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caspercryptid

I feel like not enough people realize that people under enormous strain act really really fucking Weird

caspercryptid

If someone is doing things that don't make Sense, try to understand that it is entirely possible that their brain is probably under an enormous weight and fracturing under the pressure. People who have been stabbed will sometimes talk a circle around the fact that they've been stabbed because stress and shock prevent you from recognizing the distress you are in and what you need to do to seek help for it. PTSD will do this also. You will find yourself repeatedly jamming a bag of frozen fruit into the same spot in the freezer where it doesn't fit and keeps falling, over and over and over, focused on nothing but that bag. You will decide that a beanbag chair is 10000% necessary to your life. You will lose your entire shit because you stubbed your toe on a table and that means the whole setup of your furniture is wrong. These are largely harmless examples. People under strain will also hurt themselves and others. Cornered animals bite. And it doesn't heal the bite to go "Hey, are you okay?" But it might get you to an animal that stops biting, so you can start to heal. And before you had an animal that bit, you probably had an animal that kept doing shit you didn't understand as stress signals

caspercryptid

Mental illness is Off-putting. Trauma and stress make people hard to be around. There are no perfect victims. If your framework for someone under pressure are people who cry photogenically at home in the bathroom or at night when everyone else is asleep and then wake up and act like they're fine then you will fail to recognize it when your coworker who's normally really nice suddenly blows up on someone for leaving forks in the company sink.

Everyone is going through shit. And it doesn't make it okay for them to treat others badly, but it also sometimes makes it difficult for them to recognize that they're treating you badly, like the person on the phone with 9-11 who no longer realizes that he's telling the operator about his day and not answering questions. When your friend of ten years who has a new boyfriend suddenly starts being a massive bitch to you about your weight maybe she's just being a cunt, or maybe she's internalized some bullshit. You don't have to take that, but you Can go "Hey, what the fuck?" And that is often more helpful than you realize. It is easy to assume that someone who does something cruel is acting with intent, but especially in cases where someone's behavior changed in a short span of time, they aren't, any more than the person who is convinced the beanbag chair is going to fix them.

You don't have to give people endless chances. But you should give them at least one chance. Because on your worst week, it's going to be you crying at your friend's birthday party because she ran out of chili before you got to have some, and you're going to want some grace for yourself.

acertainmoshke

All of this and also, sometimes you just cannot control your reaction even if it’s harmful or mean. Which also doesn’t make it acceptable to treat people poorly, but it does tie into the give people a second or third chance and communicate before deciding they’re just terrible now

theragamuffininitiative

Source:

Advocating for Android as a free, open platform for everyone to build apps on.

Among the many reasons I am clawing my life back from Google.

sonicismyboyfriend

if you have a google pixel, it only takes 15 minutes and a few button clicks to install GrapheneOS

Installation instructions for GrapheneOS, a security and privacy focused mobile OS with Android app compatibility.

dogmotif-deactivated20240505

the main problem i have with america is that nothings old as hell there. i cant be so far away from a castle it damages my aura

chillyfeetsteak

man people really just say stuff on here huh

lame-kid-on-couch

Noooo haha don't spread racist ideals and colonizer propaganda by idolizing white european aesthetics above all else and denying the life and accomplishments of native peoples on their own lands

brehaaorgana

People have been living in the downtown area of Tucson, Arizona for at least 4,500 years. The greater Santa Cruz river valley has been occupied by humans for 12,000 years.

You see this?

That's not a river. That's the South Canal in Mesa, Arizona (Phoenix metro area).

This is a view of the East and South canals. At least half of all the Phoenix metro canals were originally built by the Hohokam (from roughly 200-1400 CE), and are still in use (restored) today.

Phoenix, Arizona actually has more miles (kilometers) of Canals total than both Venice and Amsterdam. No, really. Phoenix has about 180 miles of canals, many of which are built on ancient canal foundations.

below is an aerial view photo taken in the late 1930's of one branch of Phoenix's canal systems:

Also have the "Montezuma Castle," if you need a castle:

I don't need to look at some 12th century European castle to see age.

i-suggest-landback

i have a suggestion

hbmmaster

tumblr staff adjusting a dial to fine-tune exactly how much they're imitating twitter while occasionally looking back at their userbase for approval except the userbase is just booing the entire time "we hate twitter" "why do you even have that dial"

ms-demeanor

Stream is live, feel free to come say hi!

ms-demeanor

Thanks to everyone who came by to watch! I've posted the okay computers for this week and if you didn't watch either week the takeaway from the two streams so far is:

Whether a prebuilt or a parted computer is best for you depends on a lot, but basically if you're not confident working on a machine you're probably better off prebuilt.

Computers are expensive.

