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"I'm disabled and I can do [X]."

"I'm disabled and I don't need [Y]."

"I'm disabled and I don't do [Z]."

Good for you. You are not all disabled people, your experiences are not universal.

#your experiences are not universal #disability #ableism

There is a world of difference between society's desire to forcibly cure autistic people (anti body autonomy, based in eugenics), and an individual autistic person's desire to cure their own autism (pro body autonomy). I don't understand why they are threated as equivalent.

#this also applies to shaving i just realized #autism #body autonomy #tw eugenics

You'll be like "infant circumcision is obviously objectively wrong" and a clown spawns in with unskippable dialogue to tell you "um actually when my religion (not christianity, one of the Good Religions 😏) does circumcision it's safe, painless, and doesn't have any negative side effects!!!"

Like okay, good for you ig, I was actually referring to the act of non-consensually permanently aesthetically altering a person's body tho 😐

#anti circumcision #infant genital mutilation #youth liberation #body autonomy #your body my choice #i wish i could find the screenshot but i have genuinely seen people refer to non christian religions as “the good religions”#the belief that christianity is the only bad religion is a fucking blight #“bad religions” in quotations marks. i think compartmentalizing religions as good or bad to be reductive

"Vegans should [do something completely counter to their whole philosophy like support honey or leather cus I don't actually know what veganism is but also will never learn because I have written it off entirely in fear they might be right]."

#self identified TMEs DNI (i know a handful infest the vegan tag)#veganism #vegan

It's just, incorrect and stigmatizing to look at harassment towards trans men and think "wow. This person fr irl has a forcefem kink they are projecting on to this individual for the express purpose of getting off to their kink non-consensually!!!! 😱😱😱"

And not "wow, this person is misgendering and sexually harassing this individual cus they're a standard transphobe."

Why are you bringing kink into this? Why are you lecturing kinksters not to commit consent violations, when it is transphobes doing this?

Framing kinksters as uniquely prone to committing consent violations, and sexuality as uniquely dangerous, obfuscates the real mechanisms behind abuse (hate/bigotry being by far more common and compelling motivators). It's sex negative, it makes it harder to effectively address abuse, and this rhetoric is much more likely to harm trans men (as forcefem is extremely popular with trans men) than help, which is,,, counter to challenging transmisandry.

#ehhhh what to tag #sex negativity #pro kink #forcefem discourse #transandrophobia #transmisandry

Honestly... proshippers actively advocating for youth oppression for the last 10 years is genuinely unforgivable and likely resulted in tangible harm.

#antis are also super ageist. but antishipping is inherently ageist. proshipping didn't have to be #just musing #youth liberation #ageism #adultism #childism

Forcefem doesn't exist irl because that's a kink term. It's like saying a rape survivor was noncon'd, or refering to a stabbing as "non-consensual knifeplay", i.e massively inappropriate, confusing, and stigmatizing.

#like if you say “the goverment wants to forcefem all trans men” my reaction is to be like “wow. hot” because you are using a kink term #yall really dont get to take our language because it stigmatizes the people using it first. and correctly #by associating a kink with real world oppression #sex negativity #pro kink #forcefem discourse

#autism #actually autistic #disability #ableism #neuroableism #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #anxiety disorder #social anxiety #actually anxious

Hate being alterhuman cus I interact with one (1) post from the community and instantly my fyp is full of...

Ageism

Therianthropy being positioned as the default alterhuman experience

Ageism

AGEISM

Everpresent disrespect and disdain for atheism / aspirituality

AGEISM

Ageism

AGEISM

#you ppl hate minors so much its insane #vent #adultism #childism #ageism #youth liberation #how brave im feeling?#not very brave im not tagging this alterhuman /lh

-> Sex favorable aces don't remind ppl we exist to be "palatable" or "acceptable" to allos. We remind ppl because we are erased and excluded constantly, from the ace community, from other queer communities, from activism, and from even being considered asexual.

-> We raise awareness because our existence is literally unfathomable to allos, they can not conceive on their own that some people can don't feel sexual attraction and still have/desire sex (and some of these "allos" are sex favorable aces getting left in the lurch because you find us existing/reminding you we exist "annoying.").

-> Sex favorable aces are not palatable or accepted by allos. Sex favorable aces are seen as manipulative, attention-seeking, self harming, and not really asexual. In addition to all 'general' acephobia.

-> Just as sex repulsed asexuals are hated for not having sex (and for being asexual), sex favorable aces are hated for having sex "in the wrong way," without sexual attraction (and for being asexual). It's two sides of the same coin: sex negativity.

