#androsizeism

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

If your concept of feminism isn't open to marginalized mascs sharing their experiences with anti-masculinity and the negative impacts toxic masculinity had on them growing up, then your feminism is outdated and isn't truly focused on gender equality.

BIPOC, disabled, fat, and queer mascs face unique challenges and this shouldn't be a controversial take, nor should it be perceived as a threat against feminism.

[this-is-varsexism-transphobia]

I saw a post which was literally saying that if someone points out that the phrase "I hate men" is bad, then they're not "as much as a feminist" as they think and they're the problem. [the content of the post:

If you see someone post "I hate [oppressive majority class]" and your first instinct as someone in that oppressive majority class is to get upset and argue that youre one of the good ones or to stop generalizing you're lowkey part of the problem

#if i say “I hate men” and your first instinct is to shout “CAN YOU SAY YOU HATE CIS WHITE NT HET UPPER CLASS MEN INSTEAD” #You aren't as much as a feminist as you think. I am in fact talking about you as well #i need a tag for politics talk. uhhh #to be tagged #there. bam

/the end of the content of the post ]. I would have send a screenshot but I couldn't send it with an image (I was off-anon, and when I was trying to send it, I got an error).

This is anti-masculinity. Men are not inherently an oppressive force. Marginalized men exist.

TGD (trans & gender diverse) men, varsex men, queer men, BIMOC, disabled men, fat men, "too skinny" men, homeless men, and economically vulnerable men all have forms of masculinity that are oppressed and not supported by the patriarchy. Intersectionality is not a woman-only trait (example: black men have an extremely high arrest rate due to people deeming them as the most dangerous race+gender combo.)

I discuss this in more depth on my @this-is-anti-masculinity account often.

[thisisparamisia]

After coming across this blog, so many things I used to think nothing of seem really weird to me now. Like the stereotype of pedophiles as creepy older men. It’s something that doesn’t seem weird until you know more about what pedophilia actually is. Like yeah sure creepy older men do take advantage of children sometimes, but that doesn’t mean they do it because they’re attracted to them, just that they hold a position of power over them and decided to abuse it. It was their choice to do that, not some sort of magical force caused by attraction that compelled them. Most likely they weren’t attracted at all. It’s just a harmful stereotype that perpetuates bigotry against people with pedophilia. Also, even generalizing child predators as older men is weird. There is no one way for an abuser to be. It also perpetuates other forms of bigotry to associate certain people with being predatory. Like the “discord mod” stereotype, for instance. I don’t have the energy to explain that in more detail though, so I think I’ll leave that to you if you’re willing.

This is paramisia.

Yeah, the conflation of child predator and pedophile is extremely prevalent and disappointing. They are not the same thing [link.] Thoughts/feelings =/= harmful action.

And the stereotype of only men being child predators is just so dismissive of children who get preyed on by women or enben.

There's also something androsizeist to be said about how the "discord mod" stereotype is often a fat neckbearded man. Can we stop attributing behaviors to appearances???

[androqueer-struggles]

The guy working the cash register at a dollar tree said that my look (my yellow tennis shoes and purple & black striped socks) was "discord mod" vs queer eye

He said I looked gay at first and I was like I wonder why I am gay then he specified the difference between "queer eye" gay and "discord mod" gay

Also for clarity, I also have what people call a "neck beard" and I do look like the "discord mod" stereotype in basically everyway except I'm not obviously fat (probably look that way cause I wear a whole ton of baggy stuff and am trans {fat distribution and people tend to think bigger clothes equal bigger person})

He even told my sister that she "shouldn't have let me go out like that"

That was one of the most blatantly homophobic (and etc) shit I've heard in this town. My sister even tried to call it homophobic and he doubled down

Bringing my alligator next time (joke cause I'm in Florida and it's a fun stereotype to reclaim in my opinion)

This is such blatant homoandrophobia and androsizeism (cuz they likely assumed you were fat), fucking hell. Also, can people be fucking normal about neckbeards, and stop body-shaming? I'm so tired of it.

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

"Only people perceived as female are scared of walking alone at night."

(PT: "Only people perceived as female are scared of walking alone at night.")

