Queer & A-spec Adjacent Reblogs & Ramblings

A place to reblog & occasionally post about stuff relating to gender, attraction/orientation, & all-around queer shit --- 30+ y/o system, majority of us are aspec w/ some variation & exceptions [some of us are kinky & will talk about that occasionally; we try 2 tag sex & kink when relevant]

[inphront]

so the other day a castmate of mine was talking about having once been a little girl (at this point, i all but short-circuited because said castmate is a man in his mid-sixties and my brain had its little moment of “!!!!! trans person!!! and he’s OLD!!!!”) and being asked if there was a famous person he looked up to or wanted to look or be more like. and he said— again, as a little girl at this point— “santa claus!” and everyone thought he was weird for it.

and this story doesn’t read as well over text because you really have to see the guy. but he looks just like santa claus. he’s got the long white hair and the beard and the belly and everything. and i just. the amount of secondhand trans joy i experienced is truly insane. i’m gonna get old! i’m gonna get old the way i wanna get old! hey everybody you’re gonna get old; we’ve been doing it for years!

anyway shoutout to the santa claus of my cast and to every older trans person we love you so fucking much

[thesituation]

shaving isn’t even like remotely close to the biggest issue feminism needs to tackle but it’s just astonishing to me how the most lukewarm bare minimum of normalizing natural body hair on women is met with such pushback from “progressives” on here. like that’s why i keep bringing it up. like if you fucks can’t get behind “women shouldn’t feel like they have to shave and shouldn’t be groomed into shaving” then what the hell can you be counted on for? nothing, clearly

[headspace-hotel]

I'm doing my part by going out while being hairy. Hopefully other girls can see me and feel like they won't be alone if they wanted to stop shaving

Haven't shaved legs in 7 years and I'm so glad I stopped, I can't imagine going through all the trouble and hassle to do that anymore.

[yueiswriting]

I took the opposite route. Lasered my legs cause the looks I would get and the sheer discomfort of hiding them in a tropical country just won. It was my act of being less perceived, I have never seen a girl hairier than I... now I wear shorts and just. Go about it, nobody looks, nobody acknowledges it.

It feels like we have a choice on body hair but we don't, its either shaving or being the woke person in the room. And it really shouldn't be a divisive decision but that's the agency women get.

[headspace-hotel]

I haven't noticed any judgmental looks, but that may just be because I'm autistic and I tend to be oblivious to it? My hair is pretty thick and dark. It feels like nobody even notices though.

I don't shave my pits either, which I feel is slightly more "unacceptable" socially, but I don't really wear sleeveless shirts, so opportunities to confront social unacceptability have been less.

I used to pluck my eyebrows. So painful, and for what? If Frida Kahlo can have a unibrow I can too. thank you Frida Kahlo

[constellentity]

🧡💛🤍🩵💙

[hemipenal-system]

potentially controversial but i don't think "male sexuality is inherently predatory (and so if you don't want to be predatory, you're probably a girl)" is a winning feminist take. i actually think it's exactly the opposite and we should really be avoiding the implication that predatory misogynistic behavior is biological and not social in nature

[catboyandroid]

Everyone say thank you to trans femmes for showing us a version of femininity born from joy and desire instead of just through coercion

Everyone say thank you to trans mascs for showing us a version of masculinity born from joy and desire instead of just through coercion

Everyone say thank you to all people outside of the cis gender binary for showing us a version of gender born from joy and desire instead of just through a simple frame work in which our oppressor have used to kill, erase, and censor us.

Thank you for showing us the existence of a history before and a future ahead.

[stefisgirlnow]

So if needing gender dysphoria diagnosed for HRT is a problem how are you supposed to know who needs it genuinely?? Before they checked if you had gender dysphoria there was more detransitioners. God forbid the doctors don't want to cause cis people dysphoria by putting them on hormones that don't match them.

…by giving out HRT. By making it freely accessible.

The point is that you don’t need someone deciding who gets access and who doesnt. Trying to do that only causes harm.

If someone wants to try hrt, it’s because they already have dysphoria.

