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[theevanverse]

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Anon Advice Asks - July 1

compression anon, breached shield anon (new), bisexual anon (new), 14 anon, usaid anon

compression anon

Heyyyy Cas, it’s compression anon, still haven’t asked about a binder or such, but last time I sent an ask, I thought I was genderfluid, turns out I’m just a trans man :)

I’m so happy I figured it out (a while ago lol) the realization has actually made me feel so much more comfortable in my skin, surprisingly.

That’s all. Thank you for doing these asks and stuff, you’re amazing <3

Hi! I'm so glad you feel more comfortable in your skin now! That makes me so happy for you. Keep me updated if you want, sending tons of love!

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breached shields anon

For context: I (nb, 18) live with my mom and her husband (my dad). Yesterday my biological father came to visit.

He told me the day before that he would come over, so I was nervous enough already.

I didn't hear the bell ring, or my mom calling me, so the first thing I know of him being here, is my father standing in my room.

The problem is that my father has never been in my room. And I liked it that way. I liked being able to control who is allowed in this room. I have always been safe here and now it feels like the shields have been breached. It feels less safe. Less like mine.

He's never physically hurt me, I just don't feel very comfortable around him.

And now I don't feel entirely comfortable in my own room and I don't know what to do about it.

Fuck, that's so frustrating. What if you did something different to your room, to make it feel like yours again? Maybe rearranged the furniture, put up/take down some decorations, paint it a new color? That way it's not the same place your father was in when he was there, you know?

Keep me updated! <3

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bisexual anon

no anon name i just remembered smt and wanted to share with the class

so what happened was my friend came out to me as a lesbian. and i didnt really know what the meant. so i said good4u like any normal person would. and then AS A JOKE REMEMBER THIS AS A JOKE my friend said that i was homophobic. so i asked what lesbian even meant and she said that it meant girls being attracted to girls or whtv and then I SAID THAT 'yea well im attracted to girls and boys thats normal' and then she just looked at me. and said 'youre bisexual then?' and then because i didnt really know what that meant i said 'sure im bisexual'

and then i went home and proceeded to find out what bisexual meant, and that almost all the singers and actors i followed were LGBT (mostly bi yea) and THAT I LISTENED TO SAPPHIC SONGS and the absolute confirmation of being bi just hit me.

but even then i was like 'cool im bi yay'

LIKE I HAD THE OPPOSITE OF A BISEXUAL CRISIS

IM DYING LMAOO 😭😭💀

Okay but this is how it should be!!! Like everyone just likes who they like and it's no big deal!!! I love that it was this easy for you <3 I hope that it still is, and everyone in your life is supportive

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14 anon

14 anon

holding back tears because I’m so angry right now.

my mum is being a fucking DICKHEAD. All day she’s been a right arse to me because I said the word ‘no’ to her with an attitude. And why was that? I’d already told her my answer twice and she kept asking me so I was understandably annoyed. she gave me that look that only mothers have and snatched the new teddy I’d had for literally only two days that I got as a present for having good attendance at school for the last few months.

I fucking SOBBED for at least 15 minutes in my room and she gave no shits, just stayed in her room and then called me to come talk to her while she was in the bathroom helping ( directing/ bossing) my dad b it up the new shower curtain pole and was like “don’t you think there’s something you should say” so I’m like “sorry” and she launches into her favourite rant of “you know the age I started changing my own sheets? I was 14 when I was doing all the wallpapering and decorating blah blah” that she only has because her mum was a bitch too and she thinks she’s the best parent to ever parent

she tells me something along the lines of I have to correct my attitude and keep it in check to get my hippo teddy back. Then now, a few hours later, she calls me downstairs and says if I tidy out (horrendous) living room I can have my hippo back so I start doing that; I take all my birthday gifts upstairs and then together we start clearing away old packages because she’s got a bit of a shopping addiction because she likes the dopamine rush and she gets carried away by a package with the item still in it and starts going on about that and then finally when she’s done with the lamp she starts talking to my dad about the new shoes she bought and I’m like what do I do now and she says “turn off that attitude” or smth and then I ask her again after a few minutes and she tells me to go away because she’s sick of seeing me??!! I’m sick of seeing her I want to yell and cry and fucking run away but obviously I can’t

I just want my hippo back

Hi hon <3

I'm so sorry, I definitely remember dealing with my mom acting like this when I was a kid and it's so shitty. I think sometimes parents forget to try to communicate, you know? It's very frustrating. I really hope you get your hippo back soon <3

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usaid anon

Hey its usaid anon about the bags. Lowkey proud of myself. i only cried twice the entire time so yay me

And the bags they made us fill out a form and are mailing it to the house we're staying at but we cant get updates and im only here for 2 weeks. Im living off of my aunts closet (thankfully theres someone in this house with a similar size bc i have been jetlagged and would not have been able to get completely new clothes in the first two days) but im going to go clothes shopping today

ALSO everyone keeps talking about the plan if my mom gets fired like can we NOT

Also also the supreme court is pissing me offff

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Cas cas cas cas cas

I GOT MY BAG BACK OMG

-usaid anon

Hi!! I'm so glad you got your bag back! I've had my bag lost before and it's the WORST. Like...the amount of important things in one bag is insane.

