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i genuinely don't think there's much, if anything, hotter than someone clearly having a blast doing something they're really good at. doesn't really matter what it is. the combo of competence and joy is absolutely lethal to me

perfectday1972

i do wonder how mamdani would have solved a problem like the green goblin

punkrorschach

publically funded spiderman next question

animentality

emhidesart

Rocky meets some animals from earth 🌍🌻

shamebats

Imo the best type of system for children to grow up in would be one that assumes the birth parents/primary guardians won't do shit and takes care of every aspect of childcare that's essential for their wellbeing and development, collectively.

shamebats

But I'm just a guy who only learned how to brush his teeth properly and got glasses as a child because we had both a dentist and a doctor come to school on a regular basis. The dentist would have us all stand in a circle with our little toothbrushes and show us how to brush and correct our technique. The doctors would give us general health assessments and then have the teachers contact our patents and essentially peer pressure them into getting us any health intervention we needed. My parents only reluctantly got me glasses because they knew the teachers would judge them if they kept seeing me sit in the very front row and still squint to see the chalkboard. So I'm biased.

shamebats

The only times I ever remember seeing a dentist or doctor as a child was at school. I'm quite healthy physically and I'm very grateful for all the care I got from the various professionals who cared about my well-being and development more than my actual parents did.

We had free healthcare including dental, mind you, my parents just couldn't be bothered. When my brother, as a teenager, asked our mother if she could take him to his orthodontist appointments (which he'd already arranged for on his own) she basically told him she didn't feel like it and he had to take the bus.

If I could improve anything about that system, I'd take it even further and make it so kids could see a doctor and get meds, treatments, therapy, tests, disability aids etc. without having to rely on their parents as well. I shouldn't have had to put up with being bullied and guilt-tripped about the family finances and the time investment needed to take me to the optometrist every time I needed new glasses.

shamebats

Some parents would not take care of their children even if they were given all the time and the resources. Mine are a great example of that — my mother stopped working and became a homemaker when I was in kindergarten, my father worked from the garage and was also always home. They had a car and our village even had a bus that would come once or twice an hour that would take you to the next two bigger cities.

Did that, plus the free healthcare, translate into them actually parenting and caring for us properly? It did not. They only ever did any of that reluctantly when not doing it would make them look bad, and most of the time they did a shitty job because they could never resist the urge to boost their egos by means of bullying literal children.

So I have to wonder: what did they actually contribute to our upbringing? Like they didn't teach us shit and mostly they just endangered our mental and physical health — but hey, at least they gave me cPTSD! That took some work too.

anarchistmemedistro

see also family abolition, and youth liberation .

applefae

A knee-jerk response to neglectful parenting I see a lot is “people should have to get licenses and take rigorous tests to PROVE that they should be ALLOWED to have kids” which is eugenics. That’s just the starting line for eugenics.

We are at a point in humanity where there is no meaningful reason why we shouldn’t be structuring our societies around wellbeing for all instead of wellbeing for the “deserving”.

Assume some parents will fail. Build social infrastructure that is designed to support failed kids rather than punish would-be parents.

queer-riot-dragon

Parents do not have to be neglectful to fail!

They can be busy, tired, stressed about finances, ignorant, etc. They can want to do the best for their kid and Fail Anyways.

The best thing is to support the children and give them the tools they need to succeed even if the parents are already giving them those tools. Because you can never learn something too much.

lessproblematical

Also sometimes parents become disabled or die and family can't always be counted on, and sometimes there isn't other family

wiionme

segamascott

to make it more lynchian can't you read

hownottolearnalanguage

absolxguardian

I'm kind of glad to hear that everyone does this. Because it means it isn't colonizer bullshit, it's what everyone does. It's just people discovering new things. Everyone goes:

"Oh hey these people have their own style of [language A's word for thing. Say, what do you call it?"

"Oh it's [language B's word for thing]."

"Got it, it's [language B's word for thing] variety [language A's word for thing]"

house-of-crows

added to which it is LITERALLY JUST LINGUISTIC SHORTHAND for

[item] the way [culture] makes it.

If you don’t want sliced bread, you want bread the way Eastern Indians make it you ask for Roti, not bread. Because Roti is bread THE WAY [EASTERN] INDIANS MAKE IT. Like fuck, it’s not that complicated a concept.

OF COURSE it’s not colonizer bullshit! It’s just linguistic shorthand!

chaifootsteps

souperluminal

Every day Road Work Wizard fills in potholes and every night Dark Road Work Wizard crafts new ones

batbunlore

[ID: Illustration of two little wizards with traffic cones as magic hats, yellow jacket as a robe and a stop sign board as a wand. Their faces are soot balls, the bright eyes being the only distinguishable features. They’re identical except that the one on the right is all in black: all the bright colors of the road work wizard, the oranges and neon yellows and reds, are gone. The pole of their stop sign is slightly twisted, and the words “it’s your decision” are written on top of the big bold ‘STOP" letters. End ID.]

omnybus

aerogrammestudio

From How I Became a Famous Novelist by Steve Hely

irkdesu

JFC.

rcmclachlan

ETCH THIS INTO MY HEADSTONE.

mcsiggy

COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS IS THE MOTIVATION MIND KILLER!!! WHAT YOU MADE IS GREAT BECAUSE YOU MADE IT AND YOU CAN AND WILL GET BETTER! NEVER STOP!!