#c-ptsd

[3liza]

the "feeling like something is wrong with you that you have to hide" background noise is often a result of childhood trauma because an abused or neglected child who doesn't rationalize their mistreatment runs the risk of alienating themselves from what little shelter and care is actually being provided. it's theorized that blaming yourself at that age is a way to survive by coming up with a justification for why you're being abused so you don't blame your caregivers for your own suffering, thereby alienating them to the point that you are fed or sheltered or protected even less than you are currently. believing you may be able to "change" so that you're worthy of love also prevents despair/giving up. it's of utmost importance to the survival of very small children to develop a worldview that keeps them alive, even if it's by totally magical thinking and at the cost of their ability to perceive reality or navigate normal human relationships. the same thing can happen to adults in abusive domestic situations.

anyway once you're out of that situation it's time to get really pissed off

[only-knives]

that post that said something like people surviving horrible things aren't probably aren't going to have ways of coping that look "good" to others straight up changed my life.

like if someone's lost in the woods, you don't really expect them to cook a meal that's good & healthy for them, let alone something gourmet. you wouldn't chastise them for scavenging for berries or eating raw meat in the absence of other food sources.

it's less about the behaviors being risky/unhealthy, and more about the situation or environment being unhealthy for the person. simply removing the behaviors doesn't actually change the core issue, and it can even put that person at greater risk of harm to do so.

humans' psychological and social needs are just as important as their physical ones... and blaming people for those needs not being fulfilled is cruel.

[parasolladyansy]

BW2 - Helping Hand

Little art therapy I started last week based on what flashbacks can be like for me where I get dizzy & feel faint (last time it happened, I didn’t actually faint, but did need to sit for a while to feel okay enough to stand).

I thought about how the twins would handle Ansy having something like that happen at Gear Station, & for whatever reason, it ended up being Emmet.

It was a nice change of pace, since the first twin I pick in a moment like this is Ingo. In my mind, Emmet tends to be more of a cheer up, healthy distraction kind of friend while Ingo’s the one who gives advice & goes with you to those deep, dark places. I’ve found both are very valuable in recovery from trauma, & in life in general. :)

Not shown is Ingo busting into the room shortly after & loudly fussing over Ansy lol so silly.

PS: Emmet’s lines came from Masters - I remembered them from old screenshots I saved on my phone to look at when I was sad. 🩵

[snorlax-and-co]

[c-ptsdrecovery]

There is a genuine reason why some people are always worrying (or asking) if their friends are angry with them.

"Childhood sexual and emotional abuse, and physical neglect are linked to more interpretations of neutral facial expressions as contempt and anger." --NIH

[system-of-a-feather]

I feel people largely missunderstand psychosomatic pain as pain that is "fake" or "just in your head" when it means pain that is the result of a mental condition, often some form of stress.

Stress causes REAL biological and medical issues (heart disease, immune system dysregulation, changes in blood pressure and heart rate, breathing dysfunction, muscle over use and tension) and can cause REAL pain and symptoms.

The only thing about it is that its often harder to effectively treat because its not the result of a regularly persistent issue as the trigger is stress and rooted in a psychological issue.

Its REAL pain from a REAL source.

[cybergirl-cathy]

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