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Kdrama Recommendations!
Hey guyssss as 1k followers gift, the sweetie von-due asked for some kdrama recs!
Ok so I made a list with my favs:
-Goblin
-Cinderella and The Four Knights
-W- Two worlds
-Coffee Prince
-Weightlifting Fairy, Kim Bok Joo
-Fight for My Way
-Strong Woman, Do Bong Soon
-Introverted Boss
-The Lover
-Bromance (taiwanese drama!!!)
They are not in a particular order, I just listed them for you guyss
honest kdrama reviews
these are all the kdramas that ive watched and im just gonna put them all here and what you should know about them
THIS IS WORTH READING IF YOU WANNA WATCH ANOTHER GOOD KDRAMA TRUST ME
*no particular order
reply 1997
set in the 90s
follows a group of friends and how they stick together during this time
two guys that go after a girl and the drama is a guessing game on who ends up being her husband
good life lessons
good ost (original soundtrack)
it’s hilarious
not a typical kdrama, very original
what stuck out with this drama is it’s creativity. you’ll never watch a drama like this bc of the setting
reply 1994
set in the 90s (this is a series but they are all different stories)
follows a group of friends and how they stick together during this time
once again trying to figure out who is the husband
good life lessons
good ost
also hilarious
very original
if you don’t do well with second leads as in you have sls (second lead syndrome) then you will most likely fall for the guy that isn’t the husband but tbh it depends on you
what stuck out with this drama is also the setting. all of these are different settings and they don’t have the same plot
reply 1988
set in the 80s-90s
uGH this drama honestly gets to me it’s so fricking good.
if you’re thinking rn that you dont want to watch these dramas bc it’s set in the old times WATCH THESE I GUARANTEE YOU WONT REGRET IT
this is the highest rated kdrama in history trust me it’s good
it’s a little bit slow in the beginning but it picks up and it’s worth it
same kind of idea as the previous reply series
everything about this drama is amazing. everything.
this one is different from the other reply series bc it’s not as easy to guess who the husband is.
the director is really good and there is a lot of foreshadowing and clues that you’ll have to work hard to find
this drama is so well put everything connects together
you will fall in love with all the characters they’re so funny ok im done
queen in hyun’s man
ok don’t skip this drama just bc it’s historical
the plotline is basically this guy from the joseon dynsasty time travels to modern day and meets this girl (and obv you know what happens next)
super cute drama and funny
the couple actually ended up dating too!! they broke up but still
what stuck out was the amazing chemistry for this drama
city hunter
this really smart guy who is also amazing at hunting meets this girl who works as the bodyguard for the blue house
a lot of secrets
it’s a very heavy drama as in there’s a lot to take in and understand
highly rated drama tho
what stuck out is the creative plot line
rooftop prince
after the death of this crown prince’s wife, he time travels 300 years later and meets this girl who looks like the deceased princess
the guys in this drama are so funny and cute and you’ll love them
similar to queen in hyun’s man so if you watch that watch this
what stuck out was the plot and the comedy
you’re beautiful
this girl who has a twin pretends to be her brother and ends up joining this kpop group lol
she’s pretending to be a guy but she ends up falling for the singer
super funny
you’re gonna love the other guys in this drama they’re so cute and funny
what stuck out was the cold main lead i love when it’s a cold guy falling for the girl lol
innocent man
oh man this drama.. it’s a melodrama first of all
honestly i don’t even like melodramas bc theyre sooooooo hard to keep watching like it’s just so ongoing
this drama tho.. it’s got song joong ki and lee kwang soo so i mean cmon
it’s got funny moments
it’s an amazing plot line. the guy takes the blame for his gf who murdered a man and when he gets out of jail she marries this sugar daddy. he’s obv pissed and tries to get back at her by “falling in love” with the girl who’s dad is the ex-gf’s sugar daddy (ik it’s complicated). but then he actually starts falling for the girl and yeah
it’s worth watching im not gonna lie just try it
what stuck out was song joong ki bc he’s amazing
dream high
lol this drama well it’s got singing first of all
basically all these people who go to this music school and everyone has an interesting story to them
actually pretty inspirational
it’s one of the dramas that you just must watch heading into kdrama
boys over flowers
well if you know anything about kdrama you’ve prolly heard of boys over flowers. if not, you’re in for a ride
it’s the kdrama that EVERYONE knows and has seen
the heirs is basically the same as this btw but this is the original
a group of elite boyz and this one poor girl and she falls for the rich boi
it’s much more complicated than that
playful kiss
this drama :)))
typical cold popular boy falls for dumb girl honestly she’s so dumb it kills
basically this girl’s house crumbles after an earthquake (only her house bc it’s crap lol) and so they move into the guys house bc their parents are super close together
