granny pants, a cup of tea & loving life with HSV

"Whether you're here for support, advice or merely for interests sake, you have come to the right place. Educate yourself, expand your mind and learn to judge others not by their STI positive or negative status, but for who they truely are." I am a 22 year old from the UK, and I have been living with genital HSV since April, 2011. I have been through a struggle that I never imagined I would have to endure. I have come out of it stronger, wiser, more open minded and more beautiful a person inside and out. I hope you read my story, and the stories of others and find support for your struggles. You are very welcome here.

[bakwaaas]

damn this tea scalded me

[toastbutteregg]

mind opening post that should be in everyone’s dashboard

[uncutgems]

One of the prettiest moments in winter is when the sun starts to come out again in like february/march but it’s still cold but that doesn’t matter because everything feels light and fresh and you walk outside without freezing because the sunshine is warming your face and everything is starting to wake up

[averagezerowaster]

You’re a grown up, so act like one.

[marisatomay]

might be my prudish catholic upbringing jumping out but imho makeup companies shouldn’t name their products after explicit sexual terms

[marisatomay]

just my opinion but if the makeup industry is going to market towards young girls who haven’t even hit puberty yet and insist that they have hundreds of dollars worth of high end makeup then they cannot name their products things like ‘climax’ and ‘super orgasm’ or even make puns like ‘glow job’ or claim in bold letters that the mascara is ‘sex proof’ when these young girls have no idea what any of these terms mean and frankly they shouldn’t understand the meaning behind an eyeshadow called ‘daddy’s girl’ or a blush called deep throat it’s all part of the hyper-sexualization of young girls and it’s just getting worse and worse in this new age of instagram/youtube mua’s where girls as young as 8 years old are being pressured into having a beat face that makes them look my age

but that’s just my opinion

[lele-exe-has-stoppedworking]

Actually no you’re right and you should say it

[fvckheather]

myself and this post have been terminated five times soooo:

this is me in the top photo.

the second photo is me after one month of being with my ex boyfriend.

the third photo is a few days into recovery.

my name is Heather. I was nineteen years old, broken hearted - and broken. my ex boyfriend did this to me while we were dating. if you EVER notice abnormal jealousy or controlling issues with your “man” LEAVE HIM. THINGS CAN NOT GET BETTER WHEN HE DOESN’T KNOW HE’S SICK. i almost lost my life last night to someone who claimed he loved me.

we were fighting. arguing. like any normal couple- until i tried running. i was dragged up the stairs by my hair, thrown into an empty bedroom where he began strangling me. He stopped eventually of course, after me nearly blacking out. I caught my breath, and suggested we take a break. when i said those words, something flipped inside of him.. the look in his kind eyes vanished and all i could see was anger and evil. he then smashed a sharp drink pitcher into my face repeatedly until my nose and other parts of my face started gushing blood all over the bed. once he saw what he had done, he ran to the bathroom and was screaming “WHAT THE FUCK DID I JUST DO!!! OH MY GOD!!!! I’M SO SORRY!!! WHAT HAVE I DONE!!!” etc while rocking back and forth in the bathtub, fully clothed. that was my final chance. i ran downstairs to phone 911 and request an ambulance and officers RIGHT away. as soon as he heard me on the phone he started thumping down the stairs after me screaming- “DON’T CALL ANYONE!” i have never been so petrified in my life. and i’ve been to hell and back. as soon as i heard the thuds down the steps, i ran outside into the snow banks wearing nothing on my bare feet, jogging pants, and a thin tank top in -20 Canadian weather. i luckily immediately saw two strangers walking across the street. I dropped the phone I had scooped up on my way out into the snow and ran over to them screaming for help. all they could see was a face covered in tears and blood crying, and desperately clinging to them for life. one of them instantly pulled out their cell phone and explained the situation to 911. the other sat with me on a set of stairs outside a local food bank a few steps away, holding me and comforting me until i flagged down a random black van. he backed up over train tracks to get a better look at what he had passed. once he saw me, he got out of the vehicle, got me into his back seats and gave me a ride to the hospital where i was rushed into emergency. i was stitched up alone. i was in shock now- crying out for my parents, continuing to redial both their phone numbers, leaving endless text messages and voicemails. it was 3:00AM, they were at home warm in their beds, about to be woken up to officers banging at their door informing them of their battered and broken up daughter in the hospital.

thankfully, i had no broken bones. i had two black eyes, i had gashes all over my forehead and other hidden parts of my body. i had three sets of stitches- one under my eye, one on the bridge of my nose, and one on the palm of hand from trying to block the swings. up until last night, i would’ve spent the rest of my life with him. i would’ve done anything to keep him in my life. now i’m terrified of living my own life. i’m terrified of my reflection. i’m terrified of what he’s now going through. and i’m terrified of sleeping. I wish I could’ve seen the signs.