Documentation is difficult, but one of the best things to do is approach writing documentation knowing the skill/knowledge level of your audience (this is why I write tech how-tos like simple recipes sometimes and why I write recipes like tech how-tos; most of the people I'm talking to either know how to cook and can read a recipe and extrapolate from it easily and can thus easily read tech instructions in that format OR have no idea how to cook and are nervous about approaching an oven and need every explicit instructions in order to eliminate ambiguity). If you are beginning to do documentation and aren't familiar with standards for, say, introducing abbreviations or reiterating instructions in multiple sections, a book like The Joy of Cooking can be a useful reference, and you may want to look at something like the AP style book.

Bitwarden is an excellent password manager and they make a fucking killer open source authenticator. My favorite thing about the authenticator is that if you have a bitwarden account you can sync the authenticator with the password manager which saves the authenticator key to the associated password; this doesn't automatically give you the TOTP in the app (that's still a paid feature) but it does mean that if your phone falls in the ocean and you don't have a full device transfer for your authenticator you can go into the passwords in your password manager and use the saved authenticator key to add it to a different authenticator or to sync with another installation of bitwarden authenticator. THIS IS GOOD AND I LIKE IT A LOT.

The biggest risk with a password manager is that you need to reset all your passwords, the biggest risk with an authenticator is a permanent lock-out of important accounts; as such you should be more cautious about where you use an authenticator than about using a password manager HOWEVER the way the bitwarden products sync eliminate that specific concern for me. AND with all of that said, it's super important that you've got multiple ways to access your password manager (recovery emails, etc) and that your password manager has a password you won't forget so if the thing that is holding you back from using a password manager like Bitwarden is that you're worried you'll forget or lose the password, it is okay to write down that password and keep it someplace safe in your house (NOT taped to the bottom of your keyboard at work or someplace equally open, write it on an index card and stick it in your sock drawer or something).

If your biggest concern about getting started with a password manager is that you have to move all your passwords, I actually recommend only moving 1-5 passwords (your important passwords like your main email, primary social media, and primary email) into the password manager when you get started and then move the rest as you need to access them. Any number of passwords in the password manager is better than none, adding one a month is better than never using it, security is not all or nothing you can do it gradually, it's okay.

On Wednesday of this week (March 4th) at 7PM PST I will be streaming while I install linux on a secondhand computer so that I can show people the process and answer questions.

I think I've decided that I'm going to do a "Do Something" stream on Wednesday evenings, which means that I'll be installing Linux or mending clothes or sorting photos or in some way or another doing something and I'll be encouraging other people to join me and do some body doubling and do something too.

See you Wednesday, hope you're well!

great-tweets

PLEASE UNMUTE THIS. PLEASE.

rustybuckett

nickaroooo

damienstarry0w0

You guys missed the best part

ladybugsandchats

Y'all missed the best part: HER REACTION AFTER ALL THIS

novafuzzcheeks

They’re in CHURCH WITH THIS LMAO

great-tweets

I know this is my own post, but every single time this comes across my dash I am delighted. Every single time, I re-watch the video and laugh, and then scroll down and laugh more. What a truly excellent reblog chain.

fanfictionjumbler

Better solutions than age verification BS

Teaching children/teens basic internet safety rules such as not giving out personal information (name, age, etc.) and internet stranger danger

Informing parents/guardians about the existence of the YouTube Kids app before they hand the unfiltered iPad to a kid to watch

Informing about YouTube Teen Accounts

More online teen spaces such as MMOs, pet sites, and RP forums with site rules to keep things appropriate

Emphasis of report and block buttons if something said in said spaces makes someone uncomfortable and/or breaks site rules

Game support forums not being locked to Discord servers and easily accessible to the entire userbase

Parental blocks that restrict downloading dedicated "adult community" apps

In mixed age online spaces, adults being less hesitant about using built in content filters such as tags and mature content labels

Parents/guardians understanding age ratings on items such as movies and video games, especially R and M

Parents, guardians, and trusted adults (ex. teachers, librarians) being available to listen and discuss when a topic is confusing (and not immediately get mad and complain about the material)

Better access to youth library materials (ex. young adult)

More/better offline teen spaces and access to hobbies without too much unnecessary expense

sillyguy-supreme

white americans when you tell them that the idea of climate change as an impending disaster is a reductive first world perspective because it’s a tangible reality for many in the global south already:

sillyguy-supreme

maybe if you see south and southeast asians dying in the heat and latin americans dying in floods and all you think of is imagining a reality where YOU are affected, then you should rethink how you see people of color. if you cannot see climate change as a real disaster until it is other americans dying in the heat and the floods and not just black and brown people, then don’t talk about climate change until you can acknowledge the grim reality of climate change for everyone.

edwordsmyth

"Friends outside of Minnesota please read. I'm sharing a post written by a personal friend and medical doctor: Friends outside MN, you need to know what is happening here. Everyone knows that ICE shot and killed a woman here on Wednesday. But that’s not the only thing that’s going on:

ICE agents are cruising areas with immigrant-owned businesses, and kidnapping patrons and employees alike. Yesterday they abducted two US citizen employees at a suburban Target, one who was begging them to allow him to go get his passport to show them.

