so basically there's this girl i like

Gay little side blog. (I am in fact, very lesbian).

[reveredsky-deactivated20171222]

“the gay community was never racist”

shit y’all still are to this day

[andthenyoufoundmy-deactivated20]

:/

[reveredsky-deactivated20171222]

I’m glad my post got around.. ppl need to see some history

[the-haiku-bot]

I’m glad my post got

around.. ppl need to

see some history

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[vitabreva]

[thebestestbat]

the point of cloth mother is to fuck wire mother like crazy

[thebestestbat]

🔥🔥🔥

[cogneartive]

can i please get more pictures like this. this how it feel

[cogneartive]

more examples

[horsefriend]

[putnamspuppeteer]

For those who don't know: Ikumi Nakamura is the woman who was senior artist on Bayonetta, and designed the titular character along with Hideki Kamiya. Their greatest moment of bonding was over their insistence that Bayonetta keep her glasses on at all times. Nakamura cannot go to horny jail. She is the warden.

[brookietf]

[catgirlforeskin]

Happy pride month to her and her exclusively

[seraphiminn]

she made a comic about the experience on twitter

[catboybiologist]

happy pride

[ikindamaybewanthertositonmyface]

An Update from back in October I'm surprised wasn't added to this post. lol

[eroscestlavie]

Why am I finding out just today that Salvador Dali designed the Chupa Chups logo

[eroscestlavie]

????

[eroscestlavie]

Hey. What

[trash-slvt]

"relax. sucking does not kill" would make for a fun shirt

[sprachgefuehle]

I am happy to inform you what chupa chups can translate to <3

my favourite lollipop: sucky sucks

[the-haiku-bot]

I am happy to

inform you what chupa chups

can translate to <3

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[callipygianblockhead]

These could be the same if we try hard enough.

[junglejim4322]

90% of age gaps don’t matter when you’re a grown adult as long as you don’t have a repeated pattern of dating people barely legal. I would date someone 30 years older than me if I liked them who gaf

[junglejim4322]

This entire conversation is somehow 90% people infantilizing themselves and 10% actually people talking about the issue of men who never grow out of dating 18/19 year olds. No it is not a big deal when a 25 year old dates a 35 year old please get a grip

[junglejim4322]

Honestly if you’re in your mid twenties infantilizing yourself on this level maybe you shouldn’t be dating anyone

[efemmera-archive]

Covers of Die Freundin (The Girlfriend), the world's first lesbian magazine, published in Berlin from 1924-1933

Source

[belloochie]

hair silky like tofu

ass firm like another kind of tofu

[val-mora]

#Tits moderate firm yet jiggly like a third kind of tofu

[2-point-5]

i like being a lesbian and all, but holy shit, men are so cool. i hope all men reading this have a wonderful day.

[basilpaste]

i like being gay and all, but holy shit, women are so cool!!!! i hope all women reading this have a wonderful day as well!!!!!!!!!

[2-point-5]

[image description: the epic handshake meme. one arm is labelled gay people and the other is labelled lesbians. in the middle it says "fuck yeah bro". end id]

[2-point-5]

hey guys, quick reminder! this post is about uplifting other people!!! tags like 'ugh, but men are gross lol' or 'op has never met a man' are not welcome and will recieve an insta block! men are cool! women are cool! thank you for coming to my fucking ted talk! :-)

[dykepuffs]

[errorschacha]

Well, it was nice to get a few years of somewhat decreased open public pressure for women to all have visibly dangerous restrictive eating disorders.

[marisatomay]

Happy Pride

[roycohn]

there's an old anne rice interview circulating on twitter rn that i remember reading ages ago where she makes a pretty salient point about how submissive men who have bdsm fantasies etc will go to a sex worker and basically order the ala carte version of their fantasy to be performed in real life but women don't really have that same option and certainly not at the same point of availability so they read her horny books instead. and honestly that argument has been in the back of my mind every time people get on their high horses about the popularity of booktok romantasy novels or heated rivalry or whatever the "women are horny and we're upset about that" cultural property du jour is ever since. women, especially straight women, have so few outlets for their sexual desires, especially if they have a partner who doesn't share them, and i will never understand why "someone ELSE'S private sexual fantasy makes me uncomfortable and therefore they should not be allowed to engage with it, even if i am in no way being affected by it or even aware of it at all" is such a popular party line among allegedly progressive young people.

[atinymekanie]

The only issue I genuinely ever take with the romantasy tropes is that often they seem to be utterly nonconsensual on the part of the woman, as she is simply accepting (often with a lot of internal monologue about how she’s scared/concerned/upset about) the man treating her in whatever way his fantasy runs, which usually seems to be very dominance-based.

In this world where women are already subjected to the sexual whims of their male partners and their own desires are often ignored or belittled, I very decidedly don’t wish to read about that exact same thing happening to the FMC. Now, if the FMC is living her best life whilst being subjected to these tropes and shadow-daddy MMCs, then good for her!

