#created headmates

[thehomebound-col]

Oh boy! This character is so cool.

… *sighs and opens simply plural*

[theswiftheartsystem]

Guys who cares if ppl create headmates, like we always tell people do tons of research before purposely creating a system, but it’s those people’s lives, often people are doing it because they feel the positive outweighs the negative and will help better their life.

personally if something will better your life, who cares what others think, do research of course before creating a system as there is both a lot of bad and good, but if creating head mates is what you want, you have done research, and especially if it’ll make your life a bit better, then it shouldn’t matter what others think, anyone can be plural and it’s not a bad thing to be plural, the future is plural.

it is not making you less of a system somehow because people can become a system by choice and at any age, you are just gatekeeping something ridiculous to gatekeep

-Indigo and a few others probably, randomly rambling

(Apologies if comes off mad, I am a anger holder, I am just like this)

[thehomebound-col]

okay guess what we’re doinggg

our pk & sp are unfinished, we have 77 headmates.. the only person in this whole goddamn system that has actually put effort into their profile (aside from our beloved innkeeper Sunniva) is one of our PERSECUTORS (ehhh, janusian, half persecutor pretty much) (I say this, but Caines is still amazing for actually doing his profile, godspeed pookie. Annnd it didn’t like that sorry LMAO.)

SO.

For every comment, 5 reblogs, OR 8 likes we get one this post.. ONE headmate will get their pluralkit and simply plural fully finished! (Please don’t spam the comments or anything, it’s kinda lame when we see a bunch of comments from one person & I appreciate it but also our SP is SUPER detailed so.)

For every 3 profiles we get done from this post.. we’ll share one!! (Please mention it in tags/reblog/comment if you want us to give y’all a choice on who we share the profile of!)

For every 5 profiles we get done from this post, the next will be a TOTALLY NEW HEADMATE!!

Pretty please & thank you! ❤️

[thehomebound-col]

ive been thinking about this for a few months but honestly i want to like create a headmates but like- idk

what are some pros and cons?

Hmm .. let’s see .. I think that kinda depends on your life itself, but here’s some I’ve noticed.

PROS:

— You’ll never have to be alone again. Even in the worst possible situation, you’ll always have somebody with you, there to talk to and give you support and opinions. Even if nobody else will listen, there will always be your headmates who are there to know what you have to say. You can talk to them when you get bored, get second opinions if you’re stuck, all sorts of things.

— You’ll be able to split life’s tasks between you and headmates. Life is exhausting — school/work, taking care of yourself, social life, hobbies, etc., what we’ve noticed is being able to relax and let a headmate do something we don’t want to has made it a lot easier to accomplish all the tasks we need to do on a daily basis for life maintenance. You can even just.. take breaks from life, because others can hold it up for you while you do.

— Having multiple parts of your brain that each exist as their own individuals means that those individuals each get to study themselves in their own right, which can lead to a LOT of introspection. The only reason we discovered we have HSD is because Belphegor realized the exhaustion and fatigue we felt was not normal, something I’d never even noticed, which led to doing research to find out the cause. More people there to learn about the brain and its functioning tends to mean more discoveries.

— You don’t have to do all the grueling stuff, and might even be able to form headmates that can do things you couldn’t. For example, if you’re too scared to do something you have to, another headmate can do it. You have an extremely strong emotion that’s consuming you? Another headmate can front to handle the situation, or take the emotion from you to cope with it on their own terms.

— Funny shit. Nothing like tuning into headspace conversation to hear the most unhinged conversation ever, or doing something dumb and getting a side eye from somebody in co-con, or a headmate in co-front giving a quip in a serious conversation that makes it a little more bearable. Or like, writing/reading a fanfiction and that one fictive chimes in to go “actually, I’d say this,” or “damn that’s accurate.”

— It’s kind of like a permanent ‘family’, imo. People you will never lose. Maybe dormancy, sure, but that’s not usually permanent. There might be headmates you don’t like that much, but enough time can sometimes teach that dislike to turn into affectionate annoyance. Friends, family, parents, siblings, maybe even lovers, kids (yours or otherwise) — people to take care of you, to care for you.

CONS:

— Although “you’ll never have to be alone” is one of my number one pros, it’s also.. kind of a con. As in, you’ll never truly be able to be alone ever again, even if you wanted to be. Sure, sometimes headmates are respectful and can give you alone time, or if you successfully create a headspace you can go sit in a room alone for a while, but you’re still sharing a body with others. There’s no such thing as true alone time.

— If you have any disorders or disabilities currently, then plurality might be impacted by them (or impact them, depends on how you view it.) For example, we have AuDHD, and switching can make us feel pretty brain fogged. More importantly, we have dysautonomia, which can make switching (and almost always makes front crowding) give us headaches, nausea, sometimes even makes our body sore and fatigued. We already had these symptoms, but now they happen more often with plurality-related triggers. Any disorders you have could interact with your plurality similarly.

— Most systems that start out willed will form unintentional headmates eventually. This means persecutors and prosecutors aren’t out of the question. If you have any sort of negative/“bad” thoughts, intrusive or impulsive or otherwise, it’s even more likely. But even so, we’d consider ourselves to be very mentally healthy and we still have a persecutor who despises everybody and everything and a prosecutor who has hurt the body before. Actually, I still have a pretty big scab from that. They aren’t bad headmates — I don’t think there’s a such thing — but they can do bad things, and they need care and supervision more than other headmates do so they don’t hurt us. Those types of headmates forming later down the line is never truly out of the equation.