ICE is going door to door in immigrant-heavy neighborhoods, asking residents where their immigrant neighbors live. Read that again. If it sounds like something out of your high school history textbook, that’s because it is.

ICE is targeting schools and school buses. They pepper sprayed teenagers and abducted two school staff members at the high school up the street from me on Wednesday. Police are literally escorting school buses to ensure children can get to school and home safely. The Minneapolis Public Schools have moved to virtual learning for the next 4 weeks because it’s unsafe for children or teachers to physically come to school.

They are targeting hospitals and clinics. Patients are scared and are cancelling their appointments or just not showing up. Kids are missing their checkups and vaccines, folks aren’t getting their cancer care, etc.

They are smashing windows in cars and homes.

ICE is increasingly picking up Native Americans—again, targeting folks based on skin color alone.

They are arresting and beating legal observers. A friend of a friend had her arm broken yesterday. Folks are showing up at local hospitals, brought in in ICE custody, with severe injuries that are absolutely inconsistent with mechanism of injury reported by ICE. (Think: patient appears to have been beaten unconscious, while ICE agent says he slipped and fell.) I can’t emphasize enough that these ICE agents do not have warrants. There are 2,000+ agents here and they are simply hunting for anyone that’s not white. It doesn’t matter if you’re a citizen or a green card holder, they will kidnap you first and ask questions later. But the community is fighting back.

Protests are happening every day.

Community groups have been leading know-your-rights sessions for months, often to packed venues.

Whistles are being distributed by the thousands, carried on keychains and worn on coat zippers, always at the ready to be blown in warning if ICE is spotted.

Drivers are following ICE vehicles, blaring their horns in warning.

Businesses are locking their doors even while open to keep employees and customers safe. As I type this, I’m standing guard at the locked door of our neighborhood burrito joint while I wait for my takeout order, so the employees can focus on their jobs. The place is packed with neighbors supporting this small business.

Anti-ICE signs are posted everywhere. The community is making it crystal clear that ICE is not welcome here.

Parents and neighbors are standing guard outside schools, organizing carpools, and escorting kids to and from school on foot.

Parents of kids in Spanish-immersion daycare (there are a LOT of these daycares here!) are keeping their kids home so the teachers don’t have to take the risk of coming to work.

Churches and community groups are holding fundraisers to buy and deliver groceries to families who don’t feel safe leaving home.

Mutual aid money is going out to folks who can’t make rent because they can’t work or because a breadwinner was abducted, or who need a warm place to stay after their home’s windows were smashed. THAT is what is happening here. This fight is ongoing and it’s horrifying to watch. But we are not backing down. To my friends in other cities and states, don’t think for a minute that this won’t happen in your town. It will. Be ready. Learn from us, as we have learned from Portland and Chicago and New York. Fight back. Don’t let us get to the last line of Martin Niemoller’s poem.” -Grant Boulanger

bloodmoonlich

Here's an AP news brief with a little more info. It's limited in the way major news outlets are right now but provides context that supports the personal account shared.

hollowedskin

So the funniest difference between me and kiddo's previous foster mother is that she was telling me I've gotta call ahead and make sure all the staff at the hairdressers know kiddo is trans so they don't misgender him, and make sure they know he's a foster kid so they understand why it's me taking him and not his real mum and all that, and I've just said nah that's not how you do it.

I go to the barber, I say "my son would like a haircut", they do not question me about whether he is my son on either point. This has worked perfectly so far. You just don't give anyone a reason to question you? If I say he is my son it is so unbelievably rude for someone else to go "um are you sure?".

But yesterday the barbers apprentice looked at him and asked if he is getting a woman's cut, and instead of arcing up and explaining trans theory and respect for kiddos gender to someone who I knew heard me the first time and had clocked him, I just channeled the spirit of a Christian Mother In The Toy Aisle and said "well, he is a boy so no, he will have a boys cut".

Shuts down bullshit immediately! Nobody wants to be yelled at by someone's Karen mother! Kiddo does not hear this little pricks opinion on trans people or get humiliated by being outed in the barbers. You do not have to tell people all your intimate details! You certainly do not have to tell people all your kids intimate details either, especially if you think they'll be a target.

fairykukla

This is an excellent metaphorical tool for the toolbox! There are lots of situations that this tactic will work very well for.

There will also be times when you need to pre-qualify a situation, and that's ok, too.

When my eldest daughter started her transition at 30, she asked about bra shopping. I did, in fact, call the shops that I thought might be good to go to for a proper fitting. What I said on the phone was, "My adult daughter has reached a point in her transition where she needs a bra. Is there someone on your staff that would feel comfortable assisting us?"

