"I'm disabled and I can do [X]."
"I'm disabled and I don't need [Y]."
"I'm disabled and I don't do [Z]."
Good for you. You are not all disabled people, your experiences are not universal.
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@cold-inthe-middle
"I'm disabled and I can do [X]."
"I'm disabled and I don't need [Y]."
"I'm disabled and I don't do [Z]."
Good for you. You are not all disabled people, your experiences are not universal.
There is a world of difference between society's desire to forcibly cure autistic people (anti body autonomy, based in eugenics), and an individual autistic person's desire to cure their own autism (pro body autonomy). I don't understand why they are threated as equivalent.
You'll be like "infant circumcision is obviously objectively wrong" and a clown spawns in with unskippable dialogue to tell you "um actually when my religion (not christianity, one of the Good Religions 😏) does circumcision it's safe, painless, and doesn't have any negative side effects!!!"
Like okay, good for you ig, I was actually referring to the act of non-consensually permanently aesthetically altering a person's body tho 😐
"Vegans should [do something completely counter to their whole philosophy like support honey or leather cus I don't actually know what veganism is but also will never learn because I have written it off entirely in fear they might be right]."
It's just, incorrect and stigmatizing to look at harassment towards trans men and think "wow. This person fr irl has a forcefem kink they are projecting on to this individual for the express purpose of getting off to their kink non-consensually!!!! 😱😱😱"
And not "wow, this person is misgendering and sexually harassing this individual cus they're a standard transphobe."
Why are you bringing kink into this? Why are you lecturing kinksters not to commit consent violations, when it is transphobes doing this?
Framing kinksters as uniquely prone to committing consent violations, and sexuality as uniquely dangerous, obfuscates the real mechanisms behind abuse (hate/bigotry being by far more common and compelling motivators). It's sex negative, it makes it harder to effectively address abuse, and this rhetoric is much more likely to harm trans men (as forcefem is extremely popular with trans men) than help, which is,,, counter to challenging transmisandry.
Honestly... proshippers actively advocating for youth oppression for the last 10 years is genuinely unforgivable and likely resulted in tangible harm.
Forcefem doesn't exist irl because that's a kink term. It's like saying a rape survivor was noncon'd, or refering to a stabbing as "non-consensual knifeplay", i.e massively inappropriate, confusing, and stigmatizing.
Hate being alterhuman cus I interact with one (1) post from the community and instantly my fyp is full of...
Ageism
Therianthropy being positioned as the default alterhuman experience
Ageism
Ageism
AGEISM
Everpresent disrespect and disdain for atheism / aspirituality
AGEISM
AGEISM
AGEISM
AGEISM
Ageism
AGEISM
-> Sex favorable aces don't remind ppl we exist to be "palatable" or "acceptable" to allos. We remind ppl because we are erased and excluded constantly, from the ace community, from other queer communities, from activism, and from even being considered asexual.
-> We raise awareness because our existence is literally unfathomable to allos, they can not conceive on their own that some people can don't feel sexual attraction and still have/desire sex (and some of these "allos" are sex favorable aces getting left in the lurch because you find us existing/reminding you we exist "annoying.").
-> Sex favorable aces are not palatable or accepted by allos. Sex favorable aces are seen as manipulative, attention-seeking, self harming, and not really asexual. In addition to all 'general' acephobia.
-> Just as sex repulsed asexuals are hated for not having sex (and for being asexual), sex favorable aces are hated for having sex "in the wrong way," without sexual attraction (and for being asexual). It's two sides of the same coin: sex negativity.
-> Acephobia is the hatred of acespec people. Not the hate of sex repulsed/celibate ppl. If all asexuals were sex favorable acephobia would still exist. As the lack of sexual attraction itself is considered "wrong" (broken, a mental illness to be fixed, unnatural, queer).
-> Sex favorable aces are not responsible for acephobia, or allos disrespecting your boundaries, they made the conscious choice to ignore them. If sexfav aces didn't exist, still allos would (and do) use literally any other excuse to coerce you.
-> Sex favorable aces are not overrepresented in fiction, fanfiction is not representation. I have found 1 canonically sex favorable asexual character in my decade of being in the community (and people are continuously acephobic about it).
-> Sex favorable asexuals are asexual.
"Hold up! You might think afab transfems and amab transmascs are just cis people trying to sneak into the trans community — but that isn't the case!"
Oke
I wasn't thinking that though, because that's a fake issue no one should be worried about.
There's this verbal slight of hand I keep seeing, where people posit that believing in spirituality, magic, soul (etc) is needed to be "Good" (and "Good" can be any positive trait: happy, progressive, so on). And if they are rightfully called out for excluding atheists/aspiritual ppl from being Good. They go...
"Nooooooo, when I said you have to believe in magic to be Good, I didn't mean the actual definition of magic, I meant feeling amazement/wonder at things you don't understand!"
"Nooooooo, when I said you have to have spirituality to be anti-reactionary, I didn't mean the actual definition of spirituality, I meant you need meaning in your life!"
"Noooooo when I said your art has to have soul to be valuable, I meant you need intention behind your work!"
They probably don't consciously realize that if being/having spirituality = happy, healthy, moral, intentioned, progressive (so on), what are they saying about aspiritual people? Oh, what, literally the most common stereotype about atheists being depressed, immoral, untrustworthy reactionaries who lack joy and amazement and wonder and meaning in their lives? Hm. Hm. Hm.
I came back exactly the same you just have a lot of baggage regarding my death you are projecting onto me
*A trans man is abused by their partner, family, and religious communities (that they rely on more as a result of having worse employment/housing outcomes) into detransitioning and becoming a mouthpiece for transphobic/reactionary rhetoric*
Queer communities: ah... I see... trans men are uniquely reactionary, untrustworthy, and weak-willed compared to other demographics 🤔 it must be inherent to transmasculinity itself.
Don't forget to mention how they are often isolated from queer spaces, spaces where they should feel safe and instead have people throwing every single men's stereotype at them.
*A trans man is abused by their partner, family, and religious communities (that they rely on more as a result of having worse employment/housing outcomes) into detransitioning and becoming a mouthpiece for transphobic/reactionary rhetoric*
Queer communities: ah... I see... trans men are uniquely reactionary, untrustworthy, and weak-willed compared to other demographics 🤔 it must be inherent to transmasculinity itself.
"Tumblr used to be so sex positive, what happened?" Ace discourse happened.
Suddenly, it wasn't OK to have a atypical relationship with sex. If you don't want sex you're broken and should be corrected, if you deny your partner sex you're abusing them, if you have sex just for your partner you're being abused, if you have sex (without sexual attraction) because you want it you're a self-harming attention whore faker, if you only masturbate you're a pervert, if you're not attracted to [adult] people you must be attracted to something else (animals/children*), and so on and so on
That is what sex negativity is, the belief there is a Normal-Good sexuality (however the speaker defines it), and bad weird sexualities that are harmful and gross and wrong and dangerous.
This, like most aspects of ace discourse, didn't go away after the lines were redrawn to "include" (more like, dismissively tolarate) aces in Normal-Good sexuality.
Me, a clueless plegg: I dunno I just really like stories where multiple people are forced to share a body, or when a character talks to different versions of themself in the mindscape, or when characters fuse into one person, or when one person splits into multiple people, or when-