it’s so so funny lol and it’s very lighthearted through the entire drama
it’s one of my faves you gotta watch it
it’s okay that’s love
this man is a mystery writer and a radio dj. he meets a psychiatry student and they both fall in love but man they got problems of their own. he’s got an obsession and she also has an issue psychology wise
it’s comedy but it’s also not at times it’s good
the characters make it so entertaining once again kwang soo is in it
what stuck out is the interesting plotline
princess hours
so basically this normal high schooler gets to marry this cold hearted crown prince and they start off w a really weird relationship but then you see how the two of them grow together
it’s so weird and funny
the leads are very cute even though theyre super awkward at times
the guys are super hot so like yeah
personal taste
another cold man warm hearted girl
the girl thinks that he’s gay so she takes him up as a roommate
it’s funny and it’s got lee min ho
the second lead actors are kinda annoying but you can deal
hi! school love on
this is one interesting drama let me tell ya
it’s not as popular but it’s pretty good
this angel becomes a human in order to save someone
it’s interesting bc you’d never find this kind of drama
the actors and actresses are very cute
it’s a cute innocent kind of show
to the beautiful you
oh this drama
another cute kind of drama filled w delicious looking boys
this girl goes to a boys school and pretends to be a boy
she falls in love w this guy who is super athletic but also cold hearted
heartstrings
it’s set in an art university and it’s about pursuing your dreams
a music kind of kdrama
good music in here obviously
the lead actor is hot
he is also cold god i love cold guys
cheese in the trap
another cold guy drama heh
basically this guy that has it all (looks money etc) has a dark side to him and he falls for this girl who is poor but she is v smart and he tries to help her
it’s pretty interesting i dont think it’s similar to the normal kdrama
cute actors everywhere
emergency couple
this is one funny drama
it’s got song ji hyo from running man she’s perfect
basically the two main actors were once married but then they divorced and years later they end up working in the same hospital
there’s sls in this so be careful
it’s a medical kind of comedy drama
you who came from the stars
one of the most popular kdramas and highly highly rated globally
it’s quirky in the beginning but it’s worth it trust me
this alien crashes on earth during joseon dynasty and he lives till modern day
he’s perfect and all his senses are like 4x better than humans
he meets this stuck up snobby actress and the rest is history
the heirs
basically the same as boys over flowers (see above) except it’s not so dragging and the annoying parts/concepts aren’t in this one
the actors are all cute and you’ll fall in love w so many people
the master’s sun
this one is precious to me
it’s got the best ost ever it’s so good
this girl is able to see ghosts and they always bother her
one day she meets this guy that is able to get rid of the ghosts when she touches him
so she comes off as a stalker bc she’s always trying to touch him to get rid of the ghosts
this is so original and every episode is interesting
it’s funny and you’ll love the secretary. the old man is the best
my princess
this normal average girl ends up being a princess after secrets of her birth come out and this man who is v successful gives everything up in order to serve and protect her bc of his grandfather’s creed
it’s a typical kdrama but it’s good and it’s super cute
you’ll love the main lead he’s so handsome and the drama is v cute
you get to watch how an average girl starts from the bottom and works her way up to become a princess
secret garden
you will not watch a kdrama like this ever trust me
basically this cold rich guy and this cool stunt lady meet at this weird place and drink some weird potion and the next day they switch bodies
they randomly switch bodies and it’s super funny and weird and so they have to deal w each other
it’s funny and it’s v interesting
another one of the super highly rated dramas
suspicious partner
an ongoing drama rn but it’s so good omo
this girl in training to be a prosecutor breaks up w her bf and later on is the suspect for murdering her ex. the main lead actor (my bae ji chang wook) is a prosecutor and he is able to save her but risks his job (it’s ok he builds his own firm)
all the characters are super fun and quirky and this drama will make you laugh and will make you feel scared at times but it’s a real mystery and comedy and it’s super good
good drama to make your friends watch for the first time. i did it w a girl who didnt think she’d like kdrama and she watched 17 episodes in one night soooo
no annoying love triangles
fight my way
also an ongoing drama
this is such an inspirational drama
a group of friends that once had dreams when they were younger are now working in average jobs and they live off of their paychecks. they still want to pursue their dreams even though it seems to be too late for them
it’s so so so funny and the main actor is so hot
this drama is just perfect in itself
it depicts real life REAL life!! it stays away from typical kdrama scenes and honestly this one will move you
