#asexual aces

[hellsangelhazel]

So I came out to my gf as Ace and she was supportive we also joked about Aces in cards so.... we made the Asexual Aces

she made the bottom ones (so cute and pretty) and i made the top

[yokitoshi]

I know I have said this many times in the past, I'm Transgender, Asexual and Intersex. I have decided to make them mix them all together to make one flag and this is how it turned out and I really love it so I thought I would share with everyone (also if you plan on posting this on other social media please give me credit, thank you in advance)

[thedarkperidot]

~Asexual myths debunked~

1. Asexuality means there's something wrong. Absolutely not, some folks just lack sexual attraction or do not actively practise sex. Some asexuals don't mind sex, even. If there was something wrong, you would know.

2. Asexuality means one cannot love. Wrong again, it is entirely possible for asexual folks to have relationships. I am marrying my partner next year as an asexual. It's all about what works for you and your partner, although unfortunatley finding the right balance of compatibility can be awkward.

3. Asexual means to never be aroused. Nope, asexuality generally means the lack of desire to act upon the feeling, not never feel anything entirely. Some people like donuts but don't actively go out of their way to go and get one, though some do. Some people never feel arousal though, and that's okay and valid too. Asexuality is a big umbrella term.

4. Asexuality is caused by trauma. A common misconception, but wrong. Side effects can happen but they don't directly correlate. I am a traumatised ace but my ace friend is not. Neither of us are 'more ace' than the other. Sexuality isn't related to trauma and to suggest so is ludicrous.

5. Asexuality means not finding the right person yet. Probably the most ridiculous, since one wouldn't tell a straight man that he simply hasn't found the right man yet.

6. One cannot know they're asexual until they've had sex. Another ridiculous myth. We don't have to do something we aren't interested in to know we aren't interested in it. I have zero interest in chess and I've never played it.

7. That there are no asexual men. I understand the confusion here, as there are many gender expectations that make it difficult for men to come out, as well as accept themselves. Men are often labelled as hypersexual which is no help. (If you are a closet male ace, I really hope one day you can come out and be who you are as you so deserve).

8. Asexuality is just a trendy internet label. Well no, it's really not. Sexualities are not trends, so put your 'apache helicopter' comments away. There are quite a few sexualities that you can read about on google or LGBTQ+ approved platforms.

9. Asexuals are selfish. I felt that it was necessary to include this as it had come to light recently that we were being blamed for 'not putting out'. Let me make it crystal clear that we as humans do not owe you or anyone else our bodies. To even justify abuse that way is nauseating.

10. Asexuals are trying to thin the population. Well really, some of us may argue that the world is overpopulated. I can assure everyone that no asexual identifies as so to reduce the population. It may be a factor but it certainly isn't the be-all and end-all of why we're ace. We're ace because we were wired that way.

[jyasjwrose]

Ace support

This is an ace inclusive blog. Aces are valid. Any ace anywhere on the spectrum is welcone. I do not tolerate acephobia. I do not tolerate those who are "okay with" ace discourse. People's existences are not up for debate.

[yokitoshi]

Why is it so hard for people to understand that not everyone is interested in sex?

Seriously, it's fucking annoying

[chandyland98]

Possibly the most amusingly accurate post I've seen all day. [Via Asexual ACES page on Facebook]

[discovering-demisexuality]

A new asexuality website I found on Twitter. It looks like it has good resources.