If someone goes on hrt and feels dysphoric, they can stop taking hrt.

Crying about how cis people might get gender dysphoria is crazyy.

God forbid! They might understand what it’s like to be trans! The horror!

[the-haiku-bot]

God forbid! They might

understand what it’s like to

be trans! The horror!

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[mareusu]

what is it about things being gender neutral having to also be ‘masculine’. like, why can you wear a suit and tie and call it gender neutral but not a dress cause that’s feminine. why can you call people dude or guy as a gender neutral term but not girl cause that’s feminine. short hair is neutral but long hair is feminine. i mean i know why this is fully a rhetorical question but let’s think about that

[zylahbee]

sexism in medicine kills people. racism in medicine kills people. fatphobia in medicine kills people. queerphobia in medicine kills people. classism in medicine kills people. ableism in medicine kills people.

do not downplay people’s fears about being mistreated because they are a part of a marginalised group. it is a matter of life and death and you should be angry about it.

[kittyswitching]

kinda weird how ppl still think nonbinary folks never have dysphoria or only have mild dysphoria when mine was life threatening before transition. The surgeries I've had were life saving and massively improved my life and I'm waiting on a date for my bottom surgery

like nonbinary folk come with the full spectrum of no dysphoria to life threatening levels of it just like binary people. It's just ours may sometimes seem a little more 'random' than the average binary trans person.

[bravelycowering]

saw a post that said "guy (gender neutral)" and my brain immediately went like hmmm what would a gender neutral version of guy/gal be, maybe I can combine the two words and make something silly looking, so I opened up my notes app and wrote down the word "gay" and stared at it for a solid 10 seconds before remembering that's already a word

[cloudofbutterflies]

A 19-year-old black trans girl was shot to death this month, and there has been absolutely no media reporting on it - despite extensive reporting on almost identical incidents in the same part of Florida, at the same time. The police, as usual, misgendered her in the police report and have done nothing to find her killer. Her name was Jayla Mcgee. Black trans people deserve to grow old.

A Black trans teen was shot and killed in Florida. Almost no one reported it

Police misgendered Jayla McGee, local media overlooked her homicide, and her community was left to make sure she was not erased.

[pawberri]

If youre a closeted person somewhere out there thinking "I want to transition but it would be less progressive/unique/countercultural for me to be that gender instead of this one" please know that you are a real person not a character in a narrative and cant live your life based on what is good media representation. You are real you can only be yourself and theres no moral weight to any identity over another

[pawberri]

Liberal transphobes enjoy positioning trans identities as regressive compared to cis queerness or like non-transitioning transness or anything else they can leverage to make transphobia look progressive and I think its easy to absorb that message subconciously. But in real life we just are what we are and no ranking of validity can change the fact that you have an identity that is NOT chosen and is just your unchangeable truth. Not only should you not have to live a life dictated by what is most countercultural to identify as or whatever but also: being trans is extremely countercultural and feminist and leftist to begin with and theyre only trying to convince you otherwise bc theyre bigots

[pawberri]

"Why cant you be a feminine man society hates feminine men 🥺" and "all the butch lesbians are becoming men we need u 🥺" = stay in the closet for the noble purpose of being an abstract representation point in my new york times opinion column. You wont actually be a gnc cis person youll be a closeted trans person who uses the wrong words but I need you to do that because i hate you

[makingqueerhistory]

Why We Need a Queer History of the Holocaust

For LGBTQ history month, HWO are very pleased to republish Anna Hájková's piece on the need for a queer history of the Holocaust.

