hi I hope this isn't bad to ask you but would you happen to know anything about urethra placements and such regarding intersexuality? I'm pretty sure that I do have labial fusion in some way, but I've also kinda realized that I have a lot of trouble going to the bathroom. Like, even if I am fully on the seat I somehow end up with accidents where I end up peeing on the floor or on myself and I literally don't know why. my only thought could be the placement of my urethra is actually not proper, and it's either too low or too high that when I pee it doesn't come out correctly. I've honestly never gone to the gyno nor really stared at my bits before so I wouldn't even be able to tell. I don't need a diagram or anything crazy like that, just want to know if this sounds like some weird urethra placement via intersex variation. (and for some info, I'm under the impression I most likely have N/CAH)
Not a placement thing. This is called anteriorly-deflected urinary stream, or ADUS. TL;DR extra skin around the urethra that deflects your pee stream more forward and up. I've lived with it Forever so I know how to position myself subconsciously and have been lucky enough to previously live in houses that have large toilet bowls, but recently I too have accidentally pissed *over* the toilet seat and on my boxers.
But vulvar hypospadias is often associated with some hyperandrogenic variations like (N)CAH. However both of these can usually be seen if you find your urethral meatus (opening). I say usually but ADUS might not be immediately noticable (if at all?) and I could just be particularly observant, and if your meatus is just straight up inside your hole (called a persistent urogenital sinus by that point, but it's still technically on the hypospadias continuum) that *might* be a bit harder to visually catch lol.
Anyways I repeat my advice once more that applies to anyone who reads it, PLEASE become more comfortable looking at and touching Down There TM. Listen I get it you might think it's Gross and Icky you might have trauma related to it you might have this that and the other reason to be uncomfortable looking at your junk and butthole. But you need to try bare minimum, and you might need to try A Lot to get properly comfortable or even get the answers you want and that's okay— it took me multiple tries and many many pictures and videos to properly locate my urethra and see what that bitch looks like, learning how to move My Flesh around to properly visualize stuff AND how to manipulate the stream, etcetera. It is healthy to know your body, you will learn so much about yourself and it will help immensely in many aspects related to it.
