#ace dating

[acespaceemzgalaxy]

ace culture is seeing someone cute and then looking for subtle hints that they might be ace as well

[sapphic-yang]

I wish I was aromantic in addition to being asexual. Wanting romance/a partner is exhausting, I think about it all the time and yet it’s been years without anything going anywhere. I wish I could just be fine on my own, but there’s just this void that aches. Love is stupid, aroaces have the right idea.

[realthoughtsreal]

The isolation : an ace older sibling’s panik

I’ve said this before: aceness can be isolating and it is extremely confusing and disheartening at times.

I find myself in a weird position now, as an ace, older sibling.

My little brother is 13. He likes a girl. They’re apparently dating.

Literally.

WTF?! I mean, I thought it’d happen eventually when he was, like, 16 or something!

I mean he still doesn’t even know how to brush his teeth properly! Or cut his own nails or anything like that!

Isn’t he too young for a relationship?!?!

Is it just my aceness?!?!

Im absolutely freaking out. I’m the oldest! His ‘parents’ definitely will not give him the TALK properly, and he definitely won’t get it at his nun school. Shit. It falls to me as his older sibling to set that straight and make shit clear to him!

This is so fucking awkward and depressing. He’s 13, can’t brush his teeth and is dating. I’m 21, an ace that wants a relationship, and who no one (to my knowledge) has ever felt any attraction for in all my 21 years of life.

I.. I don’t even know how to feel. I think he’s too young, and it worries me, because I remember being a teen, feeling the pressure to date and shit, and I also remember half my classmates losing their v-card at 14. So. I think I have reasons to be worried. Specially with all his unresolved trauma and his inability to communicate his feelings healthily. Teen or not, I think he’s not in a place to date. Does he even like her or does he just think he likes her?

Am I just projecting??? I worry he’ll fall into societal pressures and make the same mistakes I did, like confusing friendship for romance and dating a friend…

I’m worried, also kinda having an existential crisis over the fact my brother is a teen and can(?)/is dating now, AND AND to top it off now I just feel like shit for being ace. Again. Lonely.

I can’t even see him as a teen. His mind and heart are still very childish. All his behaviors are still the one’s of a 10yo child. I’m just having trouble picturing him as a teen who can like girls now.

:( he’s growing up too fast. And I think a part of me fears he’ll eventually leave me behind too. He’ll get a stable girlfriend and marry and have the picket fence life. While I remain alone and isolated by the gap between our paths. I fear he’ll grow up and realize I’m different, and hate me for it. I see his older face in my mind, a confused frown twisting it. The dislike in his eyes as I try to explain that I just can’t feel like everyone else does. His dislike and confusion as he turns away from me.

I hate being ace.

[melobluelights]

I'm def on the ace spectrum and I'm probably aro too. I have tried dating people and have had crushes, but I can only feel comfortable when I already know the person and we have fun together. I don't think I've ever immediately had feelings for someone just from a first interaction or by just looking at them. But when I was younger, I tried dating apps because I had 0 experience and just wanted to date just to say I did it. I literally felt nothing for any of the people I saw at that time. A thought always came up when I'd try dating a stranger that if they were to die in front of me, idk if i'd feel anything so I stopped going on the apps lmao.

[drawntothedarkside]

Ace Dating Rant

I’m 25 and I’m ace and I don’t think I’m broken and I’m not compromising for anyone. I’ve never really cared about dating until now, but I genuinely want to. And I’ve downloaded two apps where you can choose you’re ace but it doesn’t stop recommendations or messages of people decidedly not. And I can wade through them, but… do you care so little about personality you don’t even view my profile beyond the picture?

I want a relationship and love and someone to hang out with, but it’s like- 99% of the population wants sex and then you take the 1% that might be near me and then might be compatible with me and -

The math freaking sucks and it’s not fair.

Even if I wanted to date someone halfway across the world, I don’t even know how I’d find someone ace that way either.

It’s just really disheartening.

[angstitty]

I’ve been very hesitant to label myself as Ace because I’m not totally against having sex and also some people act dumb when they hear you’re asexual but goddam…

I’ve been dating online for 1+ year and not ONE person understands that "I’m not really into sex" and "yes that also means I don’t wanna suck you off" and "no thanks I don’t want you to jerk me off either" like how is that concept SO COMPLICATED ???

LIKE I DONT EVEN KNOW YOUR FAV COLOUR AND YOU WANNA GET IN MY PANTS???

So yeah i might be done with dating apps or will just label myself as fully Ace

[traceyshortfilm]

Ace of Hearts: A Podcast for Alloromantic Asexuals is back with Episode 2: The Magical Capacity to Love! 🖤🤍💜

[cmon-man]

It’s so funny when people ask me what an ace person is doing on a dating app like?? You think all there is to a relationship is fucking?? Huh big boy?? That’s all you think a relationship is??? My sincerest condolences to your future partner