There was some viral post saying verbatim “Hello binary gendered tumblr user. Before you is a nonbinary character in a relationship. You have three hours to describe the relationship without calling it yaoi, yuri, or anything else that puts them in the binary. If you fail, the room fills with toxic gas.” I thought it seemed fun, I’m nonbinary myself, and the comments were full of “yaouri!” “yippie!” and other people having fun. I put “QPR” down, because they don’t specify “romantic relationship” or “sexual relationship.” Just “relationship,” which I thought was a nice inclusive move. The first comment under mine, and the one with three times as many likes as my comment I might add, is “queerplatonic isn’t a romantic relationship (glaring emoticon).” So… yeah. There we have it. All relationships are automatically sex and romance and a queerplatonic RELATIONSHIP doesn’t count as one, according to this lovely progressive site full of lovely progressive people. It’s crazy to me that under a post about nonbinary erasure, we have other forms of queer erasure being supported. And not only could this person not simply scroll past, they had to carve time out of their day to make sure I knew how livid they were that I suggested that nonbinary people could possibly be aro/ace/aroace/generally in a QPR, and that a QPR is a real relationship. The aphobia is real on here, it wasn’t left behind in the 2010s.
