘identity’ being valid because its reality is not contingent on how/what i or others feel/believe about it.

[greenmossloveisreal1998iloveyou]

gate keeping is actually so great i hate so many of you

[fatallyfeminist-deactivated2020]

why do men want to be gynecologists? why? why. gynecology is for females and should be practiced solely by women imo 

[eyesofsomeonenew]

I don’t think a fuckboy is gonna go through years of college education with the mindset of “I’m doing this so I can put metal and cotton swabs in vaginas”…. (more)

[fatallyfeminist-deactivated2020]

lets talk about the arkansas gyno, paul becton jr. who took nude pictures of his female patients 

lets talk about dr. john black (gyno) who sprayed a chemical found in drain cleaner into his female patients’ genitalia

or dr. robert hadden, a gyno who performed unwilling oral sex on his patients and staff member

or dr. bruce sylvester smith, the gyno who raped (at least) one patient and sexually harassed many others.  

and while we’re at it, lets talk about male gyno, dr. john marshall who tricked, drugged, and raped his patient. 

or dr. paul kelly, an indiana ob-gyn who sexually abused his patients and over-prescribed dangerous drugs. 

and dr. kevin pezeshki, who abused several patients and the list goes on and on. 

so actually tons of male doctors abuse their patients, and the cases of female doctors abusing their patients is almost non-existent. so thanks for your comment, but next time, try doing a bit of research. 

[landmerbabe-deactivated20190210]

let’s talk about my patient yesterday who complained that every male ultrasound tech that has performed a vaginal ultrasound on her pushed the probe way too far and clearly had no concept of vaginal comfort during penetrative procedures

let’s talk about how not once have i hurt any of my patients during vaginal ultrasounds, and if they have issues with penetration such as vulvodynia or a history of endometriosis, i take a long, slow time to do the ultrasound and check in frequently, and will attempt to do an abdominal ultrasound instead if warranted

let’s talk about how it is most certainly because i am a woman and therefore i understand my female patients and their comfort levels much more than any dude could.

[pizza-trashh-deactivated2016031]

^^^ all of this. Not to mention the one time I had a male doctor do my exam, he took one look at my sexual history and immediately refused to do any more tests or exams because he was “positive” I was just had a bunch of STIs. He didn’t listen once to me telling him that I didn’t think that was right and I wanted to be sure. Three days later I’m getting rolled into emergency surgery because my ovary had ruptured and had become infected. Yeah, gynos should always be female.

[artemiswasamerf]

I wouldn’t feel comfortable at all with a male doctor being anywhere near my vagina, sorry not sorry.

[rad-virgo]

A male physician tried to pressure me into letting him put my IUD in! He was so adamant about it, and had this sick smile plastered on his face during the consultation. Eventually I just got up and left. Sick fuck. My current physician is a female, she’s very professional and does her job without associating vaginas as sexual attraction. MALES SHOULD NOT BE OBGYNS! I’d even go so far as to say that males shouldn’t be doctors at all. As some of you know, my childhood family doctor (a male of course) was convicted of possessing and distributing child pornography. Even more evidence that most men are incompetent sick freaks.

[cantanopeshitthatwastaken]

hell, there was a recent story about a podiatrist (‘foot doctor’) whos only reason for entering the career was due to his extreme fetish for feet. It was discovered by his wife when she found thousands of photos of patents feet, stored WITH other porn, on his laptop. This was not “staying in the bedroom”, and he had never even mentioned it to his wife (actually denying having any out-of-the-usual desires whenever she asked).

[brokemeansfixed]

A former friend of mine (a male) worked as a nurse and was charged with looking after a woman about our age. This included helping her dress, so yes of course he saw her naked. After a few days caring for her, he comes to me for advice about asking her out.

“But I don’t want it to be awkward because I’ve seen her naked?”

I explained to him, it’s GOING to be VERY awkward. It seems like you were just checking her out.

Of course he’s all, ‘no no no of course not I compartmenalize. I’ve just enjoyed talking with her/getting to know her while I’ve been caring for her.’

Like he thought he was so romantic. Instead of opportunistic. It’s literally your JOB to care, you asshole.