This just tells me that you:

1- Haven't spoken to enough genderqueer & sexqueer men, who are hatecrimed for not conforming to gender & sex "standards." 2- Haven't spoken to enough queer-oriented men (gay, mspec, aspec, etc) who are hatecrimed for not conforming to amato/heteronormativity. 3- Haven't spoken to enough non-fem/non-masc perceived enben and intersex people, who are hatecrimed for not being "fem/masc enough." 4- Haven't spoken to enough BIMOC, who are hatecrimed for their ethnicity (which, in many cases, since masculinity is stereotyped as "dangerous", and their ethnicity is deemed "dangerous", these two intersect and multiply the harassment they receive.) 5- Haven't spoken to enough disabled men, who are hatecrimed for their disability (which, like with BIMOC, disability is often deemed "dangerous", which intersects with the demonization of masculinity.) 6- Haven't spoken to enough homeless or economically vulnerable men (same points as 4 & 5, homelessness/poorness is deemed "dangerous," masculinity is deemed "dangerous", you see the picture.) 7- Haven't spoken to enough fat or "too skinny" men, who are hatecrimed for their body type (often intersecting with how it doesn't fit into "traditional masculinity.") 8- Haven't spoken to enough men who are victims of SA (which happens more often than you think [link], with 1 in every 6 perisex/perisex-perceived cis men being victims.)

"Oh, but its men who are doing these hatecrimes! Even male victims are victims of other men!"

Incorrect. A lot of women will harass the fuck out of marginalized men. If you listened to the experiences of marginalized men, you'd know that. Have ya'll forgotten that the term "Karen" came from the black community [link] describing how white women would weaponize white gender essentialism to harass black people, especially black men, for being "sexual deviants"? And this happens to other marginalized men too.

Additionally, a lot of women's crimes are underreported due to men being told it "isn't possible for them to be assaulted", that they are "weak" if they are assaulted, that they "must have enjoyed it" if they were assaulted, and that women are a "perfect, innocent gender who are always the victims and never the perpetrators." It doesn't help that hotlines and shelters for victims will turn away men who need help, decreasing the likelihood that they will feel safe enough to tell anyone.

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

Radical feminists are bad for many many reasons (transphobia, varsexism, etc), but one thing we have to blame them for is how they brutally bully young boys and men who want to be leftists, because "men are evil and women are perfect", and they view their fake version of feminism to be a "woman's only" club.

And then men who are part of big toxic masculine cult movements - like alpha males and incels - take advantage of this isolation. They tell these young boys and men "we'll accept you. We'll help you find somewhere you belong. Women don't want you, but we can change that/you don't need them."

Because this IS a cult. It really is. It is a cult that targets boys and men. These people are so desperate to be desired and loved and wanted - because they grow up in a society where boys/men are demonized for showing affection, where they are bullied for showing any emotion, where they are told to "man up" - that they listen, they obey, because maybe it will mean they can be desirable. It starts off small, but it gets more and more extreme as it goes, just as all cults do.

It gets to a point where these boys and men spend hours on end on incel forums or alpha male podcasts, often of which will lead them into buying online courses or going to actual camps (yes, that's a real thing, look it up) where they are told to be on a strict diet, don't be fat, workout all day long, never sleep "more than you need to", never eat "more than you need to", etc, etc, etc - basically, telling them to torture themselves.

They promote eating disorders, body dysmorphia, exercise addiction, work addiction, sleeping disorders, and so much more.

More often than not, the boys and men falling into this are fat or disabled, and are made to feel uniquely unlovable by society, hence why they develop such a strong sense of desperation.

And then radical feminists have the audacity to point at these men and say "wow look at them, so evil, so horrible, I can't believe they believe these things" as if they didn't push them away. As if they aren't also a part of a gender-based cult.

While at the same time supporting women who fall into similar beauty standard cults, saying "it's not their fault, of course they torture themselves into being beautiful, it's what the patriarchy does!" - forgiving any toxic femininity that comes from them, while not holding that same grace towards men who struggle with toxic masculinity, who are also being tortured by the patriarchy into specific beauty standards.

And before any of the "piss on the poor" commenters come here - no, I am not excusing toxic masculinity and misogyny. No, I'm not saying men who use these cults to be predators should be let off the hook.