Please reblog, I hope every young girl out there can see this. I wish I could’ve before this happened.

[dfernan777-deactivated20201130]

This poor girl has had her account terminated 5 times, as tumblr don’t agree with this post and clearly don’t want such inexcusable behaviour to be published and exposed!

This girl is an absolute inspiration and is one of the strongest and most determined people to have ever lived and will never stop spreading her message and sharing her story no matter what, or who, may try to get in her way!

Awareness needs to be spread and support must be shown to anyone who has been through/is going through tough times!

If anyone is struggling with mental health issues, has been through/is going through traumatic events, then don’t be scared to drop me a message and we can talk about things and I offer my support to anyone who may need it!

Share peace, love and positivity to everyone!

[annarose-exe]

If you could, please reblog this post to help spread awareness AND to help op find her followers. Tumblr keeps deleting her account because of the abuse mention… >.> every little bit helps! <3.

[astrovessel-deactivated20190307]

I want vegans, vegetarians, and anyone transitioning to using less animal products to know that it really makes a difference. The more you make choices with animal welfare in mind, the more adorable baby cows, chicks, pigs, goats, and lambs get a chance to grow up and live happy, loving lives! It isn’t always easy and there’s a long way to go but trying to be understanding and empathetic makes a big impact. Please research how you can get the vitamins you need, be safe, and feel free to ask other vegans or vegan friendly nutritionists for help if ever need be!

[suffered-in-silence]

First face to face disclosure. Went very well. 😁

[fuckthisbloganditscurses]

Happiness Will Come To You.

[12goblins]

when tho

[fuckthisbloganditscurses]

When You Least Expect It. Probably Late March

[wizardshark]

reblog for happiness to come for you in late march!

[zigxortega]

[zac--efren]

I reblogged this last year and I hung out with blink-182 backstage on March 30. Reblogging again because it worked the first time.

[scientiablr]

honestly, last year one of the best days of my life happened in late March

[ddrvbiblgigb]

[garfield-baybee]

Reblog to have something good happen at 1:42 tomorrow

[mildlyautisticsuperdetective]

I saw this before I left work last night and had a quiet hope, and today I checked my phone at about quarter to two, while I was still on my lunch break, and I’ve just got a job interview with the BBC next week

I’m not a big believer in anything much but I’m so happy holy shit. So like unrelated note but something real good happened to me at 1.42 today lol

[suffered-in-silence]

Frustration.

My god. How many times a day can I crave sex?

Primal brain says go find someone and do what you need to do. Advanced brain says dont be ridiculous and get on with it; you don't need anyone.

Agrgdhdjbdjwnsuenkwsihdudjen#&*#&#'hwsi

[suffered-in-silence]

Bad advice.

I've just come back from an STI check up (stay safe kids), and am shocked at what i was told.

So here are some of the facts I told the nurse:

1. I had a 1 night stand and it was unprotected (I was very drunk and it's my first 1 night stand).

2. I have HSV.

3. I told the man I had HSV.

I was told:

"Well let's hope that if that man has a girlfriend that he gives her herpes and then thats karma!"

I am... horrified. Who in their right mind would want to infect an innocent person, in probably the exact same way that I myself was infected?

"At least you don't live in America; they look at herpes like a horrible disgusting disease over there. They send you to prison and all sorts"

... what the actual fuck? Not only is this bullshit, it could be extremely detrimental to someone's mental health hearing that. I'm lucky that I'm confident enough in my diagnosis around health care professionals, but a huge amount of people are newly diagnosed, young, or haven't come to terms with their diagnosis yet. We should feel safe around these professionals, and although she didn't seem to be judging me, her tact was absolutely outrageous.

