#journalling

[aghosts-eulogy]

"but there is something that happens when you are told you are too much. you begin to ask everyone, "how small would you like me?""

[belanas-archive]

there are stars in your eyes, my darling

if only you let people see them.

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[honeytonedhottie]

how to master self validation⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🍦💕

if you find yourself looking for signs of constant reassurance and looking to see what people think or if they like you or not, you're looking for their validation. it's very common but it becomes a problem when u base ur self worth on other people's perceptions of you. here's how we're going to break free from that...💬🎀

DO I LOOK FOR VALIDATION? ;

sometimes we don't even realize when we're looking for validation from others so here are some things that we do subconsciously that are validation-hungry behaviors.

🍦 asking other people's opinions before making a decision.

🍦 saying yes to things u actually want to say no to.

🍦 needing reassurance before you can stand confidently on an opinion or choice.

🍦 over-analyzing situations or text messages

HOW ARE WE GONNA COMBAT THIS? ;

the first step to combatting this is to become self aware so if you've already done that, GOOD JOB. the second thing that we're gonna wanna do is get rid of any shame that is surrounding our validation hungry tendencies. there is nothing to be ashamed of.

we're going to work through it with some journalling (i'll provide some prompts below) and practicing self validating until it becomes like second nature to us.

HOW TO PRACTICE SELF VALIDATION ;

if you're looking for validation outside of yourself in order to feel loved, figure out how you can show yourself love more. if you're looking for validation outside of yourself in order to feel like you're doing something right, figure out how you can show yourself that you're doing everything right. find the source and then find out how you can give yourself what you're searching for.

JOURNALLING PROMPTS ;

when do i feel like i need other's approval most?

what do i usually hope to hear from others when i seek validation?

what would it look like to give myself that same reassurance instead?

what are three things i know to be true about me, no matter what anyone else thinks?

[rvnclyd]

[hello-friends9500]

Had this thought recently when I was trying to understand why I'm not doing as well in life as everyone else my age. I don't know how long it'll be before I go back to looking down on myself, though.

[beatrizjournal]

New gothic reads and my journal for February.🖤🥀🕯️

[oooocleo]

i might delete this later bc the video is so ugly fifjfjf but! i figured the journalling ppl might like a peek at the nearly-finished pages on a trip to see my friend this past august

figuring out how i like to do this (process- and result wise) is ongoing, but i do like the coherent look of these fully drawn pages 🤔