The Most Fabulous of Killjoys

The strange musings of a fangirl, band girl, □□□writer, and everything in between□□□ hey it's me Lana Marie / musicals / will literally fight anyone who is racist sexist homophobic or transphobic / always free to message / asks are always open/ header: @star-plasma

[enemy-viv-deactivated20240228]

[homunculus-argument]

When it comes to high-context and low-context cultures, where one has the expectation of people understanding specific subtle nuances of what someone says, and the other has the expectation that everything needs to be explicitly said to be understood, I've heard plenty of people from low-context cultures ask "why not say what you mean and mean what you say then, why would you have to speak in riddles?" about high-context ones, like people of the latter type are just being cryptic and esoteric on purpose.

But culture does not consist of things you do on purpose, it is just the way things are done where you were raised. And when you were raised in a high-context culture, the thought of needing to explicitly state something instead of using some phrase or expression that you've learned to use comes as a culture shock, too. It's not "fuck you for not correctly understanding my riddles three", but "oh shit, I hadn't occurred to me that I would need to say that out loud."

The first time I went on a business trip to the US, my partner came with me, and we immediately discovered that he does not fare well on long flights. So when my publisher asked me about future trips, inquiring whether my partner would be coming with me, I asked him. He said that he would, if the flights weren't such a problem - he would need to travel in some way where he could get his feet up or lay down during flights, like business class or first class. Being also a finn, I understood what he meant and relayed the message as is to my publisher, not considering that they might not.

To both of our surprise, they started to actually look for first class tickets for us.

Finnish culture is a high-context one, people don't talk much and aren't very confrontational. Being demanding and putting someone else into a position where they're forced to be upfront or demanding is rude. And in finnish, saying "this would only be possible if these entirely absurd/completely impossible conditions were met" is a polite way of saying "no". You are simply explaining why something cannot be done, without either saying an explicit "no" or seeming like you're making up excuses. It offers the other party an opportunity to agree that these conditions cannot be met, so neither party will come off as confrontational or demanding.

Both me and my boyfriend considered it self-evident that the request was absurd, and could not be read as anything but a polite way to decline. It had not occurred to me that an american's natural response to "it would be impossible to do this" is to start figuring out how to do it anyway.

[lizthefangirl]

percy full smile count

1. annabeth

2. lizard on a rock

[thememedaddy]

[robin-teddybear]

it's kinda comforting to me when my friends are a little annoying or longwinded or abrasive or tired and inarticulate, or they don't do the exact politest thing in every interaction, and stuff, because I know I'm sometimes annoying, or take up a more than my share of conversational space, or forget to ask them questions, etc etc, and... like, I'm always working to be nice to my friends and to get better and better at friend-ing, but it just makes me feel more human about it :}

anyway I love you friends plz know I'm not counting, in fact I feel great affection toward you even (especially) when conversations go less than Perfectly Ideal

[safirefire]

District 12 being one of the poorest, underfed Districts showing how ripe a revolution really was and they were also coal miners and associated the most with music and singing and mockingjays and songbirds they were literally the canary in a coal mine

[cryptotheism]

People used to talk about blondes and brunettes like they were different genders

[ngalitzine]

your rwrb edits always make my day 🥹

thank yoooou i'm really still in it with that bookmovie

[maxximoffed]

Marvel Comics #1000: We’re Calling Him Ben

[sulemania]

I feel this is an important addition. He saves so many people on a regular basis that this just keeps happening. And he feels so much for his uncle that the answer is always the same.

[drek-odradek-deactivated2022031]

…. This hits different when you realise he’s canonically Jewish

[marvel-and-dc-geek]

Can you please elaborate ? I’m curious as to what it means

[drek-odradek-deactivated2022031]

You can read a pretty good summary of it here, but as (most likely) Ashkenazi Jews, PP probably follows the minhag (custom) that says “that by naming a newborn child after a deceased loved one, the soul lives on through the child.” (Quoted from the site linked above.) And given how his Uncle Ben died, it just makes it all the more sadder tbh.

[roach-works]

another fine distinction is that the soul isn’t thought to be reincarnated, it’s that the memory of the loved one is kept alive and more good deeds in life can be inspired by (and thus partially attributed to) the dead. ‘may their memory be a blessing’–the memory of the deceased is honored, respected, and who they were is retold as inspiration to the next generation. 

ben’s memory is a blessing. that’s extremely jewish. spiderman is inspired not just by the shame of his death, but by the moral teachings he’d given peter in life. and his name given to these babies is another part of it: babies named in spiderman’s honor are also very honestly and truly named in his honor, and continue to be blessings to the world. 

it’s very joyous, i think. very sweet.  

[animentality]

[velvetys]

People on tumblr used to make uquizzes become unemployed again pleaseeeeeee

[reallyndacarter]

Tony Hawk followed me on Twitter. That is so cool.

[darrenpeace]

Principal Powers workday be like:

[reallyndacarter]

It really was like that.

[swarnpert]

love that kids are emo again. i love walking into the grocery store or goodwill and seeing some teenage emo kid all decked out walking around with their mom or something

[anotherknifeinmyhands]

[buns-of-men]

When is it sexist? - A Handy Chart

[tovakiin]

My favorite moment when playing FFXIV for the first time was seeing the men in the same ridiculous subligars as the women.

[perquisitemagnate]

In order:

World of Warcraft

Dark Souls

Final Fantasy XIV

[azothelement-deactivated2019010]

Seriously, Dark Souls is so good about this, I accidentally became female and didn’t even know about it until I was changing my gear.

[dracophile]

Sorry, that last bit is funny to me because I’m just imagining this knight changing and looking at a pair of breasts like “…Those are new.”

[snapfoo]

THE LAST COMMENT KILLED ME

[ampervadasz]

[uraynuke]

IS THAT IS THAT WHAT A CHILD HORSE LOOKS LIKE!? THEY LOOK LIKE PONYTA FROM POKÉMON?!

tHEY'RE SO CUUUUUTEEEEEEEEEEEEE IAJSOIAJOIJSOAoidoaoduauhasuiu2OINL4ÇQKT23Ç31~R3;3M33LÇKM2KFOÇ3G

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

That's not a baby horse (foal). It's a pony. Specifically it's a Shetland pony, which are tiny muscular chonks bred to be able to drag heavy minecarts down narrow mines way back in the day. These days they're often kept as pets for children, since they're the right size for a toddler to ride. The big horse is its friend, not its mum.

[amy-with-a-y-not-an-i]

Yup, actual foals are gangly little creatures that are all legs.

[llatimeria]

and if anyone was wondering what a shetland foal looks like: extremely tiny littleguy. 10/10

[princesskuragina]

I've decided if people are going to call male characters babygirl then I can do it the other way around for female characters. She's my man now. That woman is my boyfriend. My boytoy even.