#queer problems

[lgbtqiatext]

[loudmothbother]

let's play my favorite game. we try to write an aromantic character, simultaneously projecting onto them, because we believe ourselves to be aromantic as well. and then. then we have some troubles with it, because we don't understand our own feelings and experience enough, and so we feel like we can't relate to them at all. it's very fun, i promise. here, let me start—

[certified-toast]

looking like a greasy teenage boy before you style your hair and do makeup is bad and all, but sometimes my gender euphoria from looking like a boy is so intense that i just go out looking horrible for the whole day

[bloderush]

I must stop wondering if what I do is right or wrong, the question that keeps me awake at night is why I can't enjoy who I am if I hate the disguise of normality.

Debo dejar de preguntarme si lo que hago está bien o mal, la pregunta que me desvela por las noches es por qué no puedo disfrutar lo que soy si detesto el disfraz de la normalidad.

[shepherd-roommate]

I think I want to start identifying as non binary but I feel like I'm too old to be thinking about it. I'm too old to be lying in bed wondering if I'm actually a man. I'm 27, I'm AFAB and in a relationship with a lesbian. What if she's not attracted to me if she finds out? We're both very kinky so finding someone who's as sexually compatible will be hard BC I live in a rural area 😭. I feel like I have so many queer friends that have known me for so long as a lesbian cis woman, they'd be confused if I came out. Also my job, I'm glad my girlfriend's name is androgynous because I can't be out as a lesbian at work. I definitely can't come out as non binary or trans either, I'll lose my job. The plan is to save up and move closer to the city eventually but I really can't afford it for a few more years.

Any advice?

What would you say to your friend if they were thinking of changing the way they identify?

You are never too old to find your identity. Old Queers who only found out about themselves lately are just as valid as those who are able to find themselves at a young age. You are also only 27. Yes that is older than me but that's not old in any way shape or form. Unless you are knees, somehow any age is too old for knees (that last sentence is a joke)

If she has been dating you for a while, changing your identity and pronounce shouldn't break things. Those items are flexible and though are used to define you they aren't you. I'm a large supporter and believer that labels are made to fit you, and NOT the other way around. At the end of the day they are adjectives to best describe how we as humans exist for one another. If you love each other then you love each other. Sure some things may change but life and relationships are about change.

Unfortunately I can't say much in regards to work. This shit stinks how hateful the world is and all we can do is keep fighting for a better world better for others and for ourselves.

You may have friends that see you as a cis lesbian, you being masc lesbian, enby lesbian, or even a straight up he/him lesbian should not change how they see you. You still love women and still identify with the community. Sure the flavor is a little strange and or spicy but that's still who you are. You still had whatever lesbian experiences that led you to where you are today.

I say based on how worried you are, you should start changing or otherwise experimenting but feel free to go at your own pace. No need to throw out or donate all of your old clothes but start by getting a few new outfits to replace the ones you either don't like or feel dysphoric in. You don't need to come out to everyone, maybe start with those closest to you. You don't need to think about Rome once every day, start with once a month (this last sentence is also a joke). Travel at your own pace. You can discover things slowly, figure out what things you like and what things you don't like.

Hopefully this helps. Hopefully you are able to get out of such a rural place soon.

[maxmayfieldswalkman]

this may make me a bad person but i am so fucking sick of christianity. allow me to explain.

i go to catholic school. i have gone to catholic school since 2nd grade, before i even really understood what religion was. my parents didn’t send me for religious reasons, but because my local public school system is garbage. it is because of this (fucking constant) first hand experience with christian’s, specifically catholics, that i feel confident in saying that most of them are bad people. (before you get on my ass, i know that the reasons im about to go on are not necessarily what every christian believes, or even rooted in christian teaching. but it IS what i have grown up surrounded by, so in my situation, it is the majority of religious people i have encountered, so i am going to continue to generalize. apologies if that offends you but take it up with the priest i’ve been forced to listen to every week for the last 10 years).

for one, i cannot at all fathom how they can hear themselves say the things they say. i have literally had a theology teacher tell me that christian’s are not racist or sexist or anything, because those are bad, but “obviously they are opposed to things like homosexuality”. how can you lump homophobia in with every other prejudice and acknowledge that those are bad, while at the same time picking and choosing one or two that are obviously good, and not see the flaw in your reasoning? make it make fucking sense. the fact that i have had to sit through COUNTLESS years worth of masses and theology classes telling me about how you should be good to others while at the same time immediately turning around and making fun of the stupid fucking fags in the hallways is bullshit, and it has made me tired of christians.

and just on a general basis, i’m sick and tired of having to think about my sexuality. i am fucking annoyed that i have to be worried about getting a randomly assigned roommate in college because what if they’re homophobic. i’m annoyed that the state i’m going to college in (ohio) just passed a bill that essentially bans freedom of expression, speech, fucking everything because they’re so dogshit terrified of people being themselves and happy. god fucking forbid somebody is happy.

if you’re christian and are not homophobic or racist or antisemitic or sexist or some other form of basic human decency, good for you. you may not know it, but you’re the minority. i’m fucking tired of christians.

[onnahu]

why am i specifically the person my friends asks relationship advices when i'm literally aroace and my only expirience is from fiction???

[femfirehazard]

Okay hear me out

Worth a try at the very least🤙

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Test it out on some icebois maybe idk they seem like a pretty unhappy bunch✨🧊🔥jk jk jk 🤞