Homophobia has had a far-reaching impact on historical memory. At a basic level, there are next to no queer Jews in Holocaust histories. If you find any, they are usually deviant figures. But more importantly, homophobic prejudice has come to shape all the oral history collections of Holocaust survivors around the world. The large USC Shoah Foundation has over 52,000 interviews with Jewish survivors; next to none of them speak about same-sex desire. This does not mean that none of them were queer – I know for a fact that some of them were. But they did not dare to bring it up in the interview given the heteronormative framing of the inquiry. With missing testimonies, it is as if these people never lived and haven’t left a trace, which for survivors of a genocide is a devastating fate. [...] Let me be honest, even in the context of Holocaust studies this is a hard research. Some people will tell you that queer history is irrelevant and should not be written about. They believe that homosexuality is dishonorable to the reputation of Holocaust victims. Sadly, these lines of enquiry have sometimes led to painful personal attacks on myself; I have had my professional path, research integrity, sexual orientation and family history attacked. But more often, I have been able to change people’s opinions and to show why should we strive for a less judgmental and more inclusive history.

[klappersacks]

(via File Photo)

[mudwerks]

WTF are those obelisks on the right?…

[pricklylegs-deactivated20250727]

Tasty obelisk fries..

[memewhore]

“It’s digestible” has got to be the laziest goal I’ve ever seen achieved by a food product.

[gingerhaze]

“It’s digestible”

[rhea314]

“It’s digestible” is pertinent!! Okay, for those of you who haven’t researched Crisco for writing fic about gay sex in the mid-late 60s:

The first-edition of The Joy of Gay Sex, published in 1977, declared, “Vegetable shortening may be the best lubricant, since it is not only greasy but also digestible”[4] Such a statement perhaps gives new meaning to the companies boastful declarations that “Its digestible” and “Crisco has been making life in the kitchen more delicious for years.”  Similarly, in the 1978 sex manual The Advocate Guide to Gay Health, Crisco even earned an entry in the book’s index.  Discussions of the shortening’s use as an anal lubricant indicate its popularity, with statements such as: “The lubricant, typically the cultic Crisco, must be copious.”[5]  In fact, Crisco was so synonomus with gay sex that discos and bars around the world took on the name, such as Crisco Disco in New York City, which was one of the premiere clubs during the 1970s and early 1980s.  Other clubs or bathhouses, such as Club Z in Seattle, even featured murals with Crisco.  Thus, Crisco was conversely also one of many things that led to the formation of gay identities during the 20th century.

from this essay: http://www.columbia.edu/~sf2220/TT2007/web-content/Pages/drew2.html

The more you know! :D

[nianeyna]

I have learned a new thing today.

[soupwife]

Love this post for so many reasons but most especially because this is from all the way back in 2012 and and yet not a single blog in this thread is deactivated

[nianeyna]

I enjoy that not only does this have a link to an actual source, but the link still fucking works.

[dancinbutterfly]

but @rhea314 you didnt include a picture of the crisco disco! AND MY GOD THE DJ BOOTH WAS A GIANT CRISCO CAN!

Go dance and get fisted. Fucking iconic.

[mr-elementle]

Love the gay history, but i just wanna correct that the “it’s digestible” in the gay stuff was a reference to crisco’s tagline it had been using since 1911, the actual meaning of its digestible is because it’s main competition came from “enhanced” lards which were rendered pig fat mixed with non food thickeners that literally did not digest and caused people to basically just shit out pig cream, since crisco was veggie based the body digested it along with the food

[papapastoral]

And in case you were still wondering, @mudwerks.. Tuna Croquettes

[elf7knight]

This post is the opposite of net zero information. Not only did I learn several new facts about gay history but also we rounded our way back to the original question of the tag line and the mini obelisks.

It’s a net profit of information. 12/10 post

[st-dionysus]

Daily reminder that other trans people are not your enemy. Not even the annoying ones on the internet. Not even the assholes in your ask box.

[sapphling]

the sex binary is socially constructed and not actually descriptive of any biological truth. you know that, right? it's important to me that you know that

[sapphling]

i know people can be a little overzealous in describing political backslides ("this used to be the feminism website!!!" etc.) but it's disturbing to me how much incredulity i've gotten from other trans people as of late just for, like, saying that "biological woman" is neither a real category nor a phrase that should ever leave your mouth uncritically

[plasmalink]

Pronoun roles on discord servers aren't a bad idea, but there is the fun implication that you can ping an entire pronoun set.

Hey I got a problem with something, this is an all they/thems on deck situation