It’s actually REALLY important that Camila was shown to be a good mother and not bad, neglectful or abusive.
After episode 1 we knew she was well meaning but questioned if she was the best mom, though her perspective makes sense out of concern for Luz. We knew there was a strain in her and Luz’s relationship that drove Luz to stay in the Isles.
I LOVE how ‘Yesterday’s Lie’ gives Camila a great personality and shows that she’s actually a fantastic single mother, who just doesn’t always understood or communicate well with her daughter. Because here’s the thing.
It’s important to show strained or tense family relationships that aren’t necessarily toxic or abusive in some way.
While it’s important to have representation of abusive situations of all varieties, I don’t want every character with a bad family situation or family troubles to fall into that trope for one big reason— it can make kids in normal/ healthy family situations but still aren’t happy or have issues with their family feel like they have no right to feel the way they do. Neurodivergent kids especially can find themselves in this situation.
Lots kids come from a perfectly healthy and safe family situation and just have normal family struggles or strained relationships, and they deserve to both see those kinds of dynamics depicted and know their feelings are valid.
Growing up, I thought I was so selfish or like something was wrong with me, because I am blessed to come from a healthy and happy family family, yet always struggled with my relationship with them. I had what so many kids would kill for, what the kids m my mom worked with every day as a para in the poor, rural New England towns we grew up in would kill for, yet could never seem to be satisfied. Was I just ungrateful?
Yet, family strains are normal, and kids who are struggling need to see that they don’t have to come from the very worst kind of situation for their feelings to be valid. Kids believing their feelings are wrong or make them a bad person only leads to a further lack of communication, more distance, and a pushing off of the inevitable work and healing which needs to happen.
So yeah. I love that Camila is a fierce, funny, caring, and gloriously classic Hispanic single mom who simply doesn’t always get her teenage daughter. It’s very real to life, and also in turn adds a great complexity to the found family trope.