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Charlie Eppes from Numb3rs is demiromantic and noetiromantic!
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Charlie Eppes from Numb3rs is demiromantic and noetiromantic!
requested by: @rattboxwarriorr!
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Michael Kaiser from Blue Lock is an autistic nonhuman bi gay aplspec noetiromantic erosweird agender wisteriboy with NPD, ASPD, ultimate cluster B traits, STPD, C-PTSD, and a special interest in psychology who uses he/him, hy/hymn, and it/its pronouns!
Hy's in a wavership with and the FP of Alexis Ness, an autistic gay cis boy with anxiety and BPD!
Hys EP Isagi Yoichi is an autistic oneplural polymind polyaffectionate ambiamorous bisexual cis boy with anxiety, BPD, and covert NPD, and the two are rivalbound!
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November Carnival of Aros Submission: Aplatonic vs. Loner
When I think of the term aplatonic, fear comes to mind. Do I really want to write about my feelings of being aplatonic (or more specifically grayplatonic in my case) in a book that my family, friends, or co-workers might read? The stigma of not having many friends is one that I fear. Once, someone asked me if I was a loner. The feeling of fear and not knowing what to say struck my heart. The idea of not having a lot of friends makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me, that I’m broken.
In WebMD’s article, What is a loner?, it begins by stating, “Being a loner means that you would prefer to be by yourself rather than with others. Depending on the context of the situation and your personality and preferences, this could be a good or bad thing.” The first section continues by stating, “Loners display varying degrees of wanting to or needing to be alone. There are positive, healthy reasons for being a loner, as well as negative, destructive reasons.” While I appreciate the positive attitude that addresses the healthy reasons for spending time alone, I feel like the stigma against those who are not attracted to spending time building friendships is still emphasized.
The creation of the aplatonic sprectrum as an identity is an attempt to step away from that stigma and accept that it is ok to not feel an attraction to the idea of being friends with someone. But can this spectrum ever breakaway from the stigma of being loners? Aspec people frequently write about the ability to form strong friendships and platonic partnerships as being just as important as romantic or sexual relations to allos. I have never identified strongly with these feelings. While I do have friends and make an effort to find friends when I move to new cities, I have rarely felt such a close bond with friends that I would liken it to being on the same level of importance as a romantic relationship.
In May 2022, I wrote my first submission for Carnival of Aros on being non-partnering. I reflected on the bullying that I experienced, and how it was related to the selective mutism. Because of this experience, and others, I wondered if my experiences with mental health did affect my feelings and desires. For me, being someone who has experienced selective mutism and never sought counseling on it, I feel that the times that are difficult to speak are not just fear based, but who I am. It makes me feel neurodivergent in a way that hasn’t been recognized. This inability to think of things to say beyond the basic conversations of getting to know someone and my career or academic pursuits, makes me seem boring. It’s hard for me to connect with many people or be attracted to maintaining a friendship. I really only maintain friendships with others who are willing to be my friend without judging me, who have common interests, and don’t mind that I’m not going to want to chat with them on the phone regularly. I’ve made friends through board game groups, work, Jewish social events, Chicago’s AVEN meetup, and Meetup.com groups that have events that interest me. I’m grateful for the supportive friends that I have made over the years. So, I don’t really identify with the term aplatonic, but do feel that grayplatonic or noetiplatonic could be an appropriate identity for myself.
Surprisingly, I wouldn’t consider myself non-partnering anymore. I never expected to meet anyone that I would want to date. Several months after writing about being non-partnering, I actually met someone who had a crush on me so much that he wanted to go on a date. After several dates, I realized he was so caring and accepting of my faults that I was willing to be in a romantic relationship with him. The mental connection that we had was similar to the one other time that I had a crush on someone, who didn’t want to date me, that I feel like the microlabels would be noetiromantic and recipromantic. After being in a relationship with him for nearly a year, I’ve definitely learned a lot about relationships with people that are alloromantic and allosexual, but I think I need to save some insights for the book…
Hello all! I’ve been doing this project over on Twitter (https://twitter.com/BeccaPaintmore/status/1444700310262456333?s=20 please click through for full size images) - Pride flags colour picked from Star Trek costumes! Suggestions of costumes/flags welcome! I am aiming to do every flag, so watch this space :3 10/?
could i ask what the meanings of the noetisexual flag colors are?
Sure!
Black relates to the hidden, the secretive and the unknown. It relates to how the way one’s mind works is ambiguous, a mystery.
White relates to the openness that one is looking for; to learn more about that mystery that is one’s significant others’ mind.
Tan is for the stability in a closeness between people who have an attraction to the others’ mind.
Being a noetiromantic writer and godspouse is both the best and the worst.
On one hand you have so many wonderful people to love, and can have such an intimate connection with them.
On the other hand, not being interested in friendship or dating with other irl people because you can never have the same closeness with their minds. And because the people in your head are much more interesting.
Noeti- Pride Flags
Noeti-: a mental attraction rather than a purely “intellectual” one. It’s loving the shape of their mental landscape and wanting to explore it. It’s falling in love with the way they think, their unique mental make up. It’s loving their creativity, their ingenuity, their silliness, their humor, their emotional intelligence, the way they use words, the way they make mental space for you in their minds, and more. It’s being attracted to the way their minds work rather than simply one ill-defined facet of it. An alternative to sapio-.
Noetisexual Pride Flag
Noetisexual: being sexually attracted to the way one’s mind works rather than one facet of it.
Noetiromantic Pride Flag
Noetiromantic: being romantically attracted to the way one’s mind works rather than one facet of it.
Noetiplatonic Pride Flag
Noetiplatonic: being platonically attracted to the way one’s mind works rather than one facet of it.
Noetisensual Pride Flag
Noetisensual: being sensually attracted to the way one’s mind works rather than one facet of it.
Noetialterous Pride Flag
Noetialterous: being alterously attracted to the way one’s mind works rather than one facet of it.
Noetiqueerplatonic Pride Flag
Noetiqueerplatonic: being queerplatonically attracted to the way one’s mind works rather than one facet of it.