strong woman do bong soon
highly rated kdrama
the actors are so so cute
and when i say cute i mean they are the definition of cute
it’s a hilarious drama that’ll make you cry w tears
this girl has superwoman strength and she becomes this rich guy’s bodyguard but it’s much more complicated than that
she’s out to get the bad guys
this girl is so independent you will love this drama if you’re sick and tired of the typical helpless damsel in distress
hwarang
HOT HANDSOME BOYS EVERYWHERE
it’s a historic drama but it’s good
this no name guy goes to the capital and his best friend was just murdered so he’s out for revenge but little does he know he ends up being a part of the elite group of hwarang boys that are built to protect the kingdom
the bromance is stronger than the romance and you will love the bromance trust me
the SLS is really strong in this one so watch out
sorry im too excited but the boys in this drama are all perfect and so cute
there’s a lot of secrets in this one
healer
another ji chang wook drama he’s so hot
this is centered around a case that has a lot of secrets. it’s a big mystery and this man is trying to go after people related to this case in order to solve the mystery
you got a fighter boy who has a history himself and he meets this chill girl
she’s a strong independent woman and you will love the action in this drama
everything about this drama is good
you’re all surrounded
such a quirky funny drama
a group of people (best squad ever) are all detectives and theyre out to catch the bad guys
a different case every time and you would think there’s no comedy but trust me there’s lots
the characteres are all super funny and loving
she was pretty
first of all major SLS so fall for the right boy
this girl that used to be super pretty turns “ugly” and then glows up again
the main lead used to be a super ugly and chubby boy but he would comfort the girl all the time
they were supposed to meet up but he thought this pretty girl was her bc he didn’t think she would look that ugly
it’s a funny drama and youll like all the characters
the ost is really good
oh my venus
oh man this drama
similar to she was pretty, the girl has a major glow up
she also used to be the shit when she was younger but when she grew up she became really fat
this guy who is super successful ends up taking her in and helping her change into the person that she wants to be
it’s funny and it’s a sexy and hot drama
they’re super cute but man they really got it goin this couple
kill me heal me
orgjoiwejfor first of all if youre reading this and you havent watched it already, watch this.
before i get to the plotline, lemme tell ya, this drama has all the genres. it’s a real comedy and mystery and it’s just perfect
SO. this man has DID (dissociative identity disorder) also known as multiple personality disorder. he has seven personalities that haunt him and in order to try to suppress it, he hires a personal psychiatrist
this is such a good drama you will laugh and cry and it’ll get you
w
lol this is gonna sound weird but trust me it’s good
this popular comic series ends up turning into real life when the girl gets sucked into the comic and basically she’s livin a fake life in a comic
it gets complicated when the plot of the comic becomes real life and the villain is out to get them
it’s super complicated bc this girl is literally falling for a cartoon character who isn’t real but this one is another must watch
it won’t be boring at all during the episodes
oh my ghostess
this is another drama that is super good
this ghost takes people’s body and controls them and one day she takes this quiet and very introverted girl’s body
she ends up being stuck in it and it sounds bad but throughout the drama, the ghost and the girl help each other in order to get what they want
goblin
boi idk how i forgot to add this drama
this is def another one of those dramas where you’ll be like wtf is this plot what is this drama bc it’s just so…. interesting
the second lead male actor and other supporting actors are super cute omg i die
the ost is good too mmmm
alright get ready for another complicated plot… so the main character, kim shin is a v honorable general and the young king is jealous so he kills him. buT GUESS WHAT! this bih comes back alive as a goblin so he basically lives an immortal life. so fastforward to oh you know like 900 years, he’s looking for his human bride who is the only one who will be able to release his curse so that he can turn into ashes and stop living (the guys done w earth he’s been on for too long)
so yeah then the goblin saves this pregnant lady and she dies but the baby lives and the baby grows up with the ability to see ghosts and bc she was supposed to die, grim reapers look for her
i dont wanna hit u w too much plot so yeah go watch it it’s good
let me know what you guys think of the dramas and feel free to message me if you wanna know more about something :) i promise im nice
The U.S.P.S. and how Trump wants it dead
Americans, you know we need the Postal Service, right? For a whole lot of reasons. I’ve talked about this before, how the Republican party wants to get rid of it. Right now, they are really threatening to do it. You need to be loud and angry at your reps right now, ESPECIALLY if they are Republican.