-> Acephobia is the hatred of acespec people. Not the hate of sex repulsed/celibate ppl. If all asexuals were sex favorable acephobia would still exist. As the lack of sexual attraction itself is considered "wrong" (broken, a mental illness to be fixed, unnatural, queer).

-> Sex favorable aces are not responsible for acephobia, or allos disrespecting your boundaries, they made the conscious choice to ignore them. If sexfav aces didn't exist, still allos would (and do) use literally any other excuse to coerce you.

-> Sex favorable aces are not overrepresented in fiction, fanfiction is not representation. I have found 1 canonically sex favorable asexual character in my decade of being in the community (and people are continuously acephobic about it).

-> Sex favorable asexuals are asexual.

#and then ask yourself why this had to be said #why people chose to make up intensely negative theories about us instead of asking us about our experiences and views #sex favorable asexual #sex favorable ace #sex favorable #asexual #cupiosexual #anti sex favorable sentiment #its also not a “both sides” issue (sex fav aces and sex repulsed aces are equally bad to eachother). but ill save that for later

"Hold up! You might think afab transfems and amab transmascs are just cis people trying to sneak into the trans community — but that isn't the case!"

Oke

I wasn't thinking that though, because that's a fake issue no one should be worried about.

#not directed at the OP im vagueing but the people who prompted them to add this disclaimer in the first place #afab transfem #amab transmasc

There's this verbal slight of hand I keep seeing, where people posit that believing in spirituality, magic, soul (etc) is needed to be "Good" (and "Good" can be any positive trait: happy, progressive, so on). And if they are rightfully called out for excluding atheists/aspiritual ppl from being Good. They go...

"Nooooooo, when I said you have to believe in magic to be Good, I didn't mean the actual definition of magic, I meant feeling amazement/wonder at things you don't understand!"

"Nooooooo, when I said you have to have spirituality to be anti-reactionary, I didn't mean the actual definition of spirituality, I meant you need meaning in your life!"

"Noooooo when I said your art has to have soul to be valuable, I meant you need intention behind your work!"

They probably don't consciously realize that if being/having spirituality = happy, healthy, moral, intentioned, progressive (so on), what are they saying about aspiritual people? Oh, what, literally the most common stereotype about atheists being depressed, immoral, untrustworthy reactionaries who lack joy and amazement and wonder and meaning in their lives? Hm. Hm. Hm.

#atheist #atheism #aspiritual #scepticism #anti atheist sentiment #of course i feel paranoid bring this up. but every example i bring up ive seen first hand

I came back exactly the same you just have a lot of baggage regarding my death you are projecting onto me

#came back wrong #really really hate the “came back wrong” trope /personal opinion

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*A trans man is abused by their partner, family, and religious communities (that they rely on more as a result of having worse employment/housing outcomes) into detransitioning and becoming a mouthpiece for transphobic/reactionary rhetoric*

Queer communities: ah... I see... trans men are uniquely reactionary, untrustworthy, and weak-willed compared to other demographics 🤔 it must be inherent to transmasculinity itself.

senhor-do-escuro

Don't forget to mention how they are often isolated from queer spaces, spaces where they should feel safe and instead have people throwing every single men's stereotype at them.

#good addition /gen

Queer communities: ah... I see... trans men are uniquely reactionary, untrustworthy, and weak-willed compared to other demographics 🤔 it must be inherent to transmasculinity itself.

#transandrophobia

"Tumblr used to be so sex positive, what happened?" Ace discourse happened.

Suddenly, it wasn't OK to have a atypical relationship with sex. If you don't want sex you're broken and should be corrected, if you deny your partner sex you're abusing them, if you have sex just for your partner you're being abused, if you have sex (without sexual attraction) because you want it you're a self-harming attention whore faker, if you only masturbate you're a pervert, if you're not attracted to [adult] people you must be attracted to something else (animals/children*), and so on and so on

That is what sex negativity is, the belief there is a Normal-Good sexuality (however the speaker defines it), and bad weird sexualities that are harmful and gross and wrong and dangerous.

This, like most aspects of ace discourse, didn't go away after the lines were redrawn to "include" (more like, dismissively tolarate) aces in Normal-Good sexuality.

#forgot i queued this #rip #(if you see me make a hundred tiny edits thats why)#asexuality #sex positivity #sex positive #tw sex mention #sex negativity

Me, a clueless plegg: I dunno I just really like stories where multiple people are forced to share a body, or when a character talks to different versions of themself in the mindscape, or when characters fuse into one person, or when one person splits into multiple people, or when-

#endo safe #plegg #plural egg #egg carton #plurality #plural

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