...your friend is getting abused and their abuser got them to cut off their social circle and your response is to continually tell them they caused all of that to themselves? ummm
this does not make you seem sympathetic
I think you got things mixed up & probably didn't get the implications.
First of all, their social circle has always been abusive, cause that's basically all the ppl they have around them, did horrible things that have traumatized them horribly & have parents that would approve of even the most gross individuals that wanted to get involved w them.. But the same people started being nice towards them just cause they went the npc route (& for some reason don't care how fake that niceness is), even if my frenemy was well aware they didn't need to do it at all, when they were literally always being put off by the very same route & criticizing others for being like that. They just let others manipulate them into thinking being an npc is smth they need to be & just accepted it. Even tho I've been telling them they don't need to go through it & was repeatedly told by them, "No, don't worry, I won't be like that".
And while idk how the mf is to them, but I believe that at some point they manipulated & convinced them that they should be an NPC, despite doing multiple things w/no my frenemy's consent.
They literally fulfilled their abusers' wishes, even if they didn't need to, and started feeling entitled for being the exact same as the majority, just for the approval.
They complained about physical pain once & how they hate it, which was caused by knocking up. I told them that they chose to be stupid & that they had the choice to quit it. They got mad at me 4 not feeling bad for smth they brought themselves into, despite knowing how much their bs has hurt me & that I'm against ppl like this. They weren't forced to go through that state in the first place & didn't argue with me severely how they chose this path.. But wanted me to feel bad for having the complications of the same path that was completely avoidable? Okay.
And while they're somehow affected by their shitty surroundings, it's not an excuse to sabotage me when, according to them earlier, I was the only one, who didn't agree w the sexist & objectifying treatment they received from others. And that apparently, if it wasn't for me, they'd go through the npc system way earlier. Though they went through it anyway & get mad at me whenever I remind them they could have gone differently back then.
But then, it's not the first time that they picked an abusive person over me, were aware of the actions of that person, complained they're getting treated like shit but would still yell at me for telling them to cut the person off anyway. Except they were still normal back then & didn't break every single promise or didn't switch their personality like they did recently.
I don't exactly know what I've written in my older posts, but I purposefully wasn't detailed or was just implying. Cause the main point is that I'll never feel bad for someone who's inconsiderate of their only friend they had (cause they pretty much talked to ppl from their surroundings or ghosted their other friends), as if they didn't lovebomb them for years, didn't tell them they'd be screwed without them & are well aware that I have no one else, but then randomly switch on me just cuz of their abusive surroundings' fake approval that they let some mf on them, and basically changed into the type of person I despise. They're the kind of people pleaser that will please everyone but those who actually want to help them.
They're also a huge hypocrite in things like shaming ppl who've abused me & calling me ridiculous if I mention missing someone like that, but when I do that for ppl that harmed them, or when I pointed out giving in to their abusers, then they got mad at me for it.
But you clearly know the situation well, for sure.
