Self-dx intersex variation culture is.. feeling isolated, and so overwhelmed.
I'd love to get checked ... this variation could be causing hormonal differences, and at times, I want to go on HRT....
Our world is just not built for intersex people. (CW, medical, heavy stuff)
I have reason to believe I was 'altered' as an infant, like many others.
Medically unnecessary, "cosmetic" surgery. It's known to negatively impact quality of life, as well as sexual sensation -
"but it might help you fit in".
My parents may have not been told. This is the precedent in the US, UK, and many more.
If they chose this, I doubt they'd tell me. So I don't bother to ask.
The medical people aren't required to put these surgeries on healthcare records... Even though it's hugely relevant, imo... So, asking for the true history gets me nowhere.
Sometimes, people can have hormonal / genetic testing done to discover their variation.
I can barely get an appointment for a COVID vaccine, they won't care to test me since it's not life-threatening.
But, there's so much information to sift through.. it's all locked away behind qualifications, or paywalls.
It's coated in dehumanising language, like a cake in icing.
On top of this, with the increase in people 'wishing' to be intersex, I'm sometimes afraid to be open because I don't want to come across as a romanticiser or fetishist.
People seem to think being "intersex" will make their non-binary genders more valid, or something.
People dislike being reduced to their assigned sex, and yet, see no issue with directing this at intersex people...
Most intersex variations are easily missed. They're just human sex variations, they only stand out because people in the past created a binary standard for sex.
I get the impression many people have misunderstood 'intersex' human sex variations to be "androgyny guaranteed", or something.
Androgyny we may display due to variation is surgically removed, as standard procedure.
Assigned sex is a scam, invented in the 1900s to streamline paperwork.
Binary gender is a scam, based on binary sex, which is a scam. Free me from this ...
"John Money offered “gender” as a new conceptual realm of sex in the mid-1950s. He initially did so as part of a framework for understand-ing the phenomenon of human --- (intersex, a word now considered a slur for us). That framework was first and foremost a rationale for clinical practices designed to habilitate the intersexed into girlhood and boyhood, womanhood and manhood. "
"Money continued his research, gathering increasing numbers of case reports and data with which to evidence his claims. It was in that context that Money identified a need for a single overarching term that would enable him to discuss the masculinity and femininity of the intersexed. The term he eventually settled on was gender."
Highly recommend looking up this guy's ideas, if one can stomach it, he's behind so many transphobic / transmisogynistic ideas people still cling to today.
I'm sorry that you're having to go through this. That's terrible