sarah st.

1 part artist 4 parts raccoon 2 parts gypsy 1 part hiccup 1 part explorer 3 parts hermit crab 1 part robot i am an average art student in a big world. someday, i will be an art teacher. Indianapolis, Indiana Twitter: Hellosarahst

[catsi]

pretty fucked up how christian beliefs are referred to as “stories” but indigenous beliefs are referred to as “mythology”

[wizardshark]

im gonna start calling it all “christian mythology” now and watch people literally melt in fury

[a-thesis-film-destroyed-me]

I call it Christian mythology and the amount of angry looks I get from old people in public when I say it is honestly baffling and hysterical.

[catsi]

how come everyone here saw a post clearly meant to point out how people treat indigenous peoples’ religions with disrespect and decided to make it all about pissing off Christians?

the point of this post was very obviously “treat indigenous peoples better” but you have chosen to read it as “treat Christian religious beliefs more poorly”. i wanted people to reflect on the language they use to talk about the religions of indigenous peoples but that intent was apparently lost on many people.

i want you to ask yourself why you are more willing to make the effort to treat certain people unkindly than to treat other people with respect.

[obovoid]

i don’t want to achieve equality by sinking to men’s level, i want them to get on ours! why should i have to unlearn the conversational art of waiting my turn, unlearn sexual self-restraint, unlearn trust in others’ good intentions, unlearn the impulse to cater to others’ needs, just to have a chance at success among savages? why can’t the men learn some fucking manners so we can all conduct our affairs in a civilized manner? i shouldn’t have to stop saying sorry, you say sorry!

[marthawells-deactivated20181223]

In the 80s when I was in my freshman year in college, they still had entirely separate mens and women’s dorms. I was in class waiting for a final to start and one of the guys was telling someone about how he had had to go into a women’s dorm to drop something off, and he was startled to see posters on the walls, flowers, curtains, etc. He said his men’s dorm had holes in the walls, things on fire, fights, guys walking around with open wounds and he just didn’t understand why they had to live like this. He said, “I want to live with the women, in civilization.”

[alpacamyhedgehog]

Am reading Sisterhood of Spies, about women working for the OSS during WWII. One of the stories mentions that the women in London had a male visitor who would eat in their mess hall once a month. He was married and wasn’t interested in hitting on any of the women; he just wanted to eat in an atmosphere where people said “Please pass the butter,” instead of “PASS THE GODDAMNED GREASE”

[lasrina]

I dated a guy who brought me along on group activities (movies, video game night, etc.) with four or five other male friends. Once I mentioned to one of the other guys that I hoped I wasn’t intruding on their “guy time” or some such. He got this sort of rueful look and said, “The truth is, I really like it when you’re here because it gives us a reason to act better. When it’s just guys, we all have to try to outdo each other with how vile we are.”

[the-wolfbats]

So the moral of these stories are men don’t even treat each other like human beings.

[overwhelmsion]

[halfagony-halfhope]

(insp.)

[lillithblackwell]

Rosamund Pike in “Pride & Prejudice”

[pedro-reed]

endless list of pixar characters → ellie fredricksen (up)

[the-whateverest-jkb3-blog-deact]

“the second picture, of her sister being eaten by a shark, was a gift.”

[flavoracle]

A true gift to humanity.

[alicehaeffner]

You will be very, very sorry…. Forever.

Gotham Adventures #26

[alriviera]

Pride and Prejudice Go

An app that shows you where there’s a young man in possession of a good fortune who must be in want of a wife

[ethuil]

@garrulus

[bimbocracy]

every single negative stereotype about women was dreamt up by men who were projecting. fight me about it.

[bimbocracy]

“women can’t drive”

It is so well known that women are better and safer drivers than men that OUR CAR INSURANCE RATES ARE LOWER. Women get into fewer accidents, get fewer DUIs, and receive fewer speeding tickets than men.

“women never shut up”

Several scientific studies have shown that not only do men talk more than women, they also think that women have been talking for much longer than they actually have. Men interrupt and talk over women, dominate conversations, and still think women talk too much.