The Postal Service is the most popular government service. It’s in the Constitution. It’s the only service that will deliver (has to deliver) to anywhere in the U.S. Even rural areas. And they do not charge more for it like FedEx, UPS, DHL, etc. They deliver your Amazon packages. They are also the only thing keeping FedEx, UPS, DHL, and the others from charging you *whatever the hell they want* to deliver your packages.
They also, and this is not a coincidence, deliver ballots so you can vote by mail. Voting by mail is now a serious issue for both fairness and for allowing Americans to vote while staying safely at home during a pandemic. (More people vote when they can vote by mail and Republicans know this.)
You have to go be loud and obnoxious again. Email and fax your reps and tell them to fund the U.S.P.S.
If you can prove to me by a picture of the envelope or back of the postcard that you send a letter (not an email) to your rep about funding the USPS, something I feel VERY passionately about, by 4/30, you will be entered to win a liveblog slot on my blog for May. Please send the picture as a submission, you can absolutely enter more than once but please think of a way to signify to me that were, in fact, different letters, and don’t cheat, please.
(I encourage other American content creators to do this)
I’m in. The importance of keeping the postal service open, accessible, and impartial to every citizen of every class and community in this country cannot be overstated.
So hell yeah, I’m in! Same rules as above: send me a picture of your postcard or letter to your rep about funding the USPS (physical mail is crucial! Emails won’t cut it) by 30 April 2020, and you’ll be entered into a drawing for a four-hour liveblog of your choice in May! Multiple letters to your reps, multiple chances to win!
I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one who has trouble remembering developmental milestones. I put these together, but can’t take credit for any of the photography. Hope someone finds them helpful!
This is very useful to me i have absolutely no gauge for how old children are and what they can typically do at what ages
For the past 2 years I’ve read more fanfiction than I have real books. I don’t regret a single fic
Did you ever finish a fanfic and thought; well I really hope this author published something…Like really.
This is me every time I re-read one of my favs or discover a new one.
Some fanfics writers are just so talented….
Bless the rest of the universe with your writing !
Can’t believe you can get paid on YouTube for making makeup videos, or for playing Fortnite but not for writing a perfectly written 245k+ words fanfic on ao3 or ff.
WHY.
IF YOU AREN’T SCARED
I was talking with some of my fellow PICU nurses about fear in the ICU. We all agreed that there is always fear in our job. Sometimes you feel it on the way to work when you know a sick child will be your responsibility for 12 hours. Sometimes it’s when you are doing your Q1H neuro checks and you wonder if their pupils were actually brisk or if they might have been more sluggish than the last hour. Sometimes it’s after you give report and you remember something that you didn’t mention to the oncoming nurse. Sometimes it’s in the middle of the night or when you come to work and learn that they coded later or deteriorated after your shift.
I just saw a post about feeling responsible for deaths even if it wasn’t your shift and it’s so true. You think if you caught on to something or reported something or given that certain extra care you could have prevented that loss and grief. A lot of times this guilt and anxiety is unwarranted but there is always fear and anxiety when you are responsible for someone’s livelihood (especially a child, I would argue)
Some fear is unhealthy and stops us from doing our job or caring for ourselves. Some fear is absolutely necessary to push us to do better, pay more attention, advocate harder, and feverishly pursue greatness.