I just really wish that the FMC’s pleasure and desires would be centered, rather than just assumed to be submissive and then executed as such without first asking.

So yeah, am I asking to see the kink negotiation scene? Hell yeah, I am.

[ariaste]

Nope. Because in a book like that, the BOOK ITSELF IS HAPPENING WITHIN THE KINK SCENE. The kink is non-diagetic! It's like saying "I don't like when movies have music that comes from nowhere, I wish they would show us where the musicians are, how do you have an orchestra pit when the heroine is running around the moors in the fog and the rain??" The kink negotiation scene isn't happening between the characters, it's happening implicitly between the reader and the author, and your power to withdraw consent is perpetual and ongoing -- all you have to do is close the book and walk away. You're allowed to do that, and I encourage you to do it.

But for things happening between the characters, if the FMC is scared-AND-horny or whatever, that's what the fantasy is supposed to be and you as the reader are expected to do some basic suspension of disbelief in order to engage with the idea that (just like in a kink scene!) this is not real, this is just for pretend, everyone is safe and no one is actually getting hurt. On account if it is fiction.

Now, if you're not into that, that's perfectly fine, I am not saying you have to be into reading things that you don't like. If you want to see some kink negotiation, that's cool. Sometimes, there are books that are about diagetic kink, and they do include those negotiation scenes. But for non-diagetic kink (aka the thing you're "taking issue" with), I don't think that it's fair to say that it's wrong for those books to be written that way. A woman's desires ARE being centered -- either the author's own desires or what the author is envisioning the reader will desire. If you're not into it--again, that's perfectly fine, it's just not the right book for you or the right genre for you. Read something else.

You missed the point of the first post, @atinymekanie, so let's read it together again:

women, especially straight women, have so few outlets for their sexual desires, especially if they have a partner who doesn't share them, and i will never understand why "someone ELSE'S private sexual fantasy makes me uncomfortable and therefore they should not be allowed to engage with it, even if i am in no way being affected by it or even aware of it at all" is such a popular party line among allegedly progressive young people.

"yes but the only issue i take with romantasy tropes [...]" literally is just "someone else's private sexual fantasy makes me uncomfortable" in different clothing. Do you see what I'm saying? You're doing the same thing. "Yes but when it comes to the thing *I* don't like, people shouldn't do it that way." Not everyone is doing it that way! Read different books!

[alphawerehimbo]

CNC kink once again being left out of the sex-positive discourse, ty for the addition.

I think part of the reason so many tropes related to IRL misogyny are prevalent in m/f romance is because this fiction often acts as catharsis for peoples' real life experiences and anxieties. If I said that a reader of Raped by the Financially Abusive Lord who Killed Me in Every Lifetime doesn't take sexual assault seriously I might as well say that horror movie fans want to legalize murder.

Fear and anxiety aren't mutually exclusive with lust, and people really like to explore that within the safe, controlled confines of fictional scenarios. Often this is a safe space for people to play with those emotions and come to understand themselves better. As a survivor with a CNC kink I cannot verbalize the good its done for me to have CNC content and kink spaces to explore my feelings in.

But there's a much more common reason people are drawn to non-consensual dynamics - sexual shame. I can tell you that the vast majority of CNC submissives I've met love the kink because it absolves them of the guilt of having any sexual desire at all. If you can pretend you never wanted to have sex then you can remain 'sexually pure' and free of the negative emotions that would otherwise spoil the vulnerability and intimacy you should be able to enjoy. More often than not CNC can actually be comforting to the kinksters that enjoy it. It's ironic that a kink so deeply tied to avoiding moral scrutiny over having any sexual desires is the kink most frequently deposed by 'sex positive' discourse about dark romance. At the end of the day the CNC in these novels is aesthetic, because the author consented to writing it and the reader can 'safeword' by putting it down (and was hopefully prewarned about the content, but that's another discussion)

I could discourse for ages about specific depictions of non-con I don't like or problematic rhetoric certain authors have around sexual assault, but saying that it shouldn't be in fiction would feel like saying people aren't allowed to talk about sexual abuse at all. And saying people only write or read non-con for any singular reason like 'apathy', 'resignation', or 'support' is a disservice to the true depth and variety of emotions people experience when engaging with it in fiction.

As an aside about the initial post: I am confused about "especially straight women" I cant say I've witnessed queer women having an easier time seeking safe sexual outlets than nonqueer women - even if they do have access to a lesbian community. There being more women sex workers doesn't mean that women are safe or welcomed seeking their services. And sapphic fiction isn't being treated well by this discourse, nor is sapphic reality. I personally find it really frustrating how often it gets brought into discourse that queer people who like any kind of kink or friction in their fiction are "bad representation" to vanilla queer people and "proving stereotypes right" to homophobes and allies alike. The "fujoshi" discourse for instance has a lot of the same plot beats as the "dark romantasy" discourse but with even more biphobia and transphobia. Queer people are not getting off easy by any means.

[sevaria]

the world needs transsexuals more than it needs god

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advertising strategy for Hepatior, a 1930s medicine to treat liver ailments