But I think it's important to remember that not everyone who has fallen victim to these movements are unsalvageable. They're just people. Their behaviors are wrong, but they are still capable of change.

Many of these boys and men just need to be given a chance, a better community to belong to. And sometimes that takes a bit of pushing, because they are trapped in a cult, but really, most of them are not lost causes.

Pushing men away from leftism only gives the patriarchy more power, and thus, gives leftists more people to fight against.

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Introduction

Blogs like this one [link]

Important posts:

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Transmascs do not hold privilege over transfems [link] 1 in every 6 [peri]cis men are SA victims. 50% of trans men are victims of SA. Intersex people [including intersex men] are 3x more likely to be victims of SA than other queer peers. [link] Testosterone does not cause aggression; it only boosts confidence levels and amplifies pre-existing social behavior [link] Marginalized men are in danger of walking alone at night, too [link] Male loneliness - facts vs incel garbage [link]

Who owns this blog?

[PT: Who owns this blog?]

Hello! I am Kris, the owner of this blog. I am intersex transmasc non-binary and use they/them pronouns. I am part of @dhddmods system, though I tend to function on my own.

I run five other blogs, known as @androqueer-struggles (focused on the struggles and/or oppression of intersex mascs, peritrans mascs, butches, etc), @this-is-varsexism-transphobia (focused on oppression towards genderqueer and sexqueer people), @this-is-amato-heteronormativity (focused on amatonormativity and heteronormativity), @this-is-deformimisia (focused on the oppression of people with physical deformities & disfigurements), and @thisisparamisia (focused on the oppression of people with paraphilias, especially paraphilic disorders.)

What is this blog? What is the tagging system?

[PT: What is this blog? What is the tagging system?]

This blog is centered around anti-masculinity, as well as toxic masculinity (from a "this is how toxic masculinity affects other masc people" perspective.)

Anti-masculinity is the fear-mongering or hatred of masculinity. Some examples of anti-masculinity include the following:

-The demonization of BIPOC masculinity, disabled masculinity, fat masculinity, and queer masculinity. -Treating androgenized characteristics (beards/hairiness, penises, deep voices, etc) as scary, ugly, or undesirable due to being "masculine." -Assuming that masculine individuals are dangerous, predatory, or abusive by default (ie; viewing a father on a playground with their kid as inherently suspicious, viewing a butch lesbian as unsafe to be around women, etc.) -Assuming that because masculinity is so "undesirable" and "scary", masculine people can never be victims of abuse.

Toxic masculinity is the pressure to conform with a specific form of masculinity. Some examples of toxic masculinity include the following:

-Telling mascs that they should be "protectors" and enforcing an idea of physical strength (possibly even violence/aggression) on them, and degrading their masculinity if they don't fit this archetype. -Telling mascs that they should be hypersexual and degrading their masculinity if they don't fit this archetype. -Telling mascs that they should suppress all emotions except for anger. -Telling mascs that they should not seek help for anything and should "tough it out" or "learn how to deal with it", and should be hyper-independent.

The tagging system will go as follows:

-Anti-Masculinity: General anti-masculine sentiments. - Toxic Masculinity: General toxic masculinity. - Homoandrophobia/Gayphobia: Oppression towards achillean mascs. - Andro-Monosexism: Oppression towards m-spec mascs. - Andro-Amatonormativity: Oppression towards a-spec, non-partnering, or non-monogamous mascs. - Transandrophobia: Oppression towards transmascs or people perceived as transmasc. - Androqueerphobia: Oppression towards queer masculinity/masculine-perceived queers; intersex mascs, transmascs, butches, etc. Aka, oppression of genderqueer or sexqueer mascs. - Androracism: Oppression towards BIPOC mascs. Andronoirism is a subset of this directed towards black or brown mascs. - Androableism: Oppression towards disabled mascs. - Androsizeism: Oppression towards mascs of specific body types (typically mascs who are fat, but could apply to skinniness or height.) - Androclassism: Oppression towards mascs who are not economically privileged.

Isn't "misandry" anti-feminist?

[PT: Isn't misandry anti-feminist?]