“women are shallow”

Lol next

“my wife is my ball and chain lmao”

Multiple studies have shown that marriage between men and women: Increases male lifespan, decreases female lifespan Decreases male depression rates, increases female depression rates Decreases male stress levels, increases female stress levels Increases male health and happiness, decreases female health and happiness Increases a man’s chance of getting a raise or promotion, decreases a woman’s chances of getting a raise or promotion

“women are too emotional”

Men love to say this about women after hurting them, in order to shift the blame and dismiss their feelings in one go. In reality, women are taught to hold our tongues and control ourselves quite literally from birth. We’re taught to put men’s needs and wants ahead of our own emotions regardless of the personal cost. Men are taught to do more or less whatever the fuck they want to women. Men take their emotions out on women while women are expected to shove theirs down.

I could go on and on but I don’t really think I need to.

[d0minas]

So, basically, according to this, I should be waaaaay more violent, both verbally and physically. The majority of men I know is like me; passive and have been learned to treat women with respect. It may be facts that’s here, and there are exceptions to everything.

And please, remember there are enough numbers here, only statistics that’s speaking with % but there are no numbers showing how many cases they have measured, nor does it say giw they did the measurement.

[wasmnowf-deactivated20180327]

In other words, we have a study with statistics but “I don’t know anyone like that” so it must be wrong.

[lectronyx]

What studies are you talking about? There’s nothing here showing any signs of them doing any actual research - they could have easily made all this shit up on their own. They don’t cite a single fucking source.

[wasmnowf-deactivated20180327]

You are correct in that OP should have included a source for these studies. http://www.opdv.ny.gov/professionals/abusers/genderandipv.html But my point was the data given was given in a format that assumes that there is a study of some sort to give the information.   @d0minas wasn’t arguing that the information was unsourced. They weren’t arguing that it was badly researched. They were arguing “Well I and my friends aren’t like that so this can’t be right” Which is what I was calling them out on.

In related news I wasn’t hungry yesterday so world hunger is fixed and there was a cold day this winter so global warming is a myth,.

[just-shower-thoughts]

When I receive a compliment, I wonder if people are being sincere, or if they’re just being nice to me because I am unknowingly severely emotionally and/or mentally handicapped.

[did-you-know]

A 124,500 square foot abandoned Walmart in McAllen, Texas, has been turned into the largest single-floor public library in the United States.

Source

[offbeatteacher]

Can we please make all Walmart stores into libraries?

[believingintheotherkate]

*happy sigh*

[fanghail-deactivated20151115]

just a note on that last post though, you can be feminist without actually owning a grenade launcher. many feminists cannot afford grenade launchers and choose to rent them from other, more powerful feminists, and thats ok! its even acceptable to just have a really big gun or a helicopter. its important to remember that grenade launchers are not a prerequisite of feminism, but only a common aspect.

[cnxbdjshehdhdhdh-deactivated201]

actors kiss each other for like 7 seasons and don’t fall in love but when someone holds the door for me i think about it for like 4 months

[dwelldreamer]

I never understood why a girl is always suppose to be that ride or die chick that stays with a man and helps him build and become the man she deserves but a guy is never told to stay with a woman while she finds herself. A guy will always look for that perfect woman but we are suppose to settle for a building project?! Fuck that.

[thotianadinell]

I love seeing posts like these because it really makes me realize how much I’ve been conditioned to live to uplift men. We really don’t ever hear about people telling men to stand by a woman when she has nothing and helping her reach her full potential. 

There was this other post about women learning to love what their men love and how men don’t do the same in return and thats so fucking true. 

It just makes feel like I’ve been brainwashed into settling for a partner that really isn’t as great as I probably think he is in my head.

Posts like these really have taught me what to look for in a partner because sometimes I feel like i can’t discern between what I really want and what I’ve been conditioned to want. 

[neoliberalismkills]

reblog if women with swords

[highacetate]

Good pub advice.

[inkskinned]

What is a nice guy? 

 I have met many, or so I was told. They sat across from me on first dates, deeply sniffing a wine and commenting on the forenotes of fruitiness before asking if I “read much?” They tell stories about their love of Kafka; pausing only to look at me with this sad little knowing smile. To a child, they tell me much about the books I have already read. They explain words I learned and used well before them. When I try to interupt, to explain that, yes, I read, and as a matter of fact Kafka is right next to Dante on my bedside, I am talked down. Talked over. 