Anyway, I can't imagine how stressful it is hearing about your mom's job. I'm so sorry that you have to think about that. It's not fair, and I know you know that, but please know that I'm here and I care.

The supreme court is also pissing me off <3

[ice-dragon]

Reason number one why kings landing needs legal divorce: Daemons first wife was epic™ and they should have just been able to get divorce. Like bruh. She's cooler than you so sorry but it's true. But let's be honest all of Daemons wives are and were cooler than him. Like I'm not anti any team I don't really understand what's going on most of the time I'm just here for fun, but damn that man needs to be like seriously owned at something. Someone needs to win a fight against him and make him grumpy and run off crying. Lil bitch baby. -bisexual anon

I would love that lol though does it count when Viserys told him off and he ran off on Caraxes after throwing a hissy fit in 1x01 or 1x02? I'd like it if Rhaenyra bitch slapped him across the face and he whimpered and got all lower lip trembly and he snaked off somewhere grumbling like a cunt and his kids laughed at him and he cried.

[monstersandmaw]

Bisexual Anon here, so I already made two characters who are on the Ace spectrum (one is asexual, the other demisexual) and I need some advice on writing Ace characters, because the last thing I want is botching them as Ace rep unintentionally. I also plan to make more ace characters in the future. (You can ignore this if you’d like.)

I can only speak from my own experiences, and obviously it’s wildly different for everyone, but I’m happy to answer any questions you have.

[thisiskatsblog]

im 18 and im so fking ashamed of my bisexuality. my friends are openly lgbt and my oarents arent even that homophobic. but i know when my mother used to think i was gay things were different, she didnt treat me diefferent but i felt exposed and i hated it. so now she thinks im straight and its the paradox where i hate her thinking that but at the same time i dont... idk if im ever going to have the courage to come out , maybe to my siblings ... idk why im writing this its my own fault i have this internalized homophobia anyways

warm virtual hugs my dear bi friend.

please understand one thing: internalized homophobia is really not your fault.  for 18 years society has been sending you messages that it’s not okay to be bi, that it’s a phase, that it’s greedy, that it doesn’t exist, that you’re really a lesbian, that it’s really easier to pretend to be straight and get married and have kids like society expects you to. there is no way that all of this messaging isn’t going to affect you. every LGBTQ person deals with it. and every LGBTQ person is going to have their own pace at throwing all these junk messages out. 

you are strong, and protecting yourself, by not coming out before you are ready and feel comfortable. if you feel too vulnerable now, don’t do it. i think it’s a good idea to build your strength and confidence about this at your own pace. please be kind to yourself and give yourself time to enjoy the good parts of being bi. giving yourself time to let it be something that makes you strong and unique will give you so much more confidence when you do come out. there is no hurry, and no pressure to do things now. you are fully entitled to all the time you need to feel comfortable with yourself to come out... to the people you choose to come out to.

over time, that mixed feeling about wanting to set your mother straight and wanting to “hide” from her, will shift one way or the other and it’s okay to wait until that shift comes. there is no hurry. and please don’t let yourself be fooled into feeling ashamed for that. you didn’t go into that closet because you were afraid and needed a place to hide. society built that closet around you. it takes a while to break it down. 

personally, i think you are amazing!! at 18 i hadn’t even figured out that i was bi.  i am 43 now and i never had a moment of coming out to my parents. they met my “best friend” that i had at 19, and I think my dad suspected there was more to it (i only “got it” myself years later). my mom gives likes to all my LGBTQ related posts on facebook. i think in their eyes, i was a questioning teen, who turned out “straight” in the end (i had a kid with my male partner) and who became a vocal ally. i can live with that. i am out to my closest friends. i am out to my kid and his dad. the rest of my family are far away and i would need to explain so much and i know at least two of them wouldn’t understand or accept. if this relationship ends and i’d be with a woman next, i’d probably tell them. and the two in question would probably conclude i’m really a lesbian, having difficulties with that, they would not get it. and I could live with that as well. the people who need to get me, get me. 

in short, please give yourself time, and try to enjoy the good things about bisexuality. things that helped love being bisexual: all the great info at Bisexual Index (website down at time of writing but they were there last week, I’m sure it’s just a glitch) for their great list of debunked myths about bisexuals, watch TV programmes and movies with awesome bisexuals in them (read the comments in advance, they also warn you for hurtful depictions), read books about bisexuality (x, x, ) or watch this TED talk. we are superhero’s with the power of invisibility. and it’s our choice when and for whom we decide to drop the invisibility cape. i 

[richiefuckfacetozier]

Biromantic Anon here! Shannyyy I’m going to camp for five days so I won’t get to talk to yooooooooou. I’ll miss you, sweetie. ❤️

Aww!!! I’ll miss you too baby! I hope you have fun at camp! I hated outdoor camps growing up, did it once or twice. Then my parents put me in theatre camps and I was home. 

[theevanverse]

HEATHERS EVAN IS WEARING NPMD EVANS VEST. FUCK THEY'RE SO CUTE

HAAAAHAA heysysyss yes yes nod

i love them yes

[theevanverse]

i want more evans

make more evans

please 🩷💜💙

BISEXUAL ANON YOU'RE GIVING ME NOTHING TO WORK WITH 😿

i like this. i know. people love evan and want more /j

but🤔🤔🤔🤔i need ideas hmm.ok?