Yes, the term "misandry" was twisted to be anti-feminist, because it was bastardized by incels and anti-feminists to imply that the patriarchy doesn't exist.

However, anti-masculinity (and toxic masculinity) does exist. BIPOC mascs, disabled mascs, fat mascs, queer mascs, and economically vulnerable mascs face this.

Some people still use the term "misandry" when describing anti-masculinity, but I personally think this muddies the water of what is and isn't true anti-masculinity.

"Aren't BIPOC mascs just oppressed for their race?" "Aren't disabled mascs just oppressed for their disability?" "Aren't fat mascs just oppressed for their weight?" "Aren't queer mascs just oppressed for their queerness?" "Aren't poor mascs just oppressed for their status?"

No. Their oppression directly intersects with the demonization and/or strict ideals of masculinity.

For example, black men are treated as aggressively masculine criminals who cannot be trusted, and will use their MASCULINE aggression to harm white people.

Another example would be masculine disabled people who have "scary" disabilities - masculinity causes them to be treated as far more dangerous than their non-masculine counterparts.

And for disabled men with high support needs, they are treated as "failures of men" or told they are "weaponizing their incompetence" or are otherwise misogynistic.

Fat and poor men are also often treated as dangerous, disgusting predators due to their fatness + masculinity or poorness + masculinity.

As for queer masculinity, I am just going to redirect you to this post [link] I made about transmascs.

Also, anti-masculinity impacts women too! Butch women, androgenized trans women, androgenized intersex women, etc. If a woman is perceived as "masculine", they are treated as dangerous rapists.

This also intersects with racism. Black and brown women (even pericis ones) are stereotyped to be "less feminine" (and thus "more aggressive") than white women.

"But you acknowledged toxic masculinity exists."

Yes, it does, and toxic masculinity harms mascs just as much as it harms non-mascs. How many young boys are told to emotionally suppress themselves because "boys don't cry?"

That doesn't mean ALL masculinity is toxic. Not to mention, toxic femininity exists as well - that doesn't mean misogyny isn't real.

"Systemic oppression for masculinity isn't real. Thats basic feminism."

1- Yes, it is true that systemic oppression against femininity is more generalized against ALL forms of femininity, which isn't the case for masculinity. But systemic oppression does exist for masculinity that is not considered "typical/conventional" or eurocentric; just not for generalized masculinity.

2- Basic feminism wasn't written with every marginalized group in mind, and thus, has shortcomings. It's not a bad thing to broaden your definition of feminism. Feminism =/= being feminine-centric; feminism is meant to be gender equality, and that includes equality for oppressed mascs.

Am I safe here?

[PT: Am I safe here?]

This blog is safe for people of any weight or body type, and does not tolerate body shaming.

This blog is safe for people with physical/sensory disabilities and neurodivergence of any kind (including cluster b personality disorders, behavioral disorders, paraphilic disorders, addictive/dependent disorders, etc.)

This blog is safe for non-disordered systems/plurals, non-dissociative systems/plurals, and endogenic systems/plurals.

This blog is safe for alterhumans.

This blog is safe for "contradictory" labels (ie; transfems AFAB, transmascs AMAB, lesboys, turigirls, etc.) Being against these identities is deeply exorsexist, intersexist, and pluralphobic at its core.

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Every time I hear people use "masculinity is always rewarded" as an argument against transandrophobia I automatically think about men of color and how they have been talking for years about how their masculinity is seen as evil and a threat

This is anti-masculinity and androracism. Its so tiring that MOC are constantly being ignored. Its about time society let go of this idea that masculinity = patriarchal masculinity.

The term "Karen" literally came from the black community [link] describing how white women would weaponize white gender essentialism to harass black people, especially black men, for being "sexual deviants."

The only masculinity that is truly rewarded is in men who are gender-conforming, pericis binary, nonqueer, white, abled, "perfectly sized", conventionally attractive, wealthy, and socially-privileged.

Nonwhite, gender non-conforming, TGD (trans & gender diverse), varsex, disabled, fat or "too skinny", "unattractive", poor, and socially unprivileged men are regularly treated as failures or dangers to society on basis of their masculinity.