 The nice men don’t understand why being nice isn’t working. Women, I guess, are strange creatures to them. When we are approached on the subway and told we are pretty; when we only flash quiet tight smiles, it is an affront. They were only trying to be nice, it’s not their fault that our bodies are ships that others want to pirate. We should know by the smell of your rose lips that nice men - they exist. It is my fault for being so goddamn difficult. Nice men decide for me it is their duty to inform me of my physical accommodation to their pleasure. That compliments have never come as knives, a cage to suffocate the bird in. That because they used “pretty” and not “hot,” We should be sure that we are safe, that nice men only want us to hear what’s best for us. We’ll miss it when we’re older. Nice men are doing us a favor, until we don’t smile for them. Then they are nice men telling us we are bitches, sluts. 

 The nice men are only trying to help. Women won’t take it, because we are all dumb wild animals bumping our blind eyes against “jerks” who don’t know what we really need. We don’t even know what we really need. What we need is a nice guy, and the nice men are there for that; to force her into situations where she stands to lose a close friend again because he couldn’t stop seeing her as a sex object. She doesn’t know it, but she needs him. Nice men tell me a lot about myself; without my mouth ever opening. Nice men tell me I’m too stupid for my own good and need to be explained every little thing, that I don’t know if I’m worthy until I cause attraction, that I can’t even make my own sexual decisions. 

 Nice men, I am told, are not like other men. Nice men sometimes even call themselves feminists and then write poems about how hard it is to be a male feminist. Nice men are artists with their dark disney princesses, are pleasantly amused by the efforts of queer girls, offer shading advice to someone with headphones in. Nice men tell you while you’re buying roof tiles to go get your boyfriend. Nice men don’t understand why we flinch when the label “nice guy” explodes in our faces. 

 We are silent in all of this, an active object that they fondle with their meaty mitts. They assume our little chickadee brains can’t conquer poetry. They teach without being asked for a lesson. They insert their opinion. They know better than we do, about our bodies, about what is best for us. We are a curious thing to them, that does not bend, that talks back on other frequencies, says silly girly things like “I read,” “Of course I knew that,” “I saved a life once,” “I don’t feel comfortable with a strange man approaching me,” “I am able of knowing who I should be dating,” “I am a human and I have my own life, am not hive mind, have my own experiences and values and feelings and you should stop assuming things about me.“ 

 Who told the nice men they are nice? What did they do to deserve that label? Was it be a decent person to that poor underclass of women? Did you deign to find them human? What does a nice man do that is nice besides tell me he is nice? What do the nice guys do? Did they ask us if we felt comfortable with the type of nice they offer? Did they ask us how to be nice or did they just all talk in one big group until some rules appeared, some “nice guy” guide. Is there a ceremony where nice girls and nice guys all sit around while the nice men sip wine and talk about how nice it is to be nice, did you know they once held a door and didn’t spit on her? The whole time us silly girls with our silly wildflower wilting hearts, we melt as these nice men glisten. 

Maybe the reason they think they are nice men is because they don’t ever stop to listen.

[inkskinned]

i want everyone to know that, since posting this a day ago, even with my ask off, i received not one, not two, but twenty-two [and counting] direct messages from men who are very nice men, telling me that they are nice men; and this sort of thing isn’t nice to nice men, and how in their experience, i’m wrong, and if they could just explain that while certainly there are those nice men, not all nice men are like that. that i should stop taking people being nice seriously, please calm down, if i don’t like it don’t look at it. that i met the wrong sort of nice men, as if my entire experience (and that of all the women in the tags who groan and agree) - well… it’s very lovely and written well but it’s simply not real nice men who are like this. it is remarkable to me these men think i have been in some sort of all-female society where i have only met a handful of these people, where my experience with men is not statistically viable. that i simply don’t know what i’m talking about, and really, the following eight paragraphs will set me straight on just how much of a nice guy they are; should i really be attacking them like that? do i want to be a bitch?

“well, ex-cuse me,” one man writes in the comments. 

you’re excused. please leave.