Fear vs Anxiety in Nursing
I wrote a post a while ago about fear in the ICU and how it can be a good thing and keep us sharp (see post here) but I wanted to expand on that in the light of current personal events. I am a type A personality (surprise surprise coming from an ICU nurse) but I have been feeling for a long time that I have a lot more anxiety than the average person. I remember my fiancé asking me what I was thinking about one time and I told him all of the things I was worrying about and planning for and he looked at me with a look of horror on his face. I realized then that not everybody has a constant stream of to-do lists, regrets, worries, and anxiety running through their head.
I wrote it off as a personality quirk for a while and tested the waters with friends asking if they ever felt like I did. I got mixed replies and overall just wrote it off. In the past few months I was having a lot of anxiety to the point that I didn’t want to go out in big crowds, I was getting debilitating tension headaches, and I was starting to see the impact on my relationships. I decided to talk to my PCP about it and she diagnosed me with Generalized Anxiety Disorder. Strangely I felt relieved. I was relieved that I didn’t have to leave events early because of my neck pain and headaches. Relieved that this wasn’t just “my personality” and that it was something I could work through. Relieved when my doctor reminded me that I could be an amazing ICU nurse without my anxiety and that my skills and training were what made me good, not my disorder.
A little bit of fear and planning can keep us sharp in the ICU but please don’t delay in asking for help if you ever feel like I did. I’m sure I have other colleagues who have struggled with disorders and managing them with their jobs so I urge you to reach out to friends, coworkers, your PCP, or your counselor if you feel like you are constantly anxious or depressed or even if you are just overwhelmed. Nursing is not easy and we deserve to treat ourselves with as much care and respect as we treat our patients.
New nurses, student nurses
I need you to know these things.
This job is hard. It’s hard as a student, learning things most people will never understand. It’s hard as a brand new nurse; no patient or seasoned nurse truly has faith in you.
You want to learn. You want to know things. You want to get to the point in your job where you are comfortable in your skills, the patients trust you, and the doctors start to know your name and believe in your abilities.
It takes time. The first year of nursing will be the hardest year of your life and you will find yourself truly doubting your intelligence and intellect for the first time ever. You will make mistakes, second guess yourself, cry after work, cry during work, cry before work. You will triumph, and you will fail miserably.
But with literally every single moment of every single day, you will learn so much more than you’ve ever learned in your entire life combined. You will learn about human suffering, joy, love, sorrow, insanity, and pain. You will experience moments that will haunt you forever. Moments you will bury down deep inside because the people closest to you could never understand.
Student nurses, stay with it. You aren’t there yet. School is hard. It does get harder. But it also gets better.
I was a student. Nursing school was the hardest thing I had ever done up to that point. I will not downplay that. Ever. It is so hard.
But then I was a new nurse. And it was harder. I experienced things that will haunt me to the grave. I was bullied by patients, doctors, and nurses.
I’m still learning. I’m still a baby nurse. But I’ve got a bit of time and a little experience under my belt now. I’ve been a nurse in the burn ICU, a med-surg nurse, and now a bone marrow transplant/oncology nurse. I’ve dealt with nurse bullies, bully doctors, and abusive patients and families. I’ve seen all kinds of sickness, I’ve welcomed new life, and I’ve held countless hands as their pulses faded away.
I’m here to tell you, student nurses, new nurses, that this job is hard. It is cruel and unforgiving at times.
But it is so worth it. It may get harder, but it will get easier as time goes on. The bonds you form with patients, doctors, and fellow nurses will bring you through it.
You knew it would be difficult when you chose such a selfless profession. This job takes heart. It takes a special kind of person that was meant to heal this harsh world.
Stay with it. It gets so much better. It is rewarding. We are here and we want you to succeed. Forget the nurse bullies, forget the bad. You are a guardian angel and you chose this noble path.
Thank you student nurses, thank you new nurses. I was there, not long ago. If I could go back and do it again, I would in a heartbeat. Because I am right where I want to be.
