There is a very underrated aspect of eiypo that we don't talk about enough, and for it I would like you to do a short exercise with me:
Think of someone you like, works even better if it's a crush/sp but it truly can be anyone you admire or have "put on a pedestal" .
Ask yourself "What do I like about this person?". Make a list, not about how you feel around them but characteristics that attracted you to them. Maybe they are funny, maybe you like their confidence, maybe you like the same things or they are very smart.
Now, look at your list and ask yourself "Which of these traits do I possess?" Am I attached to this person's humor because I am not capable of acknowledging how funny I am, or how smart, or how interesting. Do I deep down hold the belief no one would like someone like me, while simultaneously liking someone like me?
For me, it looked like this: I have a type, sue me. And everyone has always joked that I like men that look like me, not so much regarding facial features but the overall vibe, style, etc etc. And somehow, I simultaneously have been holding the deep set belief that I am undesirable, ugly, that no one would be attracted to the way I look. This exercise made me realize that the world of the senses has not been my enemy, in fact it has been slapping me in the face with the reality that I am attractive because I am attracted to people who look like me.
you would fall in love with yourself if you weren't yourself. think about it. if you weren't this Ego character and instead were another, wouldn't you like what you see?
And here's the ironic part, this thought process makes no sense. Everyone is you, and so the traits you are projecting onto others to be able to love are already waiting within you to be loved with the same intensity.















