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[spicytofuman]

why is being an adult so hard. i just wish i was a kid with no responsibilities, just sand between my toes collecting little shells no worries other than how cold the water will be

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yeonnam-dong's smiley laundromat by kim jiyun

read: 260611 - 260615

★★★☆☆ (3.5)

this was quite an easy read, and not in a negative way.

the neighborhood of yeonnam-dong come together at the new smiley laundromat as they work through their daily personal struggles and grow closer together as a community.

this book made me yearn for the community that it describes. something that i feel is greatly lacking and hard to build in today's society.

i also understand the need for a character like the son and his growth arc. however, he really pissed me off throughout the entire book. i do realize that people like him exist in real life, especially with how capitalistic the world is, but i just can't understand how someone can be so selfish.

[sorrrowfull]

[spicytofuman]

the true happiness company by veena dinavahi

read: 260609 - 260610

★★★★☆ (3.75)

the memoir was written in such a way that it didn't feel like a list or timeline of something that happened. i struggle to read memoirs that read as "this happened and then this happened to me" so i was able to get into the flow of this book a lot easier than others.

i think many people have preconceived notions on cult victims where they believe only dumb or naive people can fall victim to them. however, the people in this book are the opposite of what some may imagine as "typical cult victims". veena's parents are highly educated and working in stem, veena also being someone in high level classes and someone people believed would be "most likely to succeed" in life. this really highlights how it has nothing to do with someone's smarts or education, but everything to do with cults preying on peoples' desperation to manipulate them to do their bidding.

i hope that people will be able to have more sympathy and understanding for victims going forward.

[spicytofuman]

obsession (2026)

watched: 260609

★★★★☆ (4.5)

this was actually such a devastating watch for me. as an sa survivor this was an uncomfortable watch, but the film did such a great job depicting how men view women as objects to fulfill their needs.

the film does a great job with the death of bear's cat sandy, showing that he takes no responsibility for the things that he deems "important" to his life. bear is shown to be extremely irresponsible as a cat owner, not meeting sandy's actual needs, seeming more like someone who just wanted a cat while lacking the actual emotional connection and responsibility to properly love and care for one. ultimately leading to sandy's death due to his irresponsibility.

bear thinks of nikki the same way he does sandy. he "loves" her and wants to be with her, but does not see her as an actual person with thoughts, emotions, and goals in life, and lacks the emotional capacity and responsibility to be a good friend to her.

the idea of nikki one day waking up to having no control over her own body and actions is heartbreaking. this is such an amazing depiction of victims and just the way men view women. the different ways in which the real nikki tries to convey her presence and lack of autonomy: the "not me" in the polaroid photo and the writing excerpt at the party where she represents her feelings of being forced to fuck someone she sees as her brother by an outside force.

nikki was set up as such a kind, amazing, and engaging person and as the audience we barely get a glimpse of it. we will never truly know nikki like bear never did.

this was such a good movie that i will never be watching again.

[9bunnys]

[spicytofuman]

[academic-vampire]

𝔞 𝔟𝔩𝔞𝔫𝔨𝔢𝔱 𝔬𝔣 𝔪𝔬𝔰𝔰

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[spicytofuman]

sing, unburied, sing by jesmyn ward

read: 260604 - 260608

★★★☆☆ (3.75)

beautifully written book that explores generational trauma and the effects of racism in the south through multiple generations in one family. though the chapters are told through different perspectives, there wasn't any confusion in the narrators, and the different perspectives are weaved together well.

while working through the different traumas that the characters have, they also have to survive the daily hardships they face. jojo with being the surrogate caretaker of his younger sister, leonie with her drug addiction and guilt of her relationship with her brother's murderer's cousin, pop's with his guilt on what took place during his time in prison, and mam with the loss of her son.

the writing was beautiful and was able to portray emotions and sensitive topics very well. though this was a good read and i would recommend it to others, i do wish the characters were flushed out a bit more.

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[spicytofuman]

writing this here bc i can't put it anywhere else,, i an so tired of being my girl friends' backup boyfriend

[spicytofuman]

im the unattended child

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i may have some issues

[softwaring]

moon and rainbow at sunrise by mark ham

[spicytofuman]

only know to make one face apparently