IT’S BECAUSE OF THE CURSE

ok

[mousidy]

not the end of the world but it is annoying when people complain about being "pressured" to transition, and the "pressure" is usually just a suggestion or light joking from friends, or a miraculously pro-trans medical professional who actually tells people they have options

like ok it may be annoying for you, but some of us are being forced not to transition through legislation, violence, or denied access to care. the overwhelming majority of the pressure is against transition. god forbid anyone tries to provide a little encouragement in case they're talking to someone who actually needs to hear it

[mousidy]

you cannot do anything in case someone is trans without people raising a stink. you have to assume they're cis until they say otherwise, but even after that you're supposed to treat them like they will imminently change their mind. you have to gender a baby by their genitalia until they're old enough to correct you, you can't let children choose to take hrt, you can't tell grown adults transition is an option

we are told since before we even start forming memories that we are one thing, we are forced through traumatizing, unwanted puberties whose effects we can never fully reverse, and kept in the dark until we just happen to stumble upon the realizations that will save us, and then we are made to fight tooth and nail to get the care we need "just to be safe," just in case we change our fucking minds and comply decide we were cis all along

you're never more than a few miles from multiple opportunities to buy cigarettes, but you have to do backflips through flaming hoops while reciting Shakespeare's Sonnet 15 in ten languages if you want the privilege of taking some pills that make your skin softer and change where your body fat sits

[mousidy]

even a beginner to "buying a gun" speedrunning can get a sub 1 minute time, but "getting hrt" speedruns are more like those really long animal crossing speedruns where they spend multiple real life days catching all the bugs and filling out the catalog, except even then it's not close

[bonef1sh]

honestly as a lesbian and f/f enjoyer i wish ppl would stop treating shipping f/f as like. something you are a superior #feminist for only because it results in such a weird attitude around it. like i want people to care abt f/f because they are genuinely compelled by interpersonal dynamics and chemistry between characters and not just as moral posturing or even as a 'well since these het relationships are bad lets throw them into a wholesome chungus relationship where theyre so good for each other and that will solve aaaaaaaall the misogyny problems' like idk many such cases where the f/f thats messy and where they treat each other badly is also the f/f where characters are most respected and written as realistic and complete people. like why do only men get to be tragic and toxic and women just have to be niceys and fix each other. which is to say if u dont care about f/f its fine! genuinely! you dont have to! id rather have the niche be taken up by ppl who are in it for the actual love of the game instead of having it be treated as a chore or as an easy fix to any writing problems without any additional in depth thought on the matter

[reesepiece2]

Twitter

[butchfagminotaur]

i don’t know how to explain to you people that no matter what a country’s government is like i do not and will not support the US indiscriminately bombing that country’s civilians and i don’t know why that’s a controversial take tbh

[butchfagminotaur]

“oh iran is a dictatorship!” “oh palestine is homophobic!” i don’t care like literally i don’t care that’s not a problem to be solved by other countries blowing innocent people up

[squigglebug]

I know this has been said so many times in so many words but it is never any less infuriating that we never seem to have basic social services money but we always have fucking war crime money

[squigglebug]

fucking evergreen post I guess

[misslourdes]

[milanesa42]

Yank citizens are evil because when their country bombs another one their first thought is "this is bad because it's costing taxpayers money". And they think like this because they simply do not see Iranians as human beings

[tamamita]

Yank citizens are also evil because when their country bombs another one their first thought is "this is bad, bc American soldiers will die". And they think like this because they simply do not see Iranians as human beings

[funkyfeefee]

Yank citizens are also evil because when their country bombs another one their first thought is "this is bad but I also don't support the people being bombed because they are (insert bigotry that was directly/indirectly caused by imperialism)". But if you dare do the same to them they will start screeching. And they think like this because they simply do not see Iranians as human beings

[opencommunion]

how are westerners so thoroughly programmed that even when you see the violence of your empire, you parrot the same lies used to sell that violence. "bombing a school is wrong but the iranian people should be freed from the regime—" "abducting a president is wrong but the venezuelan people should be freed from the regime—" "starving people with sanctions is wrong but the cuban people should be freed from the regime —" the western people need to be freed from the regimes that brainwashed you, and I mean that

[loveridden1999]

i am genuinely so sick & tired of america and israel getting away with bombing countries unprovoked and committing genocide. there is no such thing as a "pre-emptive" attack. trust me if any of this were happening to an European country instead of the global south we wouldn't have to beg and protest for people to consider the lives being taken as human lives instead of obscure numbers. it is sick . so fucking sick and depraved. death to usa and israel. and if i see ANY jokes about about "i am not ready for ww3 haha i am so scared" i am blocking you on sight idgaf

[shadeslayer]

can non natives stop acting surprised and performatively jokey "uhh what lol!" about ice going after native americans. theyve been doing this for years and it ramped up last year and i had to hear all the stupid "uhhhh where will u deport them to 😜 silly republicans!" comments as if its not always been about detaining torturing murdering using as slave labor scattering communities through fear and intimidation etc. be an adult and act with maturity please. its not quirky or confusing its directly in line with americas racism and white supremacy to make sure native americans are eradicated

[shadeslayer]

i think people forget that 1) there are native americans that are real people living in the world that you could meet day to day 2) native americans are brown. and can be identified as being brown. especially by groups that do not like brown people.

