#aplatonic spec

[neptune-scythe]

the irony of coming onto my post that's all sunshine and rainbows about loveless and heartless folks and saying ☝️🤓 actually you have to experience love to be a good person otherwise you'd just be cruel and cold

is like

so funny to me

you're the one being mean dawg how do you not see that

you're calling me and every other person that vibes with that post evil which is

exactly what I was saying we're not

I'm not calling loving people evil, we don't gotta be fighting you can just 👏 keep 👏 on 👏 scrolling

loveless and heartless folks are whimsical

you're magical

keep doing you

you're making the world a better place by being genuine and living your truth even though it doesn't fit the societal expectations

[the-absent-minded-sys]

As a pwNPD I suggest we introduce more terms to describe people other than aquaintance, friend and best friend

[plaguepresence]

I understand why people say it and that it is not malicious, but I wish people would stop saying, “I hope we can be great friends!!!” Whenever I offer to be mutuals. I KNOW it is not done in ill spirit, but as someone who is on the Aplatonic spectrum i always feel like my personal space is invaded a bit when people expect to be my friend immediately. I do not know you well yet, I am uncomfortable being viewed as one without my agreement, can we PLEASE just chill first we don’t need to be friends immediately💔

[protean-sys-mogaicoins]

demitendferic & reciprotendferic

flags creation: Aug 11 2024

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[your-fav-is-queer]

Bill Cipher from Gravity Falls with the Aro-spike and Aplatonic-spec flags please? Thank you!

Of course anon! Here ya go :]

[jazzthebirdnerd]

Hey, let’s talk about how aplatonicism affects relationships, especially friendships.

It’s not being able to feel the needs and responsibilities that friendships often bring to support the other person.

It’s getting into disagreements simply because you voicing how the way you feel makes your friend feel worthless to you.

It’s losing friendships because your attraction has faded/isn’t there/isn’t strong/etc

It’s getting into arguments because they don’t understand your view on friendship.

It’s faking and pretending to be someone you’re not for the sake of a relationship.

It’s blaming yourself for friendships struggling and cracking and breaking apart.

It’s hating your aplatonicism because it isolates you from friendships.

It’s feeling like all of your friendships are fake because you don’t feel the way that they do.

It’s expecting feelings from your friends that you cannot return.

It’s all of that and so much more.

Aplspec people please feel free to add on!

[a-romantic--aromantic]

i show up as a recced blog in the aplatonic tag???? this is an honor but Why.

i. i was questioning if i was or not but i guess tumblr has decided for me! assigned aplatonic at tumblr. well. seems i will make more apl content now!

[aplatonicsafespace]

apl-spec flags and definitions

here are the flags and definitions of existing apl-spec terms (that i can find). feel free to let me know if there are more and i will add them to this post! you may also ask me about these definitions, if they are not clear enough. additionally, if you wish to coin a new term i shall add it to the list if you also provide a flag. 

aplatonic: a lack of platonic attraction.

gray-aplatonic/grayplatonic: feeling platonic attraction rarely, vaguely, weakly

demiplatonic: not feeling platonic attraction until an emotional bond is formed. 

platonicflux/platoniflux: where levels of platonic attraction change in intensity. sometimes a platoniflux may be completely aplatonic, sometimes they may be demiplatonic, and other times they may be akoiplatonic.

akoiplatonic/akoineplatonic/akoinplatonic/lithplatonic: feeling platonic attraction but having no intentions of acting on it, or having no desire for the attraction to be reciprocated. OR if the platonic attraction fades once it is reciprocated.

xumplatonic: never feeling satisfied with the platonic attraction label chosen due to self doubt and/or identity issues.

myrplatonic: experiencing many apl-spec identities together

cassplatonic: feeling indifferent to the level of platonic attraction they feel/not feeling like the level of platonic attraction they feel is an important part of their identity

cupioplaflux/cupio-aplaflux/kalosplaflux/kalos-aplaflux: desiring a platonic relationship (friendship/qpr/qpp) but the level of attraction/desire is fluctuating in intensity

polarplatonic: switching between extremely platonically attracted to people, and not at all or platonically repulsed

vexeplatonic/vexplatonic: when someone is apl-spec, but is unable to pinpoint the exact label due to not understanding that type of attraction

caedplatonic/caedoplatonic: where someone was able to experience platonic attraction but a certain negative event (such as trauma) affected their attraction

aplatonispike: usually not feeling platonic attraction, but occasionally having it skyrocket, only to plummet back down again. the level of platonic attraction “spikes” in intensity.

aegoplatonic/autochorisplatonic: the person may enjoy the idea of platonic attraction, but does not experience it themself. for example, they may enjoy content of their platonic ship interacting and doing platonic activities, but will not experience platonic attraction to other people themselves.

dependplatonic/requiplatonic/exigeplatonic/exigenplatonic/cruxplatonic: in which the person only experiences platonic attraction to their depended/favourite person when a person has dpd or bpd. (the original says only those with dpd may use this, however since bpd has the exact same symptoms of a favourite person/person someone depends on for validation, i see no harm in those who have bpd also using this term)

recipplatonic/reciproplatonic: a person who only experiences platonic attraction when another person expresses platonic attraction to them first. if there is no one around them who expresses platonic attraction to them, recip/reciproplatonics may feel that aplatonic also describes their experiences just fine.

apresplatonic: only experiencing platonic attraction after another form of attraction is felt. the original form of attraction may or may not fade over time, the platonic attraction replacing it.

sentiplatonic: the level of platonic attraction is affected during sensory overload. may only be used by those who experience sensory overload, for example those on the autism spectrum and those with sensory processing disorder. i believe sensory overload can also be experienced in various other disorders, including schizo-spec disorders.

frayplatonic: when one usually experiences platonic attraction, but the attraction fades once the person gets to know them

reflectiplatonic: when one’s platonic attraction levels change depending on their partner’s attraction

fictoplatonic: experiencing platonic attraction to only fictional characters

schizo-aplatonic: someone who is aplatonic due to schizophrenia or other schizo-spectrum disorder.

platonic relationship types

queerplatonic/quasiplatonic/quirkyplatonic: a relationship that is not romantic, nor sexual, but platonic. it is however, more intense than a friendship. queer/quasi/quirkyplatonic relationships may include romantic or sexual elements, but are not categorized as those kinds of relationships. it is considered an “in between”.  - QPR: queer/quasi/quirkyplatonic relationship - QPP: queer/quasi/quirkyplatonic partner(ship) - zucchini: another word for a qpp

polyplatonic: someone capable of having more than one queer/quasi/quirkyplatonic relationship