Tea and pieces

follows from wonderflee

[diamondringsandgutterbones]

"do it scared" "do it alone" "do it bored" what about MY strategy. do it later

[nudityandnerdery]

Honestly, y'all, I'm begging you. Take the time to think and learn for yourself. Even if it's just something casual like knitting or cooking. Exercise your brain. It's important.

[westiec]

see the THING IS I don't feel like I ever worked hard enough to have "earned" the burnout, which is. probably how we got here.

[unashamedly-enthusiastic]

Devastating to have more evidence that done IS better than perfect

[unashamedly-enthusiastic]

Additionally, findings indicate that the act of doing shows you that you were not seeking perfection, you were fearing inadequacy

[unashamedly-enthusiastic]

@grey-and-lavender

#oh that last line gutted me #is there a place between perfect and failure?

Good news! There is!

Bad news! It is called 'done'

[grey-and-lavender]

✨ fuck ✨

[skidnese]

The problem is an iced coffee might fix me

[ixtaek]

[catchymemes]

[freakoutgirl]

*feels my body get anxious for no reason* what is it boy, what do you see?

[soap-stones]

I will probably also make more structured resolutions but for now. pinterest collage

GOODBYE

[skidnese]

@witcheryen beautiful

[thoodleoo]

*gritting my teeth* the only way out is through and by god im taking all of you with me

[magic-coffee]

I'm like a girl who wants to read more books but doesn't

[sjdsjkdlskdas-deactivated202012]

part of what makes tragedies tragic is the story being preventable from the outside but unpreventable from the inside

[mysteryteacup]

If they had done things differently they could have been happy, but to do things differently would require them to be someone else.

[abyssa111]

Skia - Elsa Tierney

[kiera--b]

did the dinosaurs look at the meteor and thought “how pretty”?

[notaseabass]

For some context this is from the meteor seen over Portugal earlier this year. I assume that is the reference point at least

[spikedru]

dream job is to be that one rotted hand that bursts out of the grave to snatch some stupid idiot by the ankles and pull them under the earth

[therapyhorrorstories]

Whenever I see a therapist as an adult, I tell them I grew up in a shitty family and give them examples of what I mean and they say "Hm. Yes. That is exceptionally shitty parenting that could go a long way towards explaining why you are the way that you are."

I also saw a LOT of therapists when I was a child, all chosen by my parents of course. And none of them ever suggested that my upbringing might be anything less than ideal or told my parents that they were the ones needed to change.

It is difficult for me to make sense of this discrepancy in a way that makes therapy as a profession look good. The most charitable explanation is that my parents consciously or subconsciously sought out therapists who would agree with them. But frankly the explanation I keep coming back to is "therapists make a living by yes-anding whoever is giving them money; they don't actually have any special insight into the human condition and the belief that they do is dangerous".

[hyperlexichypatia]

Reminds me of that viral post where the person thought they had a real gotcha on their therapist who said "Children are resilient" with "Then why do all adults need therapy?" and skimmed right past the obvious answer "Because it's in the therapist's personal and professional interest to propagate the idea that 'everyone needs therapy.'"

[zwoelffarben]

#the yes and-ing applies less the more marginalised you are via @eroticcannibal

Yeah. I've heard quite the horror stories from Black and Brown people, Women, and Trans people re: their identity as a marginalized person not being taken seriously as a legitimate cause of trauma because the nonmarginalized (along that axis) therapist sitting in the big chair either didn't want to address those concerns for the sake of their own comfort or merely didn't believe those concerns were valid.

But, more relevant to direction this discussion was headed, is the idea that children are one of the most consistently marginalized groups: society is shaped such that children are denied autonomy, agency, validation, and so on at a systemic level, and therapists fundementally opperate as a part of that system.

Even before taking to account the conflict of interest created by the parent being the client paying for therapy rather than the child (see: why sigmond freud's body of work is like that): the thoughts and concerns of children get minimized and neglected because the child is a child.

It's only once that child's thoughts and concerns become the thoughts and concerns of an adult looking back on their childhood that they are considered wort looking at wit any seriousitude.

[melancholic-fig-deactivated2025]

I don’t know who said this but the field of psychology is kinda like Astronomy in Ancient Egypt - brand new, clearly onto something, but you’re never sure if you’re discussing very much real and serious things (like stars moving across the skies) or basically Astrology. This is why most psychologists suck, because their advice is walking the line between “this very real, palpable thing affects you, we’re just not sure how and why yet” and “you suffer because you’re a water sign”.

[a-polite-melody]

Truly makes me think about my experience with seeing a psychologist as a child because I’d identified a pattern of my mother treating other children better than me and felt she didn’t love me because of that and having expressed that after a particularly bad experience of that happening…

and why the answer was, “I don’t know what’s wrong here,”

rather than the obvious, “maybe try treating your kid the same as other kids.”

[touhouweed]

I just want queer safety and queer happiness

[touhouweed]

and a queer $500k