~ Non-Monogamy Ask Game ~
This ask game is designed for anyone who practices or prefers non-monogamy, whether you are polyamorous, nonamorous, ENM, or something in-between or adjacent.
Don't forget the Golden Rule of Tumblr: If you reblog this from someone, make sure to send them an ask!
Part 1: Non-Monogamy
1-1. What label(s) do you use to describe your relationship style? 1-2. How did you figure out you preferred non-monogamy? 1-3. Do you consider your preference for non-monogamy to be an innate orientation, a relationship preference, or something else? 1-4. Are you queer? If yes, is being non-monogamous part of your queer identity?
Part 2: Relationships and Partners
2-1. Is/Are your relationship(s) closed or open? (Nonamorous alternative: Would you ever consider entering a closed relationship dynamic for reasons other than desiring love/romance?) 2-2. Do you love or hate New Relationship Energy? How do you cope with it? (Nonamorous alternative: Have you ever experienced having a crush, squish, or other version of "catching feelings" for someone? If not, would you want to?) 2-3. Do you cohabitate with your partner(s)? If not, would you like to? (Nonamorous alternative: Answer with "friend(s)" instead of "partner(s)"!) 2-4. How do you and your partner(s) handle scheduling in your relationship(s)? (Nonamorous alternative: When you and your friends hang out, is it usually planned or spontaneous?)
Part 3: Metamours
3-1. Do you and your partner(s) and metamour(s) prefer kitchen table, garden party, parallel, or something else? (Nonamorous alternative: Do you break amatonormative expectations in your friendships, such as having platonic connections that some people might mistake for being romantic?) 3-2. How often do you hang out with your metamour(s)? Do you wish it was more/less frequent, or are you happy with how things are? (Nonamorous alternative: Answer for "friends" instead of "metamours"!) 3-3. Have you ever, intentionally or unintentionally, been pitted against a metamour? How did you cope with it? (Nonamorous alternative: Have you ever found yourself jealous of a friend's other friend? How did you cope with it?) 3-4. How were you introduced to your metamour(s)? If you haven't been introduced, would you like to? (Nonamorous alternative: Do all of your friends interact with each other, or do you have subgroups of friends from different spheres of your life?)
Part 4: Hot Takes
4-1. What red flag sends you running from any relationship, no matter how promising? (Nonamorous alternative: Answer for "friendship" instead of "relationship"!) 4-2. What green flag is the strongest sign that you and a potential partner will be compatible? (Nonamorous alternative: Answer for "friend" instead of "partner"!) 4-3. What's your least favorite amatonormative belief or expectation? 4-4. What's your favorite thing about being non-monogamous?
Part 5: Just For Fun
5-1. If you had a potluck with your polycule/friends, what dish would everyone bring? 5-2. What game would you and your polycule/friends most enjoy playing? (Can be any kind of game! Board game, video game, party game, etc.) 5-3. If you and your polycule/friends could take an all-expenses-paid weeklong vacation, where would you go? 5-4. Name one aesthetic, animal, or piece of media that you associate with each of your polycule/friends.