New RN Update: REALITY CHECK
So.
I’ve been MIA from Tumblr, but I’ve been an RN for almost 5 months now!!! What?!?!?
I’ve been working night shift on a neuro tele unit and I wanted to talk a little bit about the reality of the beginning of your first RN job.
You graduate school: BEST FEELING IN THE WORLD You pass the NCLEX: BETTER THAN BEST FEELING IN THE WORLD You land your first job: ECSTATIC, IS THIS REAL LIFE, I MUST BE DREAMING!!! Begin orientation phase: I LOVE THIS! So much cool things to learn End orientation phase: Oh my god, I’m going on my own soon………. I’m terrified. Off orientation: When one shift you feel like there’s nothing else you’d want to do and the next you’re questioning your decision to be a nurse.
^ Simply put: being a new nurse is like being on an emotional rollercoaster. People don’t discuss this, but it needs to be said so we dont feel alone when we go through this. You go from such a high when you finish school to being smacked in the face with the real world. Finding your way as a new nurse can CHALLENGING. So many ups and downs. It’s a whole new world, new people with different personalities, you question yourself/doubt yourself, doubt others … There is so much to learn its can be overwelming. It’s kind of a mind f*ck.
That being said, it will get better. Stay positive, give yourself pep talks, run to the bathroom or the pantry if you need a second to get your sh*t together, and just do the best you can…..AND know you’re not alone. ❤💪
We all started somewhere
Recently I got a message from a new grad nurse who was freaking out. I also got an email from a friend of mine who’s sister is a new grad nurse. She’s freaking out too. Here is my long loooong piece of advice that I give to all of you new grads. We were all there. We all started somewhere. Even the mama or papa nurse on your unit who has been there since Flo and Clara were walking the halls. We were all new at one point or another and we didn’t know what we were doing. Me when I think back to my days on orientation:
My main preceptor was honestly one of the worst people I’ve ever had the unfortunate pleasure of working with. She was impatient, unprofessional, and a terrible teacher.
Not too far off from how she acted towards me. Perhaps it was a terrible meshing of personalities. Regardless, I cried on my first day with her yelling at me (in a patient room no less) because I didn’t know how to zero an arterial line. I didn’t cry on my second day, but that was also because she wasn’t there :) I didn’t know how to manage my time and frequently had to stay late charting. Much of my shifts with her were spent with her like this:
I had so many days where I wanted to quit. I felt like I wasn’t cut out for the job. I felt like I made a really bad decision in jumping from nursing school to the ICU, let alone the bananas environment of my ICU. I told my parents this, tearfully and with a lot of frustration. I didn’t feel comfortable on the unit, with the patients, or with anything that I was doing. I felt like a mess. I couldn’t figure out a way to manage my time well and felt like I was prioritizing things all wrong. Then I went on nights. Now I’m not saying that night shift is the saving grace of anyone’s orientation, but it was for me. I had a different preceptor for nights and it made all the difference. He was patient but firm, knew when to give me a push to get moving or when to hold back and let me find my way. He told me once after a shift, “You’re doing just fine. You know what you’re doing. It’s hard in this unit. I started on a floor unit and felt the same way. The problem with our unit (the ICU) is that our patients are that much sicker and the stakes are that much higher.”
Having him say that to me, along with repeating those thoughts to myself, helped me a lot. My manager said the same thing to me as did another nurse during day shift when my main day shift preceptor yelled at me in front of the whole nurses station. To put it in a nutshell, some people just shouldn’t be preceptors. They may be good nurses, respected nurses even throughout the unit and hospital. But when they don’t have patience or the ability to work with you as a new nurse, they shouldn’t be precepting. I like to think of it as being bilingual. I can be fluent in the language of nursing and know all of the various things, skills, idioms etc. But if I can’t figure out how to explain and teach that language to someone who only has a very basic or limited knowledge, I shouldn’t be given that responsibility. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Skills, managing your time, and getting things done perfectly and in a succinct manner takes time. Believe me, things take time. No one becomes master in a day, a week, or even a year. You’re constantly learning. I know I sure am. There are some things that you will never be good at. For some people, that’s IVs. For others, that’s getting those sheets so perfect that it looks like you ironed them and they were placed on the bed by angels. Getting the flow of charting, especially if you’re working in a system that you’re not used to (like Epic, Cerner, etc) takes time. Because lets be real, that’s unfortunately where a ridiculous portion of our life is spent.
