#nonamory

[this-is-poly-joy]

~ Non-Monogamy Ask Game ~

This ask game is designed for anyone who practices or prefers non-monogamy, whether you are polyamorous, nonamorous, ENM, or something in-between or adjacent.

Don't forget the Golden Rule of Tumblr: If you reblog this from someone, make sure to send them an ask!

Part 1: Non-Monogamy

1-1. What label(s) do you use to describe your relationship style? 1-2. How did you figure out you preferred non-monogamy? 1-3. Do you consider your preference for non-monogamy to be an innate orientation, a relationship preference, or something else? 1-4. Are you queer? If yes, is being non-monogamous part of your queer identity?

Part 2: Relationships and Partners

2-1. Is/Are your relationship(s) closed or open? (Nonamorous alternative: Would you ever consider entering a closed relationship dynamic for reasons other than desiring love/romance?) 2-2. Do you love or hate New Relationship Energy? How do you cope with it? (Nonamorous alternative: Have you ever experienced having a crush, squish, or other version of "catching feelings" for someone? If not, would you want to?) 2-3. Do you cohabitate with your partner(s)? If not, would you like to? (Nonamorous alternative: Answer with "friend(s)" instead of "partner(s)"!) 2-4. How do you and your partner(s) handle scheduling in your relationship(s)? (Nonamorous alternative: When you and your friends hang out, is it usually planned or spontaneous?)

Part 3: Metamours

3-1. Do you and your partner(s) and metamour(s) prefer kitchen table, garden party, parallel, or something else? (Nonamorous alternative: Do you break amatonormative expectations in your friendships, such as having platonic connections that some people might mistake for being romantic?) 3-2. How often do you hang out with your metamour(s)? Do you wish it was more/less frequent, or are you happy with how things are? (Nonamorous alternative: Answer for "friends" instead of "metamours"!) 3-3. Have you ever, intentionally or unintentionally, been pitted against a metamour? How did you cope with it? (Nonamorous alternative: Have you ever found yourself jealous of a friend's other friend? How did you cope with it?) 3-4. How were you introduced to your metamour(s)? If you haven't been introduced, would you like to? (Nonamorous alternative: Do all of your friends interact with each other, or do you have subgroups of friends from different spheres of your life?)

Part 4: Hot Takes

4-1. What red flag sends you running from any relationship, no matter how promising? (Nonamorous alternative: Answer for "friendship" instead of "relationship"!) 4-2. What green flag is the strongest sign that you and a potential partner will be compatible? (Nonamorous alternative: Answer for "friend" instead of "partner"!) 4-3. What's your least favorite amatonormative belief or expectation? 4-4. What's your favorite thing about being non-monogamous?

Part 5: Just For Fun

5-1. If you had a potluck with your polycule/friends, what dish would everyone bring? 5-2. What game would you and your polycule/friends most enjoy playing? (Can be any kind of game! Board game, video game, party game, etc.) 5-3. If you and your polycule/friends could take an all-expenses-paid weeklong vacation, where would you go? 5-4. Name one aesthetic, animal, or piece of media that you associate with each of your polycule/friends.

[pomo-positive]

Hello everyone! I had a new idea for a februari challenge 🌟

Within fandom, there’s a big focus on romantic and sexual relationships, in my opinion sometimes to the detriment of other types of relations. Friendships, familiar bonds, queer platonic characters and aspec characters more often than not get the short end of the stick in these kind of spaces. I fear this notion reinforces amatonormativity and makes fandom spaces less comfortable for aspec folks.

In fanfiction spaces, gen fics are a good way to filter out romantic content! I love ao3’s tagging and filtering system in particular, as you can look up fanfics that explore non romantic relationships easily. I appreciate the ampersand and slash differentiation.

I would like to take the idea of gen fics further, and develop the presence of non romantic or sexual relationships in fandom spaces more. For example, I want to coin the term “gen art”! This would be fanart, that much like gen fics, explores characters and character bonds that aren’t focused on romance. I think it would also be great to develop a tagging system for platonic bonds. Creating this type of language within fandom is the first step to changing the relationship hierarchy we so often see there.

