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[draconym]

It's nuts how common it is to not allow children to be angry, even (especially) in households where adults are angry all the time. As a child I knew my own anger was unacceptable--not just expressing it outwardly but feeling it at all. So now as an adult my immediate reaction to my own anger is often to feel guilt instead of like. Noticing when someone is being rude or unfair or my boundaries are being violated or whatever. fucked up.

[april]

women are like diamonds: synthetically-produced women are not meaningfully different from naturally-formed women, and anyone trying to tell you otherwise is probably trying to justify keeping their women mines open

[waspunk]

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Politics messing with my rights There’s nothing fun to do tonight

[thecollectibles]

Uncle, how to get to the beautiful country? by Xiaoyu Wang

[persianmom-deactivated20260602]

you have got to stop worrying about being the hottest person at the grocery store and start shoplifting ‼️

[osmanthusoolong]

Idk, I’d say women have like actual real structural oppression to worry about instead of just individual consumption choices, but here we are, I guess

Surely if you tell those dummies that they’re too stupid to realize they’re in a cage they’ll simply realize that they’re missing the realest, biggest problem. Wage gaps? Nah. Rise of violent misogyny? lol no. Erosion of reproductive rights? Transmisogyny? Noooo, it’s that some women don’t particularly like being condescendingly harangued about their leg hair! Tumblr’s finest bozo thinkers are hard at work

[crumb-crumblet-s-crumbington]

some awful drawings i made recently LOL

[danielkahndyke]

sorry it’s actually so fucking crazy thinking abt how certain places have banned burqinis like literally making a woman take her clothes off in public like that shit is so fascist

[danielkahndyke]

genuinely horrific like that’s law mandated sexual assault & we just let it happen. hello. can anyone hear me.

[strangestcase]

This is UNTRUE!!!! If you’re new to Catholicism you HAVE to listen to MEEEEEEEEE. Here’s my advice:

Leave

[foxmulders]

it’s crazy how much you can read if you read

[axolotlofficial]

Child soldiers exist, war is not an adult topic.

Children die, death/murder is not an adult topic.

The Troubled Teen Industry exists, child trafficking is not an adult topic.

Children get raped, sexual assault is not an adult topic.

Children have alcoholic parents, addiction is not an adult topic.

Children get beat to the point of hospitalization at school, that level of violence is not an adult topic.

That when these things get into "kid friendly" media at all, they tend to be heavily censored is about protecting adult control over kids, not about protecting children.

[kitchenceiling63]

"Children have alcoholic parents, addiction is not an adult topic." also children can be addicts. i was a child back when i was an addict

[thelawfulchaotic]

This is specifically why, when I get into those topics with actually a fair amount of frequency on my tumblr, I expressly say that minors are good to go on interacting with me and on asking questions.

[mousidy]

it's interesting bringing up some transfeminist theory to my drag race watching cis therapist thinking she'll disagree but then she just starts spitting incredible transfeminist truth that would cause 100 years discourse on tumblr.

[mousidy]

she was telling me that all her transmasc clients have soared up through their careers and have private insurance, while all her transfem clients are financially struggling and are on state insurance

she was like "they transition into privilege and patriarchy is happy to accept them as men" and what's awesome is she said her transmasc clients generally understand this privilege and use it responsibly, including in support of trans women

like girl they would kill you dead on tumblr.com

[mousidy]

and you know to be clear these aren't even things I would have said. I mean there's definitely Nuance at the very least. if I were to say the "transitioning into privilege" and "being accepted by patriarchy as men" things myself I'd want to be able to prove them out relatively rigorously, and I haven't done that, so don't take this as me doing a full cosign on these claims. but damn, she did just kind of say them

[mousidy]

on the transitioning into privilege thing: I don't tend to say this one because I think it's at least probably not linearly true. my theory of this one is kind of in a fetal development stage but I tend to imagine that coming out as trans is a sharp drop in privilege not immediately outweighed by manhood, but then that passing as a man and performing masculinity start to up one's privilege again. #privilegemath

[mousidy]

on the "being happily accepted into patriarchy" thing, my therapist was saying that men tend to be cool with it because it reaffirms that manhood is good and desireable. I hadn't really considered that angle in my own analysis. I usually operate under the assumption that an oppressor class will not be so happy to accept upward movement with open arms, but maybe your average man is not really concerned with gatekeeping manhood as a class, so long as the goodness of masculinity is being affirmed? definitely a thought that's influencing my theory a little

[dame-jigglebones]

gonna be honest that therapist is just spitting straight facts and I've seen it first hand. my own mom refused to accept me as a woman and in the same breath praised a trans man who works for her without even a hint of disapproval or a single pronoun slipup. benjamin "shitstain" shapiro complimented a trans man's masculinity directly and didnt even rescind it after he told him he's trans.

and yeah, the reason trans women are specifically targeted is directly because our very existence denies the validity of the patriarchy, which bakes into our very society that men must be above women. choosing to be a woman and throwing away being a man is inherently counter to that.

same reason women can wear pants but men cant wear skirts. its always been baked in that its (relatively) okay to choose masculinity over femininity, but absolutely not ever the other way around. femininity is supposed to be something to be forced into, not sought out.

[dame-jigglebones]

additionally, its actually necessary for an oppressor class to accept "upward" movement, when it means joining their ranks. this goes for any class with higher privilege. the best way to gain influence is to grow, and accepting new members into your class is an easy way to do that. it's why missionaries are like, even a thing.

[tlirsgender]

My most diagnosable take is that honestly. As much as people in social justicey spaces talk about exercising your empathy ... there's also value in being able to turn it off so you're not extremely susceptible to emotional manipulation. Sometimes you have to be able to recognize "oh, this is bullshit propaganda trying to tug at my heartstrings" and stop giving a fuck about like. Colonizer feelings or whatever. Vibes can't override your principles

[tlirsgender]

Like idk being niceys is a good start but your politics can't begin and end with 🌈 kindness 🌈 or you're gonna get taken advantage of. The worst people on earth will be like "but what if........ I have a sob story about it 🥺" & you Need to be able to tell them to Fuck Completely Off

[tlirsgender]

There's a certain strain of ... Everyone Is Valid 🌸 style pseudo leftism that ime invariably caters to whoever throws the biggest tantrum. And this is a Problem interpersonally & it's especially bad if you let these people dictate your opinions. Not everyone is valid some of you are racist

[fennecandco]

Trauma didn't make me nice, I consciously made me nice because I don't want anyone else to suffer like I did. Trauma didn't make me strong, I made me strong. Don't you dare ever tell me my trauma made me anything but scared, broken, and confused. Don't give credit to the abusers for me being a good person. They didn't make me good, I made myself good.

[sapphling]

let's all have a fun time looking up new words when we encounter them to see what they mean before incorporating them into our vocabularies

[thatdiabolicalfeminist]

are people talking about the labor conditions at Taylor Farms yet? like the fact they use enslaved prisoners in their facilities?

are we drawing the connection between worker safety and consumer safety & public health yet?

are people demanding to see the conditions in this place that keeps making us sick? why are the enslaved workers not having the time to use the bathroom or to rest when ill? very few people would shit in front of their coworkers given any choice at all.