Ask your preceptors or other nurses about how they plan their day/charting/etc. When your preceptor is telling you that you’re too slow on certain things, ask them how they do that (ex. discharging a patient) and what specific things you can change/add/adjust. I feel like a lot of people are terrified of their preceptors. Since I’ve been precepting a new grad myself these past few months, I’ve realized there’s a two way problem. I am doing things the way I have been for years now and I could do a lot of them in my sleep. I forget that my orientee doesn’t always know where to look for things on the chart or where to find certain things/do certain things. I forget that she doesn’t know how XYZ things work or who you have to call to get stuff done. What has become a second nature to me isn’t even a first to them, so I make sure to follow up with my orientee regularly and she knows that she can ask questions if there’s something that she doesn’t understand why/how to do or if something may seem contradictory or a little different than how we learned in nursing school. Even when you get off orientation, you’re probably going to be worried about how to do things. Look at your parameters or orders that are given (such as temps,HR, BP goals, etc) for guidance with that specific patient. Ask questions, speak up, and consider notifying the proper people when you don’t feel comfortable with something. We’d all rather you ask for help or information then just blindly do something and completely fuck it up. Ask your preceptor about how to best delegate certain tasks or what to do when you don’t have people (like techs) to delegate to.
Be patient with yourself. Like I said, no one is a master in a day. You’re probably not going to get all of those IV starts or blood draws on the first try and you’re probably not going to make everyone happy. Think of orientation as learning to swim. Maybe you can kind of do it and get across the pool with your floaties and your preceptor’s guidance. Some days you’re going to feel like Michael Phelps or Katie Ledecky and simply own your shift. Things will go smoothly and everything will fall into place nicely.
Other days, you’ll be lucky if you can get across without drowning. Believe me, we all still have those days from time to time. As someone once told me early on, as long as your patients are alive and you addressed/did things that you were supposed to do to the best of your abilities, you’ll be okay. Maybe you did it a little slower than people usually do or not as succinctly, but everything still turned out ok. TL;DR: being a noob nurse is rough. Really rough, especially if you’re not getting the support that you need. Be there for yourself, your fellow new grads, and keep your head up. It can get better.
I was in line at Aldi and this girl with two toddlers in front of me had her card declined and she looked so fucking sad and said “let me call my husband real quick” and it was only 18 dollars, so I just paid for it, and she was very sweet and then as she walked off, the lady behind me said `”You know that was probably a scam, right?” and like, even if it was, like what a sad fucking scam, right? 18 dollars at the Aldi. If you’re “scamming” me for some Tyson chicken and apple juice and cauliflower, then just take my fucking money.
“A scam” people are fucking wild.
This happened to me, too. A woman had used WIC for the majority of her stuff (which I say from personal experience is such a long and embarrassing process) and to buy the remainder of her groceries, which included diapers and wipes, she used a card, and it got declined. I bought the other $30 of her groceries because hey, I’ve been there, and now I’m not. She was extremely emotional and began to cry and even hugged me. My mom called me on the drive home and could tell I had been crying myself, asked what was wrong, and when I told her what happened, she berated me for being “duped.” I couldn’t believe she could be so disappointed in one of her children for doing something- nice? Is that the hill you want to die on? Getting mad about people needing groceries?
I once paid for a woman’s bill at the vet…it wasn’t a big one, but she was trying to pay for some medication for her dog, and her card was declined. And her lip started trembling, and she says “I don’t get paid until Tuesday, would he be ok until then?”
So I just told them to add the $20 something onto my bill, and I thought she was going to break down crying right there.
And I don’t care if it was a scam or not. Just do nice things for people sometimes.
Do good recklessly.
I think “Do good recklessly” would be fantastic word art to hang on one’s wall. Artistic people, go!