- Unless you make an effort to create barriers between headmates — which is a dangerous undertaking for some people — there’s not a lot of privacy. We share memories, thoughts, etc., nothing anybody does is out of reach from everybody else. This wasn’t as bad a con as we thought it would be going into this— most headmates don’t care enough to judge most things I’d want private—, but it is still a con. Esp if you’re saddled with judgmental headmates.

— They are autonomous. You don’t have control over your headmates. Now, don’t get me wrong— I don’t want to control my headmates. That would ruin the whole point. But don’t forget to consider what that means. If a headmate wants to do something, then they want to do it. If they’re in front and get the chance to, they probably will, even if you would disagree. Some headmates have entirely opposing viewpoints to the rest of the system. We have a radqueer in our system who is pro-transabled/transharmed/etc., who we have to supervise to keep from condoning that behavior in others or doing anything harmful to our body, despite the fact every other person in this system is aggressively anti-radqueers or anti-transID. Him believing in all that is not a good thing, but he’s still his own person, so we can’t just force him to stop believing that ideology.

All in all — we are the type to take in and enjoy the bad in order to adore the good, so this has been a great fit for us. But willoing is definitely not for everybody. Whether you chose to or not is wholly your choice, nobody else’s, but I hope this helps put it into a stronger perspective whether something you want to do. You could even decide you will, but only later on. It’s your journey.

Don’t forget that it’s perfectly okay to regret willoing after you do it, that does not mean you’re a bad person or anything, but you cant get rid of headmates in the same way you can create them, so at least weigh the chances of how likely you are to regret it before making any choices.

Wishing you luck with whatever you choose, blessed be & good day! <3

— Atlas (and probably somebody else idk we just woke up)

[thehomebound-col]

so I'm wanting to be plural, a willogenic system and Im very indecisive with if i want to or not. I have multiple reasons why and I have no doubts it would help my mental state but I'm scared that I'll regret it. I've been on this decision for months now I'm tempted to put the decisions on a wheel and spin it to see what I get

I think if it’s been on your mind your months now, then it’s probably not going to go away, and usually that means your mind has set itself on a decision even if you haven’t consciously made one.

If you’re willing to accept it if you end up regretting it later down the line, then I say go for it, because the chance you WON’T regret it is great enough it’s a loss not to try.

Wishing you luck with whatever you choose though. You’re valid, and I hope you get where you wanna be with this 🫶🫶

— Memory 🍧 + Auggie 🥥 + Idun 💌

[thehomebound-col]

Today officially marked our 6 month mark into being a system.

I think we finally fully trust that this is how our life will be from now on. That we aren’t acting or experiencing a “cute hyperfix” on plurality. We’re a system. We’re a system. We have been for SIX months. And we always will be.

Shoutout to the baby willogenics and shoutout to the experienced willogenics and shout out to all created systems. You’re doing so good.

[thehomebound-col]

random question, is there anybody out there that thinks of our system when they think of willogenic systems (or even endo systems at all)

We’ve had a handful of people tell us we were a big influence in their willoing or acceptance journey and it just had us wondering if we’re like, an even semi-notable system within the endo/willo community..? or is that just a unique few people kinda thing?

probably gonna cross post this question on tiktok because we’re really curious, it doesn’t matter much to us either way but we love the idea of being like, a helpful person to people?? like somebody people think of positively??

[thehomebound-col]

Sorry if youve answered this already, but how do you willo in your first headmate with mad adhd? I cant ever stay focused on willing and always get distracted. At one point i was trying to listen to lofi and think about them but I kept mind wandering!

Thank you for any advice <3

@leafwing120

Haha we have terrible ADHD too (idk if you’ve seen us mention that and that’s why you’re asking, but) so I absolutely get it!!

The very very first time we tried to create a headmate we ended up getting bored and giving up within a couple days because of our ADHD. Like, 4-5 years ago now, I think? But we approached with less of a strict expectation when we started willoing again.

Your new willomate does not need your attention and effort 24/7, at least when they’re not entirely sentient and separate from you (of course once they are, they’re a new being, so they deserve acknowledgment and attention whenever you feel their presence). If you forget for a few hours or a day or so, you haven’t lost progress. If you sit there for 30 minutes and think about them in and out for half that time, then you still spent 15 minutes thinking about them, it doesn’t matter that it wasn’t entirely consistent.

If you have any sort of daily routine (nighttime, morning, after work/school), then try to work into what’s already built. For example, try to talk to and parrot with your headmate while brushing your teeth or making/eating breakfast. We find it really easy to communicate while in the shower, especially back when we were first forming our system!

Try to make it fun and interactive, too, so it’s easier to pay attention! For example, load up a building game (Minecraft, Sims, Bloxburg, Rooms) and build them a room while talking to them! Or make them a playlist, moodboard, gacha character, picrew, or straight up draw them.

You can also try to find pro-endo friends to hold you accountable to remembering and engaging with your willomate. When I was forming our system, we looked around for a bit and found a partner system on tumblr who was also a brand new willogenic system, and so we helped each other remember just by interacting every day. We’d give our headmates chances to talk to each other as well, which helped a lot.

Good luck willoing, whatever you do and whatever works for you!! Even 2 days of consistently doing what you want to do and then losing interest/forgetting for 5 days is still better and more effective than 7 days of not having done it at all. That goes for anything at all, too, not just willoing!