For this challenge, the idea is that for every day you create a gen fan work inspired by the prompt of that day. This can be art as the name suggests, but any type of media is welcome! Fanfics, art, edits, poems, moodboards, photography, the sky’s the limit. Don’t worry about skipping any days or changing up the prompts! This is all in good fun ✨💕

You are very welcome to join in! Please tag your posts with #genartfebruari so I can find them and reblog them 💖 I will be reblogging all entries! I'm of course joining myself too 😊

Even if you don’t plan to join, I would very much appreciate reblogs as it would help spread the word 🙏

It would be really nice if we could make this into a solid thing together. We could have fun creating together, but also try our hand at changing fandom spaces to be more safe and comfortable for everyone ✨

The prompt list (text version):

1. Hug

2. Goodbye

3. Pets

4. Garden

5. D&D Party

6. Birthday

7. Plushies

8. Pride

9. Cosplay

10. Comfort

11. Stars

12. Childhood friends

13. Dancing

14. Love

15. Reading

16. Snuggle

17. Karaoke

18. Picknick

19. Texting

20. Rain

21. Road trip

22. Silly

23. Found family

24. Movie night

25. Missing

26. Gifts

27. Reunion

28. Sleeping

[mintoezz]

Nonamorous people i love you. How we do relationships and whether or not we should call it as smth else is us to define.

[nonamorous-culture-is]

Nonam aroace culture is not relating at all to aroaces who post about wanting platonic partners. Like, I'm happy for them/wish them luck but No Thanks

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[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Nonaffectionate Pride Flag

Non-affectionate, nonaffective, or nonaffectional: not affectional/affectionate/affective; not experiencing affection; unaffectionate/unaffectional/unaffective.

Overlap with nonoriented/non-oriented (unoriented), anattractional, loveless, nonamorous, afidelitous, agamous, panaspec, etc.

[arospec-daybook]

Monogamy is so heavily idealized, no wonder why many find it hard to believe that there are people out there who actually prefer polyamory or nonamory.

Many people believe that there is the one for all of us. That true love will bring us eternal happiness. That everyone has a soulmate. That this particular person is their other half. Even if their partner is toxic and bad for them, some believe that their relationship is still worth fighting for because they feel like fate brought them together. That after you find the right person, you'll finally get your happily ever after.

Having this kind of mindset is not only harmful towards individuals who don't seek monogamous relationships but also towards those who do seek them. Pursuing or staying in a relationship that might not be good for you just because you believe you will get your own perfect love story is not right. And it's also not right to force others to seek that kind of fairytale in their lives as well, it's not only wrong but also disrespectful if they're not even monogamous in the first place.

It shouldn't be unusual to love more people and pursue relationships with them at the same time. The whole concept of the one is what makes it seem unusual and not so ideal to many people. And since there are people who believe it's impossible to live a fulfilling life without a partner, the ones who don't want one are also seen as strange because they're seemingly 'getting in a way of their own happiness'.

There is nothing wrong with searching for that one person who you intend to share your life with. But it's very important to always choose what's the best for you instead of letting the destiny choose instead. And you also don't have to make your love story nearly as ideal as potrayed in media for it to still work in a way that makes you fulfilled.

That is what non-monogamous people also do. They just live their lives in a way that makes them fulfilled instead of what is deemed ideal by society and in media. You're not unusual for not living in this exact way that is deemed ideal and so aren't they.

[auggator]

Sometimes I wish there was more like nonamory content? Not just loveless, but specifically non-partnering/nonamorous content. Like don't get me wrong, I enjoy queerplatonic positivity, it's great, it's necessary. But sometimes I feel so alone, like I don't really have a future because even in the aromantic community there's such a focus on having a qpr or platonic partner

[mtg-player1]

I love that I can just be nonpartnering. I don't have to get a partner, ever. I can just be single, forever.