So this has happened to me but from the other side. Several years ago when my oldest was around three or so, I had my debit card decline at Walmart. It wasn’t a scam or a mistake, I was genuinely broke. Out of money. I checked my bank and discovered I had something like 7 dollars left to my name and a hungry kid and nothing to eat at home. So I sat there trying to come up with the best way to stretch that tiny amount of money to feed my kid. Not even to feed me. I can live on popcorn or something if I have to but my kid was three and he had to eat. So there I am trying really hard not to cry while I slowly take things out of my basket to get it down to under 7 bucks, when a lady tapped me on the shoulder. I looked up and she smiled at me and started putting the things back in my cart. I opened my mouth to tell her that I didn’t have the money for them but she stopped me right away and said “Don’t worry about it. It’s gonna be fine.” Then she handed the cashier her credit card and said “Ring up all of it.” My kid got to eat because of her. I got to eat because of her. I had laundry soap and deodorant because of her. She could’ve just ignored me silently struggling in that line. She could’ve decided I was a scam and gone home feeling good about avoiding being duped. But instead she chose to help me and she saved us. So maybe the person struggling in front of you is trying to put one over on you or maybe they are just sad and broke and trying to figure out what to do. You get to decide which you want to believe and what you want to do. But I’ll tell y’all, no one has ever been more beautiful to me than that lady in that line who saved me and my baby. Be like her. Be beautiful.
Do good recklessly
DO BETTER. BE BETTER. STRIVE TO BE BETTER.
DO GOOD RECKLESSLY
One time, my dad and I were living the grocery store and there was a guy outside asking for money to buy some stuff to take home for his kids. It was around Christmas time. My dad asked him if he could give him groceries instead of money, and the guy immediately said yes, so my dad gave him one of everything we bought (meat, rice, some chocolates, milk, oil). At that time, my dad hadn’t gotten his paycheck because the company he worked for was going through a tough time, but he didn’t care, he saw an opportunity to help someone and he did.
Another time, my dad gave 50 bucks to a guy who said he needed to buy medicine for his kids. I told my dad he was probably going to spend the money on alcohol or something, but my dad said that “whether he was lying or not says something about HIS character, but hearing someone in need and choosing not to help when I have the means to says something about mine”.
I never forget that.
“whether he was lying or not says something about HIS character, but hearing someone in need and choosing not to help when I have the means to says something about mine”
louder, for the people in the back
this man, abdul aziz, father of four, was at the new zealand mosque when the shooting happened and had nothing on him but a credit card reader that he picked up to throw at the terrorist. then, after dodging bullets, he hurled an empty gun he found at his windshield and shattered it, scaring him off and preventing many more lives from being taken. that’s an act of pure selflessness—his name deserves to be heard. there’s still good in the world.
Apple: Literally design their phones to become an expensive toxic brick within a few years
Gas Companies: Actively work to prevent anything being done to develop, promote or in any way make green energy sources widely known of available or affordable to anyone because slowly murdering the planet makes them millions of dollars
Big Companies: Literally dump toxic crap where it will cause serious harm to the earth and the species on it
Governments: Clearly what we need to do to save the earth is make people pay money to use carrier bags so they can actually carry their shopping home
AND BAN DRINKING STRAWS
This, my friends, is called Individualization of Responsibility, aka holding the citizens accountable for the destruction caused by corporations :/
not enough people get that the reason kingdom hearts is so popular is that it is completely 100% emotionally sincere about itself. This isnt the mcu, where we’re so afraid the audience will laugh at us or call us corny that we make fun of ourselves non stop, oh no. kingdom hearts completely commits to its premise of fusing the emotional power of disney style magic and optimism with final fantasy style drama and angst. And it works because they are unashamed and sincere. Thats why its so successful despite seeming ridiculous from the outside.
I feel like another part of it is that it can acknowledge that the audience will latch on to things, or that the audience thinks certain things without it being forced or derogatory.
I’m keeping it 100% free of examples, but in 3 there were a few times where they acknowledged “yeah, this is kinda silly” without it knocking you out of the narrative the way some other media handles self-referential jokes.
They’re good at it–sincere and genuine and it feels like it, there’s nothing forced about it when they do pull that, it’s in character and makes sense in context.