[gin-juice-tonic]

Something you should always remember about every single person you see on this site is that they are a tumblr user. They are the kind of person who uses tumblr

[treecitysessions]

Why does everyone think fiction is just fantasy wish fulfillment now and not like an exploration of themes and ideas

[treecitysessions]

People will be like “this movie is evil and gross because it depicts a predatory relationship” and then you watch the movie in question and it’s about how preying on young women is bad and impacts their lives negatively

[treecitysessions]

“Why would they do this instead of just making everyone in the movie nice and normal and good” so we would have this conversation….

[kitkatpancakestack]

WE HAVE GOT TO START LOVING THE PROCESS MORE THAN THE PRODUCT AGAIN

[sugashook]

watching a movie

[monkeyislandtwo]

i think "[sic]" is one of the funniest things of literature. like yeah this guy really wrote it out like that

[demonprincex]

honestly any time you try to explain an oppression you experience by comparing it to an oppression you do not experience you run the risk of acting like the other oppression isn't as serious as your own, or showing really obvious gaps in your understanding of lived experience and so it's generally best not to do it.

for example, abled people will often talk about mental health stigma in a way that minimizes physical disability stigma. "Anti-depressants are just an accessibility tool! You wouldn't take a person's wheelchair away!"

Well, people take away and destroy wheelchair users' chairs all the fucking time, so it's weird to act like mental health stigma is somehow a bigger problem.

Similarly, non-Black people will routinely use anti-Blackness as a mere metaphor for the prejudice they experience.

"You wouldn't say the n word, so don't use offensive terms like [the o word for fat people, the t slur for trans women]!"

Well people very much do use the n word a lot. That is a pretty significant thing that happens. Why are you positioning it as if fighting anti-Blackness is somehow a settled issue but fatphobia and transmisogyny aren't?

there are more delicate ways to talk about the similarities between oppressions, but you have to have an equally deep appreciation for how both forms of oppression work if you want to compare them and not sound really goofy and entitled. i think it is always important to ask why you are even doing it in the first place. do you think people take the other form of oppression more seriously? do you think it is less of a problem than your oppression? do you think people are more aware of and considerate toward oppressions you have never lived? why do you think that?

[demonprincex]

however, once you really begin to deeply understand how a variety of forms of oppression function and where they come from, especially oppressions you do *not* have firsthand lived experience with, then you may become able to talk about how they are all interrelated because you can see their common roots. but be careful!!! put in the work!!!

[lesanguin-deactivated20251022]

It's kinda darkly hilarious that in people's mind the only reason a black trans masc would have empathy for trans women is for some machiavellian purpose and not because blackness (black femininity especially) is policed in a similar manner to trans femininity.

This is why I know, despite the relentless jabbering on about intersectionality, many queer people struggle with the truth of it.

They genuinely cannot see why someone who was raised as a little black girl, in a world that despises black femininity/women/girls, would care about trans women or feel kinship with them.

Let's look at some misogynoirist tropes and see if they remind us of any other female social group 🤔

Black girls are seen as a danger to other girls/women

BW/G are seen as innately more aggressive and violent

BW/G are thought to be deserving of social segregation (i.e., disproportionate exclusion rates, literal society wide segregation in some nations)

More deserving of sexual abuse due to narratives about black female promiscuity

If a BW/BG speaks up about abuse she must be lying (because we are innately deceitful in the eyes of society)

BW/BGs are "mannish women" who require excessive ornamentation to be beautiful in society's eyes (à la "you're pretty...for a black girl", "is that your real hair?", etc)

BW/BG are heavily associated with sex work

BW/BG are at risk of police brutality at elevated rates

Elevated risk of SA and domestic abuse (in several countries) despite being less likely to report/recieve justice

Belittled and condescended to frequently

Mocked in the media relentlessly, frequently by cis men in excessive feminine dress to the point of parody

It is seen as socially acceptable to speculate on/marvel at the sexual characteristics of a black woman

Obsession with the spectacle of the "sexually dominant black woman"

BW/BG are associated with criminality

BW/BG athletes are often the subject of witch hunts and mass bullying campaigns (Serena Williams, Caster Semenya, Angel Reese)

Now, some of these might overlap, but these are just 15 common experiences of black women and fem(me)s. Yes, I'm a trans masc, but some of these experiences I've had are because of my social caste as a black woman, I have no pretences about that.

You'd have to be a genuine moron to look at that list and not see, clear as day, which subsection of the queer community most closely aligns with these stigmas.

If you actually develop an intersectional outlook, it becomes very obvious why I sympathise with trans women. It's the golden rule. Do for others as you wish others had done for you. It's actually scary some of you don't get that.