I said to him, She’s been talking to you because she’s a captive audience, she’s hospitalized.

He says, okay well I’ll wait to ask her out until she’s discharged then.

He asked her out.

She turned him down.

I was like, what did you fucking expect?

Men shouldn’t be allowed anywhere near women when it comes to healthcare, period. Our bodies are different than theirs. And men don’t see women as human. They see us as objects at worst, opportunities at best.

[brokemeansfixed]

An ex-girlfriend of mine used to see a neurologist as a teenager until he was arrested for child pornography. Just to add to the ever growing list of revolting offenses by men.

Like, men thrive on having positions of power. Fuckboys DO go to college. They drug and rape girls at their fraternity parties, then go on to become all sorts of professionals.

[phalloid-destroyer-deactivated2]

One time i needed to get a heart ultrasound and the male doctor had a fucking boner because his hand was around my boobs and he started to touch me with his other hand WHILE A FEMALE NURSE AND MY MOM WERE IN THE SAME ROOM NEXT TO US and then he was so out of focus after the scan was done i was just waiting for it to be over and he couldn’t even talk properly and he was constantly scratching his dick in front of me and after we left i was constantly looking over my shoulder and then he went to the staff bathroom to fucking jerk off.

I still feel extremely violated to this day, i want to kill him, smash his head and gouge his eyes out, paint the floor with the blood of his intestines.

Ask any woman…

[whatthefuuuuuuccckkkk]

also its suspect for a man to even want to do that if you ask me…out of all the jobs in the world….

[prettyangryprostitute]

When my girlfriend was hospitalized with severe Guillian-Barre syndrome (she was essentially paralyzed from her neck down), she would literally beg me to shower her instead of her MALE nurse because he refused to lift her breast to clean the skin underneath, or clean her thighs between her legs because it gave him a fucking hard-on. As if it wasn’t literally his fucking JOB. She’s my girlfriend and I wasn’t so overwhelmed with sexual desire while I gave her a shower that I couldn’t even touch her breasts with going into a lust-filled satyriastic craze.

[thevaginamonoblogs]

I’ve worked in the medical education sector and the amount of male medical students who enter medicine knowing NOTHING about female anatomy and who leave it with the same knowledge should horrify every woman reading this.

After over a decade working in the sector, over 90% of the male medical students I’ve encountered either objectify women, are embarrassed by them, or do not care about female medicine at all.

The women on the other hand were uniformly fine with male medical examination et al.

[arminjuice-deactivated20210413]

this is why i won’t even take my shirt off in front of my male doctor, even back when i wore bras. he already looked at me sexually once when i was 13, and my mom blamed me for wearing a low-cut jumpsuit in 38°C heat. not letting something like that happen again.

[lierdumoa]

“You need to how learn to take a compliment,” says a grown man who still hasn’t learned how to take rejection.

[lv0009]

it is so upsetting listening to so many males talk about all of the times they have gone on road trips alone and slept in their cars alone or on the side of the road, or travelled overseas alone and slept on the floor of strangers homes or in parks or at hostels, and they appear to have such freedom in that they are able to be alone in ways that females, unfortunately, cannot. and there is an ignorance surrounding this in that these boys never seem to comprehend just how fortunate they are that strange people and unfamiliar places and the dark of night are not their enemies but rather exciting, promising things.

[1or3]

“Yes, my consuming desire is to mingle with road crews, sailors and soldiers, barroom regulars—to be a part of a scene, anonymous, listening, recording—all this is spoiled by the fact that I am a girl, a female always supposedly in danger of assault and battery. My consuming interest in men and their lives is often misconstrued as a desire to seduce them, or as an invitation to intimacy. Yes, God, I want to talk to everybody as deeply as I can. I want to be able to sleep in an open field, to travel west, to walk freely at night…”

― Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath

[withlovesao]

dear you, focus on yourself focus on yourself focus on yourself focus on yourself focus on yourself focus on yourself focus on yourself.

