#internal critic

[sauron-did-nothing-wrong]

Been walking around most of the day with a feeling of being watched and legit just now realized why.

I've been thinking about fingon in my WIP fanfic, in which he's currently being very judgy of Maedhros.

I was feeling watched... Cause my internal, imagined smut fanfic fingon was judging me.....

Fuck my brain

[crymeariveronceagain]

me, writing so late at night that my internal critic is quieted: wow this is so good

me, still writing, noticing that i think my own writing is really fricking good: WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT HAVE YOU DONE WITH ME

[whimseysthrone]

Cooking, writing, prep work 5/7/26

Here are two scenarios. First, you’re in the kitchen. You need to make dinner—food for tonight, and leftovers for several days. You’re working from a recipe that you haven’t read before. You haven’t done any prep. You’re sure you have most of the ingredients you’ll need, but you haven’t even pulled any of them out of the cupboard. Second, you’re in the kitchen again. You still need to make…

[whimseysthrone]

Internal critics & crediting all the work

I struggle to give credit to all the important work that is part of writing. I think that work can be roughly sorted into three categories: Continue reading Untitled

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[life-is-molasses]

Some people help with this a lot.

[jamiesonwolf]

I Quit - A Poem

I quit. I quit comparing myself to others and not seeing how beautiful I am. I quit listening to the opinions of others and letting them change me. I quit listening to the internal critic every time I look into the mirror. I quit being jealous of other peoples success and letting it overshadow what I’ve already accomplished. I quit being too hard on myself and holding myself to a…

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[jamiesonwolf]

a voice of my own - a poem

a voice of my own – a poem

for ten years, i’ve held onto the emotions that you fed me throughout our time together. you filled me with so much hate for myself that repulsion and disgust became constant bedfellows. i let go of that today, before the new year begins. i don’t need to hold to it anymore for it was never mine. though you gave it to me, i give it back to you now, casting the hate into the wind so…

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[otterenergy1962]

Stage One, Act Four: Knocking Down my Inner Critic!

I’m thinking of a time when I have a lot of self-doubt and I procrastinate. This is when I see a really handsome guy. I dream about meeting him, but always find a reason to not act and go to meet him. I think any of the following:

He will think that I am boring

He won’t like me

I’ll not know what to say

I’m afraid to go meet him

It’s easier to sit by myself and feel sorry for myself

I have nothing important to say

You’re better off this way so you don’t get hurt

Sometimes the voice in my head says some pretty nasty things such as:

You’re a piece of shit

You’re a loser

You deserve everything bad that happens to you

You’re not worth it to even try

In fact, my little voice tells me things such as that no one would notice if I were not there or no one would want to be with me if they knew how broken and dysfunctional I am.

So with this in mind, I’ve discovered the thing that the little voice always say to me is that I am broken and dysfunctional.  When I hear this I feel heartbroken, depressed, spiritless, overwhelmed and call it quits. In fact it makes me feel tired, my stomach is heavy, often I have a headache, my body hurts and I hunch down and become tight. This is true evidence that thinking this way can be harmful to me!

When I feel this way I often sit on the couch and think bad thoughts and dwell on the negatives. I will often want to crawl into bed or isolate myself further. I then want to give up hope because I heap all of my problems on top to overwhelm myself and I give up. This causes the biggest fear I have to happen and I believe that I am broken or dysfunctional!

It was suggested to think about a situation where it was impossible to believe this little voice. After a lot of reflecting, I

I wouldn’t have to hide who I am

I would be able to express myself without worry

I would know that I am not broken and dysfunctional

I wouldn’t have anything left to hold me back

I would succeed

I would be able to accept things if I failed

I would be able to contribute without fear of not being capable

If there was no possible way for me to believe this, then I would feel free because my inner critic would not have a voice and I could get out there and be me!  I could be sure of myself, ready to try anything, not worrying about failing as I would learn from the failure just as much as when I succeed!  I would smile more often and be more open.  There would be no fear of rejection and I would be ready to face the world and new challenges. There would be no reason to not fulfill my goals of where I want to be and how I want to feel!

Finally, it was suggested that I take my power back by giving the inner critic a name so I called him Bernie Butthole. He appears when I’m faced with a new situation or am in a tough spot. He really pops up when I meet someone new or when I want to to participate but am afraid and then not do it. He butts in whenever I am feeling uncertain or fearful.

I have to be aware of when Bernie is getting in the way such as when I face doubt, feel overwhelmed or something negative is happening. He’ll also show up when I make a mistake and I start beating myself up. He even causes shame and guilt!

I have to take back my power so I came up with the following saying:

“There are no ‘ifs’ ‘ands’ or ‘buts’ about it! You need to shut your hole and let me do what I do best and that’s to say carpe diem!”

So, now that I’ve faced it, bring on the handsome guys! I’m ready!