also if we're talking about intersexism then lets talk about afab/amab. these terms were coined by the intersex community to put a name to our experiences of being incorrectly, nonconsensually, and often violently assigned a sex at birth. all afab/amab are SUPPOSED to mean is that the doctor looked at your external genitalia when you were born and decided you were male or female. ASAB TERMINOLOGY DOES NOT MEAN OR EVEN IMPLY THAT SOMEONE IS "BORN" OR "BIOLOGICALLY" A SEX. and we dont mind when perisex trans people use those terms! they were also incorrectly, nonconsensually, and often violently assigned a sex at birth and for most of their lives! the issue is that perisex trans and queer people have now changed the definition of afab/amab to mean "biologically/born female/male," which was not EVER the point of those terms. you can be afab and be born with xy chromosomes and no uterus, you can be afab and be born with a penis, you can be amab and be born with xx chromosomes, because all that afab and amab mean is that your doctor either looked at your external genitalia or forcibly surgically altered your external genitalia at the time of your birth and assigned you male or female based off of that. which is that, while i was technically afab in the sense that a doctor looked at my external genitalia and decided that i was female, i was not "born" female, i was born intersex. and you FUCKING PEOPLE have made this bastardized definition so mainstream that im having to fill out a referral for bottom surgery and it asks, "what is your assigned gender at birth" and i dont know WHAT to put because they are almost definitely using it as a "woke" way to ask if you were born male or female, but that question for me has two different answers depending on what the question actually means, cause i WAS assigned female at birth, but im biologically intersex and have ambiguous genitalia
ultimately, if you want to talk about being born a male or female, growing up a boy or girl, going through testosterone or estrogen based puberty, experiences as someone with a uterus, just say those things outright. and also, lets renormalize NOT asking trans people what sex they were "born as" by asking if theyre afab/amab. theres just no need. like i want to be charitable but im so over it
