The fact that people don’t understand the purpose of Arya’s narrative will forever surprise me. There is a reason why Arya has to pretend to be smallfolk and why she is subjected to the life and experiences of the smallfolk when she escapes the Red Keep. There is a reason why Arya witnesses the injustices done against the smallfolk by the noble class she was born to. There is a reason why she is repeatedly hit in the head time and time again that even her brother’s army and even her family have done horrible things that brought suffering to the smallfolk.
She looked about to see that no guards were near, and spat three times. "There's for the Tullys and there's for the Lannisters and there's for the Starks." (Arya VI ACOK)
"They put eight people to the sword at Tumbler's Falls," he said. "They wanted the Kingslayer, but he wasn't there so they did some rape and murder." He jerked a thumb toward the corpse with maggots where his manhood ought to be. "That one there did the raping. Now move along."
She looked at their filthy hair and scraggly beards and reddened eyes, at their dry, cracked, bleeding lips. Wolves, she thought again. Like me. Was this her pack? How could they be Robb's men? She wanted to hit them. She wanted to hurt them. She wanted to cry. They all seemed to be looking at her, the living and the dead alike. (Arya V ASOS)
"Who did it, then?" asked Gendry.
"Hoster Tully." Notch was a stooped thin grey-haired man, born in these parts. "This was Lord Goodbrook's village. When Riverrun declared for Robert, Goodbrook stayed loyal to the king, so Lord Tully came down on him with fire and sword. After the Trident, Goodbrook's son made his peace with Robert and Lord Hoster, but that didn't help the dead none."
A silence fell. Gendry gave Arya a queer look, then turned away to brush his horse. Outside the rain came down and down. (Arya VIII ASOS)
And that reason is because Arya will now truly understand what it was like for the smallfolk once she comes out of hiding and reclaims her name and title. And that knowledge is going to affect how she does and what she does in the future as a leader/politician of some sort. Arya is going to be the one that will caution against needless conflicts and wars because she knows what that does to the smallfolk and regardless of what some people think, she does care about them, deeply. A huge part of Arya’s narrative themes are justice, humility, and mercy, and these aspects are essential for a good leader/politician to have. Â
And I find it hard to believe that so many in this fandom are so obtuse or willfully blind about Arya’s narrative purpose and endgame. From the very beginning GRRM set Arya up to be an activist and revolutionary. She has always been open minded when it comes to class, culture, race, and religion, and she has always been angered by the injustices of her society. Hell, GRRM blatantly said in interviews that he modeled Arya from 60s and 70s feminist activists and revolutionaries. And Arya named her direwolf, Nymeria, after a powerful woman who brought great social change to Dorne. In Arya’s very first chapter she proclaims that “the woman is important too!” and Nymeria brought more rights for women to Dorne. The direwolves are supposed to be this great foreshadowing tool for the accompanying Stark’s, but people love to ignore the implications when it comes to Arya’s direwolf being named after a powerful woman who brought positive change to the people she ruled over. And they love ignoring how Arya’s direwolf leads a pack of hundreds. But they really love not making any of these connections in Arya’s arc, and that connection is that Arya in the future is going to use her privilege as a leader/politician is going to bring about positive change for women and smallfolk and that is solely due to her open mindedness and acceptance of people from all walks of life and because she personally knows what it’s like to live as a smallfolk. And yeah, Arya still had a certain level of privilege by being a secret lady/princess and she could have revealed it at any time, but that wouldn’t have made her safe. Imagine if she had told Bolton who she was. Do you all really think she would have been safe from Ramsay? No, they would have just forcibly married her to Ramsay instead of Jeyne pretending to be her. So it’s dumb thinking that Arya brought her suffering on by “ignoring her privilege”.
I don’t know how people can read the books and read GRRM’s interviews and come to the conclusion that GRRM isn’t going for a more progressive and revolutionary ending. It’s why all of his key five characters are more progressive than the other characters and that’s because they are going to be the rulers in the end. And it’s not even just his key five characters, the other characters he is setting up to rule their regions in the end are also generally more progressive than the average noble in these books. Asha and Edmure for instance are great examples. Edmure actually cares about protecting his people and Asha wants peace with the North rather than war and more prosperity for her people. Â
I don’t know how to tell you all this, but generally in times of great upheaval there is change. After the Black Death during the reign of King Richard II, there was the Peasant’s Revolt, where the peasants demanded higher ranges when they realized that after so much death, their time and skills were in higher demand than they’ve ever seen. And guess what? After the revolts rural wages continued to increase. By the end of ASOIAF we are going to see a shortage of people which means that more women will inherit, more bastards will be legitimized and will inherit, and more common people will be titled and made into nobility. This for example will likely change some things about their society in general when it comes to gender equality and classism from there on out. And yes, there is going to be a lot less people which means that farming and all manner of peasant trades are going to be in increasing demand which will likely lead to higher wages for those people and more women joining the workforce. Now the books aren’t going to end with the end of feudalism/monarchy and it’s not going to be a democracy, but it is going to be more progressive regardless due to these circumstances alone. But then you add in people like Arya and Dany and Jon and Bran and Tyrion and Asha and Edmure and Arianne and Brienne and Samwell and it’s hard to believe that it won’t become increasingly better for the women and the smallfolk throughout the coming years after the War for the Dawn.