ivy scarlett

23f | living between hope and exhaustion

[scarlett-cupcake]

My Side blogs:

Personal blog: @lavenderoffline

Studyblog: @brownpapernotes

[cottaegecore]

when you start reading again and it's like oh. oh . the sun actually does still shine.

[byjove]

Without fail, every time a woman is talking about how she does not want to have children and never wants to be pregnant and how medical professionals, romantic interests and family members keep trying to bulldoze her decision and keep expecting her to change her mind because motherhood is something that is expected of all women and it is abhorrent to think a woman could not desire it, a random mother spawns in the comments to be like “Well, actually, you never know! I didn’t want children and then I got pregnant and I realized I love being a mama and I have five little babies now! Could happen to you! 🥰”

Sister, keep that to yourself or make your own goddamn post, you are ignoring that woman’s central concern and belittling her, you don’t even think you’re doing it. Formerly childfree women who ended up having children and loving it are like detransitioners in the sense that there is nothing inherently wrong with changing your mind about having children or realizing you were mistaken about your gender identity but immediately weaponizing your indecision to tell people that the barriers to healthcare and the violations of their bodily autonomy and the way society ignores that person’s wishes is actually okay because you were wrong. Some people do know themselves.

[snugisnobug]

(I know this is a bit off topic but)

Someone in the comments said something absolutely beautiful and that is

If you're uncertain about having kids- Don't Have Them

You can always have them later (adoption exists and is a valid way to have children) but you can NEVER take it back

And if you care about kids but are on the fence about having them? Why would you want a child to have a parent who's uncertain of whether they'd want them

But anyway, yes, Stop pressuring people to have kids when they don't want them. Especially if they're CERTAIN they don't want them

It's cruel, not only to the person who's bodily autonomy you're challenging, but also to a potential child who may be forced into a family who didn't or even still doesn't want them

(Not that the potential child should take precedence over the person who's bodily autonomy is at stake. But still..why would you want that)

[aforest2006remaster]

yesterday i made a beetle out of soda tabs and wire. we took the bus home.

[dafancyuhinspiration]

[girljeremystrong]

[sinni-ok-sessi]

I do think the ability to emoji-react is a net win for human communication. not only does it give you an outlet for 'I see and acknowledge this but don't have a verbal response' but it also adds a pleasing alethiometer element to things

my coworker announces that he's off to the dentist. someone reacts with a tooth emoji. is this a statement of dentist solidarity? a wish for my coworker to return with more (or fewer?) teeth than he set out with? simple word association? who can say

[dafancyuhinspiration]

[dogpuppy]

[circusheart]

If I keep practicing I might even be a person soon

[jirachiki]

Kamisama!

[combatxbaby]

emo boys have gone extinct and I will just need to learn how to accept that

[writingdose]

[animentality]

[captain-price-returns]

[filyahehh]

smartest cat ever!

[zombiegrrlll]