To Newly Discovered Systems
It's really, really common for newly-discovered systems to struggle with certain things.
It's common to have a hard time talking to each other internally. If you can talk to each other, then it's common to struggle to know who's talking.
It's common to have a hard time knowing who's in control, who's talking to you, or who's in your head.
It's common to struggle with spotting or controlling switches.
It's common to struggle to get along with some or all of your system.
It's really common to struggle to believe that your experiences are real (even when you know that you find the framework of plurality helpful for explaining your experiences!).
These things are all skills. You can and will get better at them with time and practice. Struggling is not a permanent state or personal failing. We live in a world that doesn't teach you these skills, and you're trying to learn them anyway. That effort is something to be proud of.
Working with your system (and fighting off denial/doubt) gets easier the longer you've been doing it. You learn what works for you. You won't always feel like it's all overwhelming, messy, fake, or whatever other "I'm not good enough" feelings you might be having now.
The systems you see who seem to have it all together have had more time and practice at working with their systems. Sometimes, they've had life environments that gave them a head start in building these skills, but your life circumstances don't decide whether you can get better at these things. You can still learn these skills without that head start.
You might struggle with other feelings in the future, and there will always be something to work on, but the things that you're struggling with right now will get easier. The systems who seem to have it all together are still learning things too.