[toesucker]

If I were a children’s show animator I would simply not be a pervert

[rose---child]

Thanks toesucker

[toesucker]

Oh I forgot

[toesucker]

[hetero-plausible]

[parskis]

i swear to god, men raising their voice is the most terrifying thing in the whole world. they dont understand, like its an immediate panic response, game over

[cl4yton-deactivated20180207]

I actually had no idea women found this so scary

[periwinklepromise]

my downstairs neighbors fight on a regular basis, and every time he starts yelling i’m a little afraid he’s going to kill her. i have no reason to think this except that he is a man and he is angry

[thewonderfulthingaboutfish]

My math teacher has a loud voice and a temper and he scares the living shit out of me almost everyday. He’s made me and other kids cry more than once and he and his teacher buddies make a joke out of terrifying students.

[diamondsamura1-deactivated20220]

this was women in general? i knew my gf didn’t like it but I was unaware if this affected most women

[survivor-surviving]

Yes, it does

[pandora-ness]

As a woman, I had no idea it effected other women like this. I was too afraid to even talk about it. I thought I was weak. Thanks for bringing attention to this.

[kaldraws8280]

My dad thinks it’s funny that I used to cry when he raised his voice. I freak out whenever some one does. Once my director did, and I started crying I couldn’t stop. I’m glad to see I’m not alone…

[suicunesrider]

This is so important– seeing how common this is– and I also want you all to know that this is not normal. It isn’t something instinctively ingrained into women, to be afraid of men. There is no natural state of men being a threat that women constantly have to be afraid of. This is cultural. So many women and girls here have a mutual understanding of this feeling, and I think it really shows an unsettling truth about our society, particularly about how men are raised to act and how so many women have this defensive reaction gradually develop. It’s so important that these people have their voices heard, because it teaches us about problems that we just can’t deny the existence of any longer.

[shidoninoure]

I’m glad I’m not the only one

[anexperimentallife]

My fellow men, pay attention. I didn’t realize how scary this could be until one of my exes explained it to me, and it’s heartbreaking.

Also, when we move too much during an argument, or lean forward, it’s scary, and I never knew. I was even a little insulted at first, because surely she didn’t think I would hurt her. But see, that doesn’t matter. It wasn’t a sign that she mistrusted me specifically; it’s a conditioned response. (Although if you keep doing it once you realize it scares her, she SHOULDN’T trust you.)

Not every woman has been physically harmed by a man she trusted, but every woman KNOWS a woman who has.

I used to be horrible about this, because I didn’t realize how intimidating it was. I didn’t understand why the woman I was with clammed up or tried to tell me what she thought I wanted to hear, and I only got angrier, and acted even more like an asshole. It was wrong. It was abusive. It didn’t matter if I INTENDED it that way; it was still emotionally abusive. And it was inexcusable.

I get that when passions are high, and when you’re frustrated, it’s a natural tendency to let your voice get louder, to shout and gesture and lean forward. But you can train yourself to do better. You can train yourself to keep more of an even tone, to refrain from large and fast gestures, to not lean into her personal space. I did. I’m not perfect at it yet, but goddamn it, I WILL be.

Don’t tell me it’s too hard, that you just can’t do it, or that you “shouldn’t have to.” I’m 53 years old and just now getting the hang of it, and if this old dog can learn something new, so can you.

[elfwreck]

Note to guys: It really, REALLY doesn’t matter if you’re thinking, “but I would never…”

History is littered with the bodies of women who believed a man “would never.” This includes women killed by men who honestly, deeply, truly believed they “would never”… right up until she said that one thing or moved in just that way and he just got so mad, just that once, and pushed her or punched her or slashed her or shot her… just once, y’know, to shut her up, or because she was flinching and didn’t she know that HE’S NOT LIKE THAT and I’LL TEACH HER TO BE AFRAID OF ME…

We are trained, from infancy, that Men With Loud Voices are a source of pain from which we cannot escape, and attempts to escape may result in more pain. And as soon as we’re old enough to comprehend a world broader than our immediate circle, a world that extends into the past and will run into the future, we realize that there is no way, no way at all, to tell which men “would never” and which men “would never… except if.”

We live or die on that “if.” And any man who doesn’t like facing that hyper-vigilance can work on fixing OTHER MEN, not women’s fear.

The reaction shouldn’t be “not all men are like that;” it should be “no woman should have to live in fear.”

