Before I start this little rant, I just want to apologize if I ramble, or I don't make sense at times. I really just need to get this off my chest. With that being said,
Parents, please do NOT hold your child's grades over their head
Ever since I was a little kid, my parents and teachers always praised me, saying that I was so smart for my age. Every year, I heard the same thing. I was told that I thought on a level higher than even the honors students in my grade. Now, I know that all sounds like a massive compliment, and on the surface, it is, however, if a child is told this too many times.....it can start to become a burden to them.
As I've gotten older, I've found that school gets harder and harder to deal with. Why? Because the work is getting harder, and sometimes I struggle. Why don't I ask for help, then? Because I'm scared. I'm scared of being seen as dumb. Oh and my ADHD and depression don't help, either. ADHD makes it hard for me to focus, and depression.....is depression.
And another thing, don't treat your child's grades like they are the most important thing on the planet. Just today, my grade in a class went from an A to a B, and my mom is pissed. I'm now allowed to have anything below an A. Hell, my parents are threatening that if I get anything below a B on my report card this quarter, then I'm being sent off to military school.
Now, in my case, I will admit that laziness does tie in to some of my poor grades. For example, today, when my grade dropped, it was because I had forgotten to complete an assignment in that class. My mom messaged me about it, and I tried to tell her that I would get it done. Long story short, it is literally impossible for me to fix it, no matter what, and my mom is still pissed about it.
I have a B, mom, a B. I can understand the annoyance, but to get mad at your child for something as small as this, really?? All of this can do awful things to your child's mental state, even if you think you're doing the right thing.