"You know you don't have to tell them you have herpes? If you're not having an outbreak, there's no need"

At this point I couldn't bite my tongue. Herpes can transmit from asymptomatic shedding and there's no way to know if you're shedding at any one time. I assured her that I'm honest, and wouldn't want anyone to catch HSV the way I had; unknowingly. I told her about asymptomatic shedding. She acted like she knew. So why is she telling her patients to hide their diagnosis, and promote the spreading of HSV? This woman is educating the younger generation, and telling them to keep quiet. This goes against anything I've ever written on this blog and it makes my blood boil.

She isnt judging me, but she is promoting the stigma surrounding genital herpes.

Please make sure you answer back to these sorts of comments, especially when you can be open with a doctor/nurse/health care worker. I'm still not in a place where I discuss my diagnosis with my friends, but i can definitely fight back in a circumstance such as this.

Stay strong, everyone! And remember; be honest, be open and be safe. ❤

[suffered-in-silence]

Ariana Grande single handedly helping me get over my ex; thankyou, next. 👋

[fats]

Women Sometimes Fake Orgasms to End Coercive Sex

We joke about women faking orgasms both because it’s common and because public perception suggests they do it to stroke the egos of clueless boyfriends. New research suggests a much more upsetting reason for the deception: to end unwanted sex.

this shit is too real

the fucked up stuff that we go through when it comes to sex and how we are socialized to accept our own bodies as depositories for other people is so fucked. 

[the-witchy-academic]

…I have done this so many times in my life 

[iron-sunrise]

Oh wow. Flashbacks

[ultrababuji]

Yep.

[theradicalresistance]

Definitely. Pretend to orgasm and make sure he does so the torture ends. I remember a man who coerced me into having sex and I didn’t orgasm, and I didn’t pretend to, and afterwards he said to me in a condescending way: “you have to relax to be able to come, you know. You should relax more” …

[mautlyn-deactivated20170727]

“All of the women had been recruited to talk about consensual sex, and yet all of them also spoke about an experience where the sex was unwanted.

It’s important to note, according to the researchers, that none of the women used words like “rape” or “coercion,” even though the sex they described could reasonably be categorized that way. Instead, they merely described it as “bad sex””

[theradicalresistance]

Oh yes, this - many women can’t even identify that what they have been subjected to is actually rape, but call it “bad sex” or “a grey zone” at best. I did that myself and after ten years the trauma came like a flood wave. I think it can be for several reasons, but the biggest is probably how it is a general notion that women should be available, that sex is about pleasing the man, and that sex is something of a “duty” for women. So many women stand it and pretend to come to make it end but don’t know they have all the right in the world to protest and demand their partners take responsibility for this too. With sexual violence being normalized I fear we will see this increase, so we must raise our voices even more and make a stand against this, making it easiser for women to identify when they are violated, when real consent hasn’t been given as it should, when they are subjected to coercion etcetera. Because this is a tragedy.

[pronounrespecter]

what the fuck

[genderdiscriminant]

mras: “women cry rape if they regret having sex with a man!”

reality: women will jump through hoops to convince themselves they weren’t raped

[suffered-in-silence]

Fun fact: in my college virology class last year, we were talking about herpesviruses and my professor, whose husband studies them for a living, came in wearing a shirt that said "Herpesviruses: collect all 9" and then proceeded to tell us that everyone in the room had probably been exposed to at least one of those 9 types because it's so freaking common. So from me and my virology class, you are far from alone <3

Amazing! Since I started this blog in 2012 I've learnt that I am far from alone ⚘

[suffered-in-silence]

Almost 3 months single

And I'm feeling okay. Granted I'm having a little flirt with an old friend but I've made it clear it's nothing.

I'm proud of myself for being strong.

And also thoughts of my 3 year long ex are starting to fade. I hope they go completely, and soon!!

[suffered-in-silence]

This may seem stupid but isn't it possible your bf already has it and if not if he got it orally like the majority he wouldn't get it down there. Not saying purposely infect him but if he is "risking" himself with unprotected sex maybe he should get it orally and build antibodies then his genitals would be fine.

I really want to answer this helpfully but I have no idea who you're talking about 😂 I'm guessing you stumbled across an old post. I'm currently single.

Also, if this were relevant to me now; that's not my call to make. Everyone should have the choice at risking whatever they want. It doesn't matter if it seems like a sensible option; at the end of the day, we'd all rather be herpes free, and who am i to take that away from someone?

Plus, just because you have it orally doesn't mean you are 100% guaranteed to not get it genitally. Some people are unlucky.

[suffered-in-silence]

It's been over a year and I'm still not over it. This is ridiculous.