It’s telling that so many people will hear a story of long-term abuse and say, “why did she stay with him?” and not “why did he treat her like that?”

[plaggnoir]

This made me cry.

[galactic-gangstar-gibbon-deacti]

Don’t skip over this.

[stormcloudgeneral]

This is something very important, I think, for all men to hear, and I speak because I’ve been made aware of it on my end so often. When I was a little kid, I had a volcanic temper, getting really angry really quickly and reacting as such. When I started hitting preteen years, that started manifesting as yelling when angry—in a low register as well, the same way my dad would on the rare cases he got mad. Problem is, for pretty much all my life, I’ve been better friends with women than men. And the two didn’t mix.

If I was mad around my female friends, it didn’t matter if I was mad at them, someone else, or something inanimate. The moment I started yelling to vent my frustration, they looked incredibly concerned, and I felt ashamed that I’d caused that reaction. Plus, I did theatre and chorus in school, so I’m sure that the volume I learned to generate from those only added to the intimidation of hearing a burgeoning baritone yelling. So I’ve been working on it since then. My temper’s gotten far more under control, it takes more and more to get me angry as time goes on. And even when I am angry, I take steps to keep my temper in check, to keep my voice from getting loud, to keep myself from flying off the handle. I know it scares people, and I’m ashamed that I’m able to do that. Worse, even with control, I don’t have enough control yet.

I ended what once was a very close friendship recently because of this. For months, she and I had gotten into arguments maybe once a week over the same topic, and each time, I got more and more angry because the issue kept reappearing over and over. But I held myself in check, time and again, because I didn’t want to let rage rule the arguments. Then once, just once, I didn’t keep my cool. My voice rose—and by now, I’m a baritone/bass, so my voice is low and loud when it gets close to shouting—my body language got rougher as described earlier, and…it terrified her. It triggered PTSD that she’d never told me about. From then on, being in my presence wasn’t something she could do…and knowing I’d caused that after not thirty seconds of losing my cool is probably the most shameful thing I’ve ever done. Thirty seconds of a raised voice, not even at full volume. And now I’m even more sure that I need to keep working on controlling myself, because I refuse to let something like that happen again.

Just like @anexperimentallife said before me: it doesn’t matter whether or not men intend to terrify people by shouting, we do it anyway. Worse, if the person has specific trauma that you don’t know about, your yelling could be even worse for them than it already is in general. There is no excuse for terrifying anyone during an argument, no matter how important you think the topic is. No excuse. I am still in the progress of training myself not to, and I refuse to stop working until I know I won’t ever scare people that way again. So gentlemen, for the love of whatever gods you believe in…start training yourselves not to yell.

[thevaginamonoblogs]

Last year, I worked with a child like this on a daily basis. Explosive temper. It’s been almost six months since I have interacted with this child and I’m still processing the trauma.

I still have nightmares.

This boy was 11.

[meangirlnurse]

identifying as “queer” stopped being empowering once it became an expectation instead of a deliberate statement

[tinyleaves]

what the fuck does this mean

[meangirlnurse]

that i do not find that word to be empowering as i am expected to identify with that word, called that word coercively, and belittled for not wanting to be called by that word, as opposed to when reclaiming that slur was a personal and deliberate political statement 

[d-why-k-e]

I know less and less lesbians in media now because they’re “queer” and I don’t get called a lesbian because I’m “queer” and queer no longer is a reclaimed slur for homosexuals, queer can mean anything now. You can be a heterosexual queer and that’s just fucked up. Queer is still used as a slur in so many areas and straight people shouldn’t feel comfortable calling us that or forcing us to identify as that. They definitely shouldn’t feel comfortable using it for themselves but here we are getting called bigots for not wanting to be called slurs.

[smeepy-archive-deactivated20200]

i love the way that girls in soviet art look. compared to the american art being made at the same time i always feel like the soviet girls look so kind and healthy and like they have depth to them. personally! for me! don’t come at me for this ! it’s just something that makes me happy

[smeepy-archive-deactivated20200]

i trust all these women because they have muscular thighs and broad shoulders <3

[radclown]

The range of skin tones in this is also so far beyond what was typical of the time?