I'm delighted to report that at Victoria's Secret, the answer I got was a very chipper "Oh, yes Ma'am! *ANY* member of our staff would be TOTALLY comfortable helping you!" And they were!

No matter what method you use, the real trick is to act like this is Totally Normal the whole time.

the-uncanny-dag

I love whenever these anti-horny internalized queerphobia weirdo funnymen show their entire asses about some trans women's cornball posts, then delete their blogs when everyone catches onto their bigotry bc that's easier than taking the L & admitting they shat the bed. Like what, are you scared of the fiery wrath of a bunch of broke furries nobody outside Tumblr gives a fuck about? Bc you sure as fuck had a lot to say just a few days ago lol

bluepeets

https://twitter.com/coff33detective/status/1271463582312673281

“make yourselves impossible to ignore. 10,000 signatures on twitter is a lot but 10 unique personal emails is enough to derail an entire council session.”

starlightomatic

I was in a city council meeting last week about defunding the police and one of the council members mentioned multiple times that she’d been inundated with calls and emails all that day saying to defund the police.

to-transcribe

[ID: Two screenshots of a twitter thread by alex flanigan, anti-fascist @Coff33Detective from June 12, 2020 beginning at 11:25 AM that reads: hi! i work in local government and community management, and i’m here to tell you a secret: it is like, really, really easy to overwhelm the people who work in your local government. especially right now. especially on things they can actionably do or impact.

you may not know this, but i bet your city or town or municipality has a website. i bet that website has some contact forms or email addresses on it. i bet you can use them to put together a message in about 5 minutes! i bet it’s almost as easy as signing a national petition.

which is to say: i’m noticing, like most other people, that the national level discussion on really important and long overdue issues is flagging. but the internet and news cycle is not the only battleground, and you will be pleasantly surprised by how easy it is to—

—fight those battles at home, on your own turf, with much more immediate impact, and they are so, so important.

I am begging you: make my job, and the jobs of people like me, difficult right now. flood us with demands. make yourselves impossible to ignore. 10,000 signatures on twitter is a lot but 10 unique personal emails is enough to derail an entire council session. End ID]

corpsebrigadier-deactivated2025

I’ve been a city council observer with the League of Women Voters for nearly a year, and I have witnessed the following:

A few guys voicing their anxiety about speeding on a street where their children play and suggesting a radar speed sign. Despite catching all of two meetings where this was mentioned, I walked back home one day and–yep–there was a radar speed sign up.

A persistent force of 3-5ish loud residents coming to zoning and council meetings because they did not want a drive through style restaurant moving into a particular area where there were already major issues with traffic congestion and safety. This eventually resulted in a Chik-fil-a having its planning proposal shot down by council such that the lot is now likely to house an Aldi. I am getting low cost groceries instead of bigotry chicken in my neighborhood because of a D&D party’s worth of regular speakers.

A turnout of residents shouting down an attempt to reduce the amount of funding for the community Juneteenth celebration until Council backed down. One meeting. Roughly a dozen people + their kids speaking about the significance of the holiday. The celebration ended up having its full funding restored.

In my experience, it is incredibly easy to bully local politicians and get some sort of results, especially in small municipalities. If you have something that you want to see happen at the local level, seriously try to contact your local officials and see what you can make happen.

sleepycatmama

I single-handedly got them to double the number of chickens you are allowed to keep in my former town.

pcktknife

it's awesome that I will never ever kill myself but always feel like I wanna for no good reason

mihai-florescu

derinthescarletpescatarian

Except, critically, at bedtime.

findersfeeders

Ravings and urges get miscoded over time. Let’s say you’re thirsty, and you live in a strawberry field. Strawberries contain some water and a bunch of sugar so, over time, you may start to crave strawberries when you are thirsty because you get a reward and some relief in shorter time from the need starting than the trek to the stream. This can happen for every need: sleep, food, whatever.

Trevor Noah has a great tip, that when he craves ice cream at night he breaks it down into parts: I want something cold, I want something sweet. He drinks a glass of cold water then waits to see if he still has the ice cream craving. Usually he doesn’t.

So listening to your body isn’t “follow every urge” but “decompose the urge to discover the underlying need.”

If you always feel like getting cozy in bed you may be: cold, dehydrated, and/or malnourished (maybe a need for high calories that are bioaccessible…not processed).

If you do not feel tired at bedtime you may: need to eat dinner earlier because your body is still digesting, need to exercise or go outside more during the day, get the fuck off your screen for an hour so your brain can enter sleep mode.

Hope this helps someone.

P.S. notice i said nothing about neurodivergence. Not that it’s not a likelihood but the over-pathologization of behaviors prevents us from taking simple actions to improve our wellbeing. Also, these tips are pretty accessible and applicable to most brain variations.