#cisnormative

[hunny--hunny]

a trans guy saying he's different than a cis guy isn't misgendering. you've got to get out of that cis-normative mindset.

[profeminist]

[thatspookyagent]

Nonbinary, abinary, and anonbinary folks using gendered language on ourselves is some of the most beautiful stuff ever.

No really because no matter how you identify despite not being on certain gender spectrums, using gendered language that's so ingrained in our society as something purely cisnormative is boundary breaking. Acts like using words such as boy and girl on yourself as someone who's not on the binary is radical in of itself. And at the same time, refusing those words all together is just as powerful.

And honestly this goes for binary trans folks to because society also refuses to see y'all as your genders. So using the words that you want on yourself is giving a big middle finger to the people who want you to say whatever makes them feel the most comfortable. This also applies to gnc folks especially when we wear clothes that society can't stand to see us thriving in.

None of this says that gendered words don't hold weight though. Never call a queer person something that causes them distress or something they simply don't like. Words can most definitely hold weight, certain words don't hold weight for some people, but that doesn't apply to all folks within a certain community.

[microwaved-tuna]

I fucking love when men wear heals

[matriarch-kshadh]

Bored with cisnormative folk who inadvertently fetishize people of different body types/colors by occasionally having sex with them but really only date ppl prolongedly who basically look like them or have their body (type). And there are plenty of you. Especially white lanky androgynous looking folk who acquire nominal cred in their politics but barely have stepped foot in the hood or a poor community enough to know what's up and get to see into the content of others unlike them embodied on a personal level vs just like validating potential attractibility from afar.

[chicanabi]

“The ACTUAL Problem with Anime Subtitles” by Zeria

Video discussing the problem with straight-washing and cis-washing of anime. Specifically discusses how dubs and subtitles incorrectly translate gender-neutral pronouns and words, or sometimes outright change them (like using “cousins” to describe the lesbian couple in Sailor Moon).

[profeminist]

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[qunari]

still annoyed by that post that was like "bottoming isn't a personality trait its a sexual position" and someone replied "i don't associate bottoming with penetration bc I'm sapphic, i see it as a mindset" like fucking FIRST OFF maybe don't shove a sapphic pov onto what are primarily gay men's terms lmao, and secondly, you can have sexual positions without penetration, are you kidding me.

the excuses ppl come up with so they can ascribe feminine personalities to "bottoming" instead of viewing it as a simple position that ANYONE can prefer is mind boggling. acting like your choice to do that is about decentralizing penetration is a fucking JOKE when the first one to bring up penetration is YOU. to top it off, acting like ppl associating penetration with a GAY SEX TERM is worse than associating a sex position to a personality trait based off heteronormative roles, is absolute insanity. what are you on.

like, penetration is a thing for gay couples, men and lesbians. we created terms to talk about that, because unlike with het couples, there is no assumptions we can make based on predetermined roles about how sex is going to function, and who is going to perform what part.

calling yourself a "bottom" or "top" is a specific indicator towards your preference regarding sex positions, and more typically, PENETRATION, because we needed a way to communicate it! if ur out here calling urself a bottom and getting mad that people are percieving it to be about sexual position/penetration rather than your personality, that's YOUR problem lmao. come up with your own words if you don't like the subjects of the ones you're coopting.

or better yet, use the ACTUAL terms that refer to what you mean, because i swear to god half of y'all literally just mean "sub" or "pillow princess" but can't be bothered to care about how you affect gay people when you misuse our terminology instead.

"bottoming" isn't a fucking mindset, or personality. it's a specific indicator coined to refer to preference in sexual positions that has a connotation regarding penetration. if you don't like what it means, stop using it. you don't get to rebrand it and then pretend like it's some